Why does breaking up hurt so much?

Because you are losing a part of you. Something, well someone, that you've gotten very attached and accustomed to.

Breaking up is a loss in our lives and there is grief involved in any form of loss that we experience and grieving is something that is only ever healed by time. There are so many emotions that can be experienced when we lose someone that we care deeply about and oftentimes they can become overwhelming and it can feel like we are drowning in a sea of pain. Talking about how we feel to people that care about us is so incredibly important, it helps us to release some of the thoughts that we hold to our pain and in every release of these thoughts and feelings we allow ourselves to slowly let it go. It is equally important to allow ourselves to express how we are feeling without bottling up our emotions. When we express and experience our feelings fully we are able to take little steps closer to healing. The more we keep things inside the longer it takes to feel better.

It hurts because the person who you've spent so long with is suddenly gone, but, we still instinctively go to text them, call them tell them about something that happened in our day. There is suddenly a gap that they once filled, and that takes time to fill. It takes time to break the habit of thinking about them and talking to them and until the habit is broken every time we think of them it just opens up the wound and hurts some more..

Because it's a person you spent so much time with. Liking them, loving them, seeing the good in them..planning out for future plans. Some people go into relationships not intending to break up..so when it happens it hurts..but it will stop hurting.

Because it takes a part of you away. A part that goes with the person you break up with. It's such a painful feeling and can totally destroy you if you do not see it for what it really is.

When you love some one you get habitual of them, you integrate them in to everyday. You always think about them, they have special part in your life, they help you do things, they listen to you and help solving problems. When that all gone,you get lost and hurt because you actually lost something. You’ll feel like you can’t accomplish certain tasks because your former significant other always helped you with them. This can make you feel inept and worthless because, on top of the existing sadness from missing someone you love, you can’t handle daily tasks that were never a problem in the past.

It hurts so much because after awhile you get attached to the person you are with.You love them,even if they hate you.That's extra love.

Because we feel almost betrayed by the person that we were with. We engaged so much with and trusted this person. And when we meet someone who we believed to be the one, we came to that realization that maybe they weren't. Our hearts invested a lot into them, and as humans, we're meant to feel hurt when their hearts are not as invested as they once were. But we'll make it through.

You give so much time, energy, and part of your life to someone that it hurts when you break up. But time will heal all, as I believe anyway.

Breaking up hurts because you have been sharing feelings with a person for sometime, and suddenly, one day, your support system is no longer there, that's the thing that causes pain.

There are many, many reasons why breaking up hurts so much. Would you like to talk about the reasons your break up is hurting so much?

Breaking up hurts so much because in relationships - we fully expose ourselves to our partner; we let them see every side of us; good and bad. And, when that person leaves or you break up - it hurts knowing they know every single part of you, every habit and flaw because you feel like nobody else will know you as much as they did. It also hurts because saying goodbye to a person who you spent such a long time with, it's ridiculously hard to let go and we tend to feel vulnerable at the fact that they've left us despite being one of the only people who really knows us.

One of the most painful things in life is losing, and losing all ties with the person that you share a special bond with is broken, it can be devastating.

It's an emotional and psychological and physical you're joined to that person if you have been intimate you become one its like cutting a piece of your foot from them that's the reason we are suppose to not join with people unless we're sure we're going to be married to them .God hates divorce it destroys and takes a long Time to heal

Breaking up hurts somuch because we grieve for what we are losing, for what might have been and we long for the feelings we had at the start.

Breaking up hurts for two reasons. 1.) It's a let down. When you choose to date someone, you usually have hopes of it lasting and because of this, you put all your energy, hope, & time into making this relationship work. And the thought of it not working out is too much of a letdown. 2.) You lose your best friend. He/She isn't just someone you kiss a lot and are physically attracted to. Over the time of your relationship, you form a bond. You share things-private, vulnerable things. And when it ends, they're gone and everything they were to you. Your support system, your protector, your soft place to land at the end of the day-gone. That's why breaking up hurts so much.

Because the other person has become part of you, psychologically, and losing them is like having a limb amputated.

Because you lost a part of you that made you feel secure. Security is what we find in a home or a new car; it makes you feel happy by knowing you have a house to sleep in every night and a car to drive to work; it is something only clarified to feel within. Loss of security means loss of ability to control your thoughts and impulses. People who feel insecure fight their entire lives to have the comfort of another individual and be able to have that comfort at hand when needed.

When I lose a friend, it makes me sad. So it is understandable that it would really hurt after a break-up. It is someone you love, someone you shared a part of yourself with...someone you trusted. And when I have a break up, it feels like that love is gone, that the same part of me that I shared has gone with them, and that I might never trust anyone again. It hurts because it is love. And we are human. We hurt when we lose a loved one. After all, it has been said that breaking up can be equivalent to a loved one passing away. But that's just from my experience. I really hope you feel better. Breaking up can be very challenging. But for me, time turned the memories into mere stories that I can reflect on and learn from.

Because you remember about the nice moments you have spent together,because you got used to seeing that person.

It hurts because you probably thought that maybe it would last forever, and for that moment, it didn't. If it's meant to be, the person will come back to you. Don't beat yourself up about it so much you know? It's okay to grieve, be mad, sad, or whatever. Keep your head up! :)

Breaking up can hurt so much because you've had a connection with another person on a level that you didn't have with others. Once that connection is gone, you have an empty feeling. Don't worry though. It doesn't last forever!

It happens to the best of us. We open up, we fall in love, we plan our future, we get hurt. It's the Hedgehog's Dilemma, the closer we get to somebody, the more they can hurt us. You love this person, you might even put them on a pedestal. There comes a time when we either fall out of love, we grow apart, or even worse, people fall out of love with us. If you're on the giving end of a break up, you are afraid to hurt a person who cares about you, you might even be afraid of missing out. If you're on the receiving end, a break up can come as a shock to you. This can be traumatic and it is almost like mourning the death of a loved one. You have to mourn the death of a life you imagined having with a person. You might even feel like you lost a part of yourself. All these feelings are natural; don't feel bad for feeling any of it.

Breaking up can be very hard and can hurt a lot this is because you feel like you are loosing someone. You can feel as hurt as if someone has died

Breaking up hurts so much because you're losing someone you loved very much and that's not easy to deal with.

It hurts because you given a part of your heart, a lot of your time and a piece of your soul to someone. But you have to realize the time heals all wounds, and all the hurt and pain will give you experience for the future

I have been through a break up before myself and it really does hurt. It hurts because you really loved and cared for the person. It can be hard to get over them but with the right counselling, you can take your mind off of the person much more easily.

It feel like your entire world just shattered along with your ideals of love. And then you have to somehow pick yourself up through all the pain and start over and reach towards joy. It takes a lot of strength and courage. Everytime you see the person who broke your heart you have to relive those horrible moments all over again and eventually it becomes better.

As emotional humans, we invest a great deal of ourselves in intimate relationships. Usually when people are at a fairly comfortable level with another - a bond is created (whether this is mutual or not.) This takes a certain level of vulnerability and trust. During a breakup, this bond is forcibly disrupted and your emotional/mental health goes into a sort of shock, so to speak. The dependebility of what once was is not there

Breaking up can hurt a lot for various reasons. Losing someone that you used to "rely" on for a support system can be damaging. It's hard to experience the loss of someone you could really connect to and sometimes it might feel like there's a void and something's missing. Depending on how the break up happened, one might question if they did anything wrong and start picking themselves apart just to get an answer, which is unhealthy. People might blame themselves, plus it's hard seeing someone you loved with someone else. So yeah, there's a lot that can cause one to feel hurt after a breakup.