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Why does breaking up hurt so much?

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Why does breaking up hurt so much?
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thatgirl1269
December 13th, 2015 10:35pm
Because it's the price we pay for opening our hearts to love. If it didn't hurt, then we wouldn't love/care about the person.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 12:26am
Breaking up hurts so much because you have made memories with a special person. You guys did a lot of things together that made you happy but now that's gone, your going to miss it. Its never going to be the same again and that's why it hurts so much and you realize that you have to move on.
StormyAngles18
December 17th, 2015 12:47am
Break ups hurt so much because you've been through things with that person and you love or have loved that person for what seems like a long time. And your life seems to revolve around them, but when you break up its like a huge piece of your life gone so its hard to adjust to such an extream change.
CuddlyOasis98
December 17th, 2015 2:22am
Breaking up hurts because we are emotionally attached to that person very much and the thought that they aren't yours now makes us sad.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2018 12:39am
Breakups are always hard because you feel love. When you care about and love a person it is always hard to loose them. Even though it hurts it will 99/100 times go over after some time. Feel free to talk about this to a therapist.
HumanBeing77
December 17th, 2015 6:44am
everyone have feeling when people get so attached with someone then if they breakup then people try to think that they will be happy if they were with him/her that makes them so hurt
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 7:51am
You feel like you're losing a part of yourself. The person you saw and loved everyday is not in your life anymore.
MrRoboticWrites
December 17th, 2015 10:30am
Because you have devoted time, effort and love to that person, when you break up with them all of that goes away in an instant. This can leave you feeling empty and lost, however, over time the feeling will pass and you'll feel whole again, just give it some time and distance.
PoeticDesolation
December 17th, 2015 11:35am
Possibly because when you're with someone, you have the hope of spending forever with them. With a breakup comes a loss of hope, it leaves you feeling lost and you seem to be unsure what the future will hold now.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 11:39am
Because you were attracted to that certain person and they made you feel all happy and butterflies in your stomach and when you break up, all of that happiness goes and you can't imagine anyone else feeling that way because of them.
sweetDay98
December 17th, 2015 2:27pm
Breaking up with a loved one can be a traumatic experience. Research has shown. that even people in abusive relationships hurt the same when they break up as people in normal, healthy relationships do. The main reasons of the hurt is the attachment that we begin to have with the person. The longer the relationship, the more we grow used to the person. If you think of it, even if you bring a pet home no matter how small the animal, (cat, turtle, fish) if you stay with it long enough, you will be hurt if they go missing or die. Imagine the attachment that you have for something that doesn't even communicate to you. Now compare that to the attachment that you have with a person who you spent time with, shared so many life experiences with. It's obvious that the impact is higher and so is the amount of devastation. The best way to overcome the hurt is to acknowledge it. Do not be in denial that what you feel is stupid and that you will get over it if you avoid thinking of the person. Research has proven, that the best way to recuperate from a broken heart is to spend enough time grieving and then slowly moving on.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 1:20am
Breaking up with another individual is devastating from the fact that you have to question your own decisions and life. It isn't so much about the other person, but the introspection that is a result. Simply, it also sucks cause being in love, is being in love Nothing more. Overcomplicating things will result in depression.
miamaiamaya
December 18th, 2015 11:36am
Losing someone always feels awful. Often, you are very close and actually very good friends. It is a good idea to seek help from family and friends when trying to move on after a break up.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 6:17pm
you never know why until it happens with you...lots of reasons but in the end it hurts...and nobody would love to talk about it and remember all the pain again
Nightrain2001
December 19th, 2015 1:08pm
Breaking up hurts so much because you remember all the good memories of you and your partner and you feel bad that you have to leave them
Purplee21
December 19th, 2015 4:23pm
Breaking up hurts a lot because you realized how much you loved that person and how much they meant to you. You felt safe, happy and secure when your with them and now it's hard to overcome that because love is a powerful thing. Everything just takes time.
cynical25
December 19th, 2015 4:35pm
breaking up can hurt so much because you may not internally be ready to lose that person. It makes you feel like everything that you have been building with this person it a waste.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 6:54pm
Breaking up hurst so much because you made the person into your daily life scedual and then you have to change
helpfulGrace74
November 28th, 2017 5:55am
Depends on the breakup, but it can be because you are not used to not having that person anymore in your life
Chris2403
December 20th, 2015 4:31am
Because a part of you is gone. The way you use to live will never be same as it was with that person and that parts scares you. Also you want someone in life to be there for you and when they go you feel like you are going to be alone for eternity which is not true but it scares people.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 12:15am
The reason why Breaking up hurts so much because we have been conditioned as children to seek out intimacy.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 8:36am
Because you're gonna break up with someone you have spent time and love being with. It's like a part of what you build was taken, when you broke up with someone, making all the rest fall too.
GenuineSmile
December 23rd, 2015 10:12am
It hurts because it's the equivalent of ripping away two hearts conjoined together in the name of love. All the laughs, tears, and love just goes away.
therealgingerninja123
December 23rd, 2015 8:07pm
Breaking up hurts so much for some of us because we have open hearts in a relationship, which leaves us vulnerable. However, if we have closed hearts, then we are not able to love to the fullest. So, if you have a broken heart, at least you know that you loved to the fullest. "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."
sousourada
December 23rd, 2015 11:57pm
because it feels like loosing a part of our life. We know that a person who was present in our life, will no longer be.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 7:24am
Breakups hearts because we are moving on and leaving someone we have been with for a long time this is a big change in our life
Addy24
December 24th, 2015 7:42am
Addiction. When we fall in love, we emotionally invest in our partner. So when that person don't care about our valuable feelings it hurts. We get used to that person and at that time we think about that person only and we want him or her only. So that's why breaking up hurt so much. But we should move on and think that there's definitely someone waiting for you in future who will value your feelings.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 7:53am
I think its because of how used to you've gotten with one another. Everything you've been through together; how you've picked up some of their habits. You confided with them for awhile so it hurts to let go
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 6:51pm
Breaking up with someone hurts so much because you're used to them, sometimes you don't miss them but you miss being in that relationship and how it made you feel.
TheForce19
January 7th, 2016 4:28am
Breaking up hurts quite a bit because of the expectation of being part of something that could lead to something bigger did not work for us. We mourn a relationship, but you can always get back up.