Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

We've lost sight of the bigger picture for some reason or another. Sometime the stress of life, relationship, work and other distractions, seems to cloud our better judgement. We end up fighting over the little things instead of stepping back, relaxing and realizing there is far more important things we are missing.

I've found that a lot of outside stress and other factors can lead to negative outcomes and fights between partners. It's a really terrible thing to see two people who care greatly for one another be so worn down that they resort to fighting over minuscule things. It's important to keep an open mind with your partner. Try to talk out your feelings, especially those outside stressors. Don't fight and go to bed angry, don't walk away, talk things out with your partner. Good luck to you both!

Sometimes, if there's a deeper issue in a relationship, a couple might engage in more fights in order to avoid the real problem. This is done to avoid the more extreme conflict that comes with the underlying problem. Talk about how you're feeling and make sure both of you feel listened to and understood.

Because sometimes even these small and stupid things make big and meaningful impact. I believe there is no small and stupid thing that can trigger a fight, there's always some reason behind it. Not every one has the same perspective on different matter, no matter small or stupid it may seem for some.

Because its easy. Distracts us from the large and scary things. But wars are won one step at the time, so fighting over small things isnt as bad as it sounds.

There may be an underlying issue that needs to be addressed. Try to identify what that is and try to talk about it and work it out.

maybe you guy are fighting over small and stupid things because you guys don't talk though it maybe talk though your problems so you guys can work it

If you keep doing that there is some sort of incompatibility issue you need to solve. I once knew a couple who made an annual income of close to 300,000 dollars per year. They were financially sound. They had no kids. But, they argued every day, even about the brand of oranges they would buy. When you look at it that way, it becomes clear that there is some sort of problem with the way they treated each other. If you believe that you are fighting about insignificant seeming things, you want to revisit how you're treating each other on a more simple level.

You hadn't mentioned who you are fighting with, it is the same for mostly everyone. If you two aren't communicating and something is up and bothering one of you, then that is bad. You should talk with them and if something is happening to you, then try and talk it out. If it's the other person, however, ask them.

It's a common thing for couples to go through, it might not even be those things that you're fighting about but maybe something larger and its important to note that. You should take sometime to just talk with your partner.

Sometimes, when we are tired ir overwhelmed, we easily get irritated over small things. When you feel that you are about to get mad, take a deep breath and think of what you're about to say. If you think it will hurt you if someone said it, then don't say it.

What feels small and stupid to one person may feel big and important to another. In our everyday lives, the little things can grow to assume enormous proportions - because an accumulation of little things is what makes up our days!

It happens. Fights aren't great but they are part of a healthy relationship. Fighting means you care or sometimes it means things are just not right. When I tend to fight with someone over small and stupid things I am annoyed or bothered or I just need my space.

Imagine a jar which represents the state of mind (I guess), and then imagine filling it with drops of water (or whatever liquid) until it comes to the point of leaking, this would be a representation of us facing with daily stress either at work, at school, at home etc. and adding up to that stress day by day to the point in which any small thing could annoy us.

Small and stupid things have different meaning to different people . its all a matter if perspective. When we change our perspective our attitude changes

It could be the response to a problem or fear each part of a relationship might have. Identifying factors that trigger fighting might be good in order to heal the relationship

Bc sometimes people are struggling with things all by themselves and since we’re just humans we just don’t know what to do with and we take it out on someone else. It can have a lot of reason why we’re fighting and why we’re angry but most importantly the answer is that we’re just humans and we’re not perfect. we make a lot of mistakes and sometimes our emotions take over us.

There could possibly be to much stress in your relationship/friendship and y’all could talk them out which could possibly help.

Its normal. It would be wierd if you didnt. Fighting over little things( until it gets really serious) is normal in a healthy relationship. Keeping in mind ni relationship is a perfect one. Only you both can try to make it a beautiful relationship. Try working on it a bit. I know you can. :)

As human beings we are complex. Our process to learn something is step by step; that's mean that we are fighting over small and stupid things because in the moment of fighting we think that these things aren't stupid or small; we think that these things are important and we feel them big. When the situation pass, we learn how to do or what to do in the future, we get experience over the time; as a result, we think that they are stupid and small because we know how to deal with them. All is depending on each person's mind and the period of time that the person is passing through.

because when you love somebody. At first, you get obsessed with everything they do and are. Then, at one point everything they do is annoying. Which is when you need to step back and recall why you fell for them in the first place

People have the urge to find things to fight about. There is always something wrong and some people find the need to point it out. It then becomes a snowball effect and people start joining in on the fight.

We fight over small and stupid things due to egoism. We care for egoistic thoughts rather than understanding the things and move on.

Communication solves every problem it just take that one person to sit down and just explain how they feel

It's a perfectly normal thing for humans to do. I do it myself, because in the moment, I feel like it's important. At times, we lose sight of what is really important because it can attack or values and morals.

Fights over small and unimportant things usually happens when there is a lot of pent up anger or emotion that has built up over time. It happens when we bottle up our discontentment with ourselves, our situations, our careers and with one another; saying nothing and letting those feelings grow more volatile in our minds all the time. Then after awhile, the emotions start seeping out. Everything becomes a tinderbox to blow up and argue about. If it is happening, it's time to look at what is REALLY bothering you deep down. Because that's the source of all these little explosions. Is it that the house is cluttered all the time? Or is it really about being the one who cleans up the clutter when other people contribute 0% effort to help you out - while they are guilty of making the mess? Is it even about the mess? Or that you feel like you are the only one giving effort in the relationship and caring for everyone, while getting ignored and getting nothing back? Chances are the other people in this situation are also blowing up over little things because they have pent up emotions too. Guilt over not being tidy, or guilt over not meeting your expectations. Maybe they are angry over your reactions, because they don't understand or accept the idea of personal accountability. They just want to distract and intimidate you with emotional outbursts over little things. The fights could have nothing to do with your relationship and be pent up frustration with your careers/work environment. And while you cannot get things off your chest at work, all the frustration comes out at people who care about you. They are safe to complain to and bicker with, because there's no chance they'll fire you or make you face financial consequences for your outbursts. Stress of course, is the fuel to the fights. It takes some time to figure out where the source of that stress is coming from and deal with it head on to stop the cycle of pent up anger from taking over.

1. Remember not to sweat the small stuff. Instead of making every little molehill a mountain, agree to not make something a battle unless it’s truly important. Realize that not every disagreement needs to be an argument. Of course, this doesn’t mean you bow to someone else’s demands when it’s something you feel strongly about, but take the time to question the level of importance of the matter at hand. 2. Practice acceptance. If you find yourself in the midst of a conflict, try to remember that the other person is coming into the situation with a totally different background and set of experiences than yourself. You have not been in this person’s shoes, and while it may help to try to put yourself in them, your partner is the only person who can really explain where he or she is coming from. 3. Exercise patience. Granted, it’s hard to remember this in the heat of the moment. But stopping to take a few deep breaths, and deciding to take a break and revisit the discussion when tensions are not as high, can sometimes be the best way to deal with the immediate situation. 😚💙💙💙

Usually, the small and stupid things are just a representation of the not-so-small and very important things. Often times, people tend to suppress their feelings and emotions, thereby not giving it an out. But oh no, the psyche does not like that, not even a little bit. It will ALWAYS find a way to get that pent up emotions and frustrations out. And most of the time, its main weapon is anger. This is then channeled into the most insignificant fights and people don't even realize that the cause is just so much deeper than that. If this is occurring often, it's time to sit down and talk. Not about the small, stupid things, but what underlies it. It's time to get honest with yourself and your thoughts.

There's a possibility that these "small" things are being undermined and personalities are clashing. lookout for red flags that present themselves within the relationship.I If this is a reoccurring scenario then it could escalate, so try to tackle things as soon as possible. There is group or couples therapy available but also take a step back to assess whether you are happy with that person and if there is anything that can be done to prevent these arguments from occurring, for example working on the ability to compromise, taking turns and communication skills will hopefully prevent the small and stupid fights.

you could never fight over simply small and stupid things. personally every fight that occurs because someone was affected by something does not make it small nor stupid. they most likely started the fight because it hurt them, or you. everyone's feelings are valid even if its the smallest thing ever to you or to the other person. so maybe validate the persons feeling or yours, don;t gaslight yourself saying that its small or stupid. if it matters to you, it matters vice versa. so think twice dont be afraid, but if it is really dumb like if you wore the same thing, talk it through and dont ruin the friendship