Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

Sometimes even the little things matter because all these things add up to the person we are or the person we identify. Just like a little gesture makes someone caring or a little act makes us hate someone, even though things may be small they will mean a lot to a person when there is emptional attatchment. The closer we are in a relationship the more vulnerable we are and the more hurt we get.

People fight over small and stupid things because they're annoyed with a personality trait. They use the small thing as a reason to insult that characteristic.

We fight of small little things because those little things can mean something to ourselves or other individuals

Usually when that happens it would indicate that there is a lack of communication and often times than not, indicate a bigger issue underlying these small and stupid things. Perhaps someone is extremely stress. Perhaps someone feels left out. Whatever the reasons, just take some time to figure out what really upset you both

If you're fighting over small and insignificant things, it could be beacuse your relationship is getting pretty rocky. You should have a serious talk with your s/o, and see what can be done to repair the relationship.

It's almost like math. You can add 1, 100 times, and you suddenly get something big. Same thing with issues, you fight over the small because there are so many small that build up into something that looks so small to you but inside is so large.

The small every day things are the ones that define us, we have to battle them every day to become stronger.

It might be an underlying problem in your relationship. If you find yourself fighting over small and seemingly stupid things be sure to address who you're fighting with and talk it over.

Because we care about those things, they might seem small and stupid to other people but to us they're important and big

In my experience, when two people fight over small things it's because of either an underlying issue or a lack of communication. If you're able to communicate, you're able to compromise. It could also be because you and whoever is fighting are just completely different on your point of view and unable to reach an agreement. That's okay if you are, you just need to find some common ground.

Fighting over meaningless things can be a sign of a deeper conflict. You might try talking to whoever you're fighting with and try to discover what the deeper conflict it and then work through it.

It's easy to let emotions build up until we explode and say things we may not mean. It's best to take some time to talk your emotions out, either with the person you are fighting with or with someone else.

If there is a lot of tension or a bigger issues that hasn't been solved it can lead to everything becoming a fight. I suggest sitting down and discussing about what you both are truly unhappy with, what you want to change, and what you expect and more than likely you'll solve the big issue which will solve the little ones.

I think this happens because the big issues are difficult to talk about, so we might get bogged down on trying to achieve instant gratification from "winning" the small fights. In the end, no one truly wins, unless they communicate with each other compassionately and non-violently. Are you able to recognize when you are beginning to fight over a small thing?

These small and stupid things may be merely acting as outlets for resentment that is already in you. We usually have good awareness about weather we are upset or not but we generally have very less awareness about what we are upset about. We tend to displace that upset into whatever reason we can find. So you should take your time and analyse the possibility weather one of you or both of you have something to be upset about. Its quite possible that the reason is unrelated to anything you might expect

Sometimes is that just out love.

We are too scared to actually address the underlying cause of our feelings, emotions and reactions to what the other person is doing to bother us. It also may have been left unsaid for a long time causing our initial feeling to never get addressed and or validated, leaving us feeling a build up of resentment and causing us to be overly sensitive to any or possible all of the interactions with this other person until that work gets done.

The question is why? We have a certain desire to see things or person around us, in a way we like it to be. We consider our ways, our values, our wishes, our lifestyle, as ultimate right thing, same goes with another person, and then there is lack of patience to think prior to speak. These are the two major whys.

Maybe you aren't just fighting about stupid things, maybe there's a bigger problem that you need to address. The best thing to do is to get the person, sit down, and to talk through you all's problems.

Because it's our nature and our insecurities. We tend to fight over things about which we care, even if they are not really big. Sometimes we want what we want, we get stubborn, like we dont agree to things which ain't good for us. So yeah it is normal.

Because it feels easier to focus on small, close-to-home problems, than the serious bigger issues. When you have an insercurity for example, this can be hard to admit to oneself. If you are in a relationship, you might take your own insecurity, and blindly say to yourself that the other person is doing something wrong to make you feel bad. This is some sort of coping-mechanism I suppose.

This is a very difficult question to answer without knowing more about your situation, if you have been dating for awhile then it could be because you are starting to phase out of the honeymoon phase. If it is a new relationship, some times it can take some time to come to terms with you and your partners differences.

Because it is human nature to fight over small things. We tend to fight to get ourself proved right, even if it is pointless. Sometimes it is so small but it might go wrong. When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or embrace forgiveness and move forward. Fighting over small things isn't wrong or pointless.But if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. We all have small fights and argues with our parents, friends, partner and all but we should just forget them and move forward in life. :)

Small and stupid things are just that. Small and stupid. The conflict is not about them. They are just the outlet. Like a repressed anger, that looks for every opportunity to explode, on anyone, at anytime. The conflict between you keeps accumulating, and you dont compensate with honesty and openness and patience and understanding. Plus, there are some natural conflicts that can only be healed with distance. I mean pure energy conflicts, unsolvable (or at least not easily solvable). When distance, periodic distance, periodic pause, is needed. Like night after a day. Any healthy relationship needs periodic pauses if it is to survive. Its a requirement. But, If theres enough distance between you two, either natural conflicts are too big, or theres a lack of open communication and honesty and trust. All in all, all you can really to is to invest in honesty and open communication, patience, and listening capability. Then, hope for the best.

Biologically as humans we want to be dominant, arguing builds up dominance within groups of friends or family.

Because we are humans. This is our nature, That is how our brains are wired. You know what? I don't like it either. I am sick of this fighting over petty and insignificant stuff. But, what can we do? All we can do on a personal level is try and reduce fights in our personal life as much as possible and i hope that one day we would stop fighting .

Because those small and stupid things can actually give a great impact on your life. Everything matters.

It's always the little things that bother us more than the big things. So it can cause it to spiral

because they aren't small and stupid things to you. it's okay to fight. sometimes you just need a breather :)

Sometimes if you skip over bigger issues, the little things stand out and are more likely to cause issues. Address any elephants in the room and sort out key issues in the relationship and the fights over small and stupid things will sure dissolve quickly.