My long-term boyfriend told me that my mental health has affected him and he just wants to be friends as though nothing more ever happened. This really hurts me. What should I do?

I am sorry to hear that , I can’t give you advice , but I can listen and guide, I see that you may feel saddened by what he said and how your mental health is going , talking about your mental health always helps ,he may just be dealing with he’s own problems to , have you tried getting help for your mental health and maybe talking about this Witt him so that you guys can discuss a way that would make you both feel better for the time being and not be hurting both of you at the same time ?

I would let him know how you feel, but I would also realize that if that's how he feels then you need to respect that. If he wants to end your relationship there's nothing you can really do about it. I know it's hard to end a relationship with someone you love, but you also can't force it. If you want to continue being friends you need to be careful that your feelings for him are gone. If you still have feelings for him then you shouldn't try to be friends. I know how hard it is to let someone go, but sometimes its for the best.

That must be really hurtful I am so sorry to hear that. When our emotions are in turmoil especially with something like this it is so difficult to make decisions. Your emotional wellbeing is very important, you have also mentioned mental health issues so right now you need to be very kind and gentle with yourself. I know that this might feel like a very dark tunnel with no light at the end, but remember that there is a very caring community right here at 7 cups to support you. You are not alone. So take a deep breath and when you are ready then perhaps it's time to think aboutwhat your next step should be.

You should tell him how you feel about the situation and maybe start writing your emotions down so that you can manage them better so that you're not ending up lashing out and regretting something

Time heals all wounds. There is always a chance that you'll be together again and completely losing him would be a painful ordeal. I suggest trying to be friends with him after a conversation about the end of your relationship and how you're feeling. Remember to put yourself first, in this situation.

Accept his feelings and move on. Work on loving yourself so you're mental health problems go away and you can be strong.

I suggest you try your hardest to move and or try and ask him where you went wrong so you can take his advice and try and improve your mental health if this doesn't work then ask your friends to help you or even a family member and if not I recommend 7 cups.

If you're mental health is fragile, then you don't need negative people around you. Everyone who keeps you from making progress and keeps you from reaching happiness by making you feel guilty about anything it is not good for your health. Negativity and unsupportive people should be avoived, that's my personal opinion.

If someone you were once romantically involved with no longer wants that level of relationship, it might be prudent to respect that decision and move on with your life accordingly.

Have you tried seeking professional help so this doesn't affect all your relationships in the future?

I understand you are hurt, but it's good for both of you. He is in crisis, you should be supportive towards him. Be the best-est friend he can ever have. If you truely love him, you won't mind the status and be there for him no matter what. Love is not always about boyfriends and girlfriends. It's the bond and unconditional love without a label. And did he get help, I mean from a therapist or something? If not, then convince him. I personally experienced something familiar in my life, I'd like to listen from you. If you ever want to talk, leave me a message anytime. Thank you.

You have to understand and respect what he wants, but you need to ask yourself if this is really the person you want to date if he can accept you for who you are,

Respect the wishes of those we hold dear, those whom are our family and friends. That is, so long as doing so is not detrimental to our own health or well-being. It is easy to feel slighted. But, look past this situation ... remove your own self from it. If it was your brother, and he had a wonderful girlfriend who loved the person he was, but felt she couldn't be his fiancé or wife one day ... she just wanted to be his friend. Would that not touch your heart? Sure, you'd feel a little bad for your brother, but wouldn't you also be glad that she chose to be honest? And, wants to be his friend. It only hurts because it is ourselves we bombard with doubt when someone seemingly rejects us.

Don't be so hard on yourself. If it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. It sounds like it is best to move on.

In my personal experience, you should tell him how you feel about this, but also consider his opinion.

Relationships is definitely both way agreement; If he thinks he can't stay your boyfriend let him go .

You need to put yourself first, work on yourself. If he feels that way, leave him to it. You just need to focus on you. It'll be hard at first. Time heals.

If you truly love him then you should support him in any way possible, but if you think you might hurt yourself in the process then it is best you move on.

you know for a passionate relationship both partners need to be in good mental health if you are in that state certainly your state hurting him as well but you need to check out how you feel about life how you feel him now if you think you are mentally ok then you need to talk to him candidly what is happening. but if you are depressed then you need to find ways that include professional help and body care since doing body excersise affects our mental state as well .you need to learn to look life in a new way that life always demands we must grow we must progress

Unfortunately there isn't much you can do. If he doesn't see the value in your relationship then it's his loss. Keep working on you and the people who are meant to be in your life will stay standing by your side to support you. If you feel like you can try being friends with him then try it out, otherwise maybe it's best if you go some time without contact so you can focus on you. If it's meant to be then you may reconnect down the road but there are many fish in the sea!

You should decide for yourself , what you want. If you can be his friend and totally happy then become his friend. If you think that by becoming his friend you will continuously think about your old relationship status and the moments and that will make you sad, then you should cut him off. This is not a selfish step. He took a step for his well being and now it's your turn to take care of yourself. And believe me if you are thinking you won't be over your relation and love happens only one , then please see you will be fine in few days and its not true that love happens only once. So think of your well being and be selfish in taking care of yourself.

I think it's time to let go. Be his friend. Good friends are hard to come by. Not everyone can handle everything about their partner, and he is telling clearly that your mental health is affecting him. I like the way he is being upfront and honest. I think he will make a good friend. Of course you will be the heartbreak of it, so find ways to cope, healthy ways. Exercise, hobbies, studies, and focus on yourself. You never know what the future may bring. It may bring you a partner that can cope better than the partner you are letting go of...Good luck!

I can understand why you feel hurt. Something to keep in mind is you should come before anyone else. Take care of yourself and your mental health. With that being said still take is feelings into consideration. Maybe let him know that you respect his feelings but you are still hurt by what he has said. You should do what’s best for you and I would say leave him and focus on your mental health. You are going to be hurt for a while but once you over come what you are going through you will feel really good. I’m sorry you are going through this and i hope this helps!! Stay positive!

Maybe he's trying to do the best for you. he's trying to get you to focus on yourself and to make sure that your well-being comes first before your relationship. So if I were you I wouldn't let it hurt you I would think of it more as he really cares about you, And that he wants you to be all right.

First of all, sorry you're having to go through this. It's a horrible thing to hear that you're negatively affecting someone's life and thus they don't want to be with you anymore! I imagine that leaves you feeling abandoned and unlovable. I think it's important to think about what you want to say, get all your thoughts on paper, write him a letter or verbally say them all to him. Think about what you'd say if it was the last time you ever spoke to him. Once that's done, leave the ball in his court and respect his decision, and then focus on yourself. What can you do to help yourself? You deserve a therapist if you can afford one, you deserve to focus on your problems. Above all you deserve to be happy and healthy!

You must have been hit in the feels with a statement like this and your grief is totally normal. Now you are left with two choices: the first one is to accept the situation he offers and the second is to decide to go for good. If he has been talking about the impact of your mental health on him for quite a while, chances are his reasons are valid and you might be better off to accept his friendship. If this mental health question was never mentioned before, he may be trying to sever his romantic relationship with you in order to become available again. If you feel that is the case, you are better off severing all ties with him. Either way, you will have to bite the bullet and one hopes you will find the support you need until the hurt goes away.

From my own personal experience, it is important to put your own needs first, and staying friends with someone despite it hurting me never worked in my favor. At these times it is important to channel your energy into improving your mental health in any way that you can. A good way to make sense of where to start is to ask how your mental state has been affecting your boyfriend. This has helped me figure out what exactly I do that influences other people negatively. At times of mental instability, it goes a long way to concentrate on making yourself better, because I have learned that I can't reciprocate love and care when I am not feeling my best.

Well, as a boyfriend he should have tried to listen to you, at least tried to make you feel better. I understand he might feel scared about himself that maybe he avoids conversations on mental health issues because there is some underlying insecurities he might have related to his mental health that he thinks will come out. These things can be really minor, like maybe he is an over thinker or feels a lot of anxiety. So, maybe he runs away from mental health conversations. This can be a possibility. But again, it is just an assumption. Even then, he should have tried to help you or listen to you at least. If he did not, then i think you should leave him immediately because believe me a role of a bf is to be there for his girl, or at least try to, even if it's a bit. If he did not try at all to make you feel better, please leave him. You deserve a lot better and you shall fin better. Believe me. It will happen when you least expect it. Also, if he tried to help, and still wants to leave, then even then, let him go. Just smile and wave goodbye. Understand that he does not wanna be a part of your journey anymore and you can do it yourself. We all are capable of healing each other. There could be any reason. Maybe he himself is not sure. Maybe it is an inner feeling due to past experiences with his exes having similar issues and the relationship being bitter. It could be anything. Either way, be strong and let him go.

Try to understand his mental state and be supportive to him. Instead provide him with a comfort zone to make him feel good and let him vent out his feelings. Understanding your partner is really important and providing them with proper comfort zone and right mindset . Also dont blame yourself with all this anf understand his mental health phase . If you blame yourself you will end up loosing your own mental health at last and creating a more problematic scenario with no solution. At last work on yourself and let go off . Letting go is the best therapy

Though I'm not in your direct circumstances and don't want to give the wrong advice, in my personal experience I would reccommend respecting what your boyfriend wants, though he may love you and care about you he may not be able to handle your emotional needs anymore without hurting his own. Sometimes people can find it too difficult to handle another's mental health upon their own. Unfortunately I understand how you feel, it can be really hurtful for such a strong relationship to go down because a partner can no longer support you. Just respect what he says but understand your feelings with this are also valid.