I want to break up, but I'm scared that no one will ever love me again. What should I do?

I had the exact same thoughts during and after the break up with my first boyfriend, with whom we’ve been together 1,5 years. More than 10 years passed, and I am here to tell you, it is really not something you should fear. The reason for my fear was that I thought I knew how the world works. It was quite a simplistic view. The pretty, nice, smart, funny girls can make their way in life, they will be the ones having successful career, being able to new partners any time they want and live in a happy relationship. The whole package. The my kind of people, quite shy, not really attractive or too ‘anything noticeable and positive’, should live under rocks, because, well nobody cares. But what I learned is that nothing is just black and white and the world is full of different lives, types of people, stories, needs. You are needed and wanted and worthy. Your thoughts will be the most interesting things for someone and your smile the most precious. The next relationship might not gonna work out or the one after that. You will probably have periods when you won’t be with someone. It may not sound very motivating right now. But along the way you will learn things about yourself and you will learn to see some positive, love-worthy things about yourself. And that is the most amazing achievement, to be comfortable with yourself. Try to aim for that and it’s okay to be afraid on the way, but keep on walking.

YOU can love yourself. You don't need someone to love you. Just believe in yourself. It's enough. Enjoy your life. You know that someday you won't have your heart flutter when you hear his/her name. But you'll giggle when you see how far you've come, how strong you are, how you didn't give enough credit to yourself. Believe that there'll be love coming at you once you love yourself. You won't always get what you want. You won't always deserve what you get. But life give you thick fogs so you can grit your teeth, and declaring that you won't give up. That you will slowly, and steadily, walk to get out of the fogs.

I've been there and I know how hard and scary it can be, but if that's something that you want, I think you should always put yourself first. Don't suffer from something you can "get out off" just because you're scared of the unknown, it's gonna be an adventure and I know you are brave enough to start that adventure. The world is full of love yet to discover, and if you don't feel right, that's not your person. Your person is still going to show up and give you everything and all the love you deserve. You deserve the world, don't accept less than that.

Are you still happy? It's the question I keep on asking my mind before when I've been on the same situation. I was afraid that no one will love me again. That I will be left alone. But I wanted to be happy. I thought about it. It's scary to suddenly be left alone. But hey, I remembered, why will I be scared that no one will love me? I have my family, my friends. God too. And most importantly, I have myself. Learn to love yourself more. Soon, the right person will see your worth too. Don't be afraid to let go if you're not happy anymore. Your happiness is what important.

Know your worth and work on your self love. If you want to break up with someone it's because you're not feeling happy and love: which you deserve both. Learn how to enjoy your own company, learn how to be your best friend. Don't be afraid of going to the movies alone. Don't be afraid of going to the beach by yourself. If you love yourself your fear stops making sense. If you love yourself you can't be afraid that no one will ever love you again: you already do. You should be in a relationship because you want to. Not because you feel like you need to. Not because you feel like you have to. Love Yourself.

Why should you feel afraid of a new opportunity in your life? There has to be something great about you, that the person has falling in love with you in the first place. Maybe it's something the next person would cherish more. Why settle for less if your not happy with where you're at? What do you believe is your greatest characteristics? Some people dont realize what's out there, because they've gotten to comfortable with what they have. Exploring beyond your boundaries could be the best thing you've ever done. We never catch what matters the most to us because we are to focused on benefitting someone else and their needs.

Just because you break up with someone, it does not mean another person will not love you. Learning to love and let go is very, very hard, however, sometimes convincing yourself that there isn't just two people in the world. There is I think more than 7.5 billion people. Out of all these people, yes it may be difficult to find the "right one". Answering the question, you want to break up but is scared that nobody will love you. As mentioned before, try convincing yourself, and if that is hard (most possibly may be) talk to someone else.

Personally for me it was realizing how much love comes in different forms (parents, siblings, friends...etc) and above all loving yourself enough to be comfortable in being single is one of them. I know its hard since you have gotten used to being with this special person but you got to realize, you are one great amazing sweet human being. You are going to find someone even better for you than those of your past. :) you got this! Keep doing you and focusing on yourself and what makes you happy, free and full of life and it will all fall into place! :)

What I think you s h o u l d do is just break up. If you don't feel right with this person or feel like you two just need a break then tell the person you want to break up with that! Trust me, I had to break up with my boyfriend because he was going to break up with me a week after I broke up with him. That was almost a year ago and I found another person that I love being in relationship with! No matter what, even if you don't want to, put yourself before others. There are some exceptions. But in this case, care for your feelings. Tell that person you need a break.

Of the 7 billion people on this earth, the most important person who needs to love you is you. If that is the case, others will follow. Love yourself enough to quit a relationship that does not make you happy. You will be a better and stronger person. When you are kind to yourself and learn how to build yourself up you will also learn to see that you are worthy of love and that a lot of people already care about you. You are going to be an awesome person who builds other people up as well and who has tons of people in his life that love you. It is going to be amazing. Love yourself first. Choose yourself.

I commend you for reaching out; it is a hard thing to do, and lots of people have a hard time taking that first step. If you are in a relationship that is unhealthy for you, you should not feel like you ever have to settle. If someone tells you that you need them, or should be dependent on them, know that is a form of manipulation to get you to stay, and you should not have to give in to that. That's not what love should be. I wish you luck in finding all the happiness you deserve.

Being in a relationship you do not want to continue in is a difficult situation to be in. However, it is made more difficult when there are concerns about whether love will find you in the future. Ultimately, allowing your fears about the future to impact what you want to do right now is going to limit you. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to gain the courage and momentum to move on, should you still want to in the future. If you want to break up with your significant other because you feel the relationship is unhealthy, toxic, not conducive to personal growth, or does not bring positivity to your life, you should not allow a fear about the future to deter you from doing what you feel would be best for you right now. No one can predict the future, but if what's happening right now isn't working or is actively causing detriment to you, you have the evidence you need to move forward.

This is a valid fear many have, especially those in toxic or abusive relationships. It is okay to be scared or afraid, we are humans who have emotions and not robots. Sometimes we are scared to do something, but we make the choice to follow through. A good tip for me is to really ask yourself what love looks like to you. If it doesn't match your current partners behaviors, maybe it is time to break up. The first bit after a breakup can be an adjustment due to that single feeling being so new and you may miss some memories or experiences. But sometimes we have to find the love we truly deserve and sometimes, it isn't in our current relationships.

If you want to break up with a person, just do it because I know it's painful to leave a relationship but, if you keep dragging it on the happy memories of the relationship would fade. Also, about you feeling that you'll never be loved that's not true. From the question I feel like you should love yourself more because then you'll see how much great qualities you have as a person. I know it's easy to say Love yourself but, it's truly one of the hardest journey a human being goes through. Also, you'll never not be loved so, don't feel that way.

You are the most important person in your life. You live and die with you. You know you dont want this relationship just like you know someone else will love you when you love yourself. You are stronger than you think and give credit to your self. The relationship has ran its course and it's time your path takes a different route than the relationship you are in is leading you. There is so much more life to live and it's a more enjoyable and exciting life having it filled with people who truly love you and that includes you loving yourself.

Ask yourself why you think that no one will ever love you again. Surely, that's impossible. Learn to know your own worth and accept the fact that you deserve to be with someone who loves you and not in a relationship where you feel undervalued. There are two paths you can take - stay in your current relationship and remain unhappy, or end your relationship and move on to someone/something that will make you happy. It sounds as if you don't love yourself enough. If you can face the reality of knowing that you are worthy and you can be happy, then moving on will be all the better.

I believe you shouldn't be scared to break up. You will love and be loved again one day. It might take a while, and it can be scary to be on your own again, but it gets better with time. If you are not truly happy in your relationship, it will just fester until your relationship is toxic, ends in a messy breakup, or your mental health suffers. You should be as honest as possible with your partner. If you are not happy in your relationship, sit your partner down and talk. You might be able to come to a compromise.

I believe it certainly depends on what sort of vision and perspective you hold towards life and love and the quality of those two simultaneously. I believe there are two options; you either risk not finding someone who could really make you happy whilst wasting the other’s time as well, or admitting your true feelings, working on yourself and waiting for the right time to find your real love. I think it is really unfair for the both of you to hold onto a relationship that you would not even want anymore.. Now, the decision is yours; what will it be?

You deserve to be happy. If the person you're with doesn't make you happy, then it's not helping either of you to stay together. The only way to find someone that makes you happy is to open yourself up to that possibility. The more comfortable that you are with your life, the more other people will be drawn to you and the more opportunities you will have to connect with others. When you become your best self by catering to your own needs, people will want to be around you and you will feel more comfortable connecting to other people.

If you want to break up with your current partner, there must be a reason for it. Presumably, you are not happy in your relationship. In my experience, staying in a relationship you are not fully happy with is not fair on you OR your partner. You both deserve the opportunity to find a relationship where everybody involved is happy and fulfilled. The fear that nobody will love you again is a scary one, but you just have to remember that there is a reason your current partner wanted to be with you, and there will be somebody else who feels the same way. In the meantime, maybe consider reaching out for support to assist with your self esteem - the most important relationship you will ever be in is the one you're in with yourself.

I thought the same exact thing when I was in this relationship with this person I don't like. It's not uncommon to think that way. Some one will love you again. You cannot just sit and wait for them however. Find a hobby and figure out what you want to do with your life and if someone comes by and likes you? Great!! When you feel like that, you are putting yourself low. Confidence is what you need. I believe everyone is lovable, because everyone is good at the core. Breaking up is painful, but nothing is more painful that staying stuck somewhere that you don't belong. Without change, you can't grow. As hard as it is, if you want to break up, it wouldn't be fair to you or your partner, to stay in a relationship when you aren't committed anymore. Everything happens for a reason. You will find love again. Try to hold onto faith, and stay positive. Stay strong.

Aww honey, it's never like that..You know from my personal experience, I had to break up with a guy who I thought was perfect to me..I neglected all his faults, differences and when he told me everything happens for the best, I didnt wanna believe it..But it is true indeed...Guess what? I soon found a guy who is exactly what I always wanted..It feels tailourmade like two pieces of a jigsaw puzzle and I'm thankful I broke up with my ex bf at that time..So you never know unless you try..everything happens for the best..Just have faith and be positive..Things always have a way of working out for the best!Loads of love and strength to you🧡

In my experience of relationships I would rather have time to myself alone to reflect than be with someone who makes me unhappy. Weigh up whether it is worth it or not. Avoid sacrificing your happiness to benefit those who make you unhappy. The fear of being alone can be overwhelming but there's billions of people on this planet who have taken the same risk and are now in happy relationships. My ex was manipulative and emotionally abusive. I was afraid of being alone but now I know its the best decision I ever made. Love isn't about fear of being alone.

The fact that someone did love you means that no one loving you is impossible. Learn to appreciate yourself and know your worth because you are amazing on your own. Heading into a relationship before you learn to be okay on your own can be detrimental and can cause vicious cycles that can trap you if you happen to be in a toxic relationship. It takes strength to end a relationship and that strength can be found by practising self-love and independence. Relying on someone is good and makes hard situations easier but depending on someone emotionally is not healthy.

This is a difficult decision to make and your concern is not unreasonable. I have not been in your shoes before, but I can imagine the scared feelings you are experiencing. Have you thought about what would be best for you? Have you considered the benefits of breaking up as opposed to the negatives? This is a decision that is yours to make and I cannot advise you as to what you should do but I can listen to your concerns and empathise with you. How does that make you feel? I hope that I can listen to your ideas and thoughts on this.

I know a break up is hard and especially thinking about the consequences is even harder and I understand so well. If the other person is not treating you well and if this is the best decision for you, i suggest you to do it. It will make you feel free and have freedom and don't worry about the part about no one loving you. Because people will understand you and love you. And if people do not love you, they are not good people. There are so many amazing people out there that are willing to love you. The entire seven cups community is here with you along this journey, we love you! thank you

You should think about your happiness. Love yourself. When you start loving yourself others will love you aswell. There is someone out there for everyone. In time you will find someone who will love you for you and love you unconditionally. If you have already realised that you want to break up, then you realise your not happy. If you want to break up then you should do whats right for yourself. To make yourself happier. You need to take time to decide what is going to make you happy.

Love yourself. Every day, every night, you are enough. If you being in a relationship that you don't want to, that's is going to do no good. If you want, you can try a self care break, something engaging that you do being away from your partner like camping. May be that gives you a better perspective to have. Having said that if you can't go out just distance yourself from your partner telling him or not, whatever works best for you. But most importantly, don't lose yourself in the process. No one can love you more properly than yourself.

I can not give advice, but you know you the best. Believe your instincts and do what you think is best! I will always be here to support you and help you through these hard times. Here at 7 cups, we value your words. I wish the best for you and I believe that you can do anything! It sounds like you are experiencing anxiety. You are and will be loved by many people! If you think it is best yo let go of someone, follow your gut instincts. You know your life better than me. Again, reach out again for more support.

Remind yourself there are 8 billion people in the world. You will find someone. And if not? There's no shame in being in a healthy, loving and fulfilling relationship with yourself. As a matter of fact, it should be your biggest flex. Decide what kind of person you want to be and make goals to embody that version of yourself. Work towards it everyday, regardless of your relationship status. Once you have established yourself as the best version of yourself, you'll have higher, healthier standards for the people you let into your life and you'll get to decide whether or not you still want to break up or not.