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I want to break up, but I'm scared that no one will ever love me again. What should I do?

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Top Rated Answers
kaaylanichole1
November 16th, 2015 3:44pm
follow your heart and your gut, they know you best, everyone has gotta love someone, theres more fish in the sea! :)
Anonymous
February 6th, 2018 7:28pm
there's always someone out there for you and if you're not happy in that relationship you should break up and don't be scared because there's always someone out there
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2020 4:22am
If your partner or current relationship makes you unhappy or uncomfortable, you have the full right to end the relationship. Although this one partner may have mistreated you, you are still worthy of love and respect. Your value as an individual should not be determined by anyone else. You are loved, and many are here to support you! You are not alone. Breakups can be tough and emotionally difficult, but if your current relationship is making you unhappy, it is your choice to leave if you would like. You deserve nothing but absolute love and respect from your partner!
derekinmo
September 2nd, 2020 7:26am
Every journey begins with a single step. Stepping into the unknown is what makes life amazing. If you are unhappy its time to move on and do something for yourself. You will find love again and it will be stronger and more magical than anything you have had before. Love is infinite and you can always create more when and if you need it. You will never know what new love you may find unless you step out of yourself and go for it. Noone can guarantee that you will find love again but giving yourself the chance may be just what you need to do.
FairMelody
December 20th, 2016 6:50pm
If you feel something in your gut, nagging you, and you know without a doubt something must change, you have to listen. Someone will love you again. Have faith, go out and meet new people and you will see how much better you deserved.
miraculousHeart73
March 22nd, 2018 8:37pm
Take a few deep breaths. Everything is going to be okay. Breaking up with someone is not the end of the world. There is someone out there that is right for you. Just be patient and concentrate on yourself.
Dreamer42
March 31st, 2018 12:19pm
If you are not happy with your relationship and if you tried every solution possible for the problem in your relationship, I think you should take the jump and part ways with your partner. Do not worry about the thought of no one loving you again, I believe it's a 1 to 100 chance ratio in a lifetime. :) You are loved by your friends and family and do your best to see yourself through those people who surround you with support and kindness.
notsureletseeyo
April 12th, 2018 8:15pm
That is a very common dilemma, and the answer is always the same. Brekak up. You will will lonely, and you will doubt your decision. It will be hard. Until you fall in love again and only then you will see it was a correct decision.
miraculousHope42
April 15th, 2018 1:55am
If you really want to leave your partner, the best decision is to leave them. Afterwards, spending time alone is a great way to recover, gain clarity and learn to be happy alone. When my fiance and I of 4 years separated, I thought that I would never find love again. I spent many months alone, depressed, sad, angry and many other emotions. I started meditating, counting my blessings each day (being able to eat, turning the lights on, etc.) and reflecting on myself. One day, I realized that I loved myself. And not long after, someone else started loving me just as much as I love myself. Take risks, live, learn and grow.
SirenSymphony21
January 27th, 2021 10:48am
Ok. You seem to be confused as to whether you should step out of this relationship or not. That is completely understandable. As someone has rightly said, love is blind. It makes you ignore all the flaws of your partner. Hence, it becomes difficult to leave them even after they hurt us so much.You can do one thing, write down the advantages and disadvantages on a piece of paper. If you notice that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, then you should think of taking a step back from this relationship. It is okay to feel like no one will ever be able to love us. It is a natural feeling but that doesn't mean it is a fact. You might find someone who truly loves you. Even if you do not, it can be painful but at the end of the day, you will have yourself.
gabrielsgirl221
December 4th, 2014 9:08am
Do what is best for your own happiness. YOU come first. You are entirely deserving of love and even if that love doesn't find you immediately, it will come to you when you need it most. There is more than one kind of love and I can guarantee that you are loved already.
TheCup5893
April 27th, 2018 11:42pm
If someone loved you in the first place, you're clearly lovable. It's only natural to fear loneliness and miss the relationship it self, but putting up with someone who doesn't treat you well or causes inconvenience is a serious form of disrespect to yourself. You've got this, mate. I promise, this too shall pass. :)
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 2:39am
Remember,everyone have their own soulmate. Maybe you will meet them today,next week or maybe in few years. Just carry on ur life with confident
Ree91
June 1st, 2018 11:34pm
you should believe that you are good and people will like you for who you really are. You cannot hold a relation just because you think others will not see what this person has seen you need to trust yourself and come out of a relationship in which you are not happy
TiggerFish
May 16th, 2018 8:58am
Be you first. If you aren't true to yourself and how you feel, you'll miss out on all the amazing people waiting to love you for who you really are! I've F e LT like that and let it drag out far too long until we both knew it wasn't the right thing any more. And in giving myself the time and space to really be me (with some more bumps in the road!) I found d my current partner and I am open and just me, with him.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2018 4:43pm
Breaking up is hard, it consumes too much energy, especially if you two had a long term relationship. And it will kill you for sure. I have been through a break up lately. And it was devastating. I was so broken and alsmost depressed. But here is something interesting! I was in the room for days, lonely and lost. But it was really amazing after few weeks I learned to be self aware. It’s true it was a difficult time, amazingly it gave me purpose because I was able to find out about myself. I accepted for who I am, for the mistakes I did, and i felt relieved as I started accepting everything. It was clear that all this time I have been living in a dream hoping everything would be ok. After few weeks, I was smiling! So, if you’re going through a break it’s not the end. All you can do is appreciate for what you have. And accept for who you are. And think he or she is better off without you and be happy for your partner. You have reason to break up so focus on your reason and think it’s for the betterment. And start living your life, try something new, start a hobby, try cooking it helps! All I can say is love yourself before loving someone else, so you can live.
Anonymous
October 20th, 2018 1:00pm
You should do what you what to do. Even if that is the right thing or the wrong thing. We all eventually learn from our actions with consequences that we have to face. If you are scared that no one will love you again, you need to love yourself before expecting someone else to love you back. You shouldn’t need to fear the thought of being alone, 7 cups of tea is a great way to communicate with people the problems that you are facing, it’s to lift any weight of your shoulders, we are here for a reason ❤️
resourcefulFreedom38
June 13th, 2019 12:23am
First, learn to love yourself. You are responsible for your happiness. Happiness comes from within. In order to be loved one has to learn to love. Love should be unconditional. It is 100% on each person's part. Fear is not real. You are afraid of something that has not happened. Work on eliminating those thoughts. Ask yourself why you want to break up with your partner. Is it something that you will take to a new relationship? Have you discussed your thoughts with your partner? Discovering why you want to breakup can help you in future relationships. It will also help you to determine if the issue is within you or your partner.
caringRainbows85
June 1st, 2018 9:15am
Never settle for less. It will make you regret your decision on a loop. Love and care for yourself first and make sure your needs are cared for. One day you will find that person who will see you as the most beautiful person you are! - Take care - Yours Truly Viola.
Niki0617
November 3rd, 2018 5:20pm
First in first, you have to figure out why you want to break up. You should not be in a relationship, because you want someone in life, but you should be in a relationship if you love the person and the person is loving you back. it should be mutual. if one of the two is not there, then it's a triggering point for you to consider what you really want in life. One break up does not mean that you will never have anyone else in life. When the time comes and when you are ready with an open mind to go ahead with a relationship, things will fall in to perspective hopefully. However, you should be open minded as to what you want, how you want it and whether you are ready to accept someone and that you are in love. This is how i feel . :)
Anonymous
November 4th, 2018 8:03pm
If you feel that you want to break up, just do it! Staying in the relationship that makes you unhappy is not a good idea. You should think about yourself and your well-being. You should learn how to love yourself firstly. In the lifetime you can have plenty of different partners, they can always change. But in the end you will always have yourself and you have to learn how to be comfortable with you. It's not a good idea to base your self-esteem on the others. Finally, when you will learn you love yourself the others will love you too :) But the most important is to be ok with yourself :)
peacefulLight8704
October 17th, 2019 2:16am
I commend you for reaching out; it is a hard thing to do, and lots of people have a hard time taking that first step. If you are in a relationship that is unhealthy for you, you should not feel like you ever have to settle. If someone tells you that you need them, or should be dependent on them, know that is a form of manipulation to get you to stay, and you should not have to give in to that. That's not what love should be. I wish you luck in finding all the happiness you deserve.
lovelyHope20
October 3rd, 2019 12:09pm
Of the 7 billion people on this earth, the most important person who needs to love you is you. If that is the case, others will follow. Love yourself enough to quit a relationship that does not make you happy. You will be a better and stronger person. When you are kind to yourself and learn how to build yourself up you will also learn to see that you are worthy of love and that a lot of people already care about you. You are going to be an awesome person who builds other people up as well and who has tons of people in his life that love you. It is going to be amazing. Love yourself first. Choose yourself.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2019 1:28am
What I think you s h o u l d do is just break up. If you don't feel right with this person or feel like you two just need a break then tell the person you want to break up with that! Trust me, I had to break up with my boyfriend because he was going to break up with me a week after I broke up with him. That was almost a year ago and I found another person that I love being in relationship with! No matter what, even if you don't want to, put yourself before others. There are some exceptions. But in this case, care for your feelings. Tell that person you need a break.
Nottheend
September 19th, 2019 5:35am
Personally for me it was realizing how much love comes in different forms (parents, siblings, friends...etc) and above all loving yourself enough to be comfortable in being single is one of them. I know its hard since you have gotten used to being with this special person but you got to realize, you are one great amazing sweet human being. You are going to find someone even better for you than those of your past. :) you got this! Keep doing you and focusing on yourself and what makes you happy, free and full of life and it will all fall into place! :)
Anonymous
September 8th, 2019 7:49am
Just because you break up with someone, it does not mean another person will not love you. Learning to love and let go is very, very hard, however, sometimes convincing yourself that there isn't just two people in the world. There is I think more than 7.5 billion people. Out of all these people, yes it may be difficult to find the "right one". Answering the question, you want to break up but is scared that nobody will love you. As mentioned before, try convincing yourself, and if that is hard (most possibly may be) talk to someone else.
considerateRiver5411
September 6th, 2019 5:39am
Why should you feel afraid of a new opportunity in your life? There has to be something great about you, that the person has falling in love with you in the first place. Maybe it's something the next person would cherish more. Why settle for less if your not happy with where you're at? What do you believe is your greatest characteristics? Some people dont realize what's out there, because they've gotten to comfortable with what they have. Exploring beyond your boundaries could be the best thing you've ever done. We never catch what matters the most to us because we are to focused on benefitting someone else and their needs.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2019 7:47pm
Honestly, love comes at unexpected times my friend. You lose, and love- and life goes on. People come and go like the wind, but sometimes they stay. If this person isn’t right for you, you have to let them go. Don’t worry about not finding love again, because you will. Love comes when you least expect it, until then just focus on yourself and your own happiness. People focus too much energy on getting love from other people they forget to love themselves. I don’t know who you are, but I can assure you that you will be loved someday by somebody who deserves you. So make the choices that will make you happy, and lead you to the best you.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2019 2:29am
This is just something that you have been conditioned to think by the world around you, and maybe even whoever you're dating! It's a difficult thing to remind yourself of, but you are not unlovable, and you will find the right person. Just the fact that you are in a relationship now means that you are, of course, lovable. There are plenty of people who love you, like family and friends, so why is it crazy to think that someone could love you in a romantic way? It is important not to stay in a relationship that you don't want to be in, no matter what.
FroggyMae
March 27th, 2019 12:42am
This is something I've dealt with a few times in the past. Over time I've learned that current struggles often cloud up our outlook on the future, such as a breakup making us feel unlovable. I went through this with my last breakup, actually, and it was an awful feeling. But giving something time is one of the greatest natural remedies. Feeling unlovable is a valid emotion - but there are also so many people you haven't met yet that can be potential lovers. You may feel stuck right now in the love department, but remind yourself that the future holds so much for you.