I love two different people. What should I do?

It depends on the situation. Do these people love you? In that case, the worst thing you can do is wait. It's a choice you need to make, and the longer you let things fester, the more you and the other two people may get hurt.

Don't tell them it could complicate things, take some time to figure out their goods and bads and what you like about them

Think about the future. Who do you see in your future? Who do you want to be with in your future? Believe me, I was and still am in that situation. I wish I knew better. I wish I gave myself that advice I just gave you. Think about it. The future.

This is a hard experience, and I am sorry to hear about your conflict. You need to consider the feelings of these people also, as this has a negative effect on everyone involved.

There is nothing wrong in loving both of them as long as it doesn't hurt anyone of you. If you have to make a choice then think about things that are most important to you in life and what are your expectations from your partner? Take your time, make a list and decide with whom you can be happier.

Make sure that it is love, actually, as many people mix such emotions up. Next, figure out who you love more, logically, this would be the second person, but it really depends on the overall situation. No matter what, you need to be honest with yourself, and honest with the person you don't love as much. It's best to break it off with that person as it will be hurtful for both of you if it continues.

Spend time with both of them and write a list about the pros and cons of both and see who you think suites you better.

It is okay to love two people but its important to be honest to them and to yourself. Do not lead someone on if you can avoid it.

If you can’t have both people in your life, perhaps the real measure of your love for them is to let them both go. Accepting that you cannot choose, you set them free and if one comes back to you it was meant to be. If neither come back then perhaps you are meant to be with someone new who you grow to love on such a deep level that you only have eyes for them.

You need to talk to both of them and figure out who you have more in common with and who feels more strongly about you.

Tell the people you love and be honest, it's possible one of both like you back. Then decide on it..

step away from both people for a while until you are clear on what direction to take. stringing one or both along is selfish. be upfront about what you want. are you afraid of being alone?

Such a heart rending situation! I am sharing out of my own experience. I am in a committed relationship with one person, but fell in love with another. There was a long journey of trial and discovery, but this is what I learned. If I’m the type of person that would cheat with you, then I’m the type of person that would cheat on you. So that wouldn’t be good for any of us. I decided to act (as opposed to react and be controlled by emotions) in line with the commitments I had already made, but had to adjust my relationship with the second person to honour that. In time the feelings for person 2 subsided. I know that if I re-enter those situations where I am in close contact with her, things will flare up again, so until such time as I can pursue that second relationship in a right and appropriate way, I feel I must endure. The cool thing is that giving more space for my first relationship has caused that to grow in strength, which has helped fill the need I had that led me to the second love initially...

It depends on what history you have with each of them. If the love is deep enough which is usually associated with time and effort invested in that person, then your love for each one will never die. So choose who you have invested more time and love with. There are other factors that only you know. Choose who you can bare the least to lose. Don't make this decision quick unless they need you to. This is the most important decision we will ever make.

Hey love! Close your eyes, ask what your heart says. if you would truly love the first one, you would never see the second one or anyone in that love sense.

Put your self in a position where you had to loose one of them and then you will see who you cannot live without

If you really loved the first person, there wouldn't be another person. Love is a broad spectrum. How do you view both of these persons?

I don’t think it is possible to love two people at the same time..surely one of them is just a filler of the gaps/imperfections of the one you really love. You wanted to get the best of both worlds. If you truly love someone, he/she alone owns your heart..

I used to think that if you fall for two, pick the second, cause if you really loved the first one you wouldnt fall for the second. BUT thats not always the case. Think about the differences in how they both make you feel, how they treat you, who do you see yourself with in the future, who you would rather live it. Think about their values and compare them to yours.

There is a difference between love and lust. Ask yourself what are the reasons why you love these people and Identify if they share the same feeling.

Follow your heart. Write Pros & Cons for each person. Which one do you feel like more yourself with. Who brings out the best version of you.

It is hard to distinguish sometimes pleasure from love, love from liking, appreciating from deep connection that can manifest on different levels. It is not easy sometimes to listen your own thoughts and tune into your essence and figure out what is really going on. What do we really feel towards other person? Maybe we should spend more time figuring out our own feelings and see if we really do love two different people or if we find with them different part of the image that we like about ourselves. It is also quite possible that we do not love any of them if we look deep enough into the ocean of our emotions and finding the real reason why do we feel these emotions. It seems that we need to spend more time with ourselves if we believe in commitments. If we don't the question does not need to be explored further.

I've been in this situation at least twice, So I truly understand what you mean, what you're going through, etc. However, it is unlikely that you love both of them equally, the same way, to the same extent, etc. Try to figure out differences in your relationships with both of them. Who do you feel more like yourself with? Who makes you laugh more? Who can you talk about your feelings and thoughts more easily? The answer to all these questions wouldn't be the same person. Just weigh your options and see who you would like to be with more. This might take really long to understand and figure out, but the final answer or conclusion will be worth it. Also. I would like you to know that you don't HAVE to choose. You don't owe anyone the choice. If you feel Like you can't choose one person, or you can't hurt one of them, you really don't have to choose. You can stay friends with both of them instead, and live the moment. Not choosing gives you freedom, it ensures that no one is hurt and it also gives you peace. It could be very liberating. And then there's an option of choosing both and being in a polyamorous relationship. However, please communicate with each other If you do go for it. And I understand that it isn't for everyone, and I respect if you and/or the people you love don't want it. What you decide is your personal choice and remember that no one, not even these answers should influence your choices. I'm sure both of these people will respect your choice(s) too.

It's hard to choose between 2 people who you love dearly. The best you can do is to spend time with them separately and make sure if you love one more or if you find out you don't love them like you thought you did. If that doesn't work you can always just make a pros and cons list which sounds silly but it helps more than you think, I've been in a similar situation and I had a friend tell it me it sounded stupid but a pros and cons list is the way to go even if it seems silly.

That is a hard decision to make. However, honestly it all depends on you. I suggest to weigh out what you like from each person and what you do not like. Try to ask yourself to, "Are we really compatible?" "What do we have in common?" "What do I like about him or her?". I believe the more that you have in common with your partner, the higher the possibility of your relationship to last long. Also, try to gauge how the person reacts during you are down times. Like, how they interact with you when you are not your best self. All of these are just suggestions, but honestly when it comes to relationship, you'll just feel if they are the right one. Good luck!

Figure out who you can live life without. If one matters more that is the person you have more feelings for. It isn't fair to string someone along for your benefit or as a back up plan. When you figure out who you can live without then you need to be honest with them and let them move on with their life. Being honest now will prevent more heartache in the long run. If you sought out the attention and love of another that means you were not happy. It also proves something was missing from your initial relationship and you need to address what that was.

I cannot tell you what to do because you know your self best, but the best option is to think of why each individual makes you happy. Try to see the differences and what one is missing from the other. It can be very stressful in positions like these. Remember that you have time to think and you do not need to make any decisions right away. Your heart will always have a louder opinion but remember sometimes thats not always the opinion to focus on. With that being said, it’s important to focus on what your mind has to say as well.

I've loved two different people at once before. It's no picknick... To say the least. It kept me awake at night, because I was really tormented by the different feelings and thoughts going through my head. Eventually, a friend of mine recommended me a tip he learned from one of his therapists: Make a list... So I made a list with the 'pro's and contra's' for each person and this made things more clear for me then. I was able to choose rationally. Polyamory is also an option, but off course both people you love have to be up for it. And eventually this option makes things even more difficult...

Love is a great thing, and it must go as widely as possible, as far as we use this word to express a sincere wishing good for a person. Still, when it comes to choosing a partner for life (or a significant part of it), we have to choose one person. This must be a person we not only love, but who we feel comfortable with, and who will grow personally together with you. This must be a soulmate. It's quite a rare thing, so chances are that at least one of the two people you think about is not a good fit for this position. Take your time, and think about it long enough to be sure that you do the right choice.

i would choose whoever i think would make me more safe and happy in the long run, even if in the moment the other person is making me happier. i would choose the person who would stay with me through the good and the bad, even if we fight or are mad at each other. i would choose the one i think is better for my mental health and will provide more good memories than bad when i think about them when we have broken up. i would choose the one i can imagine a future with, like actually getting married and settling down with them and growing old with them.