I love two different people. What should I do?

You could make a list of pros and cons. Focus on the little things because everything matters when making hard decisions

This can be very difficult to handle and there's a saying "If you really loved that person then you wouldn't have fallen for the other one" - Try to figure out if it is genuine, for either person. Are you happy with them? How happy are you? Can you see yourself being with them long term? Think about your happiness, your health and you first before anything, think the long-term effect, not the short term one.

Take a step back, go away for a little bit, then see who, out of the two will come and contact you, versus the other one who contacts you less. This will show who would be more devoted to you.

Sometimes it helps doing a list with pros and cons from each person and then you can evaluate wich one is the one with who you want to be

Go for the one who likes you....because that will be good for both of you.........and I think you will be happy

You should find who you want to be with after you find the right one you will know it.you will feel.

It's easier said than done, but choose the one that brings the best out of you, which means the one that is kind, sweet, and warm with you. It is easy to confuse what we want over what we need. Generally, a want in a person could be seen as "they are pretty, they are rich, and they are popular." We see what we wish we could be and we assume that having them brings us closer to that ideal; however, that is very rarely the case. When we are with someone who is kind to us, understanding, compassionate, transparent, and honest, that person easily reflects the ideals of a healthy relationship. It is better to choose someone that makes us smile and is unpopular, than to be with someone who makes us cry and is popular.

I would put a pro and con list for each of these people. When I am done with the lists, I would check to see which one will benefit me most, then make up my mind. Then I can tell the second person, I still would like for us to be friends. However, it is important for me to realize I can still love 2 or more people but in different ways. It isn't necessary to have to give up people in my life if I want to be with them. There are no laws that we must only have one person in our lives.

Don’t commit to one person until you’ve gotten to know them both in a better aspect. Go on dates with both, learn about their lives, and make a better judgement call. It can be overwhelming at times but it’ll all work itself out. You’ll be able to figure it out. Sometimes it’ll just click and you’ll have a realization as to whom to be with. It’s never easy loving more than one person. You just have to figure it out. I don’t have all the answers, and my advice may not always work, but it can help just a little.

loving two different people is not wrong but if you want two people to love thats a big problem find the one who love you most and who care for you most and love him/her and leave other . otherwise you may fall in depression for having two lover. so i think you should leave one and love another one then your life will be shining for sure... but make sure that you did not hurt the other person .. and i my eyes love two people is one kind of cheating so dont do that my friend

When ever a situation like this occurs I think of a quote by Johnny Depp “If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.” I really think that it helps and I really do use it in my life as well as in my listener activity's. I really personally think that quotes are a great way to find words on how you feel but don't have the power to say your self.

I personally have been in a similar situation and I came to learn and understand that if I truly loved the first person, then I would have never loved the second. It is a situation most people find themselves in and they feel lost and confused, but it is a situation that helps you grow and learn your own self worth and helps you to love yourself to a greater extent. If you cannot figure out what your heart wants then open up to the two people you have feelings for and tell them exactly how you are feeling.

Love is a general term. If you meant generally, there's no problem with that. But, "in"love to two different people, I suggest you think about it long and hard on who you will end up with. Because in the end, reality speaking one will end up with you and one will just have to accept it and move on with his life. Life is unfair, but it will be more unfair if one does not act upon this problem sooner. If not, then everybody will be in pain. So think about this wisely and make sure you have chosen right.

As per what I feel, you cant Love two different people at the same time. One of them must be your attraction/crush. You must try to see whom do you truly love, with whom time passes by quickly, with whom you are YOU. You must get to know yourself and both of them better. Love is a different thing altogether and if you are confused about who you love, try staying away from both of them and see who you remember most of the times, by little things or weird topics, who comes in your mind more and more, who makes you feel special and lucky at the same time.

This must be so hard for you. Think about the person that makes you feel happy, truly happy. Think about the person you could see yourself with in the future; think of the kindest person. If you really loved the first, you wouldn’t have fell in love with the second. Also think; is it puppy love? Or true love? You will 100% work this problem out soon, and I understand how difficult you are finding your situation. Please make sure you address this with both of these people, as it would be unfair to lead both on. I hope you find a solution to your problem very soon!

You can't love two equally at the same time, look for something that is only unique to one of them and you're likely to be more compatible with in the long run, and in the end you don't regret choosing that person over the other one, no matter how many hardships you have to face but you know that you'll get through them together. . Think who you are more grateful for being in your life and who loves you the way you are. If you sit down and really think about it rationally weighing all the pros and cons, you will find your answer.

Hi, this question is something close to my heart. currently, I am in love with a guy who says he loves both his girlfriend and me. And I can't quite understand it, to be honest, I don't believe it is possible to love two different people at the same time equally. but I think, a person can be confused about what he wants or does not really know what he is looking for & you might like some qualities from one person and other qualities from the other person. but none of them are what you are looking for. if you love someone enough, if your love is right then your heart should know. but if you have to ask other people on what to do you are insulting the people you claim to love.

» First of all you need to get to know each deeper. You should’ve already known to do this but better late than never. Make sure you really, really know each of them at their core. I’m not talking about knowing their favorite colors or their favorite foods. Know what they’d grab if their house caught fire. Know the one thing they hate most in the entire world. In other words, you should have a really deep sense of knowing each of them because only then can you fairly choose the right person. »» The next thing you must do is pretty straightforward: Notice your personality around each of them. Does your personality change with one person but not the other? Are you able to be more of yourself around one of them? If so, then that’s the person you should be with. In other words, pick the person that brings the best out in you. »»» You need to know where both people stand on serious issues. You need to know if your morals and values line up. If they don’t, you clearly can’t be with them because you’ll have major issues down the line. »»»» The next thing you need to do is assess how you feel before seeing each person. Who are you most excited to see? Pay attention to your mood and excitement levels for a little while and see if there’s a trend. Obviously, the person you anticipate seeing more is the person you care about more. - I really hope that this helps: If you want to hear more or if you simply want to talk then feel free to shoot me a quick message. :)

Only you can decide what to do! I get that this is hard, I've been through it, and I bet a ton of other people have too. But nobody can tell you who to choose. My advice would be to try not to feel rushed to choose one or the other in haste; I would take things slow and steady. Maybe think about who's more compatible with you, and who you have the best chance of a lasting relationship with. Think about each persons availability. If one has a partner who they are monogamous with, that would be a dealbreaker for example. But overall, you have to think about yourself and each of the people you love.

I think it is important to take time for yourself and think about what you want. The first thing to think about in this situation isn't what to "do," but how you are feeling and the ways that you can start to cope with and understand your feelings. Overall, you are the person who knows what is best for you, so taking that time to think about yourself and your feelings is crucial in being able to come to conclusions about your life. All in all, just understand that feelings are an extremely complicated thing and you are not a bad person for loving two different people.

If you're married, I guess this would be a question to yourself. If not, then give yourself and the other two people you love, time. Maybe be honest with both of them. Perhaps the answer will become clear to you by the reactions you get. Are you having other problems in your life? Would it help to speak to a professional / guidance councilor? Is there a way you can remove yourself from the situation, take a holiday, reflect and give yourself space? Time out to go off and find something you really enjoy doing might help you make a decision.

If you love two different people find out who treats you best, and who makes you feel better. Ask your self if you could live without one of them. Remember you don’t have to chose one right away, take time to do what feels best. Based on personal experience, I would advise finding out if they also love you, as that might influence your decision. It might also help to start a diary to help you get better in touch with your feelings.

Think about the qualities and bad traits of each one and make a list. Then ask yourself which one of them has the most qualities that I am looking for? You might also love one more like a friend or lust over them rather than love them. Look up the definition of love, lust or friendship love. You might realize you see one as more of a friend than a lover because you enjoy talking to them but don’t want them in a romantic way. If you care about one more than the other that is love more than lust. Lust is when we are attracted physically to that person but we don’t care about them. Love is when we care about them. Romantic love is when we are attracted to them and also care about them. Ask yourself which one of them are you closer emotionally? If you had a problem, to which one of them would go to or ask for advice? If you needed to tell one of them a secret, which one would you trust more with that secret?

It depends on what do you mean with love. If it means that you like both of these people as humans and that you like to spend time with them (they are your friends or just acquaintances), it is great and it can be fulfilling for your soul. If you mean romantic love, then you can maybe consider who do you prefer to spend rest of your life with. Select one of them, not both. Then you can consider engaging with this person romantically, while tell other person in polite and kind way that you haven't got romantic interest in them (singular them!) but if you are comfortable with and person you love romantically agrees, you can remain just friends with this other person.

I think it's important to recognise that love. Do you want a relationship? If yes, it's important that they return the same feelings. If they do, which person can you commit to. Which person do you trust to commit to you, and who do you think you'll feel secure with to develop independence in the relationship. A relationship that you're happy and secure in takes a lot more than just love. It can be difficult to build. Which person out of the two do you trust to be that person in your life, the person you can feel secure with no matter what.

It's okay to love more than one person . We love our parents , friends , sibling and also we have crush on ppl , celebrities ., but be clear about your feelings. and about the relationship you have with each person. To be exact if you like two persons of opposite gender or same gender in a romantic way just remember - 'if you like the person or love the person' . Ask this to yourself. And chose the one for you. You will be confused between like and love or crush and infatuation.. it's okay to be confused. Take your time and progress slowly. And try not to hurt anyone after your decision.

Thank you for reaching out! This is a difficult situation to be in no matter who you are. The thing is that we generally never want to hurt another person, especially if we have been hurt in the same way. It’s important to reflect on how you feel about loving two different people and what kind of support you would like regarding your feelings. You are asking what you should do about your feelings for these two people. Ask yourself about your whether or not your relationship status makes you feel afraid of loving two people? It’s understandable that if you already are in a relationship you may experience feelings of guilt and shame and not know how to go by ending your relationship with someone. Ask yourself who the better fit for you is currently and who you can see a future with and why. To get your thoughts flowing and a stronger awareness it may benefit you to write down why you are attracted to each person and also the pros and cons of being with them. The thing is no matter how hard you try somebody always ends up getting hurt. As difficult as it is be honest and compassionate with yourself and pick anyone in your support group you trust to talk about this. You are also welcome to explore your thoughts and feelings further with any one of our amazing listeners or therapists on our site. Hope you make a decision that feels healthy for you and those in your life that would be affected.

Being in love is supposed to be a positive thing. You can enjoy spending time with someone you care about and start working toward building a future together. What if you care about two people in the same way? Is it possible to be in love with two people? Whether it's possible or not, this has the potential to be disastrous. It will be vital to determine who you truly love out of the two people you're in love with. Though you might love two people, most situations will not allow you to keep two lovers. This is definitely seen as taboo in most mainstream cultures, although some exceptions will be discussed later. Regardless, you need to do the right thing for the other people involved in this love triangle.

Have you heard of polyamorous relationships? Most people aren't comfortable with them, and you might not be, but if you are, it could be a possibility for you. If you're not liking that idea, maybe you could hang out with both of them more and see perhaps if you like one more than the other, or maybe if one of them likes you back while the other might not. It's never a good idea to be in a one-sided relationship, so while you might like them both, you're going to need to see if they like you.

There is nothing wrong with loving more than one person. We should all try to love more. If this is a romantic type of love then you need to way up the pro's and con's with each person. Can you be friends with one if you choose the other? What effect will this have on you? Do both of the people feel the same way as you do. In the end you will have to rely on your gut and go with it. You can be the only one that decides what the next move will be and when you decide what you are going to do it should come from the heart.