I love two different people. What should I do?

Try to imagine yourself in different situations with both people. Could you imagine being in a healthy, loving and long relationship with both of them of just one? Sometimes it may seem like you love two different people but in reality, you just like the idea of being with one of them, not the actual person. It may be because they give you a lot of attention or because your friends/family would like them. Now if you're truly sure that you love both of them and they are both not in a relationship at the moment, I'd consider looking into polyamory and openly talking to the people about it if you feel comfortable doing so. Just be careful that you don't keep one of them simply as a "back-up" if a relationship with the other one should work out as this can hurt both of their feelings. You got this!

I'm not sure- I would make a pro and cons list and decide what makes each one special- whose been there for me when I needed them and who really understood me. I wouldn't base the present on the past- but a little compare and contrast can help. It can really go a long way and more often than not- it's the only thing do. Of course then comes the most dreaded debate between the mind and the heart- when it comes to love, logic usually fails but take your time and decide who you think is more important to you- tell them about your feelings and what happens next may help you.

Talk to both of them about it. Be open and honest. If they are into poly or open relationships, talk with them about that possibility. If they are not into that, still communicate how you feel to them, given the right relationship circumstances to share those feelings. If choosing to reveal to one person, maybe consider some pros and cons on what a relationship with each person would look like. Consider what you need in a relationship, and what might work better in each case, given your needs. Again, try talking with one or both of these individuals--hopefully, direct, open communication could be a growing experience with you and one of these individuals to figure out if a relationship could work well for the two of you.

I believe there is an initial language error that would have to be noted. Love is not the feeling of wanting to relate, but a rational act that recognizes a good. A mother, waking up at dawn to take care of her sick child, doesn't feel any, but she loves it because she knows that taking care of the child is a greater good than her pleasure at that moment. When we say that we love two people, as a companion for example, this must be a good that we look for apart from pleasure or well-being. Therefore, according to my thinking, and it is important that each one thinks with a calm and frank thought about it, which of the two is a good? Am I attached to what they provide me or do I have in one of them that help me develop as a person? I believe these answers help with the question.

This can feel like a very tricky situation and it’s important to recognize how you feel firstly. If you genuinely believe you are torn, it’s best to not consider either as a potential partner. If you commit to one, t your whole relationship will be you imagining what a relationship with the other person would have been like which becomes harmful for all parties. It’s a difficult situation, so if you choose to choose something else I would suggest thinking about both people critically, like the pros and cons in order to make a proper decision based on login and reasoning.

Choose yourself first. Find out who you are, what you want to be, and what you want to happen in your life. By the time you realize what you want, then feel. Feel what is good for you, and feel what is necessary for yourself first. Loving two different people is a situation that may confuse. It is necessary to allow yourself to breathe and have space in moments of confusion. When you are ready to decide, you must realize that tides and times may change and take over, and at some point, choosing one over the other will not conform to comfort, nor to absolute satisfaction. When you love yourself enough, and you are firm of your decision, understand that love is all about sacrifice. To choose what is best, for oneself and for another person involved. You have to ask yourself first, "Can I stand the test of time with this person?" and/or "Will it be worth the sacrifice?"

Personally, this has happened to me. In my situation, I really had to sit down and think about who was better for me. Who could I learn most from? Do I feel more comfortable with this person or that one? It wasn't easy, but I listened to myself and used my intuition. Do what feels right :)

You know the best who of them is better for you. Try to keep in touch with them, go out for a date for example, let the time choose which one is better.

Don't 'do' anything! Just wait!! You'll soon enough see who you really honestly truely love more xxx

I can't tell you which option to make. You have four options. Be loyal to the first person you got into a relationship with. Choose the second person you loved as if the first person was suffice you wouldn't need another. Have an open relationship with the two people or realise that you don't love either one enough. If you did, you wouldn't be in love with two people.

I think you should choose one because I don't think it's possible going on with life with two people plus there is a huge chance you will be hurting one of them, so why? better to spare the pain right?

It's important that you're honest with both people, but also be honest with yourself. Give yourself time to think deeply about all of your feelings. What would you like in life? Would you like a relationship with one of these people, or would you prefer to stay single? Once you understand your own feelings, you can speak to them and work from there.

Don't think that you are one and only. There many people experiencing that dilemma. I know the feeling. But maybe -if you cannot find your way out- you can create a chart and write what you like and dislike about them. I think this is considerable.

hmmm ... have fun! Do not be afraid to want to be loved and appreciated. Sometimes what is good for us - we do not want and that's human nature. Sometimes we do choose the wrong thing because it is not important to be right its important to be happy

I was there... It's really difficult situation, but you need to find a way to understand which one you like more - maybe by spending time with both of them and looking which day you liked more or maybe making a list with plus and minus. I know it's hard but you must choose one, because if you are not choosing you are hurting both of them.

I believe that love should not be defined by a singular person, as I love my family. But I also believe that love should come from the heart, not persuasion.

Choose the one you feel in love with the second twice. If you truly loved the first one then you wouldn't love the other one.

Well perhaps you see character traits in both people that you like, and that's okay, but for yourself, maybe try and take a step back and re-evaluate. Perhaps it isn't about the character traits but the history of one person. Or maybe just leave it, and take some time for yourself up until someone else shows up

You need to think the positive and negatives of both and see what one is more suited for you. Deep down only you know what you want and how you feel so take your time and the right decision will come to you good luck x

As great people have said ' If you really loved the first person so much you wouldnt fall for someone else'

you need to follow your heart you need to see who treats you better and makes you feel amazing everyday .

Choose who you the most happiest with that treats you the best that you see yourself spending years with.

If you have to 'choose' between to people, choose the second one. You wouldn't have fallen in love with someone if you love the first person

Always go for the one you fell for second, because if you really loved the person you fell for first, you would have never fallen for the second

This is a difficult one but i would suggest write a list on the positives and the negatives of both and what they bring to the table for you ie. stability, passion, love, and take it from there.

being aware you have the ability to emotionally hurt someone. Looking at the pros and cons of each individual might be helpful.

Choice the one that loves you and cares for you, or don't chose at all! It's important to know if that person is interested in you

If you have to choose, choose the second one. If the first person you were in love with was true love and meant to be, the second person wouldn't have been an option.

Don't date any of them until you realise who you truly like. Don't make them feel like they're in competition with each other

If you love two different people, choose the one who you love the most. Because the one you love the most is the one you actually love.