How can you tell that you have really moved on?
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When you still remember the past but it does not bring any grief to you. Moving on does not mean you forget the past, it merely means you have accepted the mishap as a part of life's journey, as life's way of teaching something you may not necessarily have known! Take it as a blessing many people are ignorant to. Look back, smile, wave and continue ahead. That shows that you really have moved on.
You can tell by what you think about as a default and your mood becomes more positive. If your mind starts to wonder to other things instead of stressful issues to more comforting ones and you feel much better and happier with yourself as a person then your chances that you have moved on are good!
You don't miss the person or event anymore. You accept the negative aspects of what they were or what happened and feel at ease with yourself.
When their presence or absence doesn't affect you anymore. When you don't want to know what is happening in their life. And when you no longer think about them consciously or subconsciously.
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January 24th, 2018 6:35am
If you are okay with seeing the person who you moved on from in a relationship with someone else, and if you feel comfortable being in a new relationship, I would say that you have moved on.
that you can look back at those old times and aren't sad and just feel like its over and you're okay with that.
Most people know that they moved on when they can look at the person they were once so in love with, and feel nothing. You can always hope they get everything they want in life but will never really want them again. You don't get jealous, or constantly think about what used to be. You're content with not being close to them anymore.
I think when you're at peace with yourself and whatever hurt you, you know that you've moved on. when you're still hold on to the anger or sadness, it's hard to let that go to focus on other, better things!
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 9:37pm
you can tell when you have stopped thinking about them all the time and have felt like you can and want to get someone new in your life such as that :))
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 10:14pm
if you feel you love someone else and dont text call email skype and so on. Its good and healthy if you move on and love someone else
You can tell if you've really moved on when you dont feel alot of personal feelings for that person(ex. You've seen your ex. Boyfriend with his new girl and your ex. boyfriend sees you and says hi introduces his new girl and you smile genuinely congratulating him for finding a new girl) you dony feel any attachment or any jealousy just always think that there is someone out there who is the right one for you someone who will love you for who you truly are.
when you are able to move ahead without any guilt or past hurt or tension then you have really moved on.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 1:53pm
When thinking of the person doesnt hurt you anymore and you treat the past as a valuable memory but something to never go back to..
You can say that you have really moved one when the thought of that hurtful memory doesn't affect you anymore. When you have accepted that it happened and that it changed you but it's part of the past now. You are not that person anymore. You're far better and stronger now.
You can tell you have moved on when you look back to the memories that held you back and grounded you in one place, and they no longer make you feel and think that you are helpless or alone. Instead they are the best parts of your life, because they were the biggest lessons you learned.
You feel good for all of the progress you have made. You look back and see how far you have come.
You can tell that you have really moved on by being able to talk about the topic without feeling upset or overwhelmed. Feeling comfortable talking about your past experiences is a great step in moving forward!
Moving on is subjective. For me, it is a feeling of being able to look back without feeling anxious or upset, but rather with patience and a lighthearted resignation.
When the person In question don't mean nothing anymore or no longer crosses your mind.
If there is peace in my heart and I know that when I see him again, there’s no pang of anger, sadness or frustration.
It is when you stop hating the other person and you are able to forgive that person and yourself, then you truly have moved on. You might not be indifferent about that person but that person is no more your priority.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 12:26am
You will begin to feel more happy about being independant, and you can let go of that problem, person, or situation.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 1:32pm
You are happy around other people and you don’t dwell on the past. You look at past as a lesson and experience.
You can officially tell that you have moved on when you do not get a heart-breaking feeling in your chest anymore. when you absolutely know it's over or done with, you will move along without pain, without overthinking
you don't think about that person as much as you used too. you dont watch their social media or re read your messages , you delete them out of your life completely and you wanna move on and talk to new people
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 7:43am
Once you get to a place where you can think and feel on your own without always drifting off to the image of that person, that is one step closer to knowing.
One day you will just know. When you move on from something it generally takes a while for the thoughts and feelings to lessen and lessen until eventually you realise you have moved on.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2018 5:23am
You can tell you have truly moved on when you are no longer drowned in sorrow over the person or experience that you had gone through.
When moving on is no longer something that crosses your mind. If you're thinking about moving on or trying to decide whether or not you're still stuck, you're still on your journey.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2018 4:50pm
When you look at the good things rather than the bad things happened to you. As if you were treating it as a stepping stone rather than a burden. And sometimes, you don't feel bad as much when you hear his/her name.
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