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How can you tell that you have really moved on?

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Anonymous
February 5th, 2020 9:38am
You can tell you really moved on something or someone when you do that on the three stages. Phisically, emotionality, and mentally. So that means you are no more in phisically contact with that situation, you have zero emotions about that. You are neutral about that, you don't care about the situation or that person and further that doesn't make impact on you and your well being. And last you don't think about that, you have mentally decided that is no more services you in anything. That is were you really moved on something. That is only my opinion based on my experience, because i have tried to move on on someone and i wpuld move on for exemple phisically but there would be still emotions in me and sometimes i would still think about that person which for me means i am just laying to mayself i have moved on but i haven't, that is why it is sometimes still hard. Truly moving on is when you master it on this three levels and than you will feel relief. I hope this is helpful. Love and light.
shalini7
September 21st, 2016 2:47am
Moving on is not something that will happen instantaneously. It might take months or even years in some cases to finally forget that person. Its when you wake up and his face will not be the first thought that pops into your head. It's when you realise that memories just slip out from your brain, bit by bit, until you are only left with a vague feeling of remembrance of something that mattered a lot earlier but no longer does. You will be happy from within, independent of everyone...
caitscat
January 18th, 2016 5:40pm
I sit upright, and close my eyes. I lay my hands palms down on my thighs and take deeps breaths. Counting the seconds it takes to complete a full insulation and exhalation. I focus my mind completely on my breathing so that I can drown out all other noises and distractions.
smileforawhile
December 7th, 2014 3:55am
I think it depends on the person. When you're no longer concerned about what the other person is doing or when you're not constantly thinking about them are signs that you're moving on. When the thought of not being with the person isn't as painful is also showing that you're moving on. When you have truly moved on, you accepted or are okay with that happened and it no longer consumes your entire life.
abcdELLEmnop
April 9th, 2015 5:35am
You can tell that you have really moved on when you don't think about your ex and you accept your past.
imperfectlyperfect17
May 11th, 2018 6:39pm
When you think of them and you feel nothing for them. When you no longer feel attached to them in any way.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 9:47am
when you start to feel that you finally don't need them in your life in order to be happy in your life
SunnyQ
September 24th, 2016 1:16am
You are really moved on when you can preventif yourself of being involved in things which related to your past.
Arlee
September 24th, 2016 4:22am
When you're happy, when you're no longer sad about the past and you realize your better & happier without them.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2020 3:02am
It depends on the situation. If you have lost a person due to them passing away. I know I have moved on when I already accepted what is my new normal and my new reality and realize that said person would never want me to feel sadness and grief to such an extended period of time but that does not mean I would forget them in any sort of way. When it comes to losing someone because of a break up, I've known I have moved on when I have accepted that everything is just a memory now and it's something I can learn from and remember once in a while and feel like I once again can feel that I loved my self more.
healwithlove
September 24th, 2016 10:30am
When it stop hurting you to talk about the issue, to even be able to help others with the same issue.
brianna67
October 9th, 2019 10:39pm
For me, I felt moved on when a metaphorical dark, gray cloud moved from over my head. It took a lot of time, but one day, I just felt free. I was not being held back with hurt, sadness, or desire to be with my ex. I felt I had a clearer head to reflect back on our relationship and what went wrong. I wasn't reminded of my ex 100 times a day by random things. It also felt a lot less scary to start dating other people and I was excited about the possibility of a new connection!
thechrysanthemum
July 28th, 2018 12:33am
When dwelling on the issue isn't worth your time anymore and you can live your life with out the issue interfering with your emotional state of being.
BubbleOfSupport
November 11th, 2018 5:04pm
Once you finally focus on yourself. You know you moved on, when you're able to look in the mirror and smile. You know you moved on when you stop hearing all the voices in your head saying you're not good enough. You moved on when you're finally happy and when you can finally stand the thought of being yourself. It can be really tough to move on from anyrhing. It really can. And it's normal. You know why? Because you're human. But once you finally do, your life become the most beautiful and comfortable place to be and you don't want to be anywhere else. You're beautiful. Stay yourself.
puppydogjoy
December 13th, 2020 5:18am
There are many ways that you can tell if you have really moved on. It is so hard to reach the end of a relationship with someone. There are many emotions going on. A major sign that you have really moved on is when you don't really experience emotions when you think about the situation/person. Those raw, fresh emotions may just turn into a dull feeling. Another sign is if you don't think about the person constantly like you used to. You can go long periods of time without them entering your mind. People can have a huge impact on our lives, especially when they hurt us, but the best thing to do is to move on.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2016 1:16pm
I honestly don't think we really move on. We just get better with time. When you find yourself not worrying about whatever it was a such or thinking bout that person and or just have happy memories and don't feel as sad or worried.
keera4299
November 9th, 2016 6:52am
When you are able to forgive someone who has wronged you, even if they haven't apologized, that is when you have truly moved on. When something happens, good or bad, and they aren't the first person you want to run to, that's when you know you have moved on.
slumaa
May 19th, 2018 9:11pm
When you wake up and it isn't the first thing you think of. If that isn't any consultation then i don't know what is
meiixae
May 20th, 2018 12:34am
You may never be able to tell. It can be hard to have to leave a relationship behind. But, there are plenty of people out there. Maybe you should try finding someone else. After all, you deserve to be happy.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2019 11:42pm
You can tell that you have really moved on if you don't think of that person anymore, you are happy with where you're at in life, and you are getting out in the world, seeking new adventures and people!
considerateMoon96
December 25th, 2016 10:24pm
When you look back at the incident/person and have a warm brush of positive feelings of self-learning, self-value and reflection, rather than anger or sadness - then its an indication that you have moved on from the painful situation and have gained perspective to be able to look at it positively. Similarly, when triggered about that incident, you do not feel trapped or in control of it - and you can rather step away from it to other thoughts or activities, is another sign of moving on.
HeartofaPhoenix
December 30th, 2016 7:27am
For me, I knew I had moved on when I could look back and see the good as well as the bad in the situation.
Duckies76
April 8th, 2018 6:03pm
When you can think about a person positively, without wanting them back into your life. When you think about them as a fond and loving memory.
gmgxxx
February 1st, 2017 2:29am
Feeling happier in yourself, believing in yourself and feeling like you can move on with your life and do things you didn't think of doing before. Just feeling generally happy in yourself and about yourself and for what's to come
friendshipkeeper
December 28th, 2019 7:54pm
you will know if you have really moved on when you can be happy with all those crazy moments and ridiculous things you did together. you have moved on if you can be genuinely happy for his or her new relationship and don't feel the slightest pinch on your heart. you have moved on when you are able to do a lot of things without thinking of how it would have been if you're still together. you have moved on if you know deep in your heart you still love him or her yet you choose to set him or her free.
bubblingFireworks9539
October 26th, 2019 9:14am
When you can think about it and your heart doesn't hurt and you stomach doesn't sink. When the thought of being with someone new doesn't make you feel guilty or dirty. When you can imagine your future, and feel positive about it, without including them in it. When you can think about making plans for your weekend and you don't wish you could invite them. When you think about falling asleep at night, alone, and it doesn't feel scary or lonely. When you can sit in a place they would've sat with you, and do something you would do together, and feel peaceful.
xKatie
October 30th, 2019 11:44pm
In my experience, i can tell if i have really moved on when: I'm able to think about something without letting the memories of that specific thing bother me. This can only be achieved if you have made peace with the past, hence i think this is the best description of how you could tell you have really moved on. Everyone goes about their business differently, so to this question will not be one definitive answer, that's why i base this answer off of my own experience. Moving on isn't the easiest thing to do, especially if you have a lot of history with said thing or person. Talking about it helps you move on.
strongLioness
November 16th, 2019 1:52am
I feel that you can tell that you have really moved on when you realize that there were gifts in the situation that took place in your past and it has made you a better person. Sure, we all have regrets and there are situations that we wish we could go back in time in and change, but I believe that everything in life ebbs and flows and we must learn to embrace who we are and how far we have come. If it's a person that we were trying to move on from, it's when you wish the best for them and understand that what happened was for the best.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2020 5:34pm
I think it's when your emotions are no longer affected by that person and you can talk about him/her normally. You don't feel like texting that person anymore and stopped feeling sad about him/her anymore. You stopped thinking about the past memories that you had with each other and began to realize that he/she might not be as perfect as you thought, and perhaps you could actually reflect on your relationship and learn something from it. I think it is not that you completely forget about that person, but still remember the moments that you have with each other and knowing that he/she has been in part of your life and made you happy.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2020 7:58pm
Moving on isn't forgetting someone. It's forgiving them. It's forgiving yourself. When you don't hate or love them anymore. When you don't imagine conversations in your head about bumping in to them or trying to contact them or asking about them via friends or Facebook. Being moved on is a subconscious feeling of calm. One might doubt being moved on or feel guilty about it. But once completely moved on, you won't doubt or be guilty, but get peace from your own thoughts about them and situations involving them. You can still remember the good or bad times with them but after moving on you'll not try to get back with them or think how you could have been together.