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How can I tell my boyfriend how I feel about him?

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JenniferCh1991
March 8th, 2018 1:20pm
In every relationship you need to break down your walls (fears) to become emotionally connected. Once you open up you will realize how simple your relationship really is and how easy is it to discuss your feelings. Try open up with a compliment first.
sunnyalexander
August 3rd, 2019 4:28am
Honesty is key! You should be honest with him and communicate every feeling you have towards him and the relationship in general. Relationships can often turn toxic with a lack of communication and honesty. If you're struggling with how to start maybe sit him down when both of you are calm and are not in bad moods and just tell him how you feel and ask for support from him. If he does not give you that support then he was never meant for you! If it gets toxic, no matter how in love you are with him you always should take care of yourself first.
ItsAnastasia
July 28th, 2019 7:15pm
You can tell your significant other how you feel in many ways, depending on your personal preference! You can write him a note, a letter, a song. You can message them, email them, video or voice call them, do it face to face. Do what you feel is right. What might seem right to you may not seem right to others and vice versa so do what you think is right and tell them how you feel. You'll need to have confidence but if you plan it out beforehand what you want to say, then that will definitely help you in the long run. Hope this helped!
maddisonblogs0
June 22nd, 2019 11:45pm
You have to say it what you feel, is not difficult, if you love him, say it, if you dont, say it too, dont be scared okay? nowbody are perfect, and you arent too. Youre boyfriend have to know what you feel, you understand? if you have a relation ship, it have to be true and safe. Dont be scared of anything, you are strong and you have to say what you feel always. Just, talk to him, and say him what you feel honestly, it is not difficult, be honest always, and all will be okay with him
ShayLovesYou06
April 18th, 2019 5:38pm
Close your eyes for sometimes. You'll see him, you'll see the man of your dreams in front of you. You'll feel butterflies in your stomach, you'll feel your heart racing. You know you have a lot to say to him, you love him so much. It isn't hard to put feelings to those words of your heart.
Allieson
March 9th, 2019 12:10am
Start with taking them somewhere that you both feel comfortable. It could be your apartment or his apartment or a neutral place like a park. Now it depends on what you're going to say if it's something like you don't want to be with them anymore then you have to be very honest and sincere but also listen to their concerns when they talk. If you want to tell them that you love them then you want to do so in a way that doesn't come off as obsessive or like you don't mean it you want to be sincere. If you want to keep seeing them just simply tell them you're having a great time and would like to see where this goes and that is probably the best answer of all.
truetoself
March 1st, 2019 3:24pm
Expressing your emotions is a very complex thing and takes a lot of strength. It is very important for a person to express their emotions in a way that they really understand and it is very important for your well being as well as the strength of your relationship and hiding emotions can cause great harm sooner or later and then it gets really messy when things get build up between and there is a lot of tension or baggage, just take deep breath and be calm, honest and be subtle and don't be afraid to show you actually feel. You should just be yourself.
confidentKoala73
February 8th, 2018 1:01am
Be open and honest don’t hide anything. Start out by having a normal conversation than slowly go into how you feel.
littlegenius
February 3rd, 2019 5:39pm
Being true to yourself is always the best way to make yourself happy. So please open up your true feelings to your boyfriend. One tip to make this work better. Please choose a time when he has a good mood with less anxiety. So that he can be a good listener and things will be worked out. Sometime, when he avoid to listen to you and it may not mean that his feelings on you is decreasing time by time. But he may be very tired from a long day. He must have his own stress (work, family matter and etc). That's why choosing the best timing and situation to open up your feeling to him plays vital role.
HamRadio4Life
December 6th, 2018 9:49pm
Think of what comes to mind when you think of him. Ask yourself what it was that attracted you to him in the first place. Think about the small things he does that make you smile or hurt your feelings. By doing that, you have a the beginning of a solid foundation on starting the conversation and being able to hold his attention while you say what you feel is needed to be said and how it needs to be said. Also, ask yourself why you need to tell your boyfriend how you feel. Is there something wrong? If it's just to express love, then you'll be good to go!
ryanjsmith
November 21st, 2018 8:25pm
That heavily depends upon what you are telling him, if positive this should be fairly easy, simply telling him how you feel straight up is plenty and he will love you for it. On the other hand, if it's more of a discussion about a problem in the relationship or the fact you simply want to split up, it becomes a much more sensitive subject and much more difficult to work with. If you need to tell him something serious, personally I would recommend you to do it in person as this will usually help him come to terms with things and make him feel better about it in general. Just ensure you aren't going to hurt him any more than is needed.
amazingRainbow20
November 21st, 2018 3:42am
I know it takes a lot of courage sometimes to say things that are on your heart, but once you do it’s like a weight is lifted off your shoulder, and you no longer have to hide or fake how you truly feel. In my opinion that’s the best part of being in a relationship, having someone you can go to whenever you need to talk, and someone who accepts you. Even if it’s something they won’t like, you should talk to them about it, because you could just be second-guessing yourself. Just breathe, and tell him how you really feel.
sereneFireworks45
November 7th, 2018 11:53pm
Just be honest. Opening yourself up to being vulnerable invites him into that space where you can both be honest. Are there things you're worried about? How he might react for example? Often these fears are not realised when you actually get to talk. Being vulnerable is scary, but unless you express yourself, you won't know what he is thinking either! He might be sitting there wondering how to open up to you as well! I hope it goes well, but even if it doesn't you won't be left wondering about what might have happened or how he might feel.
frostymango546
September 5th, 2018 10:50am
You can tell her how much you love him and make him feel that he is special for you. You can make him believe that he is perfect for you with his imperfections and you love him the way he is. You can tell him that your world is incomplete without him. Happiness and success has no meaning without his support. And you want to love him throughout your life and want him to love you for this life. Your love is beyond these worldy things because you see stars in his eyes and want him to see galaxies in her eyes too
goldenApple91
August 15th, 2018 3:32am
Good feelings should be easy to share unless he doesn’t want a relationship. Bad feelings are more difficult and you want to be careful not to say negatives things that you’ll regret. Sometimes letting those slide and turning your attention to something positive is best.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 5:36am
Honest conversation is the key to a good relationship. You could first not down or practice your points in from of mirror and then sit in a comfortable environment and talk in a friendly manner about your concern.
Eveninglivvie
August 2nd, 2018 10:51am
There are several ways you could try to tell him in a letter or over a candle lit dinner. The possibilities are endless
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 8:15am
First, offer a private and direct conversation, make sure face to face conversation because if you see their face, you can know they are listening or not. Second, talk in a gentle way. Tell them how you feel (happy, sad, pleasant or unpleasant... etc.) Then ask him how does he feel after you tell him about this
ParisHereToHelp
July 30th, 2018 4:34pm
Firstly identify the words to express how you feel about him, take time to think about the thoughts and emotions you have for him. Once you have gathered your ideas, ease into the conversation with related topics, such as how you have been feeling lately and how the relationship has been going in your eyes. Once you feel comfortable enough in the conversation, slowly start to let out all of your feelings and express to him your emotions.
RumpleSteeleSkin
July 21st, 2018 9:36pm
You can make a special dinner, and after you both eat have a light hearted chat outside or in an area where it's quiet and no distractions. Maybe you can buy or make a card and share your thoughts that way. Hope these ideas can help you.
LovingPhantom
July 15th, 2018 4:00am
Although it is difficult to be so vulnerable about your emotions, it can come out with good things. The first thing to acknowledge is that he may not feel exactly like you do. For example, you might tell him you love him and he might not be ready to do that. It's nothing personal against you, it's just people come to terms and gain those emotions at different times. And if you tell him how you feel, expect awkwardness. It's okay if it's odd. But it's open, it's vulnerable. You may feel dissuaded from their response, but it's recommended you ignore the possibility of a not so positive response and focus on the strength within you to be vulnerable. It is EXTREMELY hard to be vulnerable with another person, so good on you to do that. And how to do so? Just tell them. Call, text, do it in person, whatever is comfortable for you. But doing it in person would delivery the message more genuinely.
Eleuthromaniac
July 13th, 2018 3:26am
Open and honest communication is KEY to a healthy and sustainable relationship, at whatever age it is. If you find yourself stuck like this you should definitely try and sit him down, one-on-one and ask him to simply listen to you without speaking in, or you can even write a hand-made letter and hand it to him when he isn’t home, like in his mailbox or door step. Sometimes talking to your significant other about your feelings can be challenging but the rewards of it after it is said can be the best.
Realinx
April 20th, 2018 9:55pm
How can you tell your boyfriend how you feel about him? First off all you need to find out what is is that you are feeling. Are you in love, are you falling out off love or do you have an issue with something he does? A relationship is all about trust. Opening up to each other. Exposing your emotions and feeling to your partner. So that's what you should do in this situation as well.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2018 11:56am
Make him sit down, keep your cell phones and other devices aside, and talk. Talk about how you feel about him and your relationship, what makes you happy, what annoys you, you are grateful, you are sad, tell him. Ask him about his feelings, listen to him, understand him try to bring positive changes in you. Grow together. Communication is the key.
Bigheart4all
May 5th, 2018 10:30pm
Just tell him how you feel. Being open and honest with each other is key for communication. Maybe have a sit down and talk to each other as much as you can.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 4:18am
It’s actually pretty easy. Just be completely honest with him and tell him everything on your mind. Sometimes this is done easier over text.
zangetsu16
April 25th, 2018 5:02pm
go and tell him on his face,i know u may be shy but thats the best thing u can do,maybe buy a gift too,and most importantly have confidence
Anonymous
April 25th, 2018 4:22am
If he's an honest rational person who is willing to respect what you're saying, then he will listen willingly to whatever you will have to say. If that is not the case, then the more you need to say how you feel about him. The best thing I can say is to be completely honest about it. No sugarcoating.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 11:50am
Sometimes it can be hard to express your feelings, especially if they’re strong. Usually the best thing to do it sit down, with no distractions, and tell him exactly how you are feeling
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:36pm
Sit down with him, and have a meaningful conversation. Don't hold back your feelings. Tell him, or else you might regret it.