How can I tell my boyfriend how I feel about him?
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Firstly identify the words to express how you feel about him, take time to think about the thoughts and emotions you have for him. Once you have gathered your ideas, ease into the conversation with related topics, such as how you have been feeling lately and how the relationship has been going in your eyes. Once you feel comfortable enough in the conversation, slowly start to let out all of your feelings and express to him your emotions.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 8:15am
First, offer a private and direct conversation, make sure face to face conversation because if you see their face, you can know they are listening or not.
Second, talk in a gentle way. Tell them how you feel (happy, sad, pleasant or unpleasant... etc.)
Then ask him how does he feel after you tell him about this
There are several ways you could try to tell him in a letter or over a candle lit dinner. The possibilities are endless
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 5:36am
Honest conversation is the key to a good relationship. You could first not down or practice your points in from of mirror and then sit in a comfortable environment and talk in a friendly manner about your concern.
Good feelings should be easy to share unless he doesn’t want a relationship. Bad feelings are more difficult and you want to be careful not to say negatives things that you’ll regret. Sometimes letting those slide and turning your attention to something positive is best.
You can tell her how much you love him and make him feel that he is special for you. You can make him believe that he is perfect for you with his imperfections and you love him the way he is. You can tell him that your world is incomplete without him. Happiness and success has no meaning without his support. And you want to love him throughout your life and want him to love you for this life. Your love is beyond these worldy things because you see stars in his eyes and want him to see galaxies in her eyes too
Just be honest. Opening yourself up to being vulnerable invites him into that space where you can both be honest. Are there things you're worried about? How he might react for example? Often these fears are not realised when you actually get to talk. Being vulnerable is scary, but unless you express yourself, you won't know what he is thinking either! He might be sitting there wondering how to open up to you as well! I hope it goes well, but even if it doesn't you won't be left wondering about what might have happened or how he might feel.
I know it takes a lot of courage sometimes to say things that are on your heart, but once you do it’s like a weight is lifted off your shoulder, and you no longer have to hide or fake how you truly feel. In my opinion that’s the best part of being in a relationship, having someone you can go to whenever you need to talk, and someone who accepts you. Even if it’s something they won’t like, you should talk to them about it, because you could just be second-guessing yourself. Just breathe, and tell him how you really feel.
That heavily depends upon what you are telling him, if positive this should be fairly easy, simply telling him how you feel straight up is plenty and he will love you for it. On the other hand, if it's more of a discussion about a problem in the relationship or the fact you simply want to split up, it becomes a much more sensitive subject and much more difficult to work with. If you need to tell him something serious, personally I would recommend you to do it in person as this will usually help him come to terms with things and make him feel better about it in general. Just ensure you aren't going to hurt him any more than is needed.
Think of what comes to mind when you think of him. Ask yourself what it was that attracted you to him in the first place. Think about the small things he does that make you smile or hurt your feelings. By doing that, you have a the beginning of a solid foundation on starting the conversation and being able to hold his attention while you say what you feel is needed to be said and how it needs to be said. Also, ask yourself why you need to tell your boyfriend how you feel. Is there something wrong? If it's just to express love, then you'll be good to go!
Being true to yourself is always the best way to make yourself happy. So please open up your true feelings to your boyfriend. One tip to make this work better. Please choose a time when he has a good mood with less anxiety. So that he can be a good listener and things will be worked out.
Sometime, when he avoid to listen to you and it may not mean that his feelings on you is decreasing time by time. But he may be very tired from a long day. He must have his own stress (work, family matter and etc).
That's why choosing the best timing and situation to open up your feeling to him plays vital role.
Expressing your emotions is a very complex thing and takes a lot of strength. It is very important for a person to express their emotions in a way that they really understand and it is very important for your well being as well as the strength of your relationship and hiding emotions can cause great harm sooner or later and then it gets really messy when things get build up between and there is a lot of tension or baggage, just take deep breath and be calm, honest and be subtle and don't be afraid to show you actually feel. You should just be yourself.
Start with taking them somewhere that you both feel comfortable. It could be your apartment or his apartment or a neutral place like a park. Now it depends on what you're going to say if it's something like you don't want to be with them anymore then you have to be very honest and sincere but also listen to their concerns when they talk. If you want to tell them that you love them then you want to do so in a way that doesn't come off as obsessive or like you don't mean it you want to be sincere. If you want to keep seeing them just simply tell them you're having a great time and would like to see where this goes and that is probably the best answer of all.
Close your eyes for sometimes. You'll see him, you'll see the man of your dreams in front of you. You'll feel butterflies in your stomach, you'll feel your heart racing. You know you have a lot to say to him, you love him so much. It isn't hard to put feelings to those words of your heart.
You have to say it what you feel, is not difficult, if you love him, say it, if you dont, say it too, dont be scared okay? nowbody are perfect, and you arent too. Youre boyfriend have to know what you feel, you understand? if you have a relation ship, it have to be true and safe. Dont be scared of anything, you are strong and you have to say what you feel always. Just, talk to him, and say him what you feel honestly, it is not difficult, be honest always, and all will be okay with him
You can tell your significant other how you feel in many ways, depending on your personal preference! You can write him a note, a letter, a song. You can message them, email them, video or voice call them, do it face to face. Do what you feel is right. What might seem right to you may not seem right to others and vice versa so do what you think is right and tell them how you feel. You'll need to have confidence but if you plan it out beforehand what you want to say, then that will definitely help you in the long run. Hope this helped!
Honesty is key! You should be honest with him and communicate every feeling you have towards him and the relationship in general. Relationships can often turn toxic with a lack of communication and honesty. If you're struggling with how to start maybe sit him down when both of you are calm and are not in bad moods and just tell him how you feel and ask for support from him. If he does not give you that support then he was never meant for you! If it gets toxic, no matter how in love you are with him you always should take care of yourself first.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2019 4:35am
Sharing feelings with other people might pose challenges for you, and you’re not alone on that. I know the feeling of anxiety and nervousness will creep in, but don’t let them stand in your way. You’ll realize that by sharing those feelings with the person, you’ll get more closure and come to an understanding for both sides. Considering this is your boyfriend, I assume that you guys have an ongoing connection, and I’m positive he’d like to hear what you have to say. You are the expert here in your situation, if your heart truly feels it’s right, then take the courage to make that move!
I usually will give a gift to show I care & appreciate him. I also like to have one on one time with him to tell him my feelings & how much I care about him. Never over text, always in person. If I ever have a problem, I'll usually wait until a day he doesn't have anything else going on, good or bad. Then I can have a sit down talk with him. Always calm, never angry or harsh tone. I want to show him respect, just as much as I want him to respect me. Remind them often how much you care about them so they don't feel threatened.
Conservations are best way to start..
You can have a conversation with your boyfriend..and try to communicate your feeling.
I understand..honest conservation are really hard..but they are glide paths that can help you.
Start with things both of you are comfortable talking about..and then start discussing your feeling for each other...and in this way..it will beacame really easy for both of you.
Conservative ka dual ended..when you tell your feelings to others..it is important to listen to theres too..
A dual understanding is always better..and will help you to reach a better conclusion.
Honesty..openess..patience..and will..without fear of what will be the result..will certainly help.
All the best..you will do great.
Well it all depends on the context. He already IS your boyfriend, so my guess is that you two mutually agreed you love eachother. But if you're wondering on how to open up and have a honest conversation about how you ''currently'' feel about him it's another question. The answer is actually quite simple. You could start by setting the mood in such a way that you two end up with some alone time. Then openheartedly tell him you want something off your shoulders or that you want to talk about a certain subject. If your boyfriend truly cares about you he will listen and comfort you.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2021 2:43pm
Trust and honesty is vital for any relationship. It is important to stay true to who you are and not change yourself just in the fear that someone may leave you. If something is bothering you and you tell him, one of two things may happen. If he understands where you're coming from and chooses to make amends for you then perfect. If not, then he simply does not want you enough, and you don't deserve to be any guy's second choice. The fear of your boyfriend leaving is understandable, nobody's denying that. However I feel you should be your first priority and if he doesn't respect that then he doesn't deserve you.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2021 4:48pm
I cannot give you advice, but I can tell you to listen to your heart and what you think is best. Don’t be scared to tell him the truth. If you need to talk after this, I am always there for you. The more important thing to remember is that if he has a bad reaction to your feelings, he’s not good for you. I hope that you can use this to help you. Just don’t overthink everything because it will just make it harder. Coming from someone who has trouble sharing her feelings with others. Trust me on this.
Great question! I assume since you are asking this question you are having some type of difficulty expressing your true feelings to your boyfriend. Begin by asking yourself why this is. Do you feel he will reject or not reciprocate your feelings? If yes then I believe the nature of your relationship is wrong. A boyfriend is someone who IS meant to be there for you. He should be a listening ear and, while you both may not share all of the same viewpoints, you should feel open to talking through things with him. Perhaps you are worried about how you might feel if he does not reciprocate your viewpoints. Try to realize that, while the pain this causes is natural, perhaps it is better (to be let down and have closure) than the constant pain and confusion of not being able to talk things through. Your current confusion causes pain and clarity, (even harsh clarity) will cause relief. It is important to have confidence in yourself to the point where you realize that a) you want a relationship where you can express your feelings to your boyfriend b) you can (and do) express your feelings to your boyfriend and c) even if he doesn't reciprocate your viewpoints than you are going to be okay. Defining your goals in such a way might end a relationship that would have caused you a lot of pain and confusion over the years, and help you orient yourself to a better relationship. In other words, overcome a little bit of initial pain in order to get the reward and avoid long-term pain. Not to mention the fact that this is the worst-case scenario! There is a GOOD chance the boyfriend you're with right now is a good one and will appreciate your openness. Do it and realize you're doing yourself a favor!
Anonymous
March 31st, 2021 5:25pm
It can sometimes be difficult to put our feelings for someone into words, however, it can be done with reflection, kindness, and presence. Start by reflecting on what it is you want to say, and how you can say it in the kindest, most honest way, while still giving the other person the chance to be seen and heard. Once you have an idea of how you will express your feelings, consider finding a time you know both of you will not be distracted or interrupted, perhaps in a safe, quiet place that isn't busy. Finding the right setting is a good way to make sure you can both be fully present in the moment together. Phones or other distracting devices should be silenced or left behind, so both of you can focus on the conversation with each other. Lastly, after telling them how you feel, you want to check in with them to see how they are feeling about it, and whether they understood you in what you were trying to express. This is to ensure you are both on the same page about what you just discussed. Hopefully, these steps will help you tell your boyfriend how you feel about him.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2021 4:14am
I recommend saying some examples of how he made you feel a certain way and why it made you feel that way. Explaining will help get the point across and help you better understand the feelings you are trying to convey. Afterwards i think trying to figure out an overall feeling that you want to convey to him will come out naturally. If you have trouble stating your feelings you can ask for his help. for instance ask if he can have a conversation with you about each others feelings so that you don't feel alone about conveying your feelings. on the other hand if you want to tell your feelings and he is not listening you need to set out some time to fully converse and lay everything out and you need to convey that you want to share with him your feelings and it would be great if he can listen.
Hello there! I'm Peachy, a certified listener on 7 Cups. I am not inclined to give out advice, but the best way is to be direct and honest with him. It is best to not be afraid of what he has to say, because your emotions and feelings are valid too. Even if he rejects or blocks out your emotions, that would be considered a toxic relationship, so it would be good for you to learn how to get away from him if so. With that in mind, your boyfriend should value your emotions as much as you value his. Have a lovely day!
Anonymous
January 7th, 2021 6:01pm
Using language that is not blaming ("I" and NOT "you") and naming emotions can be helpful in expressing your feelings. You should make sure you feel safe and are not in danger. If you are in danger, please ask for help from your providers or the proper authorities.
It is good for you to be honest and not hide how you feel, so that there is not an explosion of emotions or words said out of passion/emotion that cause irreparable damage.
You can also write down what you want to say so that you are prepared and do not forget the points you want to make.
Be genuine a about it. These are the reasons:You’re not leading him on, he doesn’t think you’re lying, and you won’t have such a burden weighing on you. Communication is key. Try not to communicate with him indirectly such as text or direct messaging through social media. Indirect communication can lead to a huge misunderstanding. Before you talk to him, gather your thoughts and convey to him what you want. Also, try to go directly to your boyfriend in private. That way, he won’t feel embarrassed. When you tell him, make sure to let him know during the day instead of at night. That way, he won’t go to bed mad (if what you have to tell him is bad).
If you feel special about him let your actions do the work for you he will see that you really care about him and he will show the love and respect to you I believe that everything will be better with both you just do your best always be loyal and faithful and love with no boundaries. When I feel what I feel about him make sure he really love your way of seeing things it's a important thing because if your mind is same is easier to understand but if different then you just have to work hard and I believe that you can do it.
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