How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

I had the same experience as you do. What I do is talk to my friend every time I think about him. Also, it's good to write a journal entry. I write a journal entry as if I am talking to him. I tell him everything I feel, the sadness, the disappointment and the fear I feel being alone. It's ok to feel sad, you'll eventually come to the point where you accept and meet someone who'll keep you busy and make you happy again. As for now, give yourself sometimes to be lonely. thinking about the person we once shared our life is just normal, but do something productive and try to keep yourself busy. Go out with friends or take a trip by yourself. That's what I do.

I know what that feels like. It's literally heart-wrenching. You start getting all profound and finally realize that, wow, this is what all the depressed poets were talking about. The first thing to do is ACCEPT. Accept that you're not over them. It's okay to still have lingering feelings for someone after a relationship is over. It's nothing to be embarrassed by. We're human beings, and human beings feel deeply. The second step would be to START somewhere. Start trying to get over them. Distract yourself. Watch a good film, or a sitcom (sitcoms are great for distracting yourself from your broken heart lol). read, write, paint, sketch, go for a walk, try a new recipe, redecorate your room, hit up an old friend - just anything to get your mind off them. Bottom line is, be kind to yourself. Give yourself time, accept that getting over a relationship is a long process. But that's okay. That's the beauty of being a human. We feel so deeply. Almost every great artist persona was plagued by a broken heart lol. Go watch the moon or something, lament about your broken heart. Exploit your hurt, and use it to motivate yourself. alright, i'm aware i'm starting to sound psychotic now so i'll go! but the rest of what i said comes from the bottom of my heart! hope you get over them soon

Sometimes it takes a while to be able to get over or even stop loving or thinking about some person. It all depends on the person but some start focusing on themselves more, some find a person to help them get over the other with. Some people start to Exercise to get their mind off of someone they love. Some find a new hobby maybe like crocheting or journaling. You’re heart might hurt so much because you really loved that person and weren’t ready to let them go yet. It can be very hard and hurt so much more than we imagined. Also sometimes letting go is better than holding onto them still.

Your heart can hurt so much because you do not accept what just happened with the relationship between you two. You still are processing the fact that you guys are not together. You have to find something that interests you to get busy and occupy your mind in order to decrease the moments that you spend thinking about him/her.

In my experience, focusing on hobbies that are of interest to me have allowed a distraction long enough to help relieve overwhelming thoughts of a past relationship or friendship. I would also surround myself with as much friends and family as possible whom are close to me, to ease my mind and allow it to focus on other things. We hurt because we invest ourselves emotionally and mentally into another person that we cared for, but we must understand an essential element of life is time; time heals pain. When we allow time to take its course, one hour, day, week, month, or year can change so much.

Your heart may hurt when you have just left someone or recently started liking someone. I am not clearly sure about how you can actually forget someone you like or dated in the past but I was always told that speaking out helped a lot of people instead of bottling up your emotions and living with that pain forever. Even if thy deny liking or liked you some of your stress may be released for telling them the truth but just because you feel that you like someone out of your league it doesn't always mean they dislike you back, infact they may want to be your friend and you may just not know thy do because they could also feel you dislike or don't want to be around them all causing them a bit of stress which can soon leave them at thinking you hate them and not the other way around.

Start journaling. Pour out your emotions about him/her on paper. It will make you feel better after. There are things that are hard to say to your friends. Therefore, journaling helps to get those emotions out when you feel like you don't have a place to come to for comfort. Your heart hurts because you are going through a grieving process. Allowing yourself to feel all the hurt is healthy for you. Suppressing feelings only get worst from time to time. Practice self-love. When you think about that person. Try to do something that would makes yourself feel happy.

ive been there before. its completely okay to let out how you feel, you can always vent about it to someone. if you have noone, have a diary about it. what i did before when i had the same situation is, i had a new interest. by having a new interest, i got myself too distracted to it and not think about them much. i get myself motivated to not think about them. everytime they cross my mind, i try to ignore it and distract myself. im not sure why your heart hurts so much from it, maybe looking at them hurts you. well for me, it hurts me that i cant help them well, but now its okay since it was a year ago. im sure everything will be okay sooner or later. i hope everything goes well for you!

Try to find new hobbies that you will enjoy and take your mind off him/her. Spend more time with the people around you. Travel more.

The reason why you can't stop thinking of him/her is because you're so used to havinv them around and the fact that they're presence is no longer there affects you. It's hard for our brains to let go off something that we're used to so it keeps going back to old situations. The reason why it hurts so much is because you put so much time and efforts in another person. You invested in them whether it be emotionally, phsyically or financially and now you've lost all of it. It hurts you because you loved something so dearly with all your heart and now it's gone forever!

It's not easy and it's not that difficult either. But try to control your own mind, tell your mind that you don't know him and start your day by saying I'm so happy today. The moment you say such things you create a positive environment, even if you ain't happy but still after you say that you are happy continuously your mind will definitely except and then you will actually start and your heart won't hurt you😊

I have dealt with this same problem. It is hard to get your mind off of someone, but my recommendations are that you should try to distract yourself from that person. If it is a person you used to love, you can find a fictional character you really like and distract yourself with that character. It takes time to get over a person, but distraction helps a lot.

Start putting yourself first! keep busy and positive, don't be around negative people, take each day as it comes, don't rush into anything

Give you some time to accept your separation... It hurt because you need time to accept this ending, for a new beginning

Breakups hurt very bad. Everyone goes through one. I know it can be very hard to "get over" the person. Taking time and doing hobbies, or your favorite things for yourself helps.

Heartbreak can be emotionally painful and most of the time it feels like you'll never get over them. Time is the best thing to fix a broken heart. In the mean time try distracting yourself with stuff that makes you happy. Reread your favourite book or have a movie marathon. Soon you will forget about them.

it is perfectly normal to feel like this. i myself are going through a similar situation. i find surrounding myself with friends and family. there is no length of time in which things like this can go away. take things at your own pace, make sure you talk to people, an just remeber there is someone out there for you.

Focus on yourself. Have you ever wanted to try a new hobby or just something new in general? I've found by getting yourself into something new helps your mind stop from being stuck on that one person. Now I'm not saying it's a magic cure but it certainly helps.

Heartbreak is one of the hardest things you can go through. Missing someone is very natural, especially if it is someone close who we were intimate with, and stopping those thoughts completely may not be possible. Practising self-compassion can help to ease some of the heartache. Or finding other loved ones to spend time with. Don’t forget to continue taking care of yourself by eating well, exercising and sleeping at regular times. You might not feel like doing these things, but do try. It will help you feel better.

Try to distract yourself with hobbies or tasks where you won't be triggered to think about him/her again (for example, not watching pictures of him or her, but you can for example go to walk somewhere you weren't together with him or her and enjoy nature there. Hide from your eyesight everything what reminds on your ex (pictures, gifts, memories, letters, phone number, facebook profile). They should be hidden for at least 12 months, but if you get triggered by them after 12 months, prolong this time to further 12 months or dispose them permanently (sell, burn, recycle them).

It is so painful when a breakup happens or a crush gets away. It can feel like a physical pain. It is so difficult to stop thinking about him/her when that's where your mind wants to go. Find a new interest and fill your days and your mind with it, whether it is a hobby, a skill or simply meeting new people. As time goes on, you will begin to heal. When you start to get that crushing feeling again, redirect your thoughts to developing your new interest. All the time and brainpower you could have spent on mourning your breakup, you will spend on developing yourself instead. Best of luck!

Go out and do the things you love. Spend time with your family and friends or if you want to be alone and meditate then go for it. Try not to spend too much time on your phone and avoid stalking him/her. You will feel like your heart hurts because the pain is new and fresh. Your brain must adapt to the situation and will take time. So be patient and most importantly love yourself.

I have been in the sitiation and funny part is it was me who decided to end the relationship because it wasn't serving me positivly infact causing a lot of anxiety and loss of mental peace.Now most of the times we miss our exes because we had some good memories togather,always remember that you only miss those memories and the person her/she was during that good moment it doesn't mean that you want them back in your life.Talking about how hurt you feel after the breakup completly depends on what kind of relationship were you in if it was heathy/unheathy.The best thing you can do is to be very honest with yourself and think rationally because emotions will keep on changing.Work towards healing yourself and believe you deserve someone much more better...focuse on SELF LOVE

I should try to divert the mind from the thoughts that disturb the mind. Try to make busy. If the thoughts come to mind let the thoughts come and go and try not focus on it. It is common that one get hurts if he keep on thinking about it. One has to remind that thinking about past does not lead to anywhere but getting hurt badly. Do think that things has happened as it might not have been in one's control.

I had just gotten out of a toxic relationship so I'm familiar with this feeling. It's okay. Things eventually get better. People move on and so will you. Sometimes we don't even miss the real person, it's the memories and the expectations of how the future might be. I usually try to distract myself in this situation. Find something that you love and passionate about. Read a book, take photos, hang out with friends, anything. Most importantly, take care of yourself.

It's super natural that you feel hurt, try doing things to keep your mind occupied. Hobbies, friends, new challenges. Anything to keep you busy and learn some cool new things to learn that you can carry on, be awesome and maintain happiness!

Stop thinking about him by diverting your attention into other activities that you like,, set some purpose to achieve and forgive him not because he deserves it but because this will help you to move on. Remember whatever happens always happens for the best and it means he wasn't worth you, you didn't deserve a person who leaves you in the Midway but someone who will support you despite knowing all your flaws,, change always takes time but trust me it will be beautiful in the end :')

start loving youself in the best possible way you could 1 this is the best way to get over heart breaks

Moving on is hard. Forgetting someone you loved is even harder. I understand the pain. But no point dwelling in it. Life's worth living and finding new ways to enjoy it. Think of it as a chapter which ended. You're free to open up a new one.

Allow yourself to be distracted. Heartbreak can take time to heal, so also give yourself some time. Your heart hurts because you loved that person and you're no longer "with" them, so I suppose a bit of your heart was with them and since they don't exactly return your feelings, it hurts you. Love is a mysterious thing. I hope things turn up for you.