How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

I have dealt with this same problem. It is hard to get your mind off of someone, but my recommendations are that you should try to distract yourself from that person. If it is a person you used to love, you can find a fictional character you really like and distract yourself with that character. It takes time to get over a person, but distraction helps a lot.

Give you some time to accept your separation... It hurt because you need time to accept this ending, for a new beginning

Breakups hurt very bad. Everyone goes through one. I know it can be very hard to "get over" the person. Taking time and doing hobbies, or your favorite things for yourself helps.

it is perfectly normal to feel like this. i myself are going through a similar situation. i find surrounding myself with friends and family. there is no length of time in which things like this can go away. take things at your own pace, make sure you talk to people, an just remeber there is someone out there for you.

Focus on yourself. Have you ever wanted to try a new hobby or just something new in general? I've found by getting yourself into something new helps your mind stop from being stuck on that one person. Now I'm not saying it's a magic cure but it certainly helps.

Heartbreak is one of the hardest things you can go through. Missing someone is very natural, especially if it is someone close who we were intimate with, and stopping those thoughts completely may not be possible. Practising self-compassion can help to ease some of the heartache. Or finding other loved ones to spend time with. Don’t forget to continue taking care of yourself by eating well, exercising and sleeping at regular times. You might not feel like doing these things, but do try. It will help you feel better.

Moving on is hard. Forgetting someone you loved is even harder. I understand the pain. But no point dwelling in it. Life's worth living and finding new ways to enjoy it. Think of it as a chapter which ended. You're free to open up a new one.

Stop thinking about him by diverting your attention into other activities that you like,, set some purpose to achieve and forgive him not because he deserves it but because this will help you to move on. Remember whatever happens always happens for the best and it means he wasn't worth you, you didn't deserve a person who leaves you in the Midway but someone who will support you despite knowing all your flaws,, change always takes time but trust me it will be beautiful in the end :')

start loving youself in the best possible way you could 1 this is the best way to get over heart breaks

It's super natural that you feel hurt, try doing things to keep your mind occupied. Hobbies, friends, new challenges. Anything to keep you busy and learn some cool new things to learn that you can carry on, be awesome and maintain happiness!

Although society tells us otherwise, we cannot control our thoughts, much less how we feel. It is human nature to feel pain. One option is to create a safe space where you can nurture your grief and understand and process the emotions around your pain. When we are able to identify and release those emotions, then we can truly heal and move forward.

I had just gotten out of a toxic relationship so I'm familiar with this feeling. It's okay. Things eventually get better. People move on and so will you. Sometimes we don't even miss the real person, it's the memories and the expectations of how the future might be. I usually try to distract myself in this situation. Find something that you love and passionate about. Read a book, take photos, hang out with friends, anything. Most importantly, take care of yourself.

Go out and do the things you love. Spend time with your family and friends or if you want to be alone and meditate then go for it. Try not to spend too much time on your phone and avoid stalking him/her. You will feel like your heart hurts because the pain is new and fresh. Your brain must adapt to the situation and will take time. So be patient and most importantly love yourself.

It's not easy and it's not that difficult either. But try to control your own mind, tell your mind that you don't know him and start your day by saying I'm so happy today. The moment you say such things you create a positive environment, even if you ain't happy but still after you say that you are happy continuously your mind will definitely except and then you will actually start and your heart won't hurt you😊

It is so painful when a breakup happens or a crush gets away. It can feel like a physical pain. It is so difficult to stop thinking about him/her when that's where your mind wants to go. Find a new interest and fill your days and your mind with it, whether it is a hobby, a skill or simply meeting new people. As time goes on, you will begin to heal. When you start to get that crushing feeling again, redirect your thoughts to developing your new interest. All the time and brainpower you could have spent on mourning your breakup, you will spend on developing yourself instead. Best of luck!

I have been in the sitiation and funny part is it was me who decided to end the relationship because it wasn't serving me positivly infact causing a lot of anxiety and loss of mental peace.Now most of the times we miss our exes because we had some good memories togather,always remember that you only miss those memories and the person her/she was during that good moment it doesn't mean that you want them back in your life.Talking about how hurt you feel after the breakup completly depends on what kind of relationship were you in if it was heathy/unheathy.The best thing you can do is to be very honest with yourself and think rationally because emotions will keep on changing.Work towards healing yourself and believe you deserve someone much more better...focuse on SELF LOVE

I should try to divert the mind from the thoughts that disturb the mind. Try to make busy. If the thoughts come to mind let the thoughts come and go and try not focus on it. It is common that one get hurts if he keep on thinking about it. One has to remind that thinking about past does not lead to anywhere but getting hurt badly. Do think that things has happened as it might not have been in one's control.

Try to distract yourself with hobbies or tasks where you won't be triggered to think about him/her again (for example, not watching pictures of him or her, but you can for example go to walk somewhere you weren't together with him or her and enjoy nature there. Hide from your eyesight everything what reminds on your ex (pictures, gifts, memories, letters, phone number, facebook profile). They should be hidden for at least 12 months, but if you get triggered by them after 12 months, prolong this time to further 12 months or dispose them permanently (sell, burn, recycle them).

The reason why you can't stop thinking of him/her is because you're so used to havinv them around and the fact that they're presence is no longer there affects you. It's hard for our brains to let go off something that we're used to so it keeps going back to old situations. The reason why it hurts so much is because you put so much time and efforts in another person. You invested in them whether it be emotionally, phsyically or financially and now you've lost all of it. It hurts you because you loved something so dearly with all your heart and now it's gone forever!

An excess of emotions about your ex will weigh you down as you travel down the path of seeking a new partner. It is tough work and you must persevere. You can do it! Some constructive, positive ways to release these emotions include getting some exercise, spending time with friends and family, volunteering (an excellent way to take you out of your own head), or being creative and expressing yourself through art, writing, or music. Feeling really pissed? Write down your feelings in a letter “addressed” to your ex. Don’t send it though! Instead, read it to a therapist, burn it, or throw it away.

You can take your mind off of him/her by working on yourself. Maybe take up a new hobby or start a new workout routine. Sooner or later, you will find your mind and heart are at ease. Maybe ask yourself why this situation is causing you so much heartache. Having faith that your heart will no longer ache in time helps a great deal in situations like these. Distraction may play a huge part in getting over a significant other. Work on yourself, be around family and friends, treat yourself to a nice dinner. The quote "time heals all wounds" rings true.

Try focusing on the things in your everyday life that are more essential to the life you try to lead, whether that is a job, school, family or friends. Although it sounds selfish it is never wrong to focus on your own well-being before focusing on others, and it is important to focus on yourself if you're stuck in a situation where you are spending more energy on another person than that person derserves. Especially if the feelings of that person are not returned. If you focus your mind on things unrelated to that person and you do it consistently, suddenly one day you will realize that that person fills less and less of your thoughts, and it will hurt you much less.

It is okay to be in such a situation. Speaking to a listener or penning down your thoughts about the person you continuously are thinking about should help you sort out your feelings. You can then accordingly move forward in a positive way to heal from such a situation. An example of moving forward would be attaining some form of closure. Although, if the person refuses to provide you with closure, be kind and mature and avoid bad mouthing or doing/saying things in the heat of the moment. This hurt is a result of caring a lot about a person and being let down in some way but this can surely be fixed. The outcome doesn’t always have to be negative. A positive outcome would be having a mature, platonic relationship or a new found friendship with this person or could be moving on completely for your own good. Please take care and speak to a listener about this.

Sometimes, you have to stop to think: do you miss the person, or do you miss the thrills, excitement etc. when you were with said person? I used to date someone when I was young. It was my first relationship, and I honestly thought it could be it. After we broke up, I was so hung up on it I was not able to move on for 7 years. Teenage years were harsh, man. But anyways, during those years of being stuck in unrequited love, I noticed that it was not him I missed. I missed the feeling of someone making my heart flutter, I missed the feeling of someone making me laugh. Our heart is really stupid. It does not know what it really yearns for. So, ask yourself what is it about that person that you miss? Or do you just miss the feeling you would get when you are with them? If it is them that you miss, make it known to them. Even if you are not able to rekindle romantic love, maybe you could at least start again from being friends. Who knows what it will lead to? Also, it is normal for your heart to hurt but I would suggest that you try not to think of them as often. Do other things to take your mind off him/her.

Sometimes it's hard to stop thinking about someone when you still hold back ceratin memories or objects. It is very hard to forget, especially when that person meant a lot to you. I have personally been through something similar where all I did was think about that certain individual and I was hurting a lot. However, now I'm stronger, yet it is not to say I don't think about the individual. I do, but I'm not hurting. It all about time and patience, and on whether you really do want to forget this person. If you do, you will just keep your head up.

give yourself time to stop thinking of them. not having them hurts but eventually you learn to no hurt any more. getting to that point takes time and patience for yourself. Dont forget, its okay to not let go of somethings. If you have things that you've grown attached to not because of them but because of comfort, you don't need to deattach from those because in the long run that's harder on you. And most of all, through out the process of letting go, don't allow anyone to tell you its not okay to no the okay. Your'e allowed to have hard days.

The best thing to do in this case is to keep yourself busy, find hobbies and interests that you enjoy and stay motivated and on track with your life. This will help ease your mind on to something else that put your energy on and you can focus on. At the beginning it will feel impossible and your heart will feel like it has been torn a million times and your emotions will be through the roof but trust me with time things will get much easier and you will find a way to get through this-looking at the silver lining!

To stop thinking we need to stop trying not to think. When you consciously try not to think, reverse psychology operates and you end up having them all over your mind. Hurt is something that comes as a package deal when we risk feeling for someone. But honestly, it ALWAYS gets better, time heals. Practice self-love, do what makes you happy. You will see how it slowly gets easier. When you prioritize yourself you take away the power from others to make you feel hurt when you love yourself, you become in charge of your emotions. Self-love and care, me-time simple things like those make a huge difference.

In order for you to stop thinking abut your significant other (SO), you need to engage in distractions that enjoy doing. Try practicing your hobbies. Try something new for a change. Surround yourself with a trusted circle of family and friends. And I cannot stress on how exercising really cleanses the heart, be it at home, gym or outdoors. The wounds take time to heal, but they’ll heal as time passes by. Therefore, the more you engage your time with doing things you enjoy or experiencing new things, the more you are on your way for recovery and off for a good start back in life.

This can be an extremely difficult fight; we often suffer loss after a breakup, and grieve as though someone close to us has passed. Sometimes it feels like it will never subside, and that your life will never rebound with them out of the picture. So they're gone, and now you're left feeling completely out of place. Your entire routine is different now, and that ache of yearning and hurt won't leave your head. What now?.......Time. Patience. Self-love. The three essential ingredients to moving on. You need to give yourself time to figure out this new life, while also realizing when to pick yourself up. It's important to allow time for crying, talking with your bestfriend for hours, eating ice cream straight out of the carton (or all 3 at once), or however grieving looks for you. But you can't stay in that place forever. Delete the pictures; Give back the personal items they gave you; Go find new hobbies/restaurants/activities that you enjoy that you don't associate with them. Slowly but surely, you'll realize that there was a time in your life that you existed without them, and that you can do it again. You can learn to love yourself without needing someone's help to do it. Be kind to yourself; there is no schedule for healing, and sometimes you fall apart after putting it together. It's frustrating, but it's okay. Loving yourself can manifest in many different ways; it can be buying yourself a coffee, exercising more, taking time to do something you like such as watching a show, etc. Doing what makes you happy as an individual is a must. Surround yourself with people and resources who care about you and who you can trust. Getting through anything alone is near impossible. You've got this, and we are here for you!