How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

Finding a new hobby to take your mind off a breakup is always a possibility. Talking to someone about it can help just as much.

You're holding onto the past moments instead of living in the present. You're the one in charge of what happens next

You are probably very attracted to said person, I have experienced a similar feeling, the best way to move on is carefully and at your own pace

It's called heart break. It will take a lot of time to get over but you will. Just be patient and keep yourself physically active. Do things you genuinely enjoy.

You can find an activity that you enjoy. Something to escape and keep your mind off things. A safe place.

It sounds like your feeling a lot of grief due to someone in your life. Only you know why you are feeling pain, but often times when we are in these positions we tend to blame ourselves. I too have experienced loss of a loved one and I know that it takes a lot of strength to reach out in times of need. The fact that you are here demonstrates courage. Could you tell me more about what is going on with the person you can’t stop thinking about? It could help to tell me how you feel about this person.

Try and focus on things you enjoy doing and keep busy, what do you like to do? What is your routine that you have on a daily and weekly basis? Make a plan for your week and weekends and stick to it. That will keep you busy and less time to worry and you will feel like you are achieving something which in term will make you feel in control of your life. Look at what hobbies you have, make time to see your friends and family or those that are important to you. Learn a new skill and time will then pass more quickly.

Thinking about that person makes anyones head hurt. If you find an activity that can help reduce thinking about them it helps.

You can't forget it of course.but I think you can choose to not care anymore what do you think? It's ok to not being ok sometimes.......,............. And you know this is really important thing so let's change our role for a minute if someone else said that to you what would you answer to her

It is normal to feel like this, don’t feel like you are alone a break up is a big thing to go though and is difficult for everyone but you will get there we are here to listen if you need to talk. maybe doing things that will keep your mind occupied may help. Thinking about them to much will distract you from finding yourself and a true soulmate, finding the person that truly makes you happy, so just go with the flow and let life do its work you will be happy again keep telling yourself that to get you though this!

Heartbreak is an experience sadly every teenager has to experience, and in that moment it may feel as if our world is falling apart. But you need to know that you were your own person before, you were one. it may take time to feel like yourself again but self-love is the way to go. physical pain also occurs with heartbreak at times. pushing through it with the support of your friends and self-acceptance might open up a new door.

It is not easy to stop thinking about someone who you have cared for and shared most of your time with. It will be difficult and it will take time. But you can start by removing everything that will remind you of him/her. Cry if you need to because it helps to let everything out. Talk to someone you trust so that you can vent about your feelings, it helps to talk instead of holding everything inside. Try doing new activities to keep your mind busy. Do something that you always wanted to do, and most of all take time to heal.

When a person forgets his own value he or she starts finding greatness in another. Being in love is simply a great feeling, but when two people decide to separate they need to focus in their life more. Thinking about someone when everything ends that make no sense. You already met several good people, but as you still think about your ex that ruin your chance of meeting a new extraordinary person. Everyone is extraordinary, but you can be with one at a time, so stop wasting time on thinking past and explore a new person & maybe you finally reached the correct station this time.

Take a break and focus on yourself. Find something that you enjoy. The happier you are, taking time for yourself then the easier it'll be to stop thinking about the person. Your feelings of hurt are a normal reaction to a major life event - reflect on it and use it as something to grow in order to gain more healthy future relationships. It takes time to heal therefore just be patient and do not rush into things. Hobbies and interests can be a great way of also meeting new people and not falling into a spiral of sadness.

i can stop thinking about others by thinking about myself first. After what i went thru the last 3 years, i realized at the end of everything - i have myself. And if i cannot focus and put myself as a priority then i will be at a lost. Your heart hurts because you have an overwhelming emotional attachment to that person. Accept that the pain is necessary to teach life lessons, understand that the pain is temporary and will go away. Writing down emotions will ease the heart ache.

Start thinking about the the things which you love to do, like writing poems/stories, painting, social work, learning music etc.., Make your mind so strong that you should never go back searching for what went wrong between you and her/him. Dedicate all your time and energy in learning new things. Travel around the world, which will make your mind feel happy and relaxed, make you forget all the wrong things that happened in your life. In case if you still struggle to forget her/him, burn all the items that you shared with each other. Motivate yourself to go out of that stupid situation and achieve something in life.. good luck

That's up to you. Only you know what's best for you. Find your own personal way to to be at ease. There are many options in finding help and support; such as talking it out. When you can go over something in your mind out loud it allows the brain to see it in a new perspective. Seeing key points allows you to really define the root of the problem. Only then will you know what's best for you. Each individual is in fact individual, but finding someone who can listen and understand may help to fully develope the emotions you feel. Once we have a better grasp on what's causing this feeling, then you can build a personal growth path to help you feel whole again. Remember that nothing is permanent and everything in your life can be how you desire.

To stop thinking about someone so much you have to focus on yourself. The only way you can do this is to find mindful activities to do and to do things that you truly enjoy. Start focusing on who you used to be and not the person that you became when you were with that person. We are all one whole person without someone and we are also a whole person with someone and both people are different people. You want to get back to being the person you were before the relationship and ReDiscover at heart who that person was.

Hey, I’m just saying the truth; it’s hard but not impossible! I did that by spending time with my friends. Whenever he/she sent me a text, a snap or posted something, I didn’t reply, snap back or like the post within the first 5 seconds. Also, if he/she goes to your school but not in the same class, try to avoid the classroom and the people in it as much as you can. If he/she is in your class, sit as far away from them as possible. Don’t look at them to check if they look at you. If he/she talks to you, try to not freak out. Talk normally, pretend he/she is your best friend. And I know this step sounds ridiculous, but it helped me when I had a crush on a boy; pretend he’s your brother/she’s your sister.

Stop thinking about the memories you had with them. If they're not there with you right now, that means they're not the right person to be with you. Please consider doing another thing to keep your mind busy from them, and try to avoid things that can make you think of them.

Cause he hit the basin. He knew where he wanted to take me. Manipulator. I wanted to be manipulated. Just for that look in his eyes. The look of gratitude, appreciation, love, care and adoring. But he has that click in his head. When I am not perfect, better should not at all. Maybe better to say, when he is not perfect? But nothing ever will be and if he is not able to deal with that, he would't be able to handle other life issues. He is not worthy. It will hurt for a while, I know that. But I am worthy, though I doubt that, easily, I am. He is not, cause he doesn't believe that. My part now is to accept that and remember! Not to get to a manipulated position again. Because it is not me there. I am the one elsewhere. He doesn't want me there, but he is the one who puts me there. And I allow it. I CAN'T allow it anymore. I am worthy.

Breakups can be tough to deal with. Having the person you shared everything with ripped away so easily hurts. There is no right way to just stop, to get them out of your head. They will be there for a while. However, continuing on a path such as this one, or even just talking to people who are here to listen is a huge step. Relationships take time to forge, and they take time to heal. It's like fixing a hole. You can't just throw some dirt over it, you have to slowly fill it up till there is no more space left.

You have to occupy your mind, I've been there and it's really hard to make yourself stop thinking about someone. Try to be in a happy setting, spend time with friends. Or work on a hobby, even if it's something like coloring, when your mind is working at something else, it eases the pain for a while. When I went through a bad breakup a couple of years ago I spent 3 days alone laying in bed. That was NOT the way to heal. I started going to the gym and meeting friends for dinner or drinks, even spending time with my mom. After a while I realized that I shouldn't be suffering because he was the one who lost, I still have good memories of him but I don't miss him anymore. Usually a break up happens because it wasn't meant to be, someone better will come along and love you unconditionally.

I'm going to use "him". Anyway, if you loved him and you two aren't together anymore it will hurt. And your heart will hurt. It's all about time. Time heals everything. It depends on how much you liked or loved him or spent time with him. If you want to stop thinking about him. You should do something you didn't do with him ever. Delete his pictures and everything related to him. Whenever you think of him Engage yourself with something else. Listen to pop music. Listen to some songs that does not remind you of him. Spend time with friends and family.

The best way to stop thinking of someone else is to focus on yourself. Take yourself in a date or find a hobby. Take this transition period to learn something new about yourself. Getting over a breakup is hard because we get so used to having that person in our lives and we now have to adjust to being without them, it can be challenging but it is possible. One thing you shouldn’t do is jump into a relationship with someone else, that’s not healthy and you won’t get over the person you’re missing any faster. Stay single til you’re ready to move on.

You heart hurts because you care, but you need to direct that care to yourself now! Start thinking, and taking care of you the way you would want to take care of them. I am sorry your heart is hurting, but with time...it'll be okay. Moving on from anything, rather it be love or friendship is a difficult task, but I believe you are strong and I also believe things happen for a reason. Maybe you needed to go through this to learn more about yourself. To fall in love with yourself, and to continue growing. Don't put so much effort into think of someone who didn't deserve your sparkle, love.

Surround yourself with other things and people who make you happy. Read, paint, sing, Ect. Always put yourself before anyone else because you are the most important thing. Think about joining some kind of club to help you get your mind off of things. One of the best things you can do is reassure yourself that it was not your fault and it never will be. If you reassure yourself then you will feel better about your self esteem along with your personality. I think you are great and will do amazing things in your life time. I wish you all the best.

I know what that feels like. It's literally heart-wrenching. You start getting all profound and finally realize that, wow, this is what all the depressed poets were talking about. The first thing to do is ACCEPT. Accept that you're not over them. It's okay to still have lingering feelings for someone after a relationship is over. It's nothing to be embarrassed by. We're human beings, and human beings feel deeply. The second step would be to START somewhere. Start trying to get over them. Distract yourself. Watch a good film, or a sitcom (sitcoms are great for distracting yourself from your broken heart lol). read, write, paint, sketch, go for a walk, try a new recipe, redecorate your room, hit up an old friend - just anything to get your mind off them. Bottom line is, be kind to yourself. Give yourself time, accept that getting over a relationship is a long process. But that's okay. That's the beauty of being a human. We feel so deeply. Almost every great artist persona was plagued by a broken heart lol. Go watch the moon or something, lament about your broken heart. Exploit your hurt, and use it to motivate yourself. alright, i'm aware i'm starting to sound psychotic now so i'll go! but the rest of what i said comes from the bottom of my heart! hope you get over them soon

Your heart can hurt so much because you do not accept what just happened with the relationship between you two. You still are processing the fact that you guys are not together. You have to find something that interests you to get busy and occupy your mind in order to decrease the moments that you spend thinking about him/her.

Sometimes it takes a while to be able to get over or even stop loving or thinking about some person. It all depends on the person but some start focusing on themselves more, some find a person to help them get over the other with. Some people start to Exercise to get their mind off of someone they love. Some find a new hobby maybe like crocheting or journaling. You’re heart might hurt so much because you really loved that person and weren’t ready to let them go yet. It can be very hard and hurt so much more than we imagined. Also sometimes letting go is better than holding onto them still.