Can or should I ask my significant other to stop talking and to not associate with his ex? If so, how?

Rather than tell you what you can or should do I have some questions for you :) What feelings do you feel when you see your partner associating with their ex? Do you trust your partner? Have you discussed your concerns and feelings with them? If so, how did they respond? It's natural to feel uncomfortable in these types of scenarios but each one is different. It's worth exploring your feelings and understanding why they're there, and what the story is behind them, before proceeding in the situation. After all, we can't control others, we can only control how we respond. Wishing you all the best with it.

If you feel like it is affecting you then yes. Just be calm and reasonable. Have a couple of hours for yourselves and talk about it. Explain how talking to their ex makes you feel and make them see you are not being jealous, but asking for consideration. If your partner was a friend with their ex before they started dating, this might be a reason. Just talk it through. Good luck x

This is a very tough topic but a valid question. If there is trust in the relationship then it shouldn't matter who anyone talks to because there will be no fear of infidelity or loss of connection through another. I have had trouble with this myself. My girlfriend and her ex have kids and they have to see each other everyday and at first this realm bothered me. I realized my worries were based in fear and as our relationship grew so did my understanding of the situation. I trust my girlfriend today so who ever she talks to has no bearing on my well being.

I think it’s okay to let them know how you feel about it in a claim way. I also think it’s important to make sure you don’t act as if you are telling her or him what they can and can not do. Sometimes they might not just know that they are upsetting you. It’s just difficult to understand why someone does something. I try to Be relaxed and explain that I really don’t like it but don’t think you should make them feel as if they are wrong for something they don’t even know is upsetting you.

Just speak out about this clearly with your significant other as this might destroy your relationship.

If your significant other's relationship with his or her ex truly bothers you, or hinders your relationship, you should definitely talk to them about it. Communication and honesty are key to any relationship.

From experience this rarely goes down well but what's important are your feelings. If your partner talking to their ex is causing you distress or an amount of anxiety then you should be truthful. Hiding your feelings will only worsen the situation. If they love and respect you they will understand and take steps to reassure you nothing but friendship is happening. Remember, just because they talk doesn't mean anything untoward is going on.

It's easy to forget that people live their lives in first-person and are consciously aware of the happenings around them. When someone reaches out to an ex-partner, it may not be with the intention you think. In their own minds, it could just be to achieve a greater purpose of making friends again. It can take a lot out of a person when they choose to leave a person, and sometimes it takes more time to heal from the aftermath of no-longer being in close contact with that person. Communication is very healthy for every relationship, which includes ones that are no longer romantic. It's healthy to interact with people as long as the interaction does not hinder the involved people's view of themselves, people around them, and current partners. You should be supportive of the act of maintaining healthy relationships, but be careful not to cover up any emotions for the sake of your current partner.

I think this is a very personal decision and everyone will have a different opinion on it. Personally, I do not like when my partner is still talking to an ex. It makes me feel like they aren't over that relationship. I think it's important to be open about how you feel if it's hurting you, but it's hard to ask someone to stop talking to a certain person. I don't think that can ever be taken well. I might ask you this instead - do you want to keep dating someone who does talk to their ex? Or would you prefer to find someone who isn't?

Can you ask your significant other to stop talking to their ex? Yes. Should you? Well.... Probably not unless the ex is slashing your tires or threatening to harm you. Just like you need freedom to pick and choose your friends based on the qualities you value, so does your significant other. Am I saying there is not a problem when your significant other talks to his ex? Nope. Not at all. If you are getting bothered by it, it is clearly impacting your feelings. And that is a problem no matter what. And that shouldn't be ignored. Is it possessiveness? Like mine mine mine. If so, what is the fear associated with this? Is this a matter of trust? Maybe your significant other has violated that trust or you feel is likely to violate your trust? Maybe you need to work together to reestablish that trust? Maybe you need to reevaluate being with that partner if the cannot operate in a way that honours the trust you extended? If none of those are the case, then you need to reflect inwards in yourself, and ask yourself what's making you feel insecure (as in, not feeling secure about the relationship)? Really looking at these questions will tell you a lot about the work and improvement that needs to be done. It will be something you need to work on for yourself, something you need to work on as a couple, or a bit of both. And really that is all you have the power to control. And while the ex might be the trigger of the feelings. They aren't the problem (unless they are slashing tires, or threatening harm. In which case yes ask your partner to stop seeing their ex and call the authorities promptly).

So the other person is the one you love. Right? Love is a feeling of freedom and not boundation. If you love someone, let them be free of choices. Conversations are a way out always. Open up more. The way out is know the other person's problems. Know what makes the other person go out. Spend more time together. Let the other person choose the right one. Let the love flow inside out. The feelings are the only things which cannot be kept hidden for so long. Don't bind the other with choices. Rather make them feel the love you hold for the other. Things wills settle themselves.

Relationships with ex-girlfriends and boyfriends can be polarizing issues in relationships; however, many exes have shared a long history with their partners and do indeed develop a friendship after a break-up. Like any issue in a relationship, the partners need to talk honestly about this, and examine whether an ongoing relationship with an ex is appropriate and/or healthy. If it is, there's no reason for concern. If there are residual feelings or longings, then it would likely not be conducive to a good relationship. Honest communication and trust is key.

It's usually fine for a partner to be friends with their ex, but it is easy to cross that line. So if anything makes you feel uncomfortable, be sure to speak up. Let your partner know about any relationship dynamics that make you uneasy, and work together to fix them Don't Let Any Emotion Involved. Ask Him Calmly. Look Up For More Information. . Don't Be Guilty Over That. Believe In What He Says. Come To An Agreement. Talk About How You Feel About It. Pay Attention To His Behavior. like The relationship is long over, but he still talks to her. ... He hasn't removed her pictures from Social Media. ... He brings up her name in conversations. ... You've caught him stalking her online. ... He sometimes calls you by her name. ... You don't feel like you are in a new relationship. ... He still has her stuff.

I don't feel comfortable telling you that you "can" or "should" do something, I will tell you about my personal experience with this. I was in a relationship that saw my partner demand this of me. I was troubled by his asking/insisting for two really specific reasons: 1. I felt that I was being controlled 2. I felt that I was not trusted Regardless of my partner's reasons for trying to set this limit on me and our relationship, it began to create a very strong resentment in me towards him. What I perceived to be his own lack of self-confidence eroded our relationship and built barriers in our communication. Our mutual trust and respect for each other dissolved and eventually we divorced.

If contact with their Ex has an impact on your feelings, it's important to express that to your significant other. Be respectful in your approach. Once you have been understood, you will know based on their actions what you truly mean to them. Exes are exes for a reason.

You most certainly can if your partner has an ex that is still in their life and it makes you uncomfortable. Yes, they can be friends with their ex but ask yourself what it is that makes you uncomfortable about their continued association. If there are extenuating circumstances, such as illness or they are in some sort of trouble then it might be that they get in touch and in some cases that can be reasonable. But If you feel they are constantly flashing up on your partners phone, just for a chat or whatever, ask them why they think it's ok that they do this. And be clear about why you feel uncomfortable. If your partners ex is breaching the boundaries of your relationship then they are disrespecting you and your partner is also, in allowing this. Don't feel shy about a situation which would make most people unhappy and be clear with your partner about how this makes you feel. But it's also worth reminding yourself that just because you feel uncomfortable in this situation that doesn't automatically make you a crazy jealous person. If you can respect someone else's relationship then your should be respected in return.

If you don’t trust your partner talking to his ex then speak up about it. You have every right to ask him or discuss it with him. Approach it by telling him how it makes you feel. Be honest and if he really does care about your feelings then he will do whatever to make you happy. Talking about it with him will give you peace of mind and reassurance.

It is your complete right to ask him to stop talking to his ex. However, equally, it’s his right to say no. If his ex is making you feel like he is untrustworthy and/or they are interfering with your relationship , it’s perfectly logical to ask this of him. However, if you don’t trust your significant other to stay loyal, why are you together? Relationships don’t work without trust, and it doesn’t sound like there’s very much between you two. You two should sit down and have a serious conversation. Express yourself and explain to him that you aren’t comfortable with him associating with his ex. I wish you the best of luck

If you are worried that your significant other has feelings for his ex or will develop them, you should talk about this with them. I would explain how you feel and see how they feel about it, too.

Thank you for reaching out! It is hard to say whether you can or should ask your significant other to stop talking and associating with his ex. There are reasons both for and against it. Firstly, it can be a red flag or warning sign if a partner is controlling of who their partner sees or hangs out with, as it can be isolating and lead to unhealthiest in the relationship dynamic. Further, your partner should be able to decide and consent for themselves who they spend time with. If your partner spending time with their ex bothers you, or is in some way harming the relationship between you, you should examine why it bothers you and why your significant other is willing to engage in that type of behavior. If it bothers you, does your significant other know it bothers you? If they know it bothers you and they do it regardless what do you make of that? Are they really someone you still want to be with? This is where thinking about your boundaries can be a great way to reflect. You may want to reflect on your general expectations from relationships. Consider talking about the issue with your partner first, before making any decisions on whether you should ask them to stop talking to their ex. Ask yourself if it bothers you and why, and share those answers with them. You may want to reflect on whether you want to ask if your partner they knew how you felt about them interacting with their ex. Do you feeling like asking them if they feel it's important for them to keep talking to their ex and if so why. Try to come to a decision as a team about what is best for both of you. A relationship takes two people to work, not one! There are support organizations relating to relationship stress such as OneLoveFoundation and Relate.

That's understandable if that's something you'd want, considering your s.o once loved this person and obviously still has a connection if they're talking to their ex. I believe just bringing it up bluntly and telling them how you feel about them talking to their ex, and how it affects/hurts you is the best way to go about it.

Let your significant other know how you feel about it. Don't demand anything, just say "hey this makes me feel uncomfortable", nobody likes feeling compared. Your significant other should understand.

You have the right to ask your boyfriend not to talk to or meet with his ex. I think there will be many ways to deal with it, but I recommend the one that in my opinion is the most effective.. You should make a direct remark to your boyfriend. Make it clear how you feel and suggest that your boyfriend shouldn't meet his ex while having a new lover, which makes anyone feel insecure in the relationship. If he brings up his ex even when he recognizes you're sad, you should rethink if your boyfriend really loves you. I say, if he cares about how you feel, he shouldn't talk or associate with his ex.

In my personal experience, I’ve found that sitting down with your significant other and explaining to them why you wish they would stop talking to their ex is very helpful. Depending upon your reason, maybe it makes you uncomfortable because they used to be so close? Determining the root of your unease will make it easier to explain to your partner and help you make a better case.

You should just be open and honest. If something makes you uncomfortable you should be able to say that.

Try asking him nicely to stop talking to her/him. If that doesnt work, i say let him do his own thing. You can't stop someone from talking to someone they wanna talk to.

It depends. If you're just jealous of his ex, then you should probably understand that your current SO might be offended if you ask him to stop talking to his ex. HIs ex and him are probably just good friends. However if you feel genuinely threatened by his ex, you can sit your boyfriend down and tell him how insecure you feel around his ex. The course of action should be decided by him after that. If he really cares about you, he'd understand your feelings.

The answer to whether or not you should, would depend on the reason that you want your significant other to stop associating with their ex. Is your concern related to his well-being or is it a concern stemming out of your own insecurities? Understand that if it is a matter of jealousy, you need to consider that it might be a selfish choice to ask him to not associate with his ex. Don’t take it the wrong way, you are allowed to be selfish sometimes, allowed to demand and expect certain things from your partner in a romantic relationship. But recognising the cause will help you approach the situation with a broader, more unbiased perspective. To be frank, you should communicate with him either ways. You should not expect him to stop associating with his ex after the conversation if it’s a matter of jealousy. He may decide to stop associating to relieve you of your duress, but remember it does not fall in his obligation to do so. As for how you should communicate your distress, you can simply start by saying that something has been bothering you and it would make you feel better to open up to him about the matter. When communicating, remember to focus on your feelings. For example, instead of saying “I don’t think you’re spending enough time with me,” consider saying, “I feel a little neglected.” Find the emotions behind a particular behaviour, label them and take accountability for them.

Tell them it makes you uncomfortable, and if they don't stop then they obviously don't treasure you.

You should be worried about an ex when your partner is defensive or secretive about their communication or the nature of their conversations. If you have a gut feeling about your significant other's ex, then you have every right to tell them how you feel about it and tell them that you don't feel too good about it. The relationship ended for a reason and if they start talking they might rekindle the romance if it didn't end too badly. Don't hide the fact that it bothers you and that it makes you insecure so that it has been known and if your S/O still doesn't validate your feelings then they are wrong.