Can or should I ask my significant other to stop talking and to not associate with his ex? If so, how?

Partners are meant to respect and honor your feelings and wishes. If there is something causing you emotional stress, I encourage you to express it in a calm, collected way. There is nothing wrong with being open to your partner about how they or their actions are making you feel. In order to come to a place where both people feel respected, it's very important that you don't invalidate their feelings, but actually fully listen to their thoughts and take it into consideration before responding. You know the situation best, so I hope my words helped give you understanding on an approach that encourages positive results.

You should be worried about an ex when your partner is defensive or secretive about their communication or the nature of their conversations. If you have a gut feeling about your significant other's ex, then you have every right to tell them how you feel about it and tell them that you don't feel too good about it. The relationship ended for a reason and if they start talking they might rekindle the romance if it didn't end too badly. Don't hide the fact that it bothers you and that it makes you insecure so that it has been known and if your S/O still doesn't validate your feelings then they are wrong.

It is normal to not want to be compared with another person and especially when it concerns love stuff. You can express this to your partner by making him understand what this makes you feel (Maybe angry or jealous or insecure in your relationship) also you can show him that if you used to do the same he won't appreciate this neither and will probably ask you no to do so. I think that sometimes people act without thinking and without imagining their selfs in your position to know if their actions will hurt or bother. But don't get angry or mad without trying to crearly express your emotion to your partner

I don't believe that anyone should be stopped talking to anyone, do you maybe feel that you don't trust your other half? I guess it entirely depends on the context of their conversations- some people just stay friends with some exes, and thats okay. I don't think it is okay, however, if their conversations are crossing a line, perhaps being too intimate, I can certainly see how that would make you want them stop talking to them. If your partner is frank and honest with you, hopefully that should be completely fine, otherwise, you need to talk to them about the way they are conducting their behaviour. We should always trust who we are with.

First you should figure out why this subject disturbs you so much. Are you afraid of loosing your partner? You think you are not good enough? I think when you are in a healthy relationship and are not afraid of missing the partner or jealous about previous relationship, you don’t mind hearing about the ex. On the other hand, maybe the problem is that your partner is obsessed with the ex, and exaggerates talking about them, then I think you should tell him/her and try to find a solution for him to get over it.

Although it may seem like a good idea to you, and actually others as well. Your s/o could be rubbed the wrong way, and take your complaint in a controlling/demanding way. I suggest explaining how you feel about them being in contact with their ex. If they still continue to do so, unfortunately there's not that much you can do other than accept. There's a foundation of trust supposedly in a relationship, and if you trust that your partner won't act on anything or have romantic relations with their ex, then it'll become more and more bearable.

If the person you are in a relationship with does anything that makes you uncomfortable, bring it up as soon as possible. Present it as a problem you can solve together, and don’t cast blame. It can also help to have a discussion on honesty, where you both hopefully agree that it’s better to confront the issues rather than hide them. This leads directly to talking to their ex. Emphasis that you don’t want them to start doing it behind your back because they don’t want to upset you. It is also worth thinking and talking about how your partner would react if your roles were reversed.

if there is a reasonable explanation to it, yes. try just sitting them down and telling them. be calm, and show your persepctive but make sure to keep theirs in mind as well

It is always better to give each other personal space. But without knowing both ends or the story giving an advice could turn out wrong. We are here to help you make the right choice. I'm sure if he loves you truly he wouldn't cheat on you. One must never shove ones own interests onto the others face. It would do more harm than good. But you can express that you dislike him speaking to his ex. If he still do continue don't force him. And if he do continue it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you either.

I don’t believe anyone has the right to demand another person stop communicating with another person, particularly the opposite gender. It is acceptable however to communicate your concerns or problem associated with their communication and then the problem can be addressed by all involved. At times, this could be an uncomfortable conversation but it is better to be said as soon as possible so not to cause unwanted anxiety. Anxiety can lead to animosity toward the other person and they may not even be aware there is a problem. By expressing your feelings straight away this anxiety can be avoided.

Well, first of all, you shouldn't impose your thoughts on the other person. However, transparency in the relationship is extremely critical. Hence, your other half should know how you feel about it. Choose your words and the time to communicate this to him or her. Don't make it compulsive. Be prepared for a disagreement and always remember that trust is the essence of any relationship, hence knowing about his or her thoughts is equally important. In my opinion, possessiveness is normal in any relationship (sometimes healthy too). This shall become much better as you mature in your relationship. Hope you have a great relationship full of trust and love.

Double Edge Sword there: A. On one hand, he wants you to trust him. B. He may be/feel irritated/annoyed/offended/accused. C. Combination of (and not limited to) A & B. If it were I, I would attempt to compromise, ask a few questions, get a feel for the past relationship, and make an educated guess on the nature of the continued relationship. If your partner says they would rather not talk about it. Thats may indicate: Guilt, Shame, Longing (they miss them dearly though the other has denied/denies their claim of them.) though if something seems to be up 8/10 of the time? : Trust your gut.

Because toxic relationships are hard to break. I don't know the details of your relationship, so I can't pinpoint the exact reason, but there can be a number of reasons why people keep going back to a toxic relationship. If you're in a codependent relationship, that could be one of the reasons. Also, the familiarity that comes with the person or the relationship keeps people going back. Or if they are in love with the toxic person and attached to them and habituated to that toxic behaviour, and that makes it hard to break it off. Some people also end up staying because of the fear of being alone and not being able to find another partner again. Whichever of these it is, I hope you can find it in you to disengage and leave (if it is very toxic for you) because being in a toxic relationship can be extremely draining and damaging and ruin your life and mental health and peace. It will be a hard thing to do at first, but ultimately very liberating and an act of self love.

i feel that this is a very controversial topic! some feel that it is okay to keep in contact with exes whilst some feel that it is not okay to keep in contact. either ways, if you're uncomfortable with the idea of your SO talking and associating himself with his ex, i think it's important that you let him know and let him understand your point of view. both of you might not be very comfortable with it, but both of you should be able to develop a strategy plan that's workable for the both of you. being in a relationship requires both of you to work as a partner. all the best! (for me, i'll just let me boyfriend knows that i am okay with him talking to his ex, provided that he has to be absolutely transparent about it).

It seems to me that the more important question here is "why?" Relationships are built on trust, and talking or hanging out with an ex is often seen as a breach of that trust. This is certainly so in committed and monogamous relationships. So the first question I would ask myself is, "Why does this bother me? Am I feeling a lack of trust? In my self? In my significant other?" Once I have an answer to that, I would bring that result to a conversation with them. This way it's presented not as a demand or even a request, but an opportunity to strengthen the relationship. By understanding why each of you is feeling and acting a certain way, you might find what you want to change, or you might find there is no need :)

I guess it depends to what extent they have contact / communication and if there are children they co-parent? If not, I think its pretty reasonable to ask for your partner to not disrespect you or your relationship by continuing to be in contact with his/her ex. If he/she wants a committed trusting relationship they should understand that this can be disrespectful and even hurtful and ultimately undermines trust (which is a MUST in a relationship). Again it really depends on each individual relationship but if there is no ties there (other than they are now exes ) then yes i think it wise to say it to your partner.

I don't believe this is the smartest move. You can ask directly to stop talking or interacting with his ex, but: a) if there's something still going on under the ashes of their previous relationship, stopping him won't prevent him to think about her and b) if there's nothing going on anymore, there's no reason to put limitations to his genuinely friendship relation. Only you can know the answer by listening to him and talking with him about what makes you feel deeply uncomfortable. Also work as much as you can on your self esteem to be even more powerful in a good way.

If this is greatly affecting your mental health and your relationship it is understandable that you wouldn't want them to talk anymore. I think firstly you should think about why this is bothering you - is the ex giving you reasons to believe they may want to cause problems in your relationship? Is your s/o someone who would keep in touch with an ex if they are on good terms or is this unusual? I've had the same issue with my boyfriend and I think the best thing to do is tell them exactly how you feel. If you trust that they wouldn't do anything unfaithful to you, explain that it the case but you cannot control the anxiety and negative feelings it brings you, and this is an issue you both must tackle rather than you just trying to get over it.

I believe no one should be restricted to contact their ex, as ending a previous relationship does not mean removing them from your life. You can try communicate with your significant others about your worries. Let them know that it is a disturbing thoughts that you wish not to worry so they won't be agitated. Communicate with them how to work things out and how to alleviate the worry. First of all, both have to be comfortable on talking this uncomfortable topic. Set some guidelines before starting the conversation, because you deserve to be heard too. On the other hand, you should listen to your significant other.

Here's the thing about that - Your significant other is someone that you have a relationship with, but you do not own them. If you are uncomfortable with it, absolutely voice your feelings of insecurity to your partner if you so wish, but realize that you do not have the right or the power to tell them who to associate with or speak to. There's an very toxic mindset floating around, that people start to treat others like they are property to be managed - Which is not right, valid or fair. It's a fairly abusive pattern, to be honest with you. But if you feel so strongly, I would lead a conversation of "I statements" to address your concern with to your partner.

I think trust is really important when it comes to relationships. It is important you set boundaries and let him know how you feel when it comes to his actions. Forcing him to stop talking to someone because you feel uncomfortable may be slightly unreasonable on your part, but if he were to continue if you talked to him about this matter, you need to set it straight with him and not hide it. Like I said before, trust is important and you two need to be honest towards each other. Once the trust is broken, it will be hard to fix it. Just like how you can't fix a broken bowl back to it original form.

You can ask your significant other, if it bothers you then you should. Because it may cause problems in the future between you two. And you can ask then by confronting them about it. Tell them honestly what bothers you and why it bothers you. That'd be the best way to ask them to stop talking to their ex.

Perhaps it's more important to consider what about this might be important to you. Are there global issues relating to trust, or is this specific to a particular ex? Either way, an open dialogue with your partner is likely to be the most constructive means of addressing this. Ultimately, your partner is more likely to respond positively to a conversation around feelings and experiences, rather than being simply asked to stop interacting with an ex. At first, the conversation might be difficult and make one, or both, of you uneasy. However, this is one of those really important conversations to have, and will likely result in your relationship being strengthened.

No you should not. It may be a way in which your significant other is dealing with the break up at the beginning. Also they might have broke up on good terms and now are friends. If you start to tell them to stop taking to each other your significant other might feel like you do not care about what they need and are trying to control them. This in turn can lead to arguments and issues between the two of you. Which could lead to you breaking up with your significant other just because you are talking to your ex.

Depends. Just make sure not to project your insecurities on to them.

I think it depends on the situation. If your significant others are getting too close or communicating too intensely with his ex, it might be better to ask him if you don't feel comfortable with that. The same thing applies to any other situation that makes you bothered. Try to be as assertive as possible when you talk to your significant other and not be offensive or blame him so he wouldn't get defensive or dismissive when you tell him how you feel about it. Give him a chance to explain the situation from his side. Try to understand his situation and make sure he knows that. But tell him why it concerns you. If he deems your relationship important, he will take your concern into consideration. Don't force him to do it instantly. Give him time. But make sure he's committed to putting you and your relationship first.

If it is something that is bothering you, you should tell him. The key for relationships is communication. Sit down with him and calmly express to him how him talking or associating you to his ex makes you feel. He should be able to understand and to take action about it. Tell him how and why it affects your feelings so he can understand the situation. Do not keep this to yourself, as it is going to still keep bothering you and both partners need to be able to feel comfortable in a relationship. Good luck and take care!

Being assertive is your best choice, being assertive means there is a balance in power in the conversation while also making it go as well as possible. you can do some of this by letting your Significant other know how you are feeling about them talking to their ex. for example, 'I feel angry that you are talking to your ex because I am concerned this will affect our relationship'. by saying this you are being honest (not brutally) and telling your partner how you feel. They are likely to have empathy and are more likely to understand. Good luck!!

You have every right to ask your significant other to limit their interaction with the other person, just out of respect for you. I would not ask them to cut all ties with that person yet because there has been a relationship established between the two over a course of time, which has created a source of bonding. To ask them to completely cut them off might promote resistance create a problem in your relationship. One thing you might try would be to ask your partner when they associate. with this other person that they do it with you as to create a sense of inner peace for you. Explain to them how you feel honestly. I feel that if they truly care they will give you that respect.

Yes you can ask your ex to stop talking to his ex if that makes you feel uncomfortable. We all have different boundaries in relationship and its crucial for both parties to respect each others feelings. It doesn't have to be a negative thing. Communication is very healthy. If you feel that him seeing his ex is a deal breaker, he can make his choice and if he chooses to not respect your feelings maybe you might not even want to be in that relationship anymore and can probably find someone who is better suited for you. I hope you the best :)