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What should I do if people think I am lying?

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Anonymous
April 2nd, 2017 7:27pm
Authenticity is both valued and respected in any relationship. If someone thinks you are lying, stay calm, and in a calm manner ask them why they feel you are lying. Both of you can walk thought the story and provide more details if needed. Sometimes these situations are communication based and being open and having an honest conversation is sometimes difficult but can help build trust.
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Solas
October 26th, 2018 2:09am
Knowing that you are teeling the truth is what you know. Others will decied if they believe you or know. You can only be counted for what you do and knowing that you are not lying will sit better with you. If you are finding it difficult to get someone to believe you, maybe you need to look at how you are telling them, the words you are using and your actions. At the end of the day, sometimes we just need to walk away if it is becoming unhealthy, so what you feel fits you best. Keep your head up and stick to your values
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exquisiteRainbows65
April 18th, 2018 6:47am
It doesn't really matter what people think, you should know that you are being truthful and that what really counts. They can keep their opinion to themselves and I believe truth always find its way to the surface sooner r later.
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courageousMelody48
April 29th, 2018 8:02am
Think about why people perceive you as a liar. They may be right, they may be mistaken. You don't have to over-explain yourself to people who treat you with mistrust
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LotusFlower92
January 12th, 2017 3:59pm
Kindly explain to them how it makes you feel when they think you're lying. For example, "It makes me feel poorly about myself when people think I'm lying, when I'm really telling the truth." Also, explain to them that it would make you feel better if they listen and show compassion. Hope all is well.
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wonderfullEndfoftherainbow27
January 15th, 2017 11:39am
You could communicate what you think and feel but ultimately as long as you know the truth that's all that matters. People are different so you won't be able to convince everyone but if you do the best that you can do in this situation then that is more than enough.
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delicatePoetry
April 13th, 2017 12:01pm
You trying to talk them into believing that you are saying truth would be pretty useless since these people clearly don't trust you. As hard as it might be, I think just ignore them. Just kindly say that you are not lying and then just don't do anything about it. Make it clear that you have said everything that there is to know about this subject. With time maybe, with you actions you will prove them wrong. But don't get too carried away by doing this on purpose. Just let them think whatever they want. You know that you are being an honest person and that is all that matters. Don't let them get to you.
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SmileyBear
April 30th, 2017 7:49am
Just tell them you are being honest and stick to it. Don't alter your story and say it with confidence. If they still believe your lying don't accept what they say about you, just trust yourself, know you're being honest and eventually they should come round.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 5:50pm
If someone thinks you are lying, it is important to remember that you know the truth and all you can do is try to help others see the truth - you can only control your actions and reactions, you cannot control what someone else believes
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blindvision
October 29th, 2021 3:26pm
If people believe you are being dishonest, imagine as to how?? Lying is something everyone does; some small lies can lead to big changes. Sometimes, we consider the best thing to do is lie to spare a loved one's feelings or to stay out of trouble. However, in most cases, the truth is always found. If people assume you are lying, there might be a few reasons why: Have you lied to them before? Are they a distrusting person in general? Do they know a different truth? Has someone else told them you're a liar? A key to remember in all conflict resolutions is: a conflict cannot be resolved unless both parties are willing to resolve it. If they refuse to believe you are telling the truth, there may not be much you can do to immediately change their mind.
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PileOfDirtyLaundry
June 1st, 2018 10:35am
It depends on wether I really am lying or not. If I am lying, I must think carefully of what pushed me to lie and why I let it affect me. If I am not lying, I shouldn’t care so much for what people think because I know eventually the truth will be seen and judgemental people will eventually feel bad for misjudging honest people.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2018 12:51am
It depends on if it's from past experiences with you or possibly just wrong group of friends. If it's from past lies you just keep on proving you have changed. If they cant accept that over time may need new friends
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WoundSoother
June 6th, 2018 11:12pm
If you're talking to someone face to face then use your body language to back you up. People will believe your body language for sure. Be yourself and state what you want to say at your best knowledge and be confident that regardless what people think you should feel comfortable that you only disclosed the truth.
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calmBlanket36
June 21st, 2018 7:20pm
If you’re telling the truth but people don’t believe you, honestly there’s not much you can do besides ignore them! It’s their problem not yours because you did your part, so continue with your life and don’t pay attention to people who think you’re lying :)
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EvaEar
June 24th, 2018 10:41pm
Don’t continue to argue that you’re not lying by getting angry at their distrust, if you’re telling the truth show clam behavior, you have nothing to hide, and if possible provide evidence to your claim. If you still can’t sway your audience, the. Let it be, don’t dwell on it, you can’t change other people’s thoughts!
Anonymous
November 11th, 2018 4:25pm
I think the best course of action if someone thinks I am lying is to first remember that to not take it personal-that will only make you become defensive and make this worse and what I would say is "You have the choice not to believe me but what I am saying I know to be true and I would not steer you wrong." That should be enough to speak your truth and also let the other person know that you have their best interest in mind. At the end of the day that is really the only thing you can do is be honest and true and people can take it or leave it.
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loyalCanine
July 29th, 2017 9:38am
There is nothing you can really do if people think that you are lying. If you attempt to persuade them of the truth without proof you may just harden their opinion. Rather if you are being honest I simply keep calm and take confidence in the knowledge that the truth will be known soon enough or that at least I know I was honest. Even if the truth never comes out I can take pride in my character for doing the right thing.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2017 10:03am
It shouldn't matter what people think, only you know the truth and those who care about you should believe you that you are telling the truth. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2018 3:09am
You can not make people believe in your truth either they are going to accept you or not. All you can do is to be yourself and nothing else. People are going to believe what they want to and it is not worth your effort to try to convince them otherwise. Just keep your head up and keep on living and trying to enjoy your life because when it is all said and done you are only accountable for your actions and nobody else. Life is to short to be allowing other people to control the way you live your life. Just try to be happy regardless of what others think of you
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SoulHealing
August 19th, 2017 9:17pm
Nothing, If you hold the truth you don't need to do anything. Sooner or later they will see your are truthful. Truth and goodness will always win
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ApothecaryNicholas
January 18th, 2019 4:57pm
Honestly there is nothing you can do. More than anything else, it's their perception. If they think you are lying and you are not, it could be what is called "projection". It means they are guilty of lying and their brain is attributing it to you. It's called an 'ego defense'. It's very common and is what happens when people wont admit they are wrong, even to themselves. Other than that, you just need to understand what other people think literally is due to their brain and perception, it has nothing to do with you. So if they think you are lying it is what it is, your going to have to accept it and depending on who it is, may readjust your views on your relationship with this person. Be strong. it's literally, neurologically not you. Because science.
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katherine081902
August 16th, 2019 8:01am
I don't know the specific situation but I think if people think you are lying, self evaluate and ask yourself if you have given them any reason to think you are lying. Examine the situation and see if it is really worth arguing about or anything. If they are your friends, they should trust you unless you have given them a reason not to. If the case is that you have lied in the past and they don't trust your word, then show them through your actions you have changed or are trying to change if that's the case. If not, then there must be something else going on. Some people just don't trust others easily but that doesn't necessarily mean they would think you are lying. Ask them straight up why they think you are lying and if there is actual reasoning or if they just need time to trust you. I am the type of person who just needs time to trust someone and I can tell you from experience, the best thing to do in that case would be to give them time and show them you are trustworthy. I hope this helps. :)
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 5:21am
Try not to care what other people think about you, you're the only one that really matters to yourself. Love yourself
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UntilThen
July 18th, 2018 12:36am
Often, if someone thinks you are lying, it is because they have a truth they prefer already set in their own minds. As frustrating as it can feel, your truth doesn't gain or lose value based on if others believe in it or not. If someone doesn't accept your truth, don't push it. Care for yourself and support those who support you.
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StarrrGirl20
September 16th, 2020 10:22am
You should tell them that you aren't and that they can trust you. Some people have trust issues and we should deal with them according to the situation. Gaining trust of the other person is actually important. If they can't trust you then they won't open up to you the way they actually should. If you actually are lying, then you should just tell them the truth. Tell them that you are trying to help them. If it's a situation where people are just accusing you of lying. Then just let them. Their negative opinion shouldn't matter if you're the real one.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2018 6:40am
To be honest, I do experience it often. I feel pissed off sometimes, but then let go by thinking I have done my job by telling them the truth. Others believing in me or not is completely their problem;-)
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 2:36pm
Let them know they are wrong and causing problems for you for no reason. Also try and get some evidence or other people to back you up
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softNutella25
January 24th, 2018 11:20pm
Ask yourself why they think you're lying. Is there a history of lies? Are they insecure themselves? Maybe try talking it out and explaining how you feel and ask them why they are thinking the way they are. Communication is key.
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RumpleSteeleSkin
July 21st, 2018 9:40pm
Well, people are going to think what they want to think-right. Thing is to not stress yourself over proving everything about you and what you do. Know you are doing right and not lying. Things will get better over time.
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generousRabbit93
August 10th, 2018 5:53am
you dont really have to prove anyone anything but if you want too try to get enough proof you can to prove your point