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Number of ratings239 Number of reviews69 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceMar 28, 2016 Last activeover 6 months ago PathStep 382 People helped443 Chats1,072 Group support chats177 Listener group chats30 Forum posts461 Forum upvotes892
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Hello, I'm Rose. I am a great person to talk to about serious and difficult issues.

I do not have any topics which I am unable to handle or that make me uncomfortable. There is a list of topics I specialize in above the photo.

I always do everything I can to create a non-judgmental and compassionate atmosphere. I will respond immediately to all personal chat requests if I am online, and will talk to you for as long as you need.
    

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I have written many guides on handling difficult topics as well as having put to together an extensive resource guide for you to use. Do not hesitate to message me if you ever find yourself lacking resources. I can also help you become more involved in the listener community.

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Guides on handling difficult topics

I specialize in helping with:

- Abusive situations -

- Drug-related issues - 

- LGBTQ+ Issues including questioning and transgender issues -

- Runaway support -

- Psychosis -

- Self-harm -

- Sex-related issues (Puberty, fetishes, etc) -

- Sexual assault -

- Spirituality -

 

 

 

"The meaning of life is to find your gift and the purpose of life is to give it away" - Unknown

“The problem is not to find the answer, it's to face the answer” - Terence McKenna

“No valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living now.” - Alan Watts

“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” - Carlos Castaneda

I am also able to help with:

- Anxiety - 

- Depression -

- OCD -

- Relationship stress -

Roles

- Intern Buddy

- Internship Graduate

 

*Images by James R Eads

 

Recent forum posts
All about consent
Relationship Stress / by UntilThen
Last post
 May 30th, 2018
...See more Consent is one of those things we al know is super important, but often have trouble having conversations about. This writing is something thats been stashed in my notes for a while and I thought it would be a helpful thing to share here :) Consent is like a traffic light. When they say "Yes", you go. When they say "Maybe" you get ready to stop. When they say "Stop" you stop. Consent is informed, freely and actively given in mutually understandable words or actions which indicate a willingness to participate in mutually agreed upon sexual activity. Consent to one type of sexual activity does not imply consent to any other or all types of sexual activity. A person can withdraw consent at any time. Consent to sexual activity at one time does not imply consent to the same or other sexual activity at any other time. Informed: The person giving consent knows what they are agreeing to. Freely and actively given: Freely given means the person giving consent is not being coerced, and they are not feeling pressured. Actively given means they said yes in some form. An example of not actively given consent would be not saying anything. Mutually understandable words or actions: Meaning it was very clear what was meant when the person gave consent. Remember that if these words/actions are not said/taken freely and actively, they are NOT consent. Words that could express consent: "Yes I would love to", "Yes", "Yes please", "That sounds like fun", "That feels really good", "Keep going". Mutually agreed upon sexual activity: Meaning that you must agree on what you will/wont do. Examples of things that are NOT consent: - Clothing - Erections, or other signs of physical arousal - Flirting - Talking about sex - Having sex with other people - Masturbating - Expressing interest in a particular sexual activity - Having sex, masturbating, or undressing where you can see them - Having some form of protection (Birth control, condoms) - Sending nude photos - Having given consent on a previous occasion - Being in a relationship - Engaging in other sexual acts Times when a person cannot consent: - When they are asleep - When they are intoxicated - If they are underage - When they feel obligated to engage sexually - When they are clearly not thinking straight (this includes things like panic attacks, head injuries, grief, etc.) Ways to ask for consent: "Are you feeling comfortable with where this is going?", "How far do you want this to go?", "Would you like to_____?", "Would it be alright if I _____?", "Do you want me to keep_____?" Consent in long-term sexually active relationships When you are having sex with someone consistently, it can become less common to formally ask if the other person would like to have sex. This can be okay in many healthy relationships, but it is also dangerous, as you run the risk of not knowing when someone isn't having a good time. It is your job as a sexually active person to make sure that your partner(s) is/are comfortable and consenting. When you stop explicitly asking for consent, here are some things to keep in mind: - If the lack of explicit consent in your sex life worries/bothers you, bring it up! It's your right to express your needs and concerns in a relationship. - A "Are you having a good time?", or "does that feel good?", can go a long way. - Pay attention, if they seem uncomfortable at any point, stop and ask. - Don't try anything new without asking. - Remember that consent can be retracted at any time, so if they say stop, stop. - Remember that peoples sexual wants, wills, and wonts, change over time. - It never hurts to have open conversations about sex. Consent and BDSM Consent in BDSM is just like consent in other situations except that saying or doing things which would usually retraction of or refusal to consent, might not actually indicate that they do not want to be having sex. If this is something you participate in, MAKE SURE you have a safe word (a word you wouldn't otherwise say which indicates lack of consent) you can use. Without one, there is no way to tell if you are actually harming the person. If you plan a sexual activity in which the person will unable to speak, you will need to come up with some non-verbal equivalent of a safe word.
Schizophrenia vs Psychosis
Bipolar, Schizophrenia & Psychosis Support / by UntilThen
Last post
 December 26th, 2017
...See more I hear people mixing these things up or just not being sure what they both mean specifically so I figured I'd make the information easily available. Psychosis is what we call the condition that causes one to experience hallucinations, delusions, and detachment from reality. Schizophrenia is a condition which has psychosis as a part of it but also includes symptoms such as... - Thoughts feeling too fast or too slow - Difficulty remembering things - Difficulty organizing thoughts - Confusion - Dissociation - Depression - Paranoia It can be hard to tell if someone has schizophrenia or if they have psychosis and comorbid disorders that cause some of the other symptoms. Only a professinal can tell for sure
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