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Anonymous
November 18th, 2020 9:23am
People with ADHD have trouble focusing, and paying attention. They may have shorter memory and lose things often aswell, and sometimes they can be disorganized. Some people with ADHD may have trouble controlling anger, or just emotions in general, and some people may have impulsiveness. They may get bored more easily and crave attention more aswell. A lot of people with ADHD will have problems at school or work, and may preform lower aswell. Sometimes they may also have trouble socializing and bulding friendships too. They may have a harder time battling addiction, and might have a low tolerance for frustration.
As someone who wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until they were 19, I didn’t realize that the way I thought or the path that lead me to thoughts/actions were different than everyone else. In school, I was chastised for being lazy when I couldn’t retain the information that I read in textbooks. I would get frustrated and experience a lot of anxiety because I could read a test question 30 times and still not understand what it was asking, because My brain would shift somewhere else faster than my eyes could move. I would have questions that would pop into my head that I related to the subject at hand even though others didn’t. If I didn’t have my questions answered right then, I would not be able to continue with a lesson because I would zone out and miss a large part of the lecture which would then confuse me when I got to homework and/or the next lesson. I have a hard time comprehending one-on-one conversations in higher stress situations, like job interviews, professional appointments, medical visits, etc. As a kid, I would get in trouble for not listening, but I didn’t know what I was told in the first place. While I was experiencing all of these things, I shamed myself a lot because I thought that I was the issue. I thought that I was not handling myself well and that it was my fault that I was doing these things and having these feelings. Not only did I not recognize these issues in myself, but my teachers, my parents, and other people in my life thought that what they were observing, (my actions and reactions because of these experiences), were character flaws and lack of intelligence and/or ambition. This inhibited my ability to connect with teachers, peers, and others. It also fueled my development of depression, anxiety, and eating disorders. I have now learned to give myself a little bit of grace and explain my situation to those who notice my differences. I have found that once people understand what is happening, they are a lot more patient and accepting. People with ADHD are not stupid, they are not a nuisance, they are not insensitive or lazy. Most of the time, they don’t realize that people don’t think the same way that they do. My way of thinking is different and can be annoying sometimes, but I wouldn’t want my brain to work any differently.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2021 3:25pm
I'll make it short
We tend to overthink a lot , we over process things inside our heads. Which makes people think that were slow or lazy but we're over working our heads over things. The outcome can be good because we think it over a lot and also can be a bad outcome because we're too slow to make a decision because of overthinking. We rarely get bored, we're very imaginative. We could be good writers they say but can be stubbornly lazy to write . We love to think a lot. We suffers from insomnia. We often get annoyed because we can't concentrate on things that we need to do
You allways feel like your mind is on a racing track but your body is bounded to your place, and the disonans colides and makes you act impulsively, to be unconcentraited and to forget things or float away, even while engaged in an activity,
ADHD people, they can't focus correctly, they might seem always hyper. The fidget or twitch alot and they might stutter because of it.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2016 3:07pm
They struggle with hyperactivity, nor being able to focus, sometimes they can be quote disobedient and difficult to handle. But they are diffrent for every person
Struggle concentrating and focusing. Being hyperactive to where they cannot focus and jump from one thing to another.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2016 6:56pm
ADHD makes it hard to keep your attention on a task, so spending time behind the wheel of a car can be hard. ADHD symptoms can make some people more likely to speed, have traffic accidents, and lose their driver’s licenses.
While many children with ADHD are “hyperactive,†this ADHD symptom often appears differently in adults. Rather than bouncing off the walls, adults with ADHD are more likely to be restless or find they can’t relax. If you have adult ADHD, others might describe you as edgy or tense.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 6:10pm
A busy mind and body. Very active and hard to still still. Always moving and challenged by focusing on one thing at a time. Easily distracted.
As a person with ADHD it is hard to stay focused and when you are medicated there are the downfalls of them changing your mood, sex drive and ability to eat in a way that would be considered a healthy amount.
People with ADHD have a hard time focusing, paying attention, or doing things for an extended amount of time.
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 6:49pm
It is different for everyone. Personally, I find it very hard to concentrate for any length of time. I also find it very hard to sit still and not fidget with everything around me.
Being understood. Having problems focusing. Sometimes hard to have patience. Being misunderstood. Having troubles communicating with others.
You have very loud thoughts. Those thoughts can be of what you're gonna do next or what you're gonna do when you get home or what you are gonna say next. You non-stop move and when you do this it doesn't feel right in your head and body.
Anonymous
October 20th, 2016 2:25am
It can get really frustrating when you cant get any focus or concentration on your work that way it takes way longer than normal. I also have a very hard time falling asleep.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2016 12:17pm
Being able to stay on track and can't keep a thought for more then 2 seconds. Because I was a kid who struggled with ADHD
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 10:03pm
Focusing on homework, reading , writing. Undertaking projects. And working in a job or in line. Really hard.
They struggle with hard learning AKA Slow learning they can not focus on school work or mostly anything they can not stay seated in there seats for a long periods of time they can talk alot and talk alot to there self they cannot stay organized and can be messy and they are hard listeners they do not listen to people well and they dont care about alot of things in life they have a hard time starting something and not finishing it or they will not do something untill the last minute they will do it they have bad anger issues they will get mad and throw things/break things/yell loud over little things that happen around them or to them and it affects there life alot and can lead to serious health issues in the future
In the end, the finer details that people with ADHD face will be personal to the individual. In general ADHD is defined issues are listed as "problems concentrating, impulsive behaviour, very active behaviour, etc...". Yes it is an attention disorder and people who have ADHD might act hyperactive but this is due to a chemical imbalance. People with ADHD need to receive more impulses to get to a state of satisfaction and that explains the hyperactivity. Sitting still for a person with ADHD feels a bit like being locked up for people who do not have ADHD. The good news is that there are working treatments (both therapeutic, medicinal or combined) and it usually diminishes with age it still can create struggles. On a social level it can be difficult to maintain friendships and relationships. At work and school (environment that can really limit neurological impulses) it can be really difficult for people with ADHD to maintain a steady level of achievement. A course that interest them and gives them the impulses they need may allow them to get amazing results while another subject that bore them might be the reason they abandon the road towards getting a degree. One of my best friends has ADHD and I have the outmost respect for him, he only got diagnosed at age 24 after he left college without a degree and while he is a very friendly guy he had difficulty maintaining relationships. While he is successful in general he tells me (and I truly believe him) that not getting diagnosed and treated at a younger age affected his life as a whole. Getting a proper diagnose (the sooner the better) and the right treatment while at the same time accepting a long term psycholical issue is a hard pill to swallow.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 11:01pm
Some struggles people with ADHD have are sitting still, constantly fidgeting, have a hard time paying attention. They have a constant need to move around.
ADHD symptoms include limited attention span, and hyperactivity. Some individuals have trouble with focusing, concentrating, and remaining still for long periods of time.
One of the many struggles that people with ADHD face is other people not understanding the condition. This could be anyone. They will take one look at the person with ADHD, and instead of understanding that that person can't help what they are doing, that person will treat them like they are stupid and disrespectful, when they are the complete opposite.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2017 12:31am
People struggles with concentration. They get distracted easily. They tend to forget things, ( like appointments, keys etc..) They overthink constantly and they're always on the move. They have so many ideas in their mind that they don't know which one to take first so they change their mind. They can be misunderstood often too.
ADD (ADHD) may affect all aspects of life for many adults, typically leading to significant problems in daily functioning. Adults with ADD (ADHD) often struggle with issues such as:
Poor time management and chronic lateness
Disorganization
Difficulty with planning and prioritizing
Difficulty with paperwork and record-keeping
Forgetfulness
Inconsistency
Impulsive decision-making
All of these patterns can contribute to many daily difficulties that combine to create a chronic high stress level for many adults with ADD (ADHD).
Other problems associated with ADD (ADHD)
In addition to problems in daily life management, there are many more serious risks that have been associated with ADD (ADHD), including:
Substance Abuse
Divorce
Child Abuse
Family Conflicts
Under-employment/unemployment
Smoking
Obesity/Eating Disorders
Poor Driving Record
Unplanned pregnancy
Sexually transmitted diseases
Other psychiatric conditions
Sleep disorders
Learning disabilities
ADHD Stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder... and can have a range of problems. Sometimes it's as simple as not being able to concentrate on boring things for any length of time... and other times they can have behavioral difficulties, which can make them feel like outcasts.
Growing up with undiagnosed ADHD I never thought that I had the freedom to do or be whomever I wanted because I struggled to perform well in school. I struggled to concentrate in class. I struggled to read and to make/keep friends. I felt like I was in a prison.
With ADHD some days you might feel jubilant, hyper, and silly, then others you feel scatterbrained, slow, and demotivated.
My boyfriend has ADHD. he sometimes has difficulties speaking about it because he is worried people see it as an 'excuse' (for things like bad time-management and bad impulse control), they feel misunderstood and have a strong desire to be accepted and loved for who they are.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2017 11:09am
Those with ADHD face problems focusing on tasks, but also comments such as "don't you have common sense?" Or "Can't you just sit still for a couple seconds?!" It's very frustrating for people to make you out to be this uncontrollable human being, and shame you for something you only have limited control over. Especially when the alternative of being yourself, is getting upset and shutting down so that you can finally be "normal". It is especially frustrating when people refer their behavior to being on drugs, as it is difficult to explain to someone ADHD when they either won't listen, or don't accept having ADHD as a viable answer, given how common and even so, misunderstood as a result.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2017 8:05pm
I have ADHD myself, I mostly struggle with focusing and learning. I often lose attention by playing with my hair or pencil. That is one of the things the struggle, is paying attention.
different people with adhd face different combinations and permutations of the standard symptoms all to varying degrees at various situations . id suggest you google adhd symptoms and then ask whoever in your life has adhd how they feel about each of them ......
answer based on the assumption that the questioner wants to know how someone else feels
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