First time sex
Is it ok to have pain when doing intercourse for first time?
Is it ok to not aroused even though doing foreplay.
married 2 weeks ago and still a virgin
@lavenderZebra7651
yes friend it's definitely ok and normal to not feel aroused during foreplay ... or to experience pain during intercourse... different things work for different people so you can always talk to your partner about what you like and not ... comfort levels etc
you also don't need to do anything you're not comfy with or want to <3
maybe get to know your partner more first and develop more comfort and intimate understanding
I didn't do intercourse yet. because when he try to enter I feel pain and I stop doing it. I want to overcome that. and go to next step. everyday I stop when he try to enter
@lavenderZebra7651
I should start by saying, everything is absolutely 'okay'. If it's what you're feeling, then it is valid, and you should not be worried about whether you're doing things right or wrong. That said, if you're asking whether it is normal, I'll provide a few thoughts here:
As others have mentioned, some pain on the first time can be normal, but generally should not be unbearable—and if it continues, that might be a different issue.
Additionally, while it's perfectly okay for you not to be aroused (even during foreplay), that does likely mean there might not be sufficient lubrication there to help you—which also be part of the fault of your partner, if they're not helping you feel sufficiently comfortable and pleasured enough to be in the right headspace to enjoy the experience—because you should also be enjoying yourself, as well!
If none of this helps to improve the experience, it might be worth considering a professional (such as a sexual health counselor, therapist, etc.) who can help guide you with more specific actions?
@Ashen4
I tried with my finger. but still paining. so I decided to meet a doctor
@lavenderZebra7651
It's awesome that you're taking that step to take care of yourself, and hope that everything goes well with the doctor :) Wishing you the best as you continue on your journey!