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Hello! Just hoping to help some other people out in times of need ( ＾∀＾)

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Creativity as a Skill
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by Ashen4
Last post
 September 11th
...See more For my second post, I want to talk about creativity. When I was growing up, creativity was usually relegated to the realm of fine art (e.g. writers, painters, sculptors), and it was also often associated with talent. That is, people usually talked about creativity like a trait rather than a skill—it was either something you had or you didn't. Contrary to that kind of mindset, I really appreciated the way that the IDG growth path highlighted the effort that should be placed into nurturing creativity as a skill: as they note, it's important that we make "dedicated time for brainstorming and idea generation," while also using "mindfulness techniques to clear your mind and encourage fresh, creative thinking." Instead of being something that we just have or don't have, which places it out of our control, the IDG path highlights the actual changes we can make to improve our ability to generate new, innovative ideas. Personally, I started setting aside dedicated time with fellow friends who were also struggling with creative burnout so that both of us could ideate independently, and then we discussed the ideas we had. Doing this gave me far more concrete ideas to work with rather than relying on "inspiration," which can be fleeting, as an excuse. Of course, I welcome inspiration at all times, but that shouldn't be an excuse not to continue trying to work hard to generate new ideas! For everyone else in the IDG community, what changes do you want to make (or what changes have you already made) in your life to help you practice and promote creativity? I'd love to hear from everyone!
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Self Awareness — Who is the Self?
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by Ashen4
Last post
 September 8th
...See more For my first post, I want to focus on the IDG course skill of self-awareness, part of the “Being” Dimension of the IDGs. Even prior to taking the IDG growth path, there is a general cultural understanding that it's important for us to remain humble, and not become too arrogant of our own skills. Like in the case of the well-documented Dunning–Kruger effect, which points out that many people with comparatively low levels of ability at a given skill were likely to rate themselves highly precisely because they lacked the skill necessary to accurately judge their own talent, which is often used as a warning to remind us how we are often poor at viewing ourselves objectively.  However, the growth path emphasizes having a realistic self-image not only in our weaknesses but also in our strengths, which made me realize that it's equally unhealthy for us to ignore or downplay the skills we're good at. Often that's considered a virtue, and within reason remaining humble is good, but I know in my own life it sometimes gets to the degree that I genuinely forget my own strengths, and keeping the realistic self-image part of self-awareness in mind helps me remember all of my strengths, too, because that's also a critical part of maintaining a healthy self-awareness. So, for everyone in the community, I have two questions/prompts that I'd love to hear your opinions on: 1. Have you ever had any kind of "aha" moment where you realized something new about yourself/something that changed your opinion about yourself? What was that like? 2. What kinds of questions do you ask yourself to try and maintain a more realistic, more objective awareness of self? 
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