@hunterjam
Welcome to you , and welcome to parenting a teen. Your reaction to a teenager at that age, autism or not - is like every other teen I've ever known. They just do that. I had a truly terrible time with mine until after high school. I complained to a counselor and in tears of frustration, and asked what next? He said kindly " they grow up" . It didn't help then, but now, I know - he was right and she is an accomplished young woman now. Don't give up, say your sorry when you need to, and most of all keep loving. It will turn out fine.