Hope is that glimmer of light inside of a dark night
So starting fresh, emotions not where i want to be, still not anywhere near where I want to be at the moment, but I kinda miss having a safe place to rant and put my poetry up and even make silly posts. Doubt there will be silly posts anytime soon, but I hope in time. As my title says Hope is that glimmer of light inside of a dark night, that is what I've been trying hard to hold onto, that small glimmer of hope to get me through this, its been difficult, well more than difficult, I have struggled immensely to comprehend anything right now, struggling how I managed to get myself into this situation again. I have been so appreciative of the support I have had during this time. I am in no way near even being anywhere close to where I was just a week and a bit ago, I was so ready to end the chapter of my life where I get hurt, get my power taken away and lose my voice. But in a way I have been heard this time, there are those still taking my choices from me, like not being able to work right now, as frustrated as it makes me feel, as I am feeling and told I am in wrong well not in so many words but still, being told there is a risk if I return to work at this time. Not helpful. Hmm enough ranting about that. There is still physical pain to contend with on top of the emotional pain but somehow I am making it through. My sleep is better but worse if that makes sense, I am sleeping so much the past week but also its not good sleep. My PTSD has been at its height while awake, hypervigilance, flashbacks, irritability, the whole shebang as well as I think my depression is the worse its been in a long time, bad bad thoughts, but I keep on keeping on. Im holding onto the support and care I have recieved this time around. I'll start this new diary off with a poem, the same poem I posted in my feed, its not in anyway good or looking for light, but its a poem reflective of how I feel. I am going to try to stress less about being positive or healing quickly in this new thread. I need to take it one day at a time, well 1 second at a time at the moment, but I am still trying, I am still here so that counts I think. Can't remember what I called this poem?
Broken and vulnerable again,
Old known hurt and pain
New wounds on parts of my soul
A chill in my body from the cold and rain
That night replaying like a horror show
My voice and screams, an unheard no!
A shutting down to protect in ways
A deep upset and broken shame
A fight now taken from my heart
Another fear now of the dark
A chance taken on becoming normal
A stupid decision thats left me vulnerable
A fight I never had the chance to win
And being told it was my sin
So many bruises and cuts to heal
Too many emotions I can feel
A week now has almost passed,
I dont know how I managed to last,
Feels like im barely surviving,
While I randomly begin crying
A bad friend to those who care
A wanting to be able to share,
Scared of seeing others agree
With the thoughts I have of me
I will end this on the hope that one day and hopefully soon, that hope that I hold in my heart for things to be better, for things to stop being this bad, for just a tiny little break from all the bad.. I hope one day this will no longer just be a far fetched idea for myself but something I am able to live and feel the freedom of no longer being harmed or silenced.
Sitting here thinking what is it I really want or need right now, and the only thing I can think of whilst I struggle through this is I wish that I had a mum I could turn to for comfort and support. I wish I had a mum who would hold my hand, give me a hug and tell me it will be alright. I wish something like this would make my mum want to protect me, however I know logically that she wouldn't, that she would confirm the thoughts in my head of it being my fault, she would remind me time and again that I asked for amd deserved this, which I didn't I don't think? I hate that I feel like a broken child who just wants a mum to love me and protect me right now, I've never wanted that before.. too many wishes that won't come true right now, I feel my heart breaking and my want being crumbled. Because I can't ever find that comfort in family that I kinda need right now. I have my friends here who mean so much to me, but right now as I sit broken I just wish I could have the comfort that I've never had before when things turn bad 😢
Hey Calm 😊 congratulations to your new diary, it's nice here, glittery 😊 would you like to keep it your private safe place or would you like us to comment? Both options are perfectly ok for me, we have more places to communicate 😁 just checking...
@courteousNorth5140
You wrote glimmer, I read glitter 😂 I'm a bit glittery I guess, sorry
@courteousNorth5140
Welcome to comment, 😊 yeah the fairy lights I have make it seem glittery in the dark lol..
@calmLake1999
*stumbles in and throws some glitter* yepp, like it here 😊
Letter to little me, I had started writing this a while ago, but struggled with accepting what I wrote however after this new situation, I can finally write this to 7 year old me, Its probs heaps scattered but I can see that little 7 year old me was so freaking strong and courageous even if I didnt believe it at the time.. I am struggling as an adult to cope with the after effects of something little me had to deal with on a daily basis, so if that isnt strength I dont know what is.. Onto finally learning forgiveness for me.
Dear little me,
First I need to say that I am so proud of you, I know you dont feel it now but you are strong, you are brave, you are courageous. None of what happened is your fault at all. You did the best you could in an environment that all the odds were against you. We are in for one hell of a ride, emotionally, physically and psychologically. I know you believe there is something wrong with you, but I promise there isnt, you are a kind, caring and loving little girl who is beating the odds. As an adult I can say and see this now, after our last hurdle which isnt little by any means, but has given me the perspective to finally let go of the blame I had for myself and little you. I am sorry I blamed us for so long, but intellectually I think we know very deep down that no it isnt our fault. I offer you the forgiveness that Ive refused for so long, I cant look in my heart and blame a 7 year old for speaking out, you did the right thing, you sought help when you needed it. I truly believe the fire inside of you burns far more brighter than the fire on the outside. There is no reasoning for the bad things that happen, but they have kept that passion burning inside of you. A little girl should never be put in the place to parent and protect her little sisters while dealing with abuse, and yes thats what it is sweetie, its abuse, it isnt normal, its not what the world accepts and we shouldnt accept that. If I as an adult could go back and save little you, I would. But alas that isnt the way the world works so instead I will keep the promises you made for us. We will be free, I wont let our voice be suppressed anymore. I love you even though there isnt anyone at the moment in your life who does, I am proud of you for doing the best you can. There is so much strength in protecting others when you could instead protect yourself, and that is something that makes you unique and precious to this world, and someone who should be very loved and cared for. And it will happen sweetie, I promise. It might not happen straight away but it will, I have already found us some people who really genuinely care for us and as scary as that thought is, its something little you deserves more than anything in this world. I will end this letter to little me with a reminder that you did nothing wrong, you are an amazing little girl with so much potential, I am proud of you for seeing the world through your own kind, caring eyes instead of through the way you were brought up, and taught to believe, that is a unique strength in itself. I love you even though it doesnt feel like we are lovable, I will keep the promises little you made. I wish I could offer you a protective hug and protect you from the bad and evil things, I forgive us for believing that we are at fault, for believing the bad things and for not being stronger. I let go of the blame that we have held for so long. I love you and will always protect you, I will keep that fighter spirit we have and continue to remain kind and caring. You will make it through this sweetie, and you will come out of this a beautiful, kind, protective human.
So much love, forever and always..
Adult Calm
Calm, that's such a wonderful and strong letter and I think you wrote down some really important things... Forgiving ourselves, our little selves, that's definitely sth we all have to do, realizing it wasn't our fault, neither as children nor as adults... I know how hurtful it is, to go back in time and hold your little you in your arms for a moment, we tend to push the memory away, try to ignore it as long as possible, but it is impossible in the long run, we have to make peace with our little selves, stop blaming ourselves for decisions we were forced to make as children, for things just happened to us cause we didn't have any control over it... We should have been protected, but for whatever reason, we haven't been and that's just not our fault...
I'm here Calm and I hear you *hugs* 💕💖
I've lost the spirit to be adventurous, I can't find that calm or peace I normally find on my cliffs and it kills me, I know it's still too soon to be thinking that I can get back to some sort of medium in my life, but it's crushing to know my self soothing techniques offer me nothing but despondance and sadness. I'm searching hard very hard for that strength that I know is buried inside, but I feel disheartened when I can't find it. Is there an answer to working through this that I've missed. Am I missing something important I had as a kid? Maybe I'm just disheartened because no matter how hard I fight I seem to fall back into this vicious cycle.. maybe being around people and trying to attempt some sort of normalcy isn't achievable for me. I know my spirit and Fire is lost at the moment. I dont have my typical willpower to get up and put the facade on. I'm showing my vulnerabilities to new unknown people, I don't think I can even muster the energy to try and pretend to be ok.. I've hidden and flighted from the support im being offered, and its something I'm pondering if I even deserve. I don't want to be a victim in my life anymore, I have a fighter spirit, I sense it but I can't find the fighter spirit at the moment. I'm lost and don't know how to find me. The only thing I seem to be able to do is sleep, Hide in my bed and just withdraw from people. I've been brave though in continuing to speak even when all I want to do is be silent, silent is what I'm used to doing but I'm breaking the rules by not, but I am not doing it for myself and what happened is a crime, so I speak, I listen and I try to do what those trying to help me want. I've been daily speaking to therapists to try and find me, and for once I'm actually honest when they ask how are you? My answer is I don't know or not okay.. ironic I never thought I'd ever be able to be honest with my feelings normal go to response is I'm okay or I'm fine or yep I'm alright, but I am not hiding my feelings, I have no energy to put the facade up. I don't have the energy to keep the walls up right now. I still not sure how to call first though. Being told to call when I need support but yeah no that's an impossibility for me, so I lie in bed struggling til they call me. I try to push myself a little each day but it is so overwhelmingly exhausting, every thing I do at this moment is exhausting...
@calmLake1999
Calm 💕💖 probably I shouldn't say I know how you feel, cause everybody is different, everybody feels different, so I'll tell you I understand how you feel... I am struggling with similar things, feeling like my life how it was has been taken away from me, like I lost a part of myself... And I understand how hard it is to accept the support you are offered... I've been thinking and over-thinking a lot lately, I've been pushing people away and then cried about being alone... And I think I just realized that I have to accept that there is help for me, that people who are telling me they are there, they really want to be there, cause either it is their job or they just care for me, for whatever reason... It doesn't matter how I'm seeing myself as unlovable, as I don't deserve it, they think I am lovable and I do deserve it and I care for those people, so they somehow have the right to be there for me... Don't know if that makes sense, my mind feels a bit like it's waking up atm, like there was this huge ball of wool and slowly it's unraveling... I don't have any solutions, neither for myself nor for you, all I have to offer is my hand, I'll be here, I'm trying my best to be your friend 💕💖
@courteousNorth5140
💖 I'll take your hand and it makes sense North, I just gah I didn't think id be here again and I don't know how I coped with this when I was younger, the younger me had a heck of a lot more strength than I do.. I'm sorry I keep flighting I appreciate you so much being my friend I just needed to take a break for me, not sure if you seen the post I put up about self caring... Though not sure if I self cared, but I did what was needed... Love ya North 💖💖
@calmLake1999
no apologies needed Calm, I totally understand that you need breaks sometimes, so don‘t worry about that.... and I actually thought a lot about the same thing the last days, why is what happened to me as an adult worse than what happened to me as a child, even if objectively it wasn‘t worse... why does it seem we handled it better as children... I think a reason is cause as children this was just our reality, we didn‘t knew anything else, we didn‘t have any other options, we had to cope, there wasn‘t even the option of giving up... and now it‘s like there are a billion options, therapies, no therapy, talking not talking, giving up not giving up, working on ourselves or not, accepting it, crying about it, fighting, flighting... those are all decisions, perhap unconscious decisions, but still, we have to make them every day... that‘s why it seems to be more difficult imo....
I‘m glad you‘re back Calm *hugs*
A break from the heavy... Here is some sketching/art I've been doing..
Almost finished just gotta find the motivation to finish that last cotner...
@calmLake1999
I love your drawing Calm, and I love the little arts chaos around the drawing on the second pic 😊
Hm, I tend to read too much into things, but I'm a huge fan of symbols and the bridge is a great symbol 😊
@courteousNorth5140
😊 I'm a bit chaos like when I get into my art, chaotic like my life haha that wasn't meant to be dark but hmmm.. the bridge could be symbolic, I didn't even think of that..
@calmLake1999
Oh well, the world is full of symbols, you're probably drawing symbols all the time, that's what art is about... the bridge is a positive symbol, actually I read an interesting paper about it, so yeah, I'm looking for symbols in everything 😊
@calmLake1999
😂😂 Sorry, but I had to zoom and see what book you are reading 😂 Flowers in the Attic, I loved the whole series, I read them a billion times...
@courteousNorth5140
Lol that's from when I was packing haha I didn't pack everything, found it randomly in my uni stuff hehe.. not actually reading it at this stage but was one of the books I read when I was younger
@calmLake1999
Yeah, I read it at about 14 or 16, actually was one of the books I learned German with, read it in English first and then the German version with dictionary and the English version 😂 it's such an overly turgid and dramatic book, but I loved it...
@courteousNorth5140
U can read German? That is awesome!
@calmLake1999
Yeah, that's the only language I'm fluent in, well, I would say except English, but my German grammar is probably even better 😂 living with a German for over 16 years, so he taught me...
@calmLake1999
this is exactly what i needed to see today. so very tranquil!
All the progress I had made, all the steps to keep myself safe, all those little things I'd put in place to try and heal and now I just feel like they were all extremely insignificant. I am ashamed that I let this happen to me, I am ashamed that this has me feeling like I am back to where I started from, I am ashamed that in moments of crying all I want is mum to hug me. I don't even like touch so I don't know why I even want to be hugged. I am ashamed to at myself because I do feel like I made things worse, if maybe I hadn't spoke up in the first place this wouldn't have happened. I am kinda angry too because when I use my voice I feel like it doesn't get heard. And idk why that is, am I too soft spoken, am I someone who doesn't deserve to be heard, am I someone who is just there to be used and hurt by others.. this leads to the whys the many freaking whys in my head, why does this keep happening to me? Gah that makes me feel like a whiny teenager, but it's just, it's so frustrating, I honestly feel like this year it has been one thing after the other and gosh I feel like I have tried so damn hard to keep fighting and now really right now in this moment of writing this I feel like why do I keep trying? Why am I fighting against these things? Why don't I deserve better than this? Why should I keep trying? I just want to sleep for ever and maybe wake when all the bad stops happening. I've found myself to be dissociating and resorting to really bad coping mechanisms again too and not that I really am angry at myself for doing this because honestly that one coping mechanism is what keeps me going even though I know it's bad, it is keeping me going from one moment to the next. I admitted this in therapy the other day that I feel like I turn to this coping mechanism not only just to ground but also to self punish, because I feel like maybe I need to be punished if only I had listened to my instincts that night I'd be pushing forward with the hope that had started to bloom in my stomach, despite how difficult the week had got, I'd finally found my peace and then I went against my instincts and made things worse for myself. Well ok he took that choice from me but I still i hold some of the blame there. I'm so angry at him too. I'm angry that he wouldn't stop. I'm angry that I meant nothing but being an easy target and that when I did fight he just hurt me worse. I never fought before in my life but I fought and things got worse and I'm angry at that, angry at my no not being enough! And I'm angry because id started to believe that if I say no it would be enough. I'm angry that I had believed that no one has the right to hurt me or take things from me anymore. I'm angry because this is my body and people think they have the right to hurt it. I just idk what I feel or how to cope... I'm trying to do all the right things, talk to people who need me to, be brave and go to therapy, keep holding on when I want to give up... I just im so exhausted and its too much to face the world atm... .
And continuing this, well I started writing, stopped, took a breath, let myself feel the anger and thought is it directed correctly? As long as I find a way not to direct that anger internally than maybe I will find a way through this. I am far too tough on myself, at this point in time I am my own worst enemy, I blame myself for things that aren't my blame to carry. I get angry at myself for the choices of others... And why do I do this? Well tbh I don't really know, I've never really been an angry or hateful person, I find myself even caring about those who I probably shouldn't and it is my downfall. Reading this over I realise I need to find self love and self compassion, because I sure as hell wouldn't blame anyone else in my situation, but Idk how to and idk where to start. I got told I need to be my own best friend but how?. I see myself as unlovable and deserving of bad things, I blame myself for going against instinct and having choices taken away from me, but I am still surviving, as much as it hurts, as much as I want to give up this battle altogether, I am surviving the best way I know how.. I still want and long for a better life, I want to be free, I want to help others, I want to be a part of making this world a little less scary for some people, but I can't do any of this if I don't learn to love myself.
@calmLake1999
very well done, Calm 😊 taking a break and analyzing your own feelings, that's a good move... about bad coping mechanisms and being your own best friend, I'd like to tell you how I'm trying to handle that, cause I often have the urge of falling back into old schemes and then I'm always thinking of my little one, what would I want him to do, what wouldn't I want him to do... So, what I don't want him to do, I shouldn't do myself... I'm glad you're discussing those coping mechanisms with your therapist, that's definitely what you should do...
I'm still here, just holding your hand, one hand, having a coffee in the other hand 😊☕ love ya Calm 💕💖
@courteousNorth5140
I'm trying to learn to catch my thoughts when they spiral a trick my new therapist is teaching me as I'm still stuck in crisis mode and my thoughts spiral too often, so I need to challenge them before they get too far... It's ok I need 1 hand as well lol I got my hot chocolate now with whipped cream 😊 love ya 2 North!💖
@calmLake1999
That's definitely a good trick your therapist is teaching you 😊 and yay! on hot chocolate and whipped cream 😁😘
@courteousNorth5140
I still don't catch them in time sometimes I'd why I spiralled a bit this arvo and kinda had a meltdown where I literally couldn't stop crying but I am trying not to be too hard on myself, and trying to remember what happened isn't my fault.. I can't rationalise what happened because it's wrong and a crime and hurt me and I would never ever do that to someone,,. Hmm sorry I get abit cranky and start ranting about it..
On another note the hot chocolate is perfect it is sooooo cold tonight needing 3 doonas to keep warm lol
@calmLake1999
Naah, rant all you want Calm, if you need to get it out then just do it and you didn't say anything wrong, it wasn't your fault, it was a crime, you got hurt and there isn't a rational explanation for it... There's nothing wring with stating that again and again....
Oh and here summer is close 😁 having around 23 C today....
@courteousNorth5140
23
@calmLake1999
😂😂😂😂😂 You're talking to a shiny pale Brit here 😂 5
@courteousNorth5140
Hehehe yeah probably would, our hottest day here this past summer hit in the 40s I think I don't remember I just remember being really really hot lol
@calmLake1999
Absolutely can't imagine what that feels like 😂
@courteousNorth5140
It feels like you will never get the chance to cool down ever again lol not that bad kinda used to it but swear the summers keep getting hotter... I've always loved Winter so prefer to be cold well idk right now but usually 😊
@calmLake1999
Well, I feel like that right now too, so how can it even get worse? 😂
Back to work for me 😕 take care Calm... Love ya 💕💖
Although it may not seem like it, you are making progress! Depression has its ups and downs, and right now I have to say I am once again at the point where I am numb. Have you tried EMDR yet? I've heard that it is revolutionary at treating PTSD. Also I think your posts are beautiful, calmlake!
You've got this!
Your new friend (maybe),
MoosePotato123
Hope is like stars in the night sky...
@Moosepotato123
EMDR is a good therapy technique, but not for everybody, there are some contra-indications... You always should trust your therapist about choosing or not choosing the right therapy...
@courteousNorth5140 true
I think my depression has hit rock bottom, every single thing I do is completely exhausting. I know I'm not sleeping properly, sleeping in a light sleep but I'm still sleeping more than I have in my life. Every little thing I do ends in a wave of exhaustion and lethargy, something as simple as making myself a coffee in the morning has me exhausted. I've even had to put my studies on hold because my brain is unable to absorb anything at this moment. I kinda feel like I've failed at life, this is my failure. The inability to continue study at this time, unable or not allowed to work, I can't even go on a road trip without being exhausted and frightened. I had been so self reliant, so independent and adventurous/spontaneous but I can't find that spirit at the moment. I did go on the road trip today, the plan to self soothe which has ended with me coming home and going back to bed, not what my therapist was hoping for I guess, but I couldn't find the peace. I couldn't get out if my car and go for a hike which I normally love. Maybe my thoughts are spiralling again. But I'm so disheartened that I couldn't use my normal big self soothing technique to pull me out of this slump. I've also been unable to write poetry which is my go to for sorting emotions/experiences. I feel like I can't find the words. One thing I did sort of come to realisation of was that I think my inner boundaries had started to be put in place. I mean that night I fought, I said no, I tried being assertive and I tried to get myself out of the situation even though it backfired. So I must be learning things even when I don't think I am. I think my boundaries are there just kind of hidden at the moment. It's no longer a wall to keep everyone out which it used to be, it's more like a door. I've been letting the new therapists see the emotions and fear, I've been more open with my regular psychologist but keeping at bay those who are trying to push me to tell them what happened, which is happening. I've had people who never really took the time to know me (in off screen life) asking about what's happened, why I'm off work and more questions I'm uncomfortable with.. but despite that I'm keeping a wall up explaining that I'm not comfortable talking about it and I'm unable to at this time. I find myself contemplating more often, contemplating how I can go about being strong enough to fight back should this happen again, that night showed that I really am not strong enough to fight and I couldnt flee the situation either which has me thinking how do I try to prevent this from happening again. I mean I did everything the way I should have to get myself away from bad things happening but it's so disheartening and devastating that no matter how much I used my voice, how assertive I was, how much I fought. I still ended in a really bad situation that has taken from me. It has taken my voice, when I have to speak with those I need to, I.e. therapists and police and such I do. But I don't speak otherwise, I've become extremely silent again. Quiet to the point that I barely make a sound, if I have t.v. on its barely loud enough to hear, and listening to music I put headphones in... I don't even know why I'm being this quiet again. I'm skittish of everything as well, noises outside day or night freak me out, my pup Barking sets me into full panic attack and hiding under my doonas. Kind of even made a blanket/pillow fort at home that I hide in. It feels semi safe but it's only place I feel safe... Ok rambling and spiralling again.. might try some sketching again for some self soothing
Oh and just realised that I'll be another year older in 2 days and I've reverted in ways back to the way I coped when I was a child/teen.. damn it, I was hoping to not revert again, I know I do it on occasion but I think I reverted so much because adult me doesn't know how to cope with this, adult me doesn't know how to find healthier coping methods.. I think that's where the silence is from, the silence was the rules when it came to this sort of situation, so that's what I'm doing, in ways I'm breaking other rules. Like the speaking out, talking with psychologist and therapists and police.. maybe reverting is my way of trying to keep some sort of control over something, well the silence and eating but the eating thing is more that I physically can't... Ok I officially cancel turning older, can I do that? Ha no I really can't but I'll pretend it doesn't exist, meh that used to happen all time anyways so doesn't matter if it doesn't now.. too many thoughts and thinking so I need to attempt some self soothing somehow 😢
@calmLake1999
I hear you Calm and I'm here with you 💕💖 hope the self soothing worked a bit.... Oh and you built a blanket fort for yourself 😊 that's awesome... Little one and me built one last night, well it was more like me wrapping him in a blanket and covering him with all the pillows 😂 but well, calmed him...
@courteousNorth5140
😞 Self soothing didn't work, I wasnt able to sketch and then I became frustrated with myself
@calmLake1999
😕 Perhaps try sth else?
@courteousNorth5140
Nothing's really working tonight North, have Harry Potter on but can't concentrate 😢
@calmLake1999
Don't pressure yourself Calm, some days it works, some days it doesn't work... Have you tried talking it out? I mean you wrote it out here, but right now, talking to somebody? Or you can just talk to me 😊 everybody's still asleep here and I'm enjoying the silence...
@courteousNorth5140
I like talking with you though
@calmLake1999
I like talking to you, too 😊 but I'm glad you are talking to your therapists too, even if it doesn't help sometimes, other times it will help or has helped... And here you have your friends and the listeners... So there's always someone to talk to 😊
@courteousNorth5140
I sometimes want to retreat from the therapist, they know too much but they are helping, I don't know.. 😞
@calmLake1999
There you have your answer, they are helping 😉
@courteousNorth5140
But I know what you mean, I tend to retreat a lot and I really hate that my therapist knows so much about me, but they have to know a lot about us in order to help us, and we want to be helped, right?
@courteousNorth5140
Yeah, maybe but I hate they know every single thing about that night and she was there at the hospital, I didn't know she was a therapist at first I thought she was some sort of liason but I guess it makes sense.. id prefer she wasn't there that night though it was awful 😞 I feel like I'm crazy as well maybe I have my regular psychologist and this new therapist and my doctor who knows and has been calling as well plus other people, like constantly calling. Checking in and refusing to let me withdraw from them 😑
@calmLake1999
Sounds like you're a bit overwhelmed by the support you're receiving, that's an understandable feeling for me, well, I'm always feeling a bit overwhelmed by my therapist, when he's checking on me repeatedly... But, do you trust those people?
@courteousNorth5140
As much as I can trust anyone at the moment, I do.. I'm overwhelmed but I think im overwhelmed by the situation you know? It's so much to handle. So overwhelming but I'm just trying to make it through best I can... I don't know how to but I will keep trying.. I get why they are checking on me. As they say I'm still in crisis mode but sometimes I wanna tell them to go away and let me retreat a little lol
@calmLake1999
I think as long as you trust them you know deep down that they are doing the best they can to help you and I think that's the most important to always remember... The urge to retreat is normal and understandable, but actually you don't want to... And now I'm just throwing out my unqualified opinion 😂 you're getting better, that's my feeling... Thinking of the bridge on your drawing, hm, there's this paper I read about, it actually was about the bridge as a symbol in psychoanalysis, there the stated that the bridge symbolizes the starting point of recovery... Yeah, I'm analyzing too much 😂
@courteousNorth5140
Lol analyze away, I've tried analysing but it's hard I think cause I'm in the middle of it that I can't analyze it objectively... I just, I wish i wasn't so overwhelmed, so many conflicting emotions North... Thanks for talking with me though, you helped keep me grounded and from spiralling too much 💖
@calmLake1999 nice thought really appreciate it
An emptiness deep within the soul
A lonely broken feeling that consumes
Realisation of never being whole
A normality I can't resume
A fight that was lost before it began
Stuck in a stagnant state
Of feeling and hurting all over again
Wondering if this is possibly just my fate?
Knowing I can't beat this until my wounds are healed
Not allowing these lips to remain sealed..
Feeling the loss from pushing those away
An old schema that succeeded in making me fail
Don't know how to get back to where I was
Feeling only a deep keening loss...
This poem is really bad, just trying to explore my feelings but I really feel like I succeeded in pushing people away and that feeling is crushing. I wish I'd never wrote on here that night. I wish I just remained silent. I wish I didn't let myself retreat and push those I care for away. I failed, really failed and I see how my mum is right in that sense. I do nothing right in my life and I will always end up alone because I'm not worthy of anything good. I don't even know why I was stupid enough to admit what happened that night. I shouldn't have, I should have stayed quiet then maybe I wouldnt have lost anyone or made others think that I didn't appreciate their support. I'm so stupid and don't deserve to even be on this site anymore because I'm doing nothing but hurting others. I'm sorry I think being quiet is the best thing I can do from now on
@calmLake1999 no no it's not that bad , keep on uploading :') get better soon buddy
@calmLake1999 that poem read thru my eyes really is how i feel too IRL. i know how you feel. But i am still here for you. Just want u to know that.
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I think I can only echoe the other 3, you didn't push anybody away Calm, we're all still here *hugs* and I for my part can tell you I won't leave anytime soon, even if I'm sometimes doubting the sense of this site, but well, I'm doubting the sense of life and myself too, doesn't mean I stop living or being myself 😉
About better having kept your mouth shut, there's only one thing I can say: no.... I completely understand that handling this situation differently makes you feel insecure, we tend to go back to familiar schemes of handling stuff... But what you did now was right, you did the right thing Calm.... And I'm here for you 💕
