I deserve to Heal because.....
The journey to healing from traumatic experiences requires us to revolutionize our thinking about ourselves, responsibility, healthy relationships, trust, self-love, self-respect and self-compassion to name just a few....Self compassion often helps with healing childhood wounds. Traumatic experiences such as childhood abuse, assault, rape, etc can affect literally every aspect of a persons life., from your self-confidence, self-esteem, body image, to your ability to relate to others, cope with intimate relationships, and be a good parent, to your work performance, ability to be learn new things, and ability to care for yourself. There is often much self-criticism, self-blame; self-neglect; self-destructive behaviors (such as abusing your body with food, alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes, self-mutilation,etc; believing you dont deserve good things; believing if others really knew you they would dislike, reject you or blame you. You may carry much shame or guilt. Through lack of trust which is understandable you may not allow yourself to get close to other people and even sabotage relationships along with support.
As judge and jury you may pronounce yourselves guilty and yet It was and never will be your fault...especially when traumatic experiences have arisen from abuse committed by others, no matter how this may have been justified, the responsibility for abuse lies firmly with those who have subjected others to it.....
I have heard many people over many years say they believe they dont deserve anything good in their lifes, that they are a rotten person etc etc...but I am here to say you are all worthy, you are all deserving and you deserve to heal from your experiences....Therefore I thought I would start a forum thread in the hope that each one of you can find one reason to start believing that you deserve to heal.....:) I hope you find this space safe and supportive and would love to hear your reasons as to why you believe you are worthy of a better life, of less pain, of happiness.......
All are welcome to contribute to I deserve to heal because........
@lyra @KristenHR @Anomalia @JoyCS @beYOUtywithin @Laura @7cups
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I deserve to heal because I didn't deserve to suffer.
i deserved to heal because I have creative potential that the world needs to read
I don't deserve to heal because it was my own fault and I deserve to wallow in it until I die.
I deserve to heal because I did it once, I can do it again.
This may not make much sense for anyone reading, but me and myself know what we're talking about
@GhostlyLilian I may not know what youre talking about, but this really spoke to me. Ive been having a hard day, and your post made it better. Thank you so much for sharing, I hope things are going good for you.
@StellarSkies
I'm so glad it helped you in some way 
best wishes 🍀
No point in healing if society does not allow me to punish those who traumatised me. I will keep it in my soul, i will survive...if society cannot punish, destiny can...
@DonneMoi
I think there still is some point in healing. Why how fully you live your life should depend on your abusers life? Didn't they steal the privilege to affect you too much already? There's absolutely a point in healing, you have a point in existing and being as happy as you can be, and this completely regardless of them. They should never have affected your life in the first place and you don't depend on them, in any way. This is not minimizing the effect they had on you and the struggle it is to feel free from them and from what you endured someday, I'm just saying that I don't think they matter in deciding if you should try to heal or not. You're way more important than whatever will or won't happen to them
@GhostlyLilian thank you...that was so nice, kind and well written...thank you again...😔😔😔
@GhostlyLilian
Not minimizing the rage you righteously feel for not having justice, neither. It's insane that some inhuman beings can get away with what they did while their victims are paying the price. It enrages me too, and you're totally right and totally validated. I just don't think it means that healing has no point. Because, as I said, there's you and there's them, and you are more important, definitely. You're the most important thing in this whole matter
@GhostlyLilian you are very intelligwnt and a true empath. I envy those who become your friends...😔😔😔 thank you for your wise soothing wordsand your compassion, it is a gift that I appreciate deeply. I never value things but gesture like yours are priceless for me...
@DonneMoi
Awww thanks, your words too mean truly a lot to me. I sincerely wish you the best for your healing and for life, from now on 🍀✨
@GhostlyLilian mille *hugs* 🤗
"I will never ever forget or forgive"
@lazyKatz
@Dawn04
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@BloomingWarrior19
What a wonderful nikname! I love it.
I'm stuck too, trying not to blame myself for it. Want company?
My past needs to be in my past and I need to try to look forwards instead since I cannot change the past, only the future.
@DonneMoi
@Dawn04 can we change the future? Or is it already laid out for us? Rhetorical questions...😔😔😔
@DonneMoi I believe we can change it if we are determined to.
@Dawn04 we have a saying in my language...
"That's just steam in your eyes...😔😔"
@lazyKatz
@DonneMoi There's a saying in mine that sometimes to take two steps forward, someone has to take one step back. It's a matter of pacing yourself.
@DonneMoi I don't believe in destiny, but I think the only way to really find out is try your best to be at your best. Because maybe somewhere it's written that at some point you would have managed to stand on your feet again and change your situation for the better, and living your best life. What's certain is that if you surrender to be just dragged along with the flow of things, that change won't likely happen, and won't be written anywhere, nor in the past, in the future or in destiny
@GhostlyLilian you are so wise as usual, i am fortunate to have you around me, hoped to have a friend like you...i do not want words to remain after me...al that is written is deep inside me, noone will miss me and water will embrace me again🤗🤗🤗
@DonneMoi
I'm not sure I fully understood your last post. Maybe I'm English dumb or overly dramatic, but I'm reading it over and over and I don't know how to make sense of it unless connecting "after me", "no one will miss me", "water will embrace me" and the use of the past in the word "hoped". And the whole thing is worrying
@GhostlyLilian no need to worry😊🤗
@DonneMoi "no need to worry"? With no explanation? I DO worry.... Please stay safe. You're so sweet, I'm sure there's people who would miss you. I'd be sorry if something happened to you
@GhostlyLilian i'm 43 years old and defeated death so many times...i never want to search for the reaper, the reaper flees me😉, so no worries🤗🤗🤗 i chose long time ago to follow my saga with determination and cynical humor😉🤗🤗🤗😂😂😂
But thank you for your normal human concern🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
@DonneMoi ok, now you convinced me 😄 you never know here. I'd rather ask one more time and be sure. You felt so hopeless in your comments 
I feel for you and I really hope things will get better
@GhostlyLilian i am suffering greatly but i don't want to be banned from the site just because I am suffering and I can carry my cross as it is😉 🤗🤗🤗 i am just glad that i met an intelligent person like you
@DonneMoi
Hey Donne! I wanted to let you know I had to delete a couple of your messages. If you have questions about that please feel free to pm me! I hope you are able to find the support that you need here <3
I deserve to heal because I deserve a peace of mind to live my life without the guilt that wasn't mine to have in the first place.
@AdnilremDesigns
I deserve to heal because I am a loving person who helps others.
I deserve to heal so that I can raise my son to be a man who will treat a woman the right way.
