Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Wednesday 14th February 2018
Happy Valentine's Day everyone!
Today, I'd like to talk about a love beyond just our love for people: the love that defines our joy. For some people, Valentine's day means showing love and appreciation towards our significant other. I, for one, adore my girlfriend and she means the absolute world to me! However, on the other side of my love and passion, I've noticed I've been lacking in loving myself and making myself happy.
To give an example, I tied myself down to business as a career and refused to look any further because I wasn't advanced in math or anything else. I had forced myself to be good at what I hated until one day this month, I received something in the mail: a letter from a highly selective college in Boston offering me a reward for having the top chemistry test scores in my grade last semester. Growing up, I dreamed of going into a field of science until I belittled myself for not being amazing at math and my dad told me to keep my passion for science as a hobby and nothing more. Little me would definitely be heartbroken with her little science experiments and her nose in hundreds of books about geology, meterology, and the stars to hear something like that. So I finally let go of that rope and I decided to take some physics courses and astronomy courses, not letting my dream fall under me when I still haven't ruined my chances.
On another side, school and my thoughts towards the future have been draining. Seeing my girlfriend, taking hot baths, treating myself to a nice dinner, and so on have not been a treat I've been giving myself because I have been too focused on the stress and responsibility clouding my life. I finally recognize to be successful, I don't need to break myself to pieces and torment myself with papers and checks to pay. It's important to give yourself breaks and indulge in small pleasures and take sick days when you need it!
So this little spiel leads me to today's questions:
What are your passions and what makes you happy? What are activities you enjoy or interests you have?
How can you show yourself love and kindness this Valentine's day?
and
How do you plan to celebrate today?
Let me know how your day is going this February 14th! I can't wait to hear from everyone today ^^
@TheHoneyDoll
What are my passions? I suppose anything to do with helping others. I seem to get the most joy out of that. As a child growing up I was always sensitive to the sufferings of others. Unfortunately as an adult my career path did not reflect that. So a few years ago I changed careers from a Media/Administrative role, to more of a" humanitarian role".
How can I show myself love and kindness today? I think by just resting 😴. Sometimes I am just too busy! So doing nothing ( this includes refraining from checking my phone for messages) is good.
How do you plan on celebrating today? I won't be celebrating today as "it takes two". However I will be making some time for myself😁
@Amandisa16
Hey there lovely, thanks for checking in and helping me with responses! It's great that you have a passion to help people! That's such a valuable and wonderful trait to have. I hope your day is going wonderfully and that you get plenty of rest! 🌻🍯🌻
@TheHoneyDoll Thanks Honey 💗💗💗
@TheHoneyDoll
I got two Valentine's day cards, one from granddad and one from grandpapa but I normally do, that they are my handsome boys. I made them cards a few weeks ago because it takes a long time to get there, also got some other treats. Today with help I am going to make mommy tartiflette which is only be the fourth time I have ever made it (mommy does it the best of course). So hopefully when she comes home it will be ready or the house will be on fire. So that is what I am doing to show mommy I love her lots but she knows that, the cooking just adds.. well danger I guess to it.
@AmalieAnne
I think it's so sweet that you received Valentine cards from your grandparents😁. It's great that you are using this day, to show your mum how much you love and appreciate her💗.
@Amandisa16 Granny and Granddad have gone somewhere special for the rest of week so that is nice 
I just hope Grandpapa is not being bossed around too much. I am also hoping the house will remain not on fire but I am sure it will. You said that it requires two, though you can do something nice. Do you know what you would like to do?
@AmalieAnne
I think I'm going to have a long soak in the bath, and have an evening of watching some TV. Oh, and do my nails!
@Amandisa16 That sounds nice, I have not seen much TV things but Belle and the Beast is really good (in parts scary). I hope you can have a nice treat day for yourself though
@TheHoneyDoll
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@melliotm
Thank you Mellio, happy Valentine's day! Here's a sunflower for you! 🌻🌻🌻
@TheHoneyDoll Thanks! Happy Valentine's Day! 🌻🌻🌻
@melliotm
Hi
Hope you had a great day
Happy Valentine"s Day🍬🍬💮🥀
For Valentines Day, were going to try again. We made vows for better or worse. Beyond that, I just cant quit him. I do love him and it would be insane to throw it all away, especially when we are so close to having some of the things weve wanted for years: a thriving business, a home of our own again, the financial stability that allows for a lessening of stress and a sense of pride. He deserves that after years of back-breaking work. ... to be able to take a vacation. Its all close - within a year or so.
He said this morning he would quit drinking. I told him Id do my part to contribute to our life and our business in any way we saw fit.
For now he wants me to work on things here and learn to go outside every day.
its an unequal collaboration but it always has been. With both of us paying a high price but in very different ways.
@themainjane Hello, Jane you talk about things which I do not really understand to be honest. But can you make sure you are happy as well please. It is really important you make sure of that. *hugs*
@AmalieAnne
yes, sweet Amalie, I will try to make sure I am happy too. (And I
@AmalieAnne
oh yum!! I looked it up - tartiflette. It sounds very very tasty indeed. Can
@themainjane hehe
@themainjane Ooh agreed 😎 The perfect combo🥔🧀🥓
@themainjane Hey Jane. Wishing you well as you go forward.
@themainjane It' great that on Valentines Day you guys are going to try again. You are willing to work on your marriage, and are seeking to make it work. Marriages can be difficult when addiction is involved. You guys seem to be communicating and are in agreement on how to move forward "a mutual exchange". I wish you both the best💗
@themainjane
So glad to hear this Jane! And I wish you both well, individually and together, as you walk step by step,and day by day. x
@TheHoneyDoll 🎊What a fsbulous thread to focus on!🎉 SO encouraging! 👍💥💞😁🎵🎶🎉🎊🎉🎊
@SpruceRaven
🌻🍯🌻 Hope your day is going fabulously! 🌻🍯🌻
@TheHoneyDoll Hi Thank you! Yes! It's going really well! I had some really good sbifts and got togetjer with a friend later on and we spent some time playing outside in thr snow.
Hope your day has been fabulous.
What makes me happy- my improvements, progress, and the love and support my teacher gives me everyday
What I can do for myself- I have no classes tomorrow, so I plan on watching my favorite movie then sleeping in!
thank you all for everything x
@ashes04 Hi ashes, good to hear you are improving, progressing, and receiving love and support from your teacher. I hope you have a lovely day off tomorrow and enjoy your movie. By the way, which movie will you be watching?
@Amandisa16
probably one called ‘but Im a cheerleader its one of my favorite 🏳️🌈 comedy movies
@TheHoneyDoll My passion has always been writing, and for the longest time that was a dream that I had also just put behind me because I had always been talked out of it. I pursued something else I thought that would be the right thing because I enjoyed it as well. The further I got into that field the more I wanted to go back, and just do my original dream, but I never had the courage. Eventually, I got a little push from my significant other, and he helped me to finally take that step towards my true passion.
The way that I can show myself love is by being kind to myself, and not always being harsh on myself. I try not to think too negatively.
I'm not celebrating the holiday. I'm just going to do school work, and listen to music.
@FangsInsanity
Hey deary, thanks for checking in! 🌻🍯🌻
Writing is also a passion of mine ^^ It's amazing to hear that you got to live out doing your passion in the end and go to do what makes you happy! I tried to prioritize money and talk myself down because I wasn't the best of the best so I understand how it feels to give up your dream. It can be rough but it isn't the end of the world and you don't only have one chance :) Your story inspired me today!
Hope your day is going well and you get plenty of rest!
@TheHoneyDoll Wow, I'm glad you found my story to be inspiring. Thank you.
I sometimes feel Valentine's day is so overrated and a marketing gimmick.
But for two people in love or rather, in honeymoon phase, every other day = Valentine's Day :))
@MayaCarino St. Valentinus is found in early history, he was said to have restored a child's sight and proved the validity of Jesus. I guess you are talking about Saint Valentine's Day which was a later attempt include romance and love. So you might be correct in saying it is a gimmick. Although 1st November is when catholics remember and visit those that have died, so 14th February could be the day of showing your love to others (does not have to be romantic love). That is not to say those things should only happen on those days