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Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Checkin - Monday 14th August 2017

sujaypai August 14th, 2017

Hey all you amazing people. Extremely Sorry for the late checkin as have been loaded with work. Hope the week started off good for you. Monday here again with all its blues. But you all are amazing and awesomest of the people. I am sure you are taking good care of yourself and showing utmost compassion towards yourself and judging yourself a lot less. You all have it in you and you can make it. It is just a matter of time, One day at a time, one idea at a time.

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. --- Martin Luther King Jr.

Never remain silent on things that matter to you. Ask for what is rightfully yours. Take what you deserve. Learn to say NO. Our boundaries are our private property and no trespassing is allowed by anybody under any circumstances without our permission.….

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singercrystalspirit August 14th, 2017

Omg, I am the first person to reply!!!

Very timely post for me. I was just talking with someone this morning about boundaries; I am in a lot of inner turmoil currently due to the situation I am in feeling like it is constantly and consistently encroaching upon my boundaries.

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warmheartedTurtle6662 August 14th, 2017

@singercrystalspirit

I'm sorry crystal. I hope you're able to sort this out. Boundaries are important 💜

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singercrystalspirit August 14th, 2017

@warmheartedTurtle6662

Hey Alice smiley Thank you.

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inventiveOrange1 August 15th, 2017

@singercrystalspirit sorry Crystal that sounds unsettling. Sending you strength ang hugs

sujaypai OP August 15th, 2017

@singercrystalspirit I am sorry you are fighting situations encroaching your boundaries. But you own them and everyone needs to respect that. Keep it up. Sending you strength. Take care and stay awesome.

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SemicolonSurvivor August 14th, 2017

@sujaypai

Boundaries are hard to set and keep but they are really helpful. I have a lot of boundaries. I dont like to be hugged or touched, don't like it when people talk too loudly or make loud noises or make eye contact, or trust them, and many others. Its hard to make it clear to my friends that Its nothing against them, it's what happened to me before. Its not their fault when I flinch or when they accidently drop something and I cower in fear. Its not their fault. It's hard to set boundaries without completely blocking everyone out. Not many people have time to care about me or check in on me or help me and not many people have the patience to navigate the maze to my heart and trust

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singercrystalspirit August 14th, 2017

@SemicolonSurvivor

@SemicolonSurvivor

You're worth it. heart

sujaypai OP August 15th, 2017

@SemicolonSurvivor Yes Survivor it is hard but you need to have them and they have to respected. If somebody doesn't they don't deserve to be with you. It is difficult and the person who cares for you much will walk through the maze. Stay strong. Keep trying never give up.

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Autismaunt14 August 14th, 2017

boundaries is been a hard one for me, but as i get older and more ive been though the easier its been to have them. like personal space, no touching, no sneaking up on me, there are LOTS of texures that are off limits cause i cant stand them due to spd. no coming up behind of me and pushing me without first saying something all of these have been hard to deal with and needed to have boundaries put up to help with them.

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sujaypai OP August 15th, 2017

@Autismaunt14 Yes it is difficult but it is right what you need Aunt. They deserve to be respected. Take care and stay strong.

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MKJart August 14th, 2017

@sujaypai

Thanks Sujay. Great post. It is ticky learnng to say no when history has taught me it was unsafe. Today, I'm able to say no with love and it doesn't cause so much anxiety. I still have times when it feels more difficult to say no, particularly if the person I'm saying no to is tends towardon agressive side. Each time I do, the easier it gets.

Happy Monday,

Mary

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melliotm August 14th, 2017

@MKJart ❤️❤️ hugs, Mary

singercrystalspirit August 15th, 2017

@MKJart

Thanks for the encouragement, Mary smiley I want to be brave and continue practice saying no.

sujaypai OP August 15th, 2017

@MKJart I am glad you practice saying No. As they say saying No is also an art and as you said with practice it becomes easier. Saying no is not so much as what how the other person behaves aggressive or whatever it is more about you and how you feel that you want to say No. Take care. Stay strong Mary. You are doing wonderful.

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philosophicalShip9444 August 14th, 2017

@sujaypai I can identify with this quote. I don't really have alot to add other than thank you. 😊

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sujaypai OP August 15th, 2017

@philosophicalShip9444 Hey Ship even if you don't say a lot we understand. Always put self care and boundaries first and it's okay to say No.

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Rebekahwriter13 August 15th, 2017

I'm achy and tired. I'm just going to sleep it off. Good night and may I have nice dreams.

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sujaypai OP August 15th, 2017

@Rebekahwriter13 Rebekah you seem to need rest and sleep right now. Hope you get sound one tonight. Take care.

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