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What Do I Need?

soulsings October 28th

One wayll to connect with our inner needs and to warm our hearts is to ask ourselves:

  • What do I need?

Another question to ask when we are relating to others is:

  • What do they need?


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amiablePeace77 October 28th

@soulsings

I think both questions are very important to reflect on our well-being but also to understand what others need in the moment. Sometimes people react in ways we cannot understand because they lack something, it might just be a kind word, so asking yourself what they need can help a lot to understand them. 

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soulsings OP October 29th

@amiablePeace77 good point.

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BlueDarkAurora October 29th

@soulsings Agreed and a balance between both of them is important as well <3

WorkingitThrough2 October 29th

@soulsings

This is a good set of questions, and I would have to respond differently only because of my own issues.

I recently came across a book with those same questions, and I shared it with my Therapist.

I could not answer those two questions because I honestly did not know.  Things I felt I needed were not things anybody could give me, example (inter peace, calming my anxiety.........

So I know all of us are different because of our conditions. Just me😊

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mytwistedsoul October 29th

@WorkingitThrough2 What you wrote here is very relatable. I was just thinking this myself when I saw this post. "What do I need?" I honestly don't know. 

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Tinywhisper11 Wednesday

@mytwistedsoul I know! I know! You need a giant tiny hug ❤

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mytwistedsoul Wednesday

@Tinywhisper11 Tiny! ☺️ You're back! Aww thank you so much!

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Tinywhisper11 Thursday

@mytwistedsoul 

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mytwistedsoul Thursday

@Tinywhisper11

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@Tinywhisper11

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mytwistedsoul Thursday

🤨 why is it posting twice? 🙄

mytwistedsoul Thursday

🤨 why is it posting twice? 🙄

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soulsings OP October 29th

@WorkingitThrough2 I agree with you that no one can give us inner peace. I did not intend that someone else would give us the things we need, but that we would start searching for a way to find it, create it or nurture it.

Please do not give up because it is not immediately visible. Keep searching.

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WorkingitThrough2 October 29th

@soulsings

Thanks for your response, you are right those are things we have to fine❤️😊

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Tinywhisper11 Wednesday

@WorkingitThrough2 they probably sell inner peace on Amazon😂😂

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Tinywhisper11 Wednesday

@soulsings what I need is some robot body parts😁

What others need. I guess the same as everyone, patients, love, friendship and a smile ❤

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soulsings OP Wednesday

@Tinywhisper11 here's hoping you become the next bionic wonder woman. 

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Tinywhisper11 Thursday

@soulsings yaaaay! I'm sure I will be bionic, but not wonder woman I'm blanket woman😁

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purpleTree4652 Wednesday

@soulsings

Right now I need to not have many  responsibilities.  I've been overwhelmed for far too long.

Other people need to be heard.

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soulsings OP Wednesday

@purpleTree4652 sometimes I have to prioritize.


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@soulsings I discovered that I spend a great deal of time worrying about what other people need, and when I think about what I need it’s if I have time after taking care of everything else. I discovered that people I think love me aren’t concerned about what I need much at all. It’s inconvenient. I have to try really hard to think about someone I love being inconvenient.

What I need: really just to feel like I matter to the people in my life. I need to feel wanted, loved, and cared for.

What others need: probably the same things. I like to help people feel important in these ways. It makes me feel better sometimes if I can give the things I desire most.

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soulsings OP Saturday

@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas thanks for this post. I feel like givers in this world are not as plentiful as takers but when I have the attitude of giving without expectations then I feel better giving than I would only worrying about myself.

There are times when I can only give so much and need to fill  my tank. I do not always find someone to do that. Sometimes I have to do what is needed to restore my sense of well being..


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@soulsings You’re right. I think we’re all supposed to try to take care of ourselves the best of our ability, and if we find people who can support and cheer us on then we’re really lucky. It’s ok to rely on people, but the trouble starts when we get angry when they can’t do everything we think they should.

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soulsings OP Sunday

@PiecesOfWhoeverIWas you are so right we expect people to do things and they either do not know that or refuse to comply.  Expectations that are unrealistic are the source of much happiness. 

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Wallis 3 days ago

@soulsings 

Thanks for sharing soul!

These two questions are interesting. I can ask myself quite often. They help to relate both inside and outside.

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soulsings OP 2 days ago

@Wallis you are welcome

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Justadude2talkto2 3 days ago

What is this?

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soulsings OP 2 days ago

@Justadude2talkto2 a place to share what comes to mind.

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