Hey, I'm a Certified Counselor, ask me anything you'd like to
I had already posted this message in other places on this thread. But since I'm seeing new messages and questions coming in- I'm posting the same message below again.
Dear all, its been a wonderful experience interacting with a lot of people across the world in our 7cups community through this thread which has now been running over two years. I regret to inform that I won't be able to respond to the posts here, going forward. I'm unable to dedicate adequate time to be able to do this and hence I request everyone's understanding. Warmth and strength to one and all !!
For all those who are seeking support- 7cups have multiple group support forums and one to one listening services.Also there are self help articles and resources available free on the website. Please do check them out if you'd like to. Big hugs to all!
@SarahGeorgeMA how do I gain self confidence
@tidyPark6244 that is a good question. I hope Sarah replies, but let me share a few things I learned.
- I stop believing the inner critic. Mine always says negative things I used to accept as real
- I start saying or writing down things that you did right. You got to this point in life and so that speaks a lot about the fact you did things right
- I stop basing your self image on what other people say or believe about you
- I start setting realistic expectations and goals that I can easily accomplish. As I gain more confidence I can do better.
Hope that helps a little. Thanks for the question.
How to ignore a person for whom I once cared so much ? How I can stop been panicking myself when that person is around me. I mean I want to be normal as if I don't even know them.
@carefulPine185 Hi Sarah mentioned this thread is not actively managed anymore so I am going to do my best to address your question.
It is not easy when our feelings for someone change. We get into a role with them that is hard to step out out of. If we work with them avoidance is difficult. If we live in the same house it is nearly impossible to avoid them. Avoidance is one way to cope.
Another way is to have a clear role in your mind of what your relationship to this person is like. The problem is if that person keeps trying to get things back to the old role. Often they can be like a hurt puppy wanting everything to be back the way it was. It is not easy. Maybe they will understand a new role, maybe not.
Hope you find a way to cope with this challenging situation.
What would you recommend about someone who lives in his imagination more than his reality? all his life is only inside his head and does not care about his real life, He loves fictional characters and does not care about people around him and he is very lonely
@sunnyFriend9691 hi there. I guess you did not see that this thread is an archive and no longer accepting posts. If you look at the first entry on the page where that is explained.
I find if I do exercises or yoga, that I spend less time in my mind and more time aware of the presence.
I hope you get the support you are looking for. There is a paid option if you are looking to sign up with a therapist. https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1
There is another free thread where you can ask questions of listeners and members who may have ideas for you https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsOnlineTherapy_157/Questionsaboutmentalhealthbylistenersandmembers_1175/