Not getting the support I need
So, I came to 7 cups to get support but I am just not finding it here. I've tried several listeners, and none of them were very good, they either just left or redirected the conversation. I even tried browse listeners. The people in the support room ignored me except for a few people, the only person that has given me good support is @CommunityModFinn
I cant do 1-1 chats without gettting anxiety that they will judge me or that Im being too needy and the fact that the listeners I have done werent good is only reinforcing that fact.
@Slytherin4thYear2022 I think you did the best thing when you tried Browse Listeners. One other thing I can think of is…maybe it would help if you filter the list for adults. (There are a few adult listeners who are allowed to chat to teens, and they are carefully selected.) Otherwise just look for listeners who have a lot of good reviews.
Charlie
@RarelyCharlie
Thanks, Charlie.
I will try that again
@Slytherin4thYear2022
Sorry you're feelng like this
Same bro
That’s a great point you have made, though i would like to point out and remind you that this is a free app and all listeners volunteer to help, and it is not their full time job so they might not have the time to reply sometimes, which i think everyone should understand. I know it can sometimes be hard to find a good listener because they are all different, some are more experienced than others but do remember that they are all here willingly and they do want to help, else they wouldn’t be on the app. As a listener who used to be a member myself, i thought the same as you at the start but then i found some nice listeners and i kind of expected them to help me solve all my problems but when i became a listener i understood the main point of the app and of us, to simply make sure someone knows we are there to listen, i apologize if you haven’t felt that way yet and i hope you will.
There really needs to be a warning that there are "listeners" that might
make you feel worse than before. I understand that they are mostly
inexperienced volunteers with busy lives... but really playing with fire
when they are causing people who are already feeling distressed to feel
even more distressed. So far that has been my experience here. I was
even saving up for a paid therapist, but if 7cups is going to be so
irresponsible about this kind of thing, then I don't think this is where
I will be spending that money.
@TheRuminator3909I am sorry you had this experience. No one should be seeking help and the help and support they seek make them feel more distressed.
True,we can't give advice,we have to do a conversation in hard steps that sometimes makes it appear very cold.
@Slytherin4thYear2022
Tagging friends
@amiableBunny4016
@Slytherin4thYear2022,
aww Slytherin. you the best. so sweet of you :)
You know what bro, thanks for posting this. I'm done wasting my time here ... I get better support from self help and info videos on YouTube. Peace out 7 empty cups
That’s a great point you have made, though i would like to point out and remind you that this is a free app and all listeners volunteer to help, and it is not their full time job so they might not have the time to reply sometimes, which i think everyone should understand. I know it can sometimes be hard to find a good listener because they are all different, some are more experienced than others but do remember that they are all here willingly and they do want to help, else they wouldn’t be on the app. As a listener who used to be a member myself, i thought the same as you at the start but then i found some nice listeners and i kind of expected them to help me solve all my problems but when i became a listener i understood the main point of the app and of us, to simply make sure someone knows we are there to listen, i apologize if you haven’t felt that way yet and i hope you will.
tagging one of the most supportive people who helped me out today:
*drum rolll*
@Slytherin4thYear2022
@amiableBunny4016
Thanks : )
@Slytherin4thYear2022
I am inviting you to join me in the Sharing Circle chat room where other members
of 7Cups.com will listen to you and support you ! 😊
Hi @Slytherin4thYear2022 - have you considered joining a Huddle? Huddles are groups of users that connect in a private group chat and forum space to explore shared issues/topics and support each other. Its a place for building deeper connections and you chat with the same people every week.
https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/7CupsHuddles_2394/HuddlesSeason25SignUptoMakeMoreConnections_293021/
Ah, not this season of Huddles but there there was a teen one in the last season. I think there will be another teen one in January/Feb.
It's completely normal to feel these feelings. I would ask of you to go on but that's the therapist job. I know that with prayer you can make all dreams come true, trust your feelings. There are other feelings that can make you want something but you must strive toward that feeling. I am a good listener, and with you here we can hear each other. Is not this the greatest, us here for each other I am grateful.
