Self-Forgiveness - A Short Video Message & Discussion

I believe we are our harshest critics, and according to me we all need to (at least I do) go easy on ourselves.

Its tough no doubt but necessary .

It was really helpful. 👌

Self-forgiveness is probably the thing I struggle the most with. I always have an hard time not judging myself all the time, and not feeling guilty for everything I say or do.

I absolutely agree with everything it was said in this video, and I hope thinking about it will help me find a balance in the future.

One thing that usually helps me a bit, and I feel like sharing, is, whenever I do something that then I get angry with myself for, I try to think about how would I react if I had assisted at what happened from an external point of view. Or, like, if it were my friend doing the same, would I get /that/ angry? Would I forgive them?

A part from this, the video was very good, and arrived in a moment in which I really needed, so thanks.

Thank you for posting this video, it's very helpful.

Itreminded me ofanother video I saw a few weeks ago:

A woman, let's call her Shirley, was asked to write in a diary all the things she disliked about herself.

She then went to sit at a table in a coffee bar, next to two other women, Claire and Mary.Claire started tellingMary that she had big breasts, small legs.. but that she could probably do with it if at least shehad some charisma. But shewas fat and had nothing special.Claire would have liked to see Mary with a "normal" body, at least once. She had flabby arms and was just disgusting.

Shirley was really shocked by the conversation she was overhearing.At the same time realized thatthose were all thethings she had written in the diary. Only then did she realize how violent her conversations with herself were.

Thanks for this Laura. This is my biggest problem, I am my biggest critic and I didn't knowsuch a thing of allowing myself self forgiveness.

Thank you for the video. It was really helpful to practiceaccepting my regrets as part of me as instead, I oftentend to think of them and say "that wasn't really me" because I feel so ashamed.Thisthen imbueshuge pressure to be perfect. It's so freeing to reframe"me at my worst"as "still me" and know I don't have to feel shame about any part of myself. Thanks again. (Hope I'm making sense :))

Oh man the lack of self forgivenessis one of my biggest problems. I will often tell myself these awful negative thoughts and I ruminate on the things I did in the past and I beat myself up over it.This kind of behavior has affected me to the point where I can't really express my creativity without criticizing myself harshly. It's like I am my own bully and I'm not too happy with my behavior and yet I feel that I can't change.

Thanks for making this video, @Laura! I agree, self-forgiveness is something we really need to learn to apply to ourselves from the mistakes we make. This has opened my eyes being able to see that self-forgiveness helps usto feel free, at peace and wonderful about ourselves. It's very healthy and makes us make healthy decisions. I personally have been battling anger and self-loathing against myself for a year now, and can tell everyone that it does destroy you and eat you up inside. It causes you to make negative decisions, have negativeactions, feel negative feelings,and think negativethoughts. When we forgive ourselves as you stated, it gives room to grow and think more clearly. This was something I really needed to hear, thanks again.

I liked the video, @Laura I hope you continue to make interesting videos

Such a good point :) It shouldn't be any harder to forgive yourself than it is to forgive others - and I think we should definitely remind ourselves to make sure we do!