Building self-esteem: Value clarification
Hey Everyone, I hope you are doing well. In the past week, we talked about working on our self-esteem using the FAST method. One of the most important points of the fast method is sticking to your values. But some of us may not know what values to stick to, not everyone has reflected on this. If you are a religious person, you will likely know what values matter to you and they are typically rooted in your beliefs. But if you don’t believe in some specific way of living, you may need to reflect on the values that matter to you and this post will help you do so.
Welcome to the world of understanding core values! These are the fundamental beliefs and principles that guide our decisions, define our priorities, and ultimately fuel our self-esteem. Think of them as your internal compass, pointing you towards a life that feels authentic and fulfilling.
So, what do core values look like? They're not always grand or flashy goals. They can be simple things like:
- Honesty: Always wanting to be truthful and upfront, even when it's tough.
- Kindness: Showing compassion and care towards others, big and small.
- Creativity: Embracing your unique ways of thinking and expressing yourself.
- Adventure: Seeking out new experiences and challenges to grow and learn.
- Balance: Making time for what matters most – work, relationships, and personal well-being.
- Remember, your core values are YOURS. They are what makes you, you!
But how do you get in touch with these hidden gems? Here are a few tips:
- Introspection Time: Take some quiet moments to reflect. Ask yourself: What truly brings me joy? What makes me feel proud? What stands out as important to me, even when things get tough?
- Life Audit: Examine your choices and habits. Do they align with your gut feeling of what's right? Does your everyday life reflect your priorities?
- Values in Action: Think about situations where you felt strongly, either positive or negative. What values were at play? This can reveal hidden priorities you may not have noticed.
- Seek Inspiration: Read biographies, watch movies, or talk to people you admire. How do their values shape their lives? See if any resonate with you.
To help you further explore the values that truly matter to you, we will do a short exercise. Reflect on the following values
- Integrity: Doing the right thing, even when it's hard.
- Empathy: Feeling what others feel and caring deeply.
- Gratitude: Appreciating what you have and saying thank you.
- Resilience: Bouncing back from challenges and never giving up.
- Curiosity: Asking questions and wanting to learn more.
- Humility: Knowing your limits and valuing others' contributions.
- Sustainability: Caring for the planet and living responsibly.
- Authenticity: Being true to yourself and living with purpose.
- Collaboration: Working together and achieving shared goals.
- Accountability: Taking responsibility for your actions.
- Passion: Chasing what ignites your soul.
- Open-mindedness: Embracing different perspectives and ideas.
Activity: Sort the above-mentioned 12 values into three piles, the values that are most important, those that are important and the ones that are least important. You can leave out the definitions when sorting, they are there just to help you understand what each value means
Participation in the activity is required for those who are working towards the braving self badge and intend to complete the entire series.
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@Hope
It was quite tough. All of them are important but I knew I shouldn’t list all of them in most important. I could only manage to convince myself to add 1 in least important
- Gratitude: Most Important
- Resilience: Most important
- Humility: Most important
- Sustainability: Most Important
- Authenticity: Most Important
- Accountability: Most important
- Open-mindedness: Most important
- Integrity: Important
- Empathy: Important
- Collaboration: Important
- Passion: Important
- Curiosity: Least Important
@tidyHickory3283
Replied under the tag list by mistake 🤦🏻♀️
It seems to me that they're all incredibly important, so this is a
challenge of devaluation for me, more than anything. I don't necessarily
feel comfortable with completing the task being asked as I wouldn't normally rank values like this. Nevertheless, I
will participate for the sake of completing the badge.
Most important
Authenticity
Empathy
Integrity
Open-mindedness
Important
Curiosity
Accountability
Sustainability
Collaboration
Least important
Gratitude
Humility
Passion
Resilience
@Hope Well this assignment made me think. Here are my values sorted from most important to least important. I would like to make note that the values under the category of least important are not necessarily not important to me. It just means they ranked lower compared to the others. I would say though that the ones in my most important category is fairly accurate with passion being my #1 one.
@YourCaringConfidant
super cute graphic!
@YourCaringConfidant
I love how you represented them as jars! That's adorable!
@YourCaringConfidant
I love this! Thank you for sharing!!
@Hope
oh I love this activity. It’s hard to pick a few as my top core values because I think they are all important values.
- Integrity: most
- Empathy: most
- Gratitude: most
- Resilience: important
- Curiosity: least
- Humility: important
- Sustainability: least
- Authenticity: most
- Collaboration: important
- Accountability: most
- Passion: most
- Open-mindedness: important
@Kristynsmama I was reading how you ranked your values and noticed you only mentioned 2 as least important. I don't know why I automatically assumed that in each category I was forced to put 4 in each. There was no mention that it had to be so why I thought it, I have no idea. 🤣 I am enjoying reading everyone's responses as I get to see just how different we all are. ♡
@YourCaringConfidant
Reading everyone's responses is quite curious, indeed! It goes to show that all of us seem to have different values that we deem more important than others.
@cautiousVixen
Yes, I agree. I love to observe this type of things, because it just shows how we as humans are so different and all beauty is in this.
@Hope
This is the best I could do. It doesn't seem to represent me but I could not find a combination that did.
High
Authenticity
Accountability
Collaboration
Humility
Med
Integrity
Resilience
Curiosity
Open-mindedness
LOW
Empathy
Gratitude
Passion
Sustainability
@Hope
Empathy
Open-mindedness
Gratitude
Passion
Humility
Authenticity
Accountability
Collaboration
Resilience
Integrity
Sustainability
Curiosity
@KateDoskocilova
Thank you for participating! I am guessing you have ranked them from most to least important?
@Hope yes!
This was hard for me as these are all important to me. Here are my three piles!
Most Important:
Integrity
Authenticity
Empathy
Curiosity
Important:
Humility
Accountability
Resilience
Passion
Least Important:
Sustainability
Open-mindedness
Gratitude
Collaboration
@Hope
I needed quite a bit of back and forth and time in between to really sort those into each category. However, now I think I'm quite happy with how it turned out. It helped me to gain quite a bit of an understanding of why I was thinking and acting the way I did in some recent situations.
Most important
Empathy
Passion
Sustainability
Open-mindedness
Important
Integrity
Gratitude
Humility
Curiosity
Least important
Authenticity
Collaboration
Accountability
Resilience
I have done quite a bit of values work in the past, but I think I gravitated towards certain ones because those are the values I was "supposed to" have. So, I am using a new lense this time. How do these values jive with what's important in safe environments where I feel most myself?
Most Important
Empathy
Curiosity
Humility
Open-Mindedness
Integrity
Important
Authenticity
Collaboration
Accountability
Passion
Least Important
Sustainability
Gratitude
Resilience
Thanks for this brain teaser.
@Hope
This took some time to work out. A person's values can change. What's important to them now might not be the same when they're older
MOST IMPORTANT -
authenticity
curiosity
passion
resilience
accountability
integrity
IMPORTANT -
empathy
open mindedness
humility
gratitude
sustainability
LEAST IMPORTANT -
collaboration