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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Nov 4 - 10)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 12 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! It’s our first official week in November. :)  To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * This or that! Leaves picking or apple picking? * What’s one book that reminds you of fall, if you have any? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM 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Help needed in the Relationship Stress Community!
by KatePersephone
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying fall so far. I am Kate, the Community Mentor Leader of the Relationship Stress Community. The community is currently in need of Room Supporters and Forum Supporters to help out in both the chatrooms and the forums! Here you will find some brief explanations for both of these roles, alongside their requirements and their information pages. ------------------------- A room supporter helps in providing a welcoming space for members in the chatrooms, as well as quality support alongside listening. The role is available to both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Room Supporter: Listener: * No “Newbie” badge (being a listener for 4+ weeks) * Have 2+ Group Support Chats Member: * No “Newbie” badge (being a member for 4+ weeks) * Have the “Supportive Smile” badge * Complete the “Compassion Course [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbuGsqFMbaKWtCoC1WHaCJfaKfwfI8YZ62CsqTI2BzqVNwDg/viewform]” For more information and the application check here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/ApplicationStation_2148/RoomSupporterUpdatedRequirementsandApplication_247786/]. ------------------------- A forum supporter focuses on maintaining engagement within a community through posting and responding to threads. It is also available for both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Forum Supporter: Listener: * Be a Verified Listener * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Listener Community Guide [https://www.7cups.com/listener-community-guide/] & Listener Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatResources_61/ListenerOath_117/1/] Member: * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Member Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/Welcome_27/7CupsofTeaMissionCoreValues_207/MemberOathAllEncouragedtoParticipate_7447/1/] For more information and the application click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/LeadershipResourcesWhomToContact_2404/UpdatedSubcommunityTrackLeadershipRolesMasterpost2022_289838/]. ------------------------- Any help will be highly appreciated! 
Group Support Feedback for the Relationship Stress Community ✨💓
by KatePersephone
Last post
 October 27th
...See more Hello community! This forum thread has been created for the purpose of sharing the feedback our amazing hosts have received for the discussions they have hosted!
Loneliness
by courteousFan4529
Last post
 October 15th
...See more Hi um i am a male 14  I have never been really interested in relationships as I deemed them irrelevant as I grew up, there would be times I would get sad after watching couples happily stroll by me, I have never opened up about this topic, but today tipped me into this because I have never felt so alone and empty, when I spoke  to myself today it wasn’t a feeling a loneliness that just by talking into a cave the voice slowly fades away, today it feels like I want to feel heard and just yell as hard as I can, but the cave absorbs my voice with no echo to be heard, today I feel so lost, all through out middle school I never had a talking stage,I have never had a girlfriend, I never had any female friends all through out middle school, let alone ANY sort of friends, now as a high schooler I see 4 times the amount of relationships that I saw in middle school, I feel so hollow that girls do not look my way, and that any upperclassmen can just exist, and have like 20 girls surrounding him, I hate seeing these people in relationships, I have never had anything against them, but why can’t I get a try? When is it my turn? When can I get the blessing of having a girl who only has eyes for me?? Why? Why not ME? I hate these happy people I hate seeing any of them happy? Why isn’t my effort less effective when they don’t even TRY?? My blood boils whenever I see happyness fill their eyes, why can’t happyness fill MINE?? Why am I the odd one out??? The only times I don’t feel like an empty void, is when that void is filled with boiled pure hatred, I want to stop hating, but that’s the only way I know how to respond to these stupid happy people, I don’t want to live in misery, I want to get out of this cycle, when. Will. It. Be. My. turn.
Making friends struggle
by breeuniqemsns
Last post
 September 21st
...See more I don't know how to make friends to be honest. I am really bad at communicating and I always think whenever I make friends I am boring to talk to and they won't be my friends. It's true though. I am boring to talk to but I just don't know how to communicate and stuff it's hard for me to make friends bcs of that
Paranoid or Legit?
by QueerDragonsRule
Last post
 July 22nd
...See more I’ve been dating this girl for over 6 months. I think I love her, but there are a few red flags that have been bugging me. 1. She either acts like we are more than friends, or she ascots like she doesn’t like me at all, not even as friends. “Hot and Cold” by Katy Perry fits. 2. It’s the summer so we don’t see each other at school, but she never responds to my texts though I get read receipts. 3. She acts weird when we’re around her family. I mean we are in a queer relationship, but me and her brother get along well. Am I just being paranoid? Or is something wrong?
ex bf
by diligentFriend5581
Last post
 July 17th
...See more i want him back but he doesn’t feel the same he just doesn’t trust me anymore
Communication and Openness Struggles
by sincereSquare7527
Last post
 July 17th
...See more So, I'm having some serious issues with my gf, and I think they're about to break us up. The main root of the issues is myself, and that I am very closed and unfeeling toward my emotions. I'm having a hard time effectively communicating my affections, care, and love for her, and we're only able to text each other. I'm a bit more physical than verbal, so this naturally makes it more difficult to express. She feels as though I don't honestly love her the way I used to, that I don't truly care for her and want to fight for her, that I have no romantic feelings for her. Of course, these beliefs are false, though my previous actions and shortcomings do support them. Now, she's threatening separation, which I honestly understand and don't begrudge her reasoning. It does hurt me, and I've already had multiple chances to work on improving these problems. I don't want to let her go, but I don't know what to do right now. Any help is greatly appreciated
Struggling With Acceptance
by sunnyTalker6138
Last post
 June 20th
...See more Hey guys. So I have a bf of 6 months (we’re both in high school going to our sophomore year) and he is an amazing boyfriend. In fact tmrw is his birthday lol. Anyways, I am having trouble finding a way to tell my parents. I am pakistani and my bf is chinese. My parents are racist especially my mom when it comes to east asian people. After I moved schools in elementary school, I’ve always ended up becoming friends with east asians and they’re great people. My 2 best friends are japanese and taiwanese. I also have other friends of other races as well. But my mom always complains about me being friends with asian people and she calls everyone chinese. So in December, I started dating my current bf and during break he came over and met my parents. (I’ve also told my parents that he’s smart and a nice kid which all are true). They also know I talk to him everyday and that we’re friends. I know I should tell them because of this but my parents have made it very clear that they don’t want me to have an asian boyfriend. Idk what to do cuz it’s been 6 months already and I really want to tell them, but my parents aren’t great people either. I asked my best friend and she told me to never tell my parents because of how awful they can be. The main reason I want to tell them is so I can hang out with him whenever. My parents haven’t let me out the house on my own until this school year (i just started high school last year). So what should i do? Should i tell them?  Note: I am pakistani which means I am muslim and so are my parents. However, we aren’t a very religious family and my parents are against me talking to guys or too against dating either, so when things come to religion, I think that’s a matter I will speak to my parents about.
Schedule: Teen Relationship Support Every Saturday
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 January 18th
...See more Hello all teens!  I hope you are all having an amazing day. I wanted to share with you all that @KateDoskocilova hosting Relationship stress support sessions for Teens for a while but seems like not many of us are around to attend it, so we making a couple of changes to ensure we are all able to join and get some support and sharing time.   📅 Saturday - starting on Jan 20, 2024, the Teen Relationship group chat [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] will be open for 24 hours.  Love it or hate it, relationship plays a significant role in our lives. Let's delve into its influence on our lives, mental health, and self-esteem. Together, we'll explore ways to maintain a healthy relationship and discover the importance of own's well-being.  Also, Kate will be joining us during different times of the day to host 15-30-minute guiding discussions as well to help us learn more about relationships and ways to deal with them.  Please know all these efforts are all about creating a safe and respectful environment where everyone's voice is heard. We encourage open-mindedness, empathy, and active participation. Feel free to bring your thoughts, questions, and ideas to the table! We look forward to seeing you there!  Note: All Adults: You can find Relationship Support to participate and get support here as well [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmhnenaYk-JO42xsioiS]!  -------------------------
what should I do
by decisiveBanana7177
Last post
 October 26th, 2023
...See more their is this one person who's really special to me, their the type of person where when I'm down they'll ask me how I am and try to give me advice even if they don't know what I'm talking about, they always ask how I am, they hold my hand and hug me and fight with my friends and says that I'm there's, I really like them but their the type of person who flirts with her friends so I may be nothing more than a friend to her I really don't know what to do and could use some advice 
Mother’s Day Icebreakers! ❤️
by goldenLion1121
Last post
 August 10th, 2023
...See more I know Mother’s Day can be especially hard for lots of people all over the world, and it’s okay to feel those feelings that you may feel. But, 7Cups are here to listen, support and help you in anyway possible. It’s okay to not be okay. My PM’s are always open ❤️ So, here are some icebreakers!- - What is your favourite memory of your mum? (Or Nan, aunt etc) - What’s something you’d like to do to celebrate Mother's Day? - How do you feel about Mother’s Day? I’d love to hear your answers!
Pleaseee helpp me, i am stuckk.
by cinnamonblue77
Last post
 June 23rd, 2023
...See more i am F (20yrs) and i am kind of stuck in a relationship. My boyfriend loves me too much. But i am from a family where we can’t date anybody, and my sisters have caught me many times chatting with my bf. They must hate me now. But my family matters more to me. I do not want to disappoint them. I already had a situation in my home where my sister had love marriage and there were alot of problems during that time. And I don’t want to go throught it again. Because i will lose all value in my house. My parents really love me now. But if they hear about it, they will be really upset and I don’t want that. i told about all this to my bf, but he said he can’t leave me and he won’t be able to live without me. Whatever i say, he doesn’t understand how much it will impact me. i broke up with him couple of times before bcs he was being kind of toxic. He wouldn’t let me have guy friends, he would doubt me often like if i like someone else, he would be angry if I didn’t text him late night everyday, he would be angry if i spend too much time with my friends and spend less time with him. I got tired of it. He said he will change that behavior. He said he would do anything for me. Evn he changed quite a little bit. But I don’t think he is the one for me evn if says he can give me the world. i don’t have inner peace these days bcs i am soo stressed out. He won’t let me leave this rltnship. It’s like i am trapped. But i want to leave this for my parents sake and my sake. but I don’t know how to break up. Bcs when i tried to break up with him before he had a panic attack, he loves me soo much. I don’t know what to doo . I am soo scared and stressed out.
UGH !
by relationshipdoom456
Last post
 June 23rd, 2023
...See more I feel so gross with myself right now! I've been talking to this boy on && off since last year. He makes a lot of dumb choices but he isn't a bad person. When I'm with him I'm happy and I just feel like I'm in the clouds. But, after tonight I honestly don't know how to feel about him. I went to his house to hangout and we ended up doing something, his friend knocked on his window && kinda interrupted but I didn't mind because we were finishing anyways. He had mentioned before that this friend of his was a virgin and that his friend did want to lose his virginity. I told him that the time would come and that he should let his friend handle it. The boy that I am talking to, I'll just call him C, C eventually asked me if I would do something with his friend. I was of course very uncomfortable with it and I said no. But he kept asking and asking and basically pressured me into it. I hated every second of it. After me and C's friend were done C came back into the room. He told his friend it was time for him to leave so his friend left and it was just me and him. I was being distant with him and I told him that I was probably just gonna leave. He told me how sorry he was for asking me to do that and that he would never ask me to do that again because I was his and he didn't even want me to do it but he felt bad for his friend. Me and C aren't really even dating were just talking *** you could call it. I know he talks to other girls and I try to act like I don't know but I do know. But since we arent dating I cant exactly say anything to him about it. I just feel so gross and like a disgusting person. I am supposed to hangout with C again tomorrow but I honestly don't know how I'm gonna feel after him asking me to do that. I felt like if I didn't do what he was asking he wouldn't talk to me anymore and I want him in my life even tho he isn't the best person to be in a relationship with. I feel like maybe I could change him. But if I can't im really just going to feel dumb. Please someone HELP ME!!! I don't know what to do right now.
Not alone but lonely
by vikijanee
Last post
 April 29th, 2023
...See more I feel a little stupid for how I've been feeling lately. I have the bestest friends I've ever had who genuinely care about me and want to spend time with me, but for some reason I can't get over that lonely feeling. My two closest friends are dating each other so I have to watch them cuddle and stuff while I third wheel even though they always make sure to include me in things when I'm there. The person who used to be my closest friend got realky distant randomly and won't hang out alone with me anymore. So I can hang out in groups but I can never get any one on one time with anyone. Is that me being selfish? I just want a close connection with someone and I'm told I'll find that in a significant other but I can't find anyone I like that way. Not too sure what I'm supposed to do about this.

Relationship Stress

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