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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Nov 4 - 10)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 12 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! It’s our first official week in November. :)  To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * This or that! Leaves picking or apple picking? * What’s one book that reminds you of fall, if you have any? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM 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Help needed in the Relationship Stress Community!
by KatePersephone
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying fall so far. I am Kate, the Community Mentor Leader of the Relationship Stress Community. The community is currently in need of Room Supporters and Forum Supporters to help out in both the chatrooms and the forums! Here you will find some brief explanations for both of these roles, alongside their requirements and their information pages. ------------------------- A room supporter helps in providing a welcoming space for members in the chatrooms, as well as quality support alongside listening. The role is available to both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Room Supporter: Listener: * No “Newbie” badge (being a listener for 4+ weeks) * Have 2+ Group Support Chats Member: * No “Newbie” badge (being a member for 4+ weeks) * Have the “Supportive Smile” badge * Complete the “Compassion Course [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbuGsqFMbaKWtCoC1WHaCJfaKfwfI8YZ62CsqTI2BzqVNwDg/viewform]” For more information and the application check here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/ApplicationStation_2148/RoomSupporterUpdatedRequirementsandApplication_247786/]. ------------------------- A forum supporter focuses on maintaining engagement within a community through posting and responding to threads. It is also available for both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Forum Supporter: Listener: * Be a Verified Listener * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Listener Community Guide [https://www.7cups.com/listener-community-guide/] & Listener Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatResources_61/ListenerOath_117/1/] Member: * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Member Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/Welcome_27/7CupsofTeaMissionCoreValues_207/MemberOathAllEncouragedtoParticipate_7447/1/] For more information and the application click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/LeadershipResourcesWhomToContact_2404/UpdatedSubcommunityTrackLeadershipRolesMasterpost2022_289838/]. ------------------------- Any help will be highly appreciated! 
Group Support Feedback for the Relationship Stress Community ✨💓
by KatePersephone
Last post
 October 27th
...See more Hello community! This forum thread has been created for the purpose of sharing the feedback our amazing hosts have received for the discussions they have hosted!
Space After Argument
by Mikanicolay
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Is it normal that my bf wants space for over a week after an argument? He’s also been going through stress outside of the relationship.
I need help and advice
by SpiritTea
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi there! I'm new to this... I've been in a 9mo relationship that I really enjoy, but lately there's been a lot of arguments and I feel really bad about them. I don't know if I'm the problem or if it's not me? I'm just stressed and feeling bad. I really love my bf and I don't want to break us apart or anything. I just want to inprove
There's so much I want to tell you but there's nothing I can tell you
by goodenough23
Last post
 Friday
...See more Have you ever been in a relationship where you have had loads to share but you couldn't because you were hesitant? This isn't a typical example to show how important communication is for a healthy relationship but.. You're sometimes stuck in a loop of uncertainty and confusion. Like, you may not know your partner well enough yet or let's introduce the element called, lack of trust. You feel like they might use that information against you in the future, god forbid when there's an argument or so. And what about the occasional mockery because you got vulnerable and ended up sharing the most embarassing stories with them.  It's not that you aren't dying to share your thoughts with them but you're afraid of the unknowns and uncertainties that may unfold at a later stage into the relationship. Share your stories below. I would love to read them.
I need advice
by Brandy4056
Last post
 Thursday
...See more hi my name is brandy i am 15 years old i have a problem with my thoughts i have too many bad thoughts i struggle not to succumb to my thoughts i even get headaches what should i do should i succumb or keep fighting? right now i am trying to be a good person but its too hard i tried to contact a psychiatrist but where i live there is none please i need advice.
Can sex be just sex?
by selfdisciplinedMelon5895
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more I’m not sure how to really put this, my thoughts are all over the place. After my first child, 2 years ago - I have completely lost my sex drive. My poor spouse has suffered my mood swings abs lack of sex (and even worse we’re trying for another kid - which, well… involves sex, so I feel bad, I feel like I’m using him). Anyway. I often feel like I would be 1000% OK if he were to have a sexual - and only sexual - relationship outside of me. I know those needs need to be met and I don’t want to fulfill those needs (I don’t want to fulfill those needs with anyone, so im not NOT attracted to him or anything). However I have recently thought about sexual relations with other men… and THATS it. I still want the relationship with my spouse, for him to be my person .. and well, still have relations… but both of us have relations with others. Ugh… I feel all over the place here lol.
How do you know it’s love?
by ImALittleStuckInPast23
Last post
 October 25th
...See more How do you know when you love someone or how do you know when someone loves you? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Let it Go!
by CheeryMango
Last post
 October 20th
...See more Breakups can often leave us with heavy, painful feelings, and with a desire to change in order to move forward after the end of the relationship. Moving forward involves identifying the painful emotions or thoughts and labeling what we prefer to feel or think. In this exercise, try to list 2-3 feelings or thoughts that you can change or let go of in your personal life, then try to list 2-3 feelings or thoughts that you would want to have instead. Sample Response: 1. I want to let go of the hurt, resentment and sadness that I currently feel from my recent breakup 2. I want to experience peace, happiness and self-love.
Is this worth the effort?
by MindfulQuest
Last post
 October 16th
...See more Hi friends, I need honest advice. One of the things that really made me realize I had to address my depression was the state of my marriage. We’ve been married 27 years, maybe the first 10 were truly happy. We had my first daughter 20 years ago. When we met, and for those first 7 years, we were basically atheists. When my daughter was born, my wife wanted her baptized as a Catholic. While I was resistant, I relented. That started her faith renewal. Over the years, her faith grew in leaps and bounds. My beliefs didn’t change. She started going to Mass each week, volunteering, and devoting more time to the church. Additionally, she volunteered for anything and everything my kids had going on. From sports team manager to Home & School President, to everything in between. Unfortunately, the more she did to fulfill herself, the less time we had together and the more I withdrew into my depression. Eventually, she got to the point where she attends Mass daily, and she openly acknowledges her faith is her number 1 priority. Events are planned around church services or church events, then events with the kids, and by then there is no time left. One morning, while we were being intimate, she just stopped and said, sorry, it’s time to go to church, we can finish when I get back. I was devastated. That event had a significant impact on me. Even before that day, I would try to start conversations to tell her I wasn’t being fulfilled. I wanted to be a priority in her life and spend time together. We would talk through it but a week or two later, things went back to where they were for another 4-6 months until I spoke up again. A year ago, after the intimacy issue, I started getting more direct. I was open that I couldn’t continue our relationship if things didn’t significantly change. I realize during this time I was getting progressively worse. Not only was I dealing with this, but I was dealing with a significant back injury that eventually required surgery. The surgery helped but I have been dealing with some level of chronic pain for the last 16 years. I was not a good partner, and I wasn’t making reconciliation any easier. Two months ago, I started to consider divorce after she told me one day that if she believed in divorce, she would have left already. Ater that, I was open that I didn’t know if our marriage could continue. The next month was ***. Two weeks ago, during an argument I told her I wanted a divorce as I could not take it anymore. This is where I changed. After I said it, I realized I wasn’t ready to go there, and I was willing to work on resolving my issues and to try and get healthy with myself. That’s when I joined 7cups. I’m really taking the time to try and get better. I’m re-integrating into her life, and I am putting in the effort. I started to go to daily Mass with her, not as a participant, but to just spend time with her. I’m trying to be more attentive to her and help with household things I normally let her handle. I’m making an effort, and she has acknowledged that. Along the way, I started to develop more feelings for her and realized I do still love her deeply. I’ve shared that with her numerous times, and I was starting to feel better about the possibility of forgiveness and reconciliation. I am also being careful not to mistake any sense of my own happiness that I am starting to find with this possibility. It’s hard, but so far I am keeping them separate. Well, the bottom dropped out. I told her how even with how difficult things are, I was enjoying the opportunity to share some level of affection with her and I felt like I was wooing her all over again. I expressed I was looking forward to rekindling our relationship when we were ready, whether that was weeks or months from now. That’s when she said she doesn’t think she wants, or needs that type of relationship and said, “that ship has sailed.” As we further discussed it, she explained she was fulfilled with her religion and while she realizes I may be looking for more than that, she’s not sure if she can, or is willing to get there. She was clear she does not want any intimacy and would like me to be as fulfilled as she is without it. My head is spinning, and I really don’t know where to turn. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster. I can continue to work on myself and maybe she would see the continuing changes and her feelings would change. There is nothing I can do to make my wife feel differently, she would have to make a conscious decision to do that on her own. I just don’t see it. With what she has said, I don’t think she has any desire to do so. My instincts are telling me to detach, accept the loss, and continue to work on myself. I really wasn’t ready to be dealing with both my depression and my marriage together but here I am. I’m not looking for anyone to tell me what to do. I’m looking for opinions based on what I’ve shared. I’m open to hearing perspectives I can’t see or think of. 
Tell me more about your experience
by Hopeprovider6771
Last post
 October 14th
...See more Hi there ! I would like to know more about your relationships experiences Have you experienced any significant stress in your relationships recently? If so, what were some of the challenges you have faced and how did you overcome this issue ?
Subconscious ignorance?
by affableThinker2892
Last post
 October 9th
...See more I have been with this person for 1.5 years, of which we have been living together for 6months. It all started once we moved in together in Feb 2024, first he started telling me about his trip plans with friends 1 day before leaving. Then he would come back from the trip and apologise and make promises that it wouldn’t happen next time. But the pattern repeated multiple times after that. He lied to me about his real age for more than a year and I found it out in May 2024, then forgave him again after a lot of fights and apologies. I think now that since we moved in together he has been trying to subconsciously sabotage the relationship by lying and being secretive and non communicative. In his last relationship, he broke up right after the girl asked him to move in together. I think he is afraid of losing his freedom with big steps of commitment, thus subconsciously ruining things. Not sure but I think it is because of his age, he is quite young and it’s fair to want to enjoy life more before settling down but I am not in that stage anymore. I want to settle down and have a family of my own.
Losing a childhood friend/crush
by yellowSailboat5818
Last post
 October 7th
...See more I just need to let out and have someone to talk about it right now. Last month (July), I recently lost a childhood friend over a confession. He confessed his feelings to me through *** invites, and I didn't answer, so he was under the assumption that I declined his confession. He lashed out and called me names. Because of that, I blocked him, but I eventually unblocked him and been checking his account a lot ever since. Honestly, I still love him, even though I'm mad about how he treated me that time. I also feel like having a talk with him about it, but a lot of people advise me not to; I understand though, since he should be the one talking about it first and apologizing. I just can't get him out of my head, even if it's been a month. By the way, before all of this happened. We were great friends in childhood and very close to eachother, talking to eachother a lot; until we got separated. We then got ourselves updated on eachother's lives through social media.
why me
by
Last post
 October 3rd
...See more why ,my sister is  is so annoying why she dont respect me, are all siblings same?

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