@ghettosmurf
Trust but verify....people tell % of honesty ....the details are critical. example a person who is a job jumper and they agree to QUIT that and stay the course as every job change has had effects .... find out they are doing it again they say because commute time ( a logical / valid reason) but you find out they are struggling with present workload....... were they HONEST......... well partially.....
partial honest is a growth opportunity for miscommunication and assumptions....
Grief hits everyone .........and while you may feel you got the worst of it ........you lost in your grief probably seemed like you were walking away and not there for him too.... death of a child breaks up many many marriages.
Saying "well he is a step parent" ...... diminishes his connection and grief........ We focus on ourselves when down or need to heal and we forget others sometimes........... as the world marches on and does not stop until we are ready to be involved again.
We also trust that our partners see/ anticipate and know how to support and help us through a difficult time .......... how ? What practice or preparation did either of you have for this loss?
if you really want to fix put yourself in his shoes... not excusing him just see ...when we feel left out / excluded and otherwise on shaky ground with relationship ...
it is easy to want to feel something ....and responses to his post probably made him feel good about himself... wanted / interesting...... something.............other then alone and in grief and not knowing how this was going to go.
The OLD school approach IMO to make this out as the worst and leave immediately .........have never walked in this persons shoes ...i hope they do not have to.. feeling alone or ignored and perhaps even assuming things are ending sucks and sometimes we make bad decisions when in limbo or pain and without the whole picture of what was happening.