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I fear I'm losing my best friend...

MarlonCale August 23rd, 2019
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Hi to you all, I'm Marlon (not that one Marlon in the Godfather unfortunately) and I'd like to share with you a problem is being affecting me for some time now.

First of all, it's about a girl. I met her in 2017 in my class. We got along well almost immediately but some months after she had to leave and she moved to a town near to the big city where I live and study.

We always kept in touch by chatting on WhatsApp or phoning each other, and I slowly started to fancy her. Having kept her away from the truth, I started developing something more, and now I'm totally and deeply in love with her. We never managed to meet because of the distance and of her multiple commitments. However next months she'll move to city and we'll finally be able to meet each other after a long time.

Since we chat every day, some months ago I finally found the courage to confess my feelings. While being extremely comprehensive, kind, sweet and emotive, she stated that she would feel really uncomfortable going out with me knowing what I feel for her. I suffer each day for this, but it's a matter I can handle. The real problem is another one.

Lately, she began making me wait hours for a single "yes" or "no", not answering me at all and ignoring my calls, at the point that in the last week we have exchanged at most ten messages.

I'm terribly afraid I damaged our friendship -which was a beautiful thing on both sides- by telling her my feelings.

Thank you for reading through.

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Temesgen9 October 18th, 2019
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@MarlonCale ouch, that hurts. I have been there myself. Most people run away faster when you chase them. If you have a co friend that is the best way to go about fixing the friendship. Otherwise it can really feel hopeless. If you are still friends on social media, just be a social media friend. Don't directly talk to her as that seems to push her away. Let her miss your presence and still show her you care by liking her posts occasionally. Give her time and space to forget about your feelings and give yourself time to heal also. Just don't get yourself blocked by demanding her attention when she is not comfortable. That is more painful.

kitkat34567 August 23rd, 2019
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@MarlonCale probably best to move on there is no telling if she will ever have feelings or not or just remain friends nothing more good luck its hard to be rejectedfrown

Popitzik August 27th, 2019
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