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Temesgen9
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Confusing Breakup
Relationship Stress / by Temesgen9
Last post
 February 27th, 2022
...See more We had a great few dates. He told his parents about me but since I was from a different culture than them, they didn't want me to be with him. So he decided immediately that 100% it can not work. I accepted and tired to be friends as he suggested. But I got mixed signs where clearly he loves me, so it was a struggle in my heart why he won't fight for love. And also prejudice is something that I hate & I wanted him to have the courage to stand up for me. He should at least talk to his parents and they should get to know me a little. Anyhow, as time passed, I continued to struggle. He felt guilty, very guilty. So he helped me emotionally, and because of that I loved him more. He was also rejecting me each time which restarted my pain/healing process. Now I am just trying to not contact him at all, and seeking therapy to heal. I can't take anymore rejections. And I don't understand why he has no hope.
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A dream that came true!!
Relationship Stress / by Temesgen9
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 October 22nd, 2019
...See more 4 years ago I had a dream about OCT 19 2019 (last Saturday). And it came true on that exact date. I don't know what to think. 4 years ago, I thought the dream was stupid and there was no way it would come true on such a precise date. It was more a fantasy than a reality. I remembered it anyway. But the fact that it happened is mind boggling.
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Playing the waiting game
Anxiety Support / by Temesgen9
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 November 8th, 2019
...See more I am trying to mend a broken friendship and I need to wait 6 weeks before I write my message. It has been 19 days. 6 weeks is 42 days! I have an anxious attachment style so you can imagine it has been really really hard and painful for me for the 1st two weeks. I am feeling much better now. My time of struggle is almost up. My friend will start to feel it after 3-6 weeks(different attachment style than me). That is why I have to wait. After that message & based on the response I get/don't get, it is easy to conclude we are friends or we were never friends.
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Need advice/input
Relationship Stress / by Temesgen9
Last post
 November 10th, 2019
...See more Didn't know I had anxious attachment style until I met this new friend on vacation. We are both the same gender. We clicked so well that I thought she was my soulmate. I find out she doesn't like compliments nor does she like anything emotional. We stayed in contact through emails but she was slowly distancing herself from me until I became so anxious. I think I am trying to be friends with someone who has a dismissive attachment styles. I feel we are polar opposites. I am emotional and like to get close to someone whereas she is not emotional and enjoy her free time when she wants. What triggered my anxiety was when she disappeared for an unusual amount of time that I thought something happened to her after a 10 day trek on a mountain trip. My anxiety lead me to call the police to check on her. She made the reason of being away on another vacation she didn't tell me about. This was after her 10 day trek vacation she told me about was completed. I never imagined she would go on another vacation. She thinks I acted crazy and wants no contact with me anymore. Now I am not sure what to do. I have not contacted her for 3 weeks. I have been working on myself to not be so attached & emotionally needy. I want to be a better friend to her now that I know what she doesn't like. I enjoy hearing her adventures & she is smart. I read that after 6 weeks a dismissive person will start to miss someone. I am planning to write to her then. Is this salvageable? Any Advice?
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Need input/advice
Personality Disorders Support / by Temesgen9
Last post
 December 10th, 2019
...See more Didn't know I had anxious attachment style until I met this new friend on vacation. We are both the same gender. We clicked so well that I thought she was my soulmate. I find out she doesn't like compliments nor does she like anything emotional. We stayed in contact through emails but she was slowly distancing herself from me until I became so anxious. I think I am trying to be friends with someone who has a dismissive attachment styles. I feel we are polar opposites. I am emotional and like to get close to someone whereas she is not emotional and enjoy her free time when she wants. What triggered my anxiety was when she disappeared for an unusual amount of time that I thought something happened to her after a 10 day trek on a mountain trip. My anxiety lead me to call the police to check on her. She made the reason of being away on another vacation she didn't tell me about. This was after her 10 day trek vacation she told me about was completed. I never imagined she would go on another vacation. She thinks I acted crazy and wants no contact with me anymore. Now I am not sure what to do. I have not contacted her for 3 weeks. I have been working on myself to not be so attached & emotionally needy. I want to be a better friend to her now that I know what she doesn't like. I enjoy hearing her adventures & she is smart. I read that after 6 weeks a dismissive person will start to miss someone. I am planning to write to her then. Is this salvageable? Any Advice?
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Scared away a new friend
Anxiety Support / by Temesgen9
Last post
 October 26th, 2019
...See more 't know I had anxious attachment style until I met this new friend on vacation. We are both the same gender. We clicked so well that I thought she was my soulmate. I find out she doesn't like compliments nor does she like anything emotional. We stayed in contact through emails but she was slowly distancing herself from me until I became so anxious. I think I am trying to be friends with someone who has a dismissive attachment styles. I feel we are polar opposites. I am emotional and like to get close to someone whereas she is not emotional and enjoy her free time when she wants. What triggered my anxiety was when she disappeared for an unusual amount of time that I thought something happened to her after a 10 day trek on a mountain trip. My anxiety lead me to call the police to check on her. She made the reason of being away on another vacation she didn't tell me about. This was after her 10 day trek vacation she told me about was completed. I never imagined she would go on another vacation. She thinks I acted crazy and wants no contact with me anymore. Now I am not sure what to do. I have not contacted her for 3 weeks. I have been working on myself to not be so attached & emotionally needy. I want to be a better friend to her now that I know what she doesn't like. I enjoy hearing her adventures & she is smart. I read that after 6 weeks a dismissive person will start to miss someone. I am planning to write to her then. Is this salvageable? Any Advice?
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