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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (January 27 - February 2)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What’s your favorite way to spend a weekend? * Do you prefer exploring cities or nature? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM 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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 January 21st
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInJanuary27February2_345510/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @Mayrosie @reservedOcean4062 @Lmp4198 @Lilmzsunshine316 @modestPlane1962 @mguelzzs @Kyoko777 @gabrie7849 @ContraryZebra2 @RainbowFerret852 @StingRaye@gentlePine3110 @Jenruntn @Justsomedudehere @Vanshitar @Cl337 @PurpleButterfly0801 @Brightpink200214 @SiniiKisa2020 @YeyyRay [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] 
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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 December 9th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @Gabrielamtineo @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @imofficiallyburnt @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @joiefae @jwong611 @k87 @Kailah15 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeafOnABranch @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants 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@SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger @SpiritTea @Grammy23 @quietlistener2023 @HopefulOne81 @modestRaspberries7557 @BeautifullyLostxo @batgirl1234
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Things were going well until he blocked me on Snapchat
by gentlePine3110
Last post
 Friday
...See more I was friends with this guy on Reddit. We started talking a lot. Then we became friends on *** last Wednesday for more consistent conversations and from there fwb since I didn't want commitment. Things were going great. Up until Saturday. We have different time zones and I panicked as to why he didn't respond to me. Turns out he had work. Which made since because at 3:00 pm for me which was his wake up time,assuming he went to work around 4 pm then got home around 12:46 on my time it made since considering he worked an 8 hour full time job. But the next day Sunday was no different. He said he would be busy until next Friday. Monday due to my PTSD and fear of being ghosted I logged out of *** and took the day off for myself. Tuesday came,I checked my message which was in response to asking him if we'll have any time to talk. He basically said no. So then I responded with I think we should just be friends without the benefits because even though I know you're not ghosting me your inconsistency in messaging is stressing me out. Wednesday morning when I checked again he said he was really sorry and that he didn't intend for this. I said it was okay and it wasn't his fault that I have PTSD from fear of being ghosted and that I want us to still be friends because I care about him. But then I think I said something like "but we can't have this connection anymore". I don't know because it wouldn't let me see the messages. He might have taken this as a misunderstanding, if I did say that, as I want nothing to do with him. Thursday morning,today when I went to go check to see his response he blocked me. We're still friends on Reddit,I assume he forgot to block me on there too. I don't know if I should ask him if it was a misunderstanding or get back at him for hurting me by blocking him on there. I feel like it's my fault for poor choice of wording if that's what I said and I don't know if he did it as a way to "protect me" or out of anger. I cried about it,just cried about it again recently. I feel so confused and hurt. I really liked his personality and even though we couldn't be fwb due to my stress and PTSD I still wanted him in my life even if that meant just friends. Sorry I know this was a rant. I need help.
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Need Advice Please
by StingRaye
Last post
 Friday
...See more This morning I found a lot of saved porn on my boyfriend's computer, maybe a month or two ago I had communicated with him that I was not comfortable with him watching porn, the most recent save was the 10th. I also found vaguely explicit pictures of his ex girlfriends that he had saved right after we started dating. I have talked with him about it at length and I've decided to stay with him. But it's all so burned into my brain, does anyone have any advice on how to move on from something like this?
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How to get through to him
by amusingJet1832
Last post
 Friday
...See more I (45F) was at work and my fiancé(49M) came to pick me. I was in my room working when I saw him walking in. He was upset saying he was out the office door for a bit and the door was locked. I let him know the door has been getting stuck recently after we had had a break in the previous month. I myself used my key to enter because i wasn’t able to open it. He said no your coworker locked it. We are 4 staff onsite, 1 male and 3 females. I let my fiancé know I needed 10 minutes to finish what I was doing and we could go home. He said he would wait in the car, but I cleared some space for him to wait in my room with me. Lateron He repeated your coworker locked the door with you inside I don’t like him. ( again there were 4 people in the office) I reminded him we have been having problems with the door. to which my fiancé replied no im not talking about the bottom lock he locked the top lock. (I don’t know how he knows which lock was locked from the outside) I didnt reply because I didn’t know how to respond to that. He started accusing me of f***ing my coworker. I kept asking him to stop but he kept saying that and I yelled at him to stop and what was wrong with him. He is still arguing with me about it a year later saying I messed up our relationship by being upset with him and not telling the other guy off( I’m the manager at the site) This is not the 1st time he’s come to pick me and we just had an office get together at the movies where I took my fiancé along. So he’s met my coworkers many times and never said anything before He refuses counseling, or to listen to anything I say, I don’t know how to get through to him
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FML. Why do I do this? (Story time)
by thespicymango
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more I am a sensitive guy. I don't fall for people often, but when I do I am completely magnetised to them. A recent experience became a painful reminder of why I need to change this before it literally turns me into a stone cold a**hole.  So last year I left a long term relationship due to significant differences in life aspirations, and I felt good about it - like a new chapter was beginning. Shortly after, and without meaning to, I met a girl in America during a business trip (I'm from the UK but go there a lot). This girl and I didn't start with any intentions, in fact it was a one-night stand. That night led to a couple more meet ups (walks in the park, dinner in the city etc) before I had to go back home. When I left, I decided to stay in contact with her - she was super cute, nice to spend time with, her dog LOVED me, and we clearly vibed together - so we kept talking.  Some weeks later I get a text that she's PREGNANT (I had been her only sexual partner in 6 months, so definitely mine). That was a massive curveball, and we decided it was best to get an abortion. That was immensely hard on both of us, but more so her due to the fact she had to go through with it without anyone there to support (I 100% would have gone if I could get there soon enough).  That experience definitely brought us closer together, and I booked a flight to go back to her city. I may have lied and said it was for business, but really I just wanted to see her again.  Anyway this was 2 months after the abortion, and we met again a week ago. It was great, like nothing had changed, and I stayed over at her apartment - amazing. We planned to go on dates and had a whole list of things to do before I left.  Then she had to go home to her parents for the weekend, and I waited to see her again. She would text me things like "I miss you" and "When I get back I'm locking you in my apartment" (a joke, but cute flirting) When she got back she invited me over, tired from the drive. I didn't mind, I just wanted to be with her. She fell asleep cuddling me, and I really felt like I had something real here. It was what I had hoped for. The next thing I know, she wakes up and we start to watch a new TV series we were going to binge together that night - she then tells me she doesn't feel great, gets really distant, and starts ignoring me entirely by going on her phone and not engaging with me at all.  I got anxious and confused, and then (maybe stupidly) asked her "So, are you talking to anyone else rn?" She got a little weirded out by my question and said she's not sure what she wants and that we live far away blah blah blah...  I know what that means... The feeling in the air completely changes and it's awkward, so I'm sat there distraught and trying to be calm amidst this unfamiliar discomfort with a girl who until a few hours ago was all over me. She gets upset and says "This feels to awkward and I feel like I want to cry".  I said I was sorry and hugged her because I didn't mean to make her feel like that.  She then says a little while later that she'd like to be alone tonight.  I immediately packed my stuff and left because I was about ready to break down and didn't want to face this situation. A few days later, and after going back to her parents for a few days and asking me to leave her be, I reached out to try and rekindle things. She tells me she isn't ready for a relationship, her mental health and hormones are all over the place and that this wasn't actually anything. I confronted her on how she told me all the things about missing me, wanting me. telling me "This just feels right", etc she apologised, and now I'm here in her city alone wondering wtf I did wrong.  I can't stop crying and wishing it wasn't happening. I risked a lot to come here and it's blown up in my face.  have no one in this city, and still a lot of time until I leave, so I guess I should make the most of my solo adventure even though it's not what I wanted. Moral of the story: Don't be too caring, and don't take people's words as truth, because it'll be taken for granted, and you'll be left broken.
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Relationship Advice
by FalconFootball91
Last post
 January 10th
...See more My crush, has been pretty distant lately like she will respond with one or two words and she responds every couple hours usually, but on calls she giggles and seems to have to much fun, I'm wondering if she's into me or not. I want to tell her how I feel but, I'm scared of rejection, losing her as a friend if she doesn't feel the same and I dont know how to even tell her, what should I do?
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Tell me what I need to hear!
by imofficiallyburnt
Last post
 December 21st, 2024
...See more A Little Backstory: I grew up with separated parents who struggled with drug addiction. As a result, I was placed in the custody of my aunt, who was more of a distant relative and given guardianship over me. This early upheaval contributed to my development of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Throughout my childhood, I faced bullying and drama from both girls and boys, which further complicated my social interactions. Between 8th and 12th grade, I had a few relationships, but they were largely toxic. I graduated high school in 2019 while in a relationship with my boyfriend, Oscar. Our relationship was tumultuous, marked by many ups and downs. Despite the toxicity, I stood by him as he struggled with an addiction to Xanax and infidelity. This experience left me with deep trust issues, insecurity, and a tendency to obsessively worry about him. After nearly three years together, I broke up with Oscar. Our breakup was messy, with him harassing me through numerous emails after I blocked him on everything. I thought that would be the end of it, but around Thanksgiving, I received a text from his sister informing me that he had overdosed on Xanax and passed away. This news sent my emotions into a tailspin, and I turned to alcohol for several months. I withdrew from my family and friends, blaming myself for his death for a long time. After many months of healing and therapy, I met my current boyfriend, Sam, on ***. I was immediately attracted to him but hesitant to enter another relationship. After a few weeks of direct messaging, I found comfort in having someone dependable to talk to and spend time with. At the time, Sam was in college with plans to pursue a career in agriculture. He enjoyed making rap music and skateboarding. As we began dating, he expressed understanding of my needs and reassured me that he would do anything to make me happy, much like others had promised before. Current: Sam and I have been together for over three years now, but we’ve been struggling with his infidelity on and off. I’ve caught him downloading apps to flirt with women around the world, posting inappropriate comments on local Reddit pages, and liking pictures of other women. He even had inappropriate conversations with a family friend with whom he has a history of intimacy. His cheating became so overwhelming that I eventually kicked him out of my house, hoping he would seek therapy and address his issues. After some time apart, I decided to give him another chance and let him move back in. Recently, I discovered that he had been liking a female coworker’s pictures on ***, knowing how uncomfortable and disrespectful I find that. They even had text conversations about my belongings, with him referring to them as if he owned them, without mentioning me at all. It also came to light that he had created a backup Reddit account over a year ago, despite having deleted his previous account after I found inappropriate content on it. Beyond his infidelity, Sam has been cold and disrespectful. Whenever I express my feelings or concerns, he dismisses me as being dramatic or invalidates my emotions. He often takes my car without permission, telling me I can’t go with him, and stays out all night with friends I don’t know, drinking and having fun. I’ve only ever allowed him to use my car for work, but if I voice my discomfort about his outings, he accuses me of being controlling and not letting him have freedom.  Our relationship lacks intimacy and connection. He rarely takes me on dates, buys me gifts, or shares interests with me. He doesn’t compliment me, show me off, or help me with my problems. During intimacy, he doesn’t seem to care about my pleasure. The only things we seem to do together are smoke, eat (whether I cook, or we buy food), and go to bed.  I’ve been hearing a lot from my family that I need to do better and seriously consider breaking up with Sam. Despite this advice, I continually find myself justifying his behavior and how he treats me. I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt just for contemplating leaving him, even though deep down, I know I’ll never be truly happy in this relationship. With Christmas approaching, all these conflicting feelings are weighing heavily on me, and I can feel myself spiraling out of control again. My mom suggested that I wait until after the holidays to break up with him, while my sister thinks I should do it before Christmas so we can return his gifts, confident he doesn’t deserve them. I’m at a crossroad and feeling really lost. Any advice on how to navigate this situation?
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Locker room jokes
by KLiz96
Last post
 December 14th, 2024
...See more I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now and last night I looked through his phone and found that 3 years ago his friend group started teasing him about another girl and would call her his girl. One friend would tell him privately he should cheat or take a one day break from me to not feel guilty. This same friend also said he would tell me he cheated with another girl. Another friend from this group later had a crush on this girl and the friend who texted him privately said in the group chat that my boyfriend would get mad. I found another message from the same friend saying he would tell the girl to do something explicit to my bf and he responded “No don’t what if she says yes 🫣” this reply hurt me so much and makes me not believe that it was just jokes as he claimed when I confronted him. He stayed up late answering all my questions and I had a realization after he brought up a trip I took with friends when he thought I did something since I told him there was a guy who was with us due to my friend and I sent a picture for safety reason since we were out of the country. He was hurt by that and a month later is when the girls name came up in the group chat . I feel so devastated because I moved 4 hours away from my family to be with him and I still have not found a job and currently don’t have a car or friends to turn to. I’m considering taking to his friends since I told him he could have stopped them from making those jokes and he played along with them himself.
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New here
by Aite
Last post
 December 10th, 2024
...See more Has anyone ever planned a breakup?
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How bad of an idea is it?
by courageousFig8305
Last post
 December 3rd, 2024
...See more Hi, I work in a private school at college-level (i.e. all students are between 18 and 23, usually, we've seen some in their 40s) and I've turned 30 this year. There is a students who finished her masters this September after her final defense in front of a jury of professionals and will pick up her diploma during the ceremony that will happen mid-December. I feel like it would be safe to reach out to her and let her know that I have feelings for her. But before you pull out your pitchforks, I'm not doing it with any hope. I've seen her cry after a bad break up 3 years ago, I've seen her try to improve herself to be more desirable by having a gym phase, I saw that her friend groups are mostly men and yet none of them seem to stick with her very long. I remember at one point we we're only four in a room (her, one classmate, my direct higher up (way on the other side of the room), and me) and I can't remember why but she jokingly said "as my mother used to say, smile if you're not pretty" but I think she was seriously phishing for something, neither me nor the classmate reacted much outside of a polite acknowledgement. It seems she's very insecure about her physique. Maybe I have weird tastes, maybe she is extremely attractive in an unusual way, I think it's the later. I had to work closely with her class for two years and we quickly saw that we have quite a lot of tastes in common, namely fashion and music. But not really much more, nothing that could count as flirting. At the end of the first semester of that two year and she had to go away on a year long hiatus because she failed to secure an apprenticeship. At that point, when she went away I saw my days be become dimmer, I missed having her around. Because I highly value deontology and also because I knew I couldn't resist her I went on to avoid her has much as possible, and maybe I overdid it. During class time I'm very proactive and I make sure I go talk to every students to make sure they have no questions unanswered when I let them go through the material I prepared. I only had one such class with her group from when she came back up until the graduation and during that class I went up to every single students in no particular order but her, I though that if there was an order, skipping her would have been too obvious. But near the end of the session I saw her decomposing, on the verge of tears, getting comforted by one of her friend. So now, what I want is to contact her[1] to let her know what I think. My hope is that it comes through as the sincerest compliment I can muster, I want her to know she's worth much more than what she thinks. That's what I want. I don't expect anything beyond that, I feel like I owe her an explanation. I hope she will be happy. I know this is not strictly asking for dating tips, but it seems quite related. [1]: it's going to be through text, I don't think I'll ever have the opportunity to tell her even though I feel ready for that. So, how bad of an idea is that? Should I keep it to myself? How likely is it that I'm going to get ridiculed and labeled as "that weird predatory dude who lust after the students"? Am I going to be more scary than comforting?
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I had so much hope and excitement for a new connection
by jetm0t0
Last post
 November 25th, 2024
...See more I have been getting to know this girl during this semester, and things picked up with more conversation and my interest in her grew a lot. We are in the same club at school and one day she offered people to come visit her at work. She didn't specify who but pointed in my general area with 2 others nearby. After a day or two I took that to be serious so I decided not to waste anymore time. We have about an 8 year gap but at my age I know I would be very lucky if I could find someone even within 5 years my age since most people are married.  So I think I spent about 2 weeks getting to know her even more 1 on 1. She seemed like she could handle my focus and attention so I didn't worry. I know for a fact she is single as well. One day she comes to the club meeting and just dodges me. She doesn't say hello and talks to other people and sat away from me, she only asked 1 question from me that whole day (all of this is not normal). So I am a bit upset about this, I went home and struggled to be relaxed because I just got rejected again. I decided that whatever happened can't happen again, so I went straight to wall and bunker building. There's some signs indicating maybe she's messing with me, because after getting dodged she walks by my study area on another day and waves to the people in the room but no one noticed except me. So I looked up and hesitated but eventually waved back. When people do those kinds of things it usually means they want my attention but won't give me all of what i'm looking for. She also walked away looking as if she regretted waiting for someone to notice her. Anyway this is the pattern, and now it's been a week or two since and yesterday she was in my study group/room and immediately started saying hi and stuff. But I am so defensive now at this point I respond with very little and turn the conversation off. She got the hint and turned back to her work, but I don't even know what to do now.  For me getting ignored like this is now a major flaw I see that I don't think is recoverable on her part (this also has a lot to do with not having the energy to accept this from a girl I like anymore). However, I still have to work with her in the club so I don't want to be petty and a cry baby but I felt a bit justified killing the conversation so far. Things aren't really awkward but I want to be able to stop thinking about her because it might be too stressful to continue trying to understand her. I've been single for over 20 years and another event like this has me really burnt out on girls, or just trying in general.
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One thing that helps!❤
by Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Last post
 November 23rd, 2024
...See more Hiya everyone, hope everyone's doing well.💖 I'm sure a lot of us come across situations here or even elsewhere, where many are dealing with similar issues in their dating/relationship experiences, and so much lies around how helpful it is to communicate with your partner, establishing a healthy space for expression and understanding. While communication is typically amongst the first tips to bank on, I was wondering what else may be helpful in managing healthy bonds with those that we love. Sooo, everyone coming across ~ What is that one thing that you feel has been helpful in keeping your relationships healthy and intact?💖 Or a tip/ insight that you'd like to share with others here that may be of some help in building stronger relationships.💖
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Situationship with myself
by Sleepingsnail427022
Last post
 November 23rd, 2024
...See more dated this guy(same age) for almost two years…but I broke up with him because my mother always made me believe throughout my life that high school is where I explore many relationships whatsoever…and that made me go crazy because the logic I grew up with and the reality didn’t…match.. anyways, we broke up 3-4 months ago. Currently, I’m in a limerence phase(not sexually though) with a guy in one of my classes. Limerance is when you find a sort of obsession with somebody and you think it’s love…but most of the time it isn’t. But I think it’s love in my case. His smile is so adorable, I spent time with him one on one and he even hugged me out of the blue…Maybe it is limerence, maybe it’s love. I don’t know. The problem is, my crush is getting really out of hand. I CANNOT focus on my homework or study because I can’t stop thinking about him. I want to confess and get it over with(it’s so obvious he doesn’t feel the same so I want to get rejected asap to get back on with my life but the only reason I haven’t til now is because many people are saying he’s socially awkward and looks uncomfortable but isn’t so my hopes rise up). The other problem is I can’t because me and my ex are still in touch, and I love him too…we’re kinda like friends with benefits minus the sexual part(so we just cuddle and stuff and he even kissed me on the forehead recently…which…idk what to feel about it) I’m not in poly, but I love two people at the same time. What should I do?

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