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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Dec 16 - 22)

by KatePersephone

1 day ago

...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today? * What’s a song you could listen to on repeat forever? * Cozy socks or fluffy blankets? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM 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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️

by ASilentObserver

December 12th

...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInDec915_342093/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @lovingGrapefruit8860 @raspberryKiwi4131 @turquoiseNest9943 @pluckyAcres9036 @patientMango4300 @peanut123456789 @Dash0 @PuffyCloud23 @understandingComputer9065 @MaCara @automatonic @sincereLion3371 @MuresanAndre @VelvetPoppy @GreenBlaze @persistentBalsam5393 @ggoidell @RamneetKaur @charlenedelfin @skyraven02 @sereneMuse @Astraois42 @djadee @energeticShade4362 @loyalPeach3985 @pumpkincatmother @Mokuro @drowningmermaid88 @azureCoconut2121 ard [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 16.12.24

Relationship Stress Automated Taglist

by Tazzie

December 9th

...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. 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Tell me what I need to hear!

by imofficiallyburnt

1 day ago

...See more A Little Backstory: I grew up with separated parents who struggled with drug addiction. As a result, I was placed in the custody of my aunt, who was more of a distant relative and given guardianship over me. This early upheaval contributed to my development of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Throughout my childhood, I faced bullying and drama from both girls and boys, which further complicated my social interactions. Between 8th and 12th grade, I had a few relationships, but they were largely toxic. I graduated high school in 2019 while in a relationship with my boyfriend, Oscar. Our relationship was tumultuous, marked by many ups and downs. Despite the toxicity, I stood by him as he struggled with an addiction to Xanax and infidelity. This experience left me with deep trust issues, insecurity, and a tendency to obsessively worry about him. After nearly three years together, I broke up with Oscar. Our breakup was messy, with him harassing me through numerous emails after I blocked him on everything. I thought that would be the end of it, but around Thanksgiving, I received a text from his sister informing me that he had overdosed on Xanax and passed away. This news sent my emotions into a tailspin, and I turned to alcohol for several months. I withdrew from my family and friends, blaming myself for his death for a long time. After many months of healing and therapy, I met my current boyfriend, Sam, on ***. I was immediately attracted to him but hesitant to enter another relationship. After a few weeks of direct messaging, I found comfort in having someone dependable to talk to and spend time with. At the time, Sam was in college with plans to pursue a career in agriculture. He enjoyed making rap music and skateboarding. As we began dating, he expressed understanding of my needs and reassured me that he would do anything to make me happy, much like others had promised before. Current: Sam and I have been together for over three years now, but we’ve been struggling with his infidelity on and off. I’ve caught him downloading apps to flirt with women around the world, posting inappropriate comments on local Reddit pages, and liking pictures of other women. He even had inappropriate conversations with a family friend with whom he has a history of intimacy. His cheating became so overwhelming that I eventually kicked him out of my house, hoping he would seek therapy and address his issues. After some time apart, I decided to give him another chance and let him move back in. Recently, I discovered that he had been liking a female coworker’s pictures on ***, knowing how uncomfortable and disrespectful I find that. They even had text conversations about my belongings, with him referring to them as if he owned them, without mentioning me at all. It also came to light that he had created a backup Reddit account over a year ago, despite having deleted his previous account after I found inappropriate content on it. Beyond his infidelity, Sam has been cold and disrespectful. Whenever I express my feelings or concerns, he dismisses me as being dramatic or invalidates my emotions. He often takes my car without permission, telling me I can’t go with him, and stays out all night with friends I don’t know, drinking and having fun. I’ve only ever allowed him to use my car for work, but if I voice my discomfort about his outings, he accuses me of being controlling and not letting him have freedom. Our relationship lacks intimacy and connection. He rarely takes me on dates, buys me gifts, or shares interests with me. He doesn’t compliment me, show me off, or help me with my problems. During intimacy, he doesn’t seem to care about my pleasure. The only things we seem to do together are smoke, eat (whether I cook, or we buy food), and go to bed. I’ve been hearing a lot from my family that I need to do better and seriously consider breaking up with Sam. Despite this advice, I continually find myself justifying his behavior and how he treats me. I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt just for contemplating leaving him, even though deep down, I know I’ll never be truly happy in this relationship. With Christmas approaching, all these conflicting feelings are weighing heavily on me, and I can feel myself spiraling out of control again. My mom suggested that I wait until after the holidays to break up with him, while my sister thinks I should do it before Christmas so we can return his gifts, confident he doesn’t deserve them. I’m at a crossroad and feeling really lost. Any advice on how to navigate this situation?

How bad of an idea is it?

by courageousFig8305

December 3rd

...See more Hi, I work in a private school at college-level (i.e. all students are between 18 and 23, usually, we've seen some in their 40s) and I've turned 30 this year. There is a students who finished her masters this September after her final defense in front of a jury of professionals and will pick up her diploma during the ceremony that will happen mid-December. I feel like it would be safe to reach out to her and let her know that I have feelings for her. But before you pull out your pitchforks, I'm not doing it with any hope. I've seen her cry after a bad break up 3 years ago, I've seen her try to improve herself to be more desirable by having a gym phase, I saw that her friend groups are mostly men and yet none of them seem to stick with her very long. I remember at one point we we're only four in a room (her, one classmate, my direct higher up (way on the other side of the room), and me) and I can't remember why but she jokingly said "as my mother used to say, smile if you're not pretty" but I think she was seriously phishing for something, neither me nor the classmate reacted much outside of a polite acknowledgement. It seems she's very insecure about her physique. Maybe I have weird tastes, maybe she is extremely attractive in an unusual way, I think it's the later. I had to work closely with her class for two years and we quickly saw that we have quite a lot of tastes in common, namely fashion and music. But not really much more, nothing that could count as flirting. At the end of the first semester of that two year and she had to go away on a year long hiatus because she failed to secure an apprenticeship. At that point, when she went away I saw my days be become dimmer, I missed having her around. Because I highly value deontology and also because I knew I couldn't resist her I went on to avoid her has much as possible, and maybe I overdid it. During class time I'm very proactive and I make sure I go talk to every students to make sure they have no questions unanswered when I let them go through the material I prepared. I only had one such class with her group from when she came back up until the graduation and during that class I went up to every single students in no particular order but her, I though that if there was an order, skipping her would have been too obvious. But near the end of the session I saw her decomposing, on the verge of tears, getting comforted by one of her friend. So now, what I want is to contact her[1] to let her know what I think. My hope is that it comes through as the sincerest compliment I can muster, I want her to know she's worth much more than what she thinks. That's what I want. I don't expect anything beyond that, I feel like I owe her an explanation. I hope she will be happy. I know this is not strictly asking for dating tips, but it seems quite related. [1]: it's going to be through text, I don't think I'll ever have the opportunity to tell her even though I feel ready for that. So, how bad of an idea is that? Should I keep it to myself? How likely is it that I'm going to get ridiculed and labeled as "that weird predatory dude who lust after the students"? Am I going to be more scary than comforting?

I had so much hope and excitement for a new connection

by jetm0t0

November 25th

...See more I have been getting to know this girl during this semester, and things picked up with more conversation and my interest in her grew a lot. We are in the same club at school and one day she offered people to come visit her at work. She didn't specify who but pointed in my general area with 2 others nearby. After a day or two I took that to be serious so I decided not to waste anymore time. We have about an 8 year gap but at my age I know I would be very lucky if I could find someone even within 5 years my age since most people are married. So I think I spent about 2 weeks getting to know her even more 1 on 1. She seemed like she could handle my focus and attention so I didn't worry. I know for a fact she is single as well. One day she comes to the club meeting and just dodges me. She doesn't say hello and talks to other people and sat away from me, she only asked 1 question from me that whole day (all of this is not normal). So I am a bit upset about this, I went home and struggled to be relaxed because I just got rejected again. I decided that whatever happened can't happen again, so I went straight to wall and bunker building. There's some signs indicating maybe she's messing with me, because after getting dodged she walks by my study area on another day and waves to the people in the room but no one noticed except me. So I looked up and hesitated but eventually waved back. When people do those kinds of things it usually means they want my attention but won't give me all of what i'm looking for. She also walked away looking as if she regretted waiting for someone to notice her. Anyway this is the pattern, and now it's been a week or two since and yesterday she was in my study group/room and immediately started saying hi and stuff. But I am so defensive now at this point I respond with very little and turn the conversation off. She got the hint and turned back to her work, but I don't even know what to do now. For me getting ignored like this is now a major flaw I see that I don't think is recoverable on her part (this also has a lot to do with not having the energy to accept this from a girl I like anymore). However, I still have to work with her in the club so I don't want to be petty and a cry baby but I felt a bit justified killing the conversation so far. Things aren't really awkward but I want to be able to stop thinking about her because it might be too stressful to continue trying to understand her. I've been single for over 20 years and another event like this has me really burnt out on girls, or just trying in general.

One thing that helps!❤

by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

November 23rd

Situationship with myself

by Sleepingsnail427022

My relationship sometimes makes me....

by Hopeful0001

November 5th

...See more Want to just scream. It doesn't really matter what i say or what I do, I am always wrong. He thinks I gaslight him by telling him how things he said make me feels. He says that it is him using empathy when he tells me the mean thing my friend said about me to him days ago. But in my mind there's no real point bringing up something like that days after it was said, all it does is hurt me and he can't see that, and said that I am making him out to be the bad guy. He said that all I ever do when I complain about him is make him look like the bad guy and don't tell people about the good he does like buy me food when we go out and pay for my waxes. Our last argument started because I was talking about wanting to go for a promotion and he asked me about my car, asking if my car would take it, and I asked him not to be negative, and he got upset saying he wasn't being negative, that he was talking pros and cons, and I said I dont want to talk about that and it just escalated from there. He says we can't ever talk about serious things. But it is my decision. We don't live together. All we do is see each other when he is here, we sleep together, we go on little dates, And this is going to make me look really bad but we have been dating for over a year and like 3 to 4 months into dating him, I found out he was married. I know I am a bad person for not ending the relationship but he was the first guy who would treat me sweet. What frustrates me so much about this relationship is that sometimes I feel like he thinks I am a stupid young girl he can control because he is older than me (only by 7) and that if I even disagree with him, I am starting huge issues. Also, the double standards are real. He can be unfaithful but I can't even talk about other men or talk to other men, and he recently got upset because he was told (incorrectly) that I was bragging about an ex and talking about wishing I could talk to men without getting caught by him. Honestly a part of me is scared he is going to find this post because he does know i spend a lot of time on 7cups but I hope that he does not decide to come check this out but I guess if he brings this post up, it is a sign that he is toxic, right? I feel like im not allowed to vent about I feel and that I walk on eggshells with him. I don't even know if what i feel for him is love or just the fact that I do not want to be alone. I work a lot beyond when I see him, I do like the companionship and the physical intimacy is where we shine the best I guess, which is sad.

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