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Hi everyone. I've got so much on my lifes plate today. I just dont know where to start. I guess I feel the pressure of making decisions in every area of my life and decisions small or big are always tough for me. I'm going through a huge problem in my marriage and my kids are going through rough situations and my job is getting overwhelming. I dont know how to talk to my best friend 14 years... because I already know where she thinks I should go in life and I'm not ready. Hope someone can relate and I'd love to chat and exchange insights. Bless you all.

I'm really new here and not sure where exactly to start. So I guess I'm just going to wing it.

I'm 32 my husband and I have been married for almost 7 years,t for 16 and we have 3 kids.

My husband has his own business, and as his coworker had an accident and has been out of work for a month, he has been mostly working alone since.

I have really bad depression and anxiety and these last few weeks have been really hard, but theres one thing that's bothering me the most and I'm not sure if I'm being crazy or not.

He's been stressing a lot lately with work, I understand that completely. But as of lately he's staying at work later and later. Which, knowing what's going on there I understand, but what's getting to me is that he NEVER lets me know what is going on. Example, his work closes at 6, and tonight I had to call him at almost 10pm to find out what was going on. For him to tell me "oh, I had to go help (coworker and son) because she just got out of the hospital"

Ok, I get that, But the answer when I ask him why he wouldn't let me know is "I'm a grown ass man and you're a big girl, why do I need to tell you everything I'm doing. Your acting crazy. I'm coming home to you isn't that enough?"

Am I wrong that I think it's a basic courtesy to let people who are waiting for you know what's going on? This is something that really matters to me, and he thinks my wanting to know what he's doing is me being controlling. I think keeping people in the loop is showing respect.. am I crazy?

Hi everyone, I'm new to this group, hope to learn a lot through these posts and chats. I have recently come to terms that I am definitely attracted to women only...I have never been in a relationship or dated so I would like to learn..I suffer from social anxiety and I am not out of the closet so that would explain why I haven't been on a date or anything like that...well that's me. Cheers

toHello All,

I'm Sky. I'm confused. Been dealing w depression during & after failing at a job, got a new job, depression hit again after issues w a coworker.

I have a friend from middle school who tried to counsel me during the darkest depression. What she said at times hurt so much I decided it'd be better to take some space away from everyone & deal w my problems. It felt like I was this dissection she was doing & she was cutting into me, commenting & exclaiming about how much more messed up I was than any other human she'd met.

Came out of the darkest bit but the way my friend & I chat is weird now. It seems like any time I mention anything I don't like about my life, or if I get irritated/scared after something suboptimal happens she says things aimed to guilt me into being happy (how much worse other people have it, implying I should be grateful).

Talked to her about the weirdness & how those types of words make me feel. She said she doesn't know how to talk to me bc I've changed & I feel like I'm broken & she doesn't know what to do bc I over analyze everything she says & I won't accept her help. She says she's offered advice to others & no 1 else had issues w it. She says I don't accept/love myself & thinks I've given up on myself & am not working to deal w my brokenness.

My other friend drops hints about being happy...not sure if I'm reading into it. I'm scared of losing my friends & feel like I have to filter what I express to everyone & now them 2.

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Hey I'm Kristen and I just found this site. I was a virgin when I got married due to religious reasons, and I thought I would enjoy sex because I messed around with my husband a bit before we got married, but on my honeymoon it turns out I have pain with sex (spasms in the muscle). This sent me into a big spiral of depression, anxiety, and panic attacks because I hate sex but my husband still has needs. I love him so much but I think I might be asexual. I still want to be married and have kids, but we have the same fights over and over about me not being receptive and him not understanding my situation. I'm trying to have a good attitude and take steps to reduce the pain, but I still hate it. My husband doesn't feel sexually appealing and is constantly upset about hurting me and being unable to "return the favor" if you will.

I want to do my best in responding to other people's posts, and let you know that even if my advice isn't any good for your situation I still love you all a lot. I'm here to listen!

Hi, I'm Keith, 32, married for 9 years. We have three sons; two step sons and my wife and I have a son. I'm here because I feel a lack of appreciation from my wife. I could be wrong, but in my opinion, I pull more weight than anyone in the house and I give myself to the household and I don't feel that effort reciprocated. It makes me feel unappreciated, unloved, etc. I need a little help with a lot of feelings.

Hello, I'm Blair. I'm a month into a breakup and feel that I've made good progress. I just wanted to say hello and would like to help anyone that is struggling!

Hey everyone, my name is Ruby and I'm 17 years old.

I joined this forum as I've been having a rough time over the last couple of months with my family disapproving of the guy I like, and for this reason we've been in a secret relationship during those months. Since it's my first relationship, I'm a little confused as to how it all works out and when to know if I'm in love or not. Plus, it can be difficult sometimes to not let my worth or happiness rely on my ability to keep him happy or on his own mood. Especially as it can be a struggle to keep myself happy a lot of the time as it is.

The way we got together was a little unconventional too - he fell for me while in a 3 year relationship (I had fallen for him as well), and decided to end things with his girlfriend as he felt it wasn't fair to her, that they had drifted apart and that things hadn't been going well for a while. He holds himself accountable for what happened though, and says he was a bad boyfriend to have grown complacent towards the end. It's been 5 months since they broke up, and he's been trying really hard to move past who he was. I'm not sure what you guys view as cheating, but all we had done was speak to each other quite often, in school and over the phone. It was mainly because even if I couldn't have him romantically, I really liked him as a friend too - since we have very similar interests. So sometimes I worry if we "cheated" or not.

So yeah, that's me and that's why I joined the forum :)

Hello. My name is Blair. I've been on 7cups for nearly a month now due to a breakup that has made me realize that I need to make some serious changes. I've been working hard and have made some progress, but it's still going to be a long road ahead.

I thought I would say hello to everybody and say that this has been an amazing place during all of the dark days!