How to recover... again....
I let him suck me back in. I believed he had changed as he promised he did. I mean, who would promise such changes if he didn't think he needed to change those things?? My ex, that's who! He put on the charm, told me all he did wrong in our 12 year marriage and too me throwing at him other things he did wrong that he hadn't thought of. Then when it seemed I wasn't going to trust him again with the snap of his fingers, he started lying and cheating again. Now he ows me a few grand (stupid, why did I do that!?) and I'm stuck having to play his mental games to get it back. I have to play nice and play his games until I get my money. How long will he drag this out.
I feel like a moron for believing he had changed. My old therapist who helped me through the divorce, my family and my friends.... they all knew it wasn't true. But I had to try.
And now he's replace me again like I never mattered and stating he never lied and never cheated even when I have proof.
And I'm left alone... trying to figure how to recever ... again.....
Hi there,
Thanks for sharing, I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sucks when your trust has been taken for granted and someone feels like they can just use you. My suggestion is, talk to someone you trust, family member or a friend. Maybe talk to your therapist again, you will need someone as you are going through this difficult time again.
I agree with, @Lucym88 "It sucks when your trust has been taken for granted and someone feels like they can just use you." It's a terrible feeling to be betrayed in any way, and it seems like he has taken granted of you and your feelings. With everything going back to him and loaning the money, looks like you care(d) about him, but you've taken notice of his actions. I'm deeply sorry for the pain and trouble you are going through with this. I can only imagine how exhausting this can be with the mind games he's putting you through. I also like, @Lucym88's suggestions about talking to a trusted family member or friend or therapist. @road2smiles
I feel as though I've whined enough to my family and friends. Did think about going to the therapist again. She too told me it was a bad idea. Ugh.
