Letter to Self
Hello! (I'm Violet)
TCR can have some silly conversations… and as we were discussing whether or not love letters are still “a thing,” @CommunityModAnne told us that we should all write a letter to ourselves! I think that can be a great way to slow down and get out whatever feelings you have towards yourself.
Here are some things you could maybe write about:
What can I forgive myself for?
What do I like about myself?
What encouragement can I offer myself? What do I need to keep working on?
Where do I see myself in 5, 10, 20 years? And how can I get there?
Whatever else you can think of!
Feel free to keep your letter private, save it for your future self to read, or share it here! I’ll share mine soon to get the thread going. Update me on your progress! What are you writing about, if you don’t want to share the entire letter? How did it feel to write it all out?
And so, in honor of Anne, you could start it like she suggested!
“Dear Self, Mod Anne the tea cup on 7 cups told me to write to you…”
Tagging people in the room for the discussion: @reliablebunny23 @versatileWhisper1571 @KiminoSuizouwoTabetai @Anycat123 @dinosaurBlitz @CommunityModAnne @Apeatrice @Heartsandrosesandpaws
And some other people too: @DingoOliver @PastaIsVeryUnderrated @MickMoss @Noor511 @DarkerPlaces @theboymoana
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@VioletNotes
Yayy a wonderful idea , I have been writing letters to self since last year , but haven't wrote anything in a while , will surely write one sometime soon .
Thank you for your reminder for me , to remind myself to write ♡
@VioletNotes
Dear Self, Mod Anne the tea cup on 7 cups told me to write to you,so here is my letter.
You're so unsure of how things will go in the future,you're scared of the unknown, everywhere feels dark and you are clueless about the way forward. You have thought it's because someone is always making that very important decision for you,but I am happy that the present you has learned to be responsible for your own actions and choices,so I am here to tell you that I am proud of you,you did well baby girl.
I know you have really made some bad choices which left you with scars but it's time to let go,it's time to forgive,it's time to stop the self hate.
You're stronger than you can ever think and I am sure there will always be a way somewhere, just keep on searching, never ever give up dear.
I hope you really find that one thing you are good or talented at,something that will make you happy,someone who loves you for you.
In 5 years time I hope to see you healed, fulfilled,accomplished and happy.
You can do this Tee.
@VioletNotes This is a fantastic idea - very thought provoking questions Violet! :)
Trigger it's a bit unhinged
Dear self,
I always look to the future but now I want to speak to my past. I knew how I felt about getting older. Also the strong feelings I had about my parents. I know we all make mistakes and they did too and it's not always funny. You don't always look back for a laugh, sometimes you just look back to the many moments you felt bleak. I think about how helpless it all was and I couldn't get out of my head. Well, I'm out now. I'm out of my head and it is a painful world and sometimes you're not ready to take it on with others the way you always expected. In fact you're alone a lot and it's really freeing. Strangers don't hurt you the way friends and family do, it's more safe, but it's time to let people in again. I know you filled pages and pages of diaries, I have to tell you that you've let it all out. All the fears and all the crazy. You know exactly what's wrong with you and you're not taking crap from anyone. You don't take your pain out on yourself. You look at the mirror everyday and love every part of yourself even when other people don't. You pick yourself up well and you're not even faking it anymore. You're you. You're not trying to be anyone else. Life's been hard. It's hard to cope with it all. I always thought I lacked courage, but it's hard to get up everyday the way that I do. With all that's wrong with me (and I get to say that people treat me differently every day I'm allowed to say I'm different without it being a pity party). I've gotten through so many challenges all I am is capable it's ableists that that are stupid for not learning to see things from a new perspective. I thought my realizations and growth would make me more graceful but being there for yourself Is messy. My family pushed me down. They never accepted me for who I am, for my abilities, my opinions, my sexuality, etc. I've taken crap from lots of people. And I don't care what anybody thinks about me, my respect is earned. Everything is going to change for you, just be along for the ride and trust yourself and follow through, it's ok if you're wrong sometimes.
Dear Self,
I was told to write to you so wherever you are, whatever you doing, I hope you are listening.
Things have been really difficult lately ever since you quit that job with no future job lined up. It hasn't been easy finding jobs which isn't really surprising considering how difficult the job search process is.
But I believe you will get through this. You have gone through this before, and you came out victoriously. I mean you have gone through so many challenges that you conquered them all.
Trust me, you will get a new job. There is a company out there that will hire you and you will be the perfect fit. You just got to keep applying and hope the job search ends soon.
I also want to say good luck with dealing with your family on top of that. I know they have a lot of issues especially your dad. But as long as you don't do anything that will **** him off, you will survive. Just stay away from him as best as you can.
I hope that when you are reading this you are already working at a new job that will hopefully last long term and will support your mental health which you so value.
And keep working on your personal blog, Pressure Shock. You have some really good content, and I can't wait to see your next post.
Well that is all for now. I hope all goes well and you take care of yourself.
-Self
@wandamx26 I love the encouragement ♡ like you were speaking to a good friend
@VioletNotes
I have never been given encouragement from anyone including family and friends.
@Gettingbettertoday What about from yourself ? While we're on the topic
@VioletNotes
I was quite Stoic in my youth. I thrived on challenges and opposition. If you pushed me I would push back harder until I won. I always assumed I could win either because I was Technically Right, Morally correct, Smarter, more Skilled, or had access to special recourse's. In other words I thought I was superiors to most other humans. This requires a level willpower/drive I no longer possess.
I have gained a modicum of humility since then. I still think I am smarter than most. What is different is that I don't believe this makes me better then anyone else.