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Warmth and Compassion with WarmLightXO

WarmLightXO May 23rd, 2022
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It’s time for another interview! Please enjoy @Fristo interviewing me, @WarmLightXO , about warmth and light :)



Here is a wonderful human being, sharing how they perceive life and their cups journey so far.


Generally speaking, what do you think life is for?


I think life is for love. I'm religious, so that's part of it for me, but in general I think love is what makes life worth living.

More specifically,

I think life is for connection, for growth, for warmth, and for community.

As humans we have this innate drive to care for and love one another, and honoring that plays a large part in our wellbeing. Offering that same love to ourselves is a total game changer for the good <3


You recently turned 18. In your life so far, what valuable lessons have you learned that will show you light in your life’s path to follow?


  • Most people are really happy to help if you just ask.

  • Some love is temporary, that doesn't make it less important.

  • Someone not loving me doesn't mean I'm not lovable.

  • Grief is forever but it isn't for always.

  • I am not complete but that doesn't mean I'm not good.

  • I am worth taking care of.


Where do you see yourself one year from now?


A year from now, I will have finished my first year of college. I see myself continuing to work to put myself through school, and continuing to grow with my Cups family. A year is a short amount of time, but I plan to use it the best I can.


How did 7 cups happen for you?


When I was 13, I was in a very bad place. I remember frantically googling things like "someone help me," and "I feel so alone." At some point, 7Cups popped up. I chatted with a very kind listener, felt better, and closed the site.

This past year, I was talking to a friend about how I tend to get so stuck in my own head. They asked me if I'd ever considered volunteering, and 7Cups popped back into my brain. I signed up as a listener on impulse, and now here we are!


What is your role at 7 cups? In other words, in what ways do you contribute to the progress of the 7 cups ecosystem?


I contribute to our communities through mentoring, (I’m an Academy Mentor and a Quality Mentor) and heading the Living with Leaders Project. I’m an anonymous evaluator, script writer, discussion host, and moderator. In short, I’m mostly active in chatrooms and in listener DMs :)


In your present life, on and off cups, what things totally deserve your energy?


Things that deserve my energy make me feel purposeful and whole.

My younger siblings.

My mentees.

My flower garden.

My best companion Shiloh.

Painting and embroidering.

School.

Hosting discussions.

Therapy.


Write a message to show gratitude for all the good things in your life, including the gratitude you feel for the cups community.


Oh gosh, I don't know where to start! I have been incredibly blessed. I've been fortunate enough to face struggles and learn to cope from a young age, I'm beyond grateful for that. Our 7Cups community has massively changed my life for the better, and I'm grateful for all the amazing people I've come to know and the fulfilling opportunities I've been granted.

I'm grateful for the natural beauty in our world that reminds me my heart is beating when I get too busy to remember.

A nd I'm grateful for pasta. Always pasta.


[Taglist: @Dallady @HealingTalk @MyNameIsNicole @SkylarListens @ThoughtfulBlossom @WarmLightXO @Zarram77 ]

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fruityPond7887 May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO Wait, you're only 18!? You seem so much older! I love your energy and how you portray yourself that I never imagine you were that young. Thanks for all you put into our community!💜

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@fruityPond7887

Hahaha thank you, I actually just turned 18 :o

I get that a lot though, it makes me laugh. In person people get confused because I do carry myself like I'm much older (and have a music taste mostly from the 90s lol) but I have a babyface XD

Thank you for making me smile :) I hope you're doing well and you enjoyed the interview! <3

fruityPond7887 May 26th, 2022
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@WarmLightXO You're amazing and the world is lucky to have you here! I have a babyface too so I do understand 😝 The interview was great! Thank you for taking the time to share! 💖

HealingTalk May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO

So wise so young!

What an inspiring interview, maybe the most heartwarming so far.

And your words sound so honest, so true.

A real gem.

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@HealingTalk

Aww, thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed <3 :)

theboymoana May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO you are really nice Elliot I think help lot of people here and your never mean to me even if I don’t understand everything and I want to do question thing again in chatroom but I miss them all the time it’s fun to do that though

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@theboymoana

We're doing one next Sunday at 10pm EST! I hope you'll come <3 We always have so much fun :)

theboymoana May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO

I will try to remember because I am not good remembering that stuff actually I will tell my mom to help me remember so I can do that. I am not good at days and time but my mom is so she can help me

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@theboymoana

I'm glad she helps! I'll message you before as well :)

exuberantBlackberry9105 May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO Wow! So correct! I think life is for love, but then I feel unloved and unwanted. The valuable lessons you've learnt are amazing, too. Things that deserve your energy, so many wonderful things! They remind me of the things that deserve my energy. I feel better after reading this post. Is it okay if I bookmark this post so I can come back to it when I'm feeling bad?

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@exuberantBlackberry9105

Absolutely bookmark it, I'd be honored! I'm so glad you enjoyed 💚💛 I hope you'll consider joining our taglist so you can see these interviews weekly!

I understand feeling unloved, I hope you're able to understand that it is a feeling and not a reality. You're always loved here 😊 And you can always give yourself the love that you feel you're lacking.

Sending much warmth! 💚🌻

exuberantBlackberry9105 May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO Oh, thank you for letting me bookmark it! Um... I'm new here so I don't understand what a taglist is.

Feeling unloved might just be a feeling, but I do love myself! But I feel I'm the only person who loves me, and the only person I love is myself. "And you can always give yourself the love that you feel you're lacking." I didn't get what that means. Can you please explain?

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@exuberantBlackberry9105

You can see the taglist at the bottom of the post, and by joining the taglist, you get alerted every time a new interview in this series is posted! I'm the leader of the series and I host each Sunday 😊 You can find the instructions to join the list here, absolutely no pressure! Just wanted to let you know of the option 😛

I'm glad to hear that you love yourself, that's a really valuable thing to carry through life. I understand feeling as if you're the only one you love too- and that's alright. I'd be happy to explain what I meant 💚

When I say "give yourself the love that you feel you're lacking," I am referring to our psychological need for acceptance and support. Sometimes, when those needs aren't being met by the people around us, we manipulate others or our situations to try and force these things. Examples might be lying about your situation so that people feel sorry for you and give you attention, or pretending to be cis instead of trans to feel accepted.

These aren't evil things in of themselves- just unhealthy ways to meet unmet needs.

You mentioned feeling unloved and unwanted at times, and I was suggesting asking yourself, "What would make me feel loved and wanted?" and practicing giving it to yourself 💚 We can't always rely on others for these things (although it's amazing to have reliable support systems that we trust!) and offering yourself that love and attention can be really healing. Of course, it's definitely not always that easy or simple, I know.

I hope that made sense, we can defintely talk about it more in DMs if you're interested or if I'm too convoluted 😛

Now I really am going to sleep hehe

exuberantBlackberry9105 May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO Oh, thank you! I think we can have a 1-to-1 chat later.

Sharuhisereneworld040 May 23rd, 2022
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  • Most people are really happy to help if you just ask.

  • Some love is temporary, that doesn't make it less important.

  • Someone not loving me doesn't mean I'm not lovable.

  • Grief is forever but it isn't for always.

  • I am not complete but that doesn't mean I'm not good.

  • I am worth taking care of.

    What a great impression one can have about themselves...I couldn't believe you are just turned 18...

    Kudos to you dear! Stay blessed.

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@Sharuhisereneworld040

There are some things that happen in life that force us to grow up too fast, and while it has its drawbacks for certain, it has certain blessings as well 💚💛

I'm glad you enjoyed and the interview landed for you :)

Sending much warmth, peace and many blessings 💚🌻🦋

colorfulTurtle948 May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO I really enjoy reading this. Some of the takes were very refreshing as they are very different from mine. We appreciate you!

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@colorfulTurtle948

Thanks for reading, glad you enjoyed!

MyNameIsNicole May 23rd, 2022
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@Fristo so nice of you to take out time for this interview, thank you❤️

@WarmLightXO such a brilliant way of giving us a glimpse into who you are as a person. I find that the way you take life, acknowledging the good and the bad, is admirable because truly in life there will be good and be bad.

Thank you once again, for who you are and for how you help our community💛

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@MyNameIsNicole

Thanks Nicole, glad you liked it! We actually did this interview a few months ago and I forgot about it until now hehe

Clarisse29 May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO

loved reading about your thoughts Elliot!

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@Clarisse29

Whoop whoop, thanks Smiriti!

MilaAvery May 23rd, 2022
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@Fristo Thank you so much for doing this interview. Happy to see you in the forums again!

@WarmLightXO

Hello to my Walking Talking Encyclopedia 😂 You are like Google to me, a very helpful person you will find on 7 Cups. Thank you for all that you do for this community and us. We truly appreciate all that you do, Elliot🤗. I know you must be getting this a lot right now, but you're just 18?! and here I was, thinking you must be in your twenties💀 You surely do carry yourself like you're older 👏.

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@MilaAvery

Haha thanks Mila, best compliment ever. I do enjoy being an encyclopedia 😛

I am indeed 18, just recently turned 18! A lot of people think I'm older hehe so it's not just you.

I'm glad you enjoyed the interview!

*wonders if I should reply 3 times*

MyNameIsNicole May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO nicole to the rescue❤️

MilaAvery May 23rd, 2022
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I'm sorry, I didn't realize that i posted it thrice😮

MyNameIsNicole May 23rd, 2022
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@MilaAvery hehe it happens, i'll delete the duplicates for you

MilaAvery May 24th, 2022
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@MyNameIsNicole

Thank uuu💜

SparkyGizmo May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO

@Fristo

Hi Fristo! 😊❤️ Thank you for once again conducting an amazing living with leaders interview series! As you know, I am a true fan of yours and always enjoy your incredibly well thought out questions! I love this program that you have started and it gives us all an opportunity to get to know our teammates even better! *high fives* 😊 and big *hugs* ❤️

Hi Elliot! 😊❤️ Thank you so very much for this forum post as well as handing yourself over to the interview process! I loved your incredibly well thought out responses! Thank you for allowing all of us the opportunity to get to know you even better.

What really resonated with me is your approach to life as well as your time here on 7 cups! I loved hearing your views and seeing in front of me how love, religion, spirituality and your service driven leadership go hand in hand for you! I am part of your *tribe* ❤️

The majority of the worlds biggest religions boil down to one simple tenant "love one another". We are all much more alike than we are different in my opinion. We are a very wide and diverse community and this is what makes us great! I call it "unity in diversity". 😊❤️

For me, love is the one thing in life, that the more of it you give away, the more you receive in return. Our founder, GlenM's grandmother said it even better "Love always comes back to you". ❤️

*high fives* 😊 and big *hugs* ❤️ (as an aside, I like pasta too!)

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@SparkyGizmo

"Unity in diversity," love that! I agree completely, our humanity is what connects us and our diversity only serves to make us stronger. It took me hours to answer that initial question, (starting off strong there Fristo 😅) but I'm very happy with the answer that life is for love 💚

SparkyGizmo May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO

❤️❤️❤️

soulsings May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO thank you so much for the interview!

WarmLightXO OP May 23rd, 2022
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@soulsings

Absolutely, hope you enjoyed!

ThoughtfulBlossom May 23rd, 2022
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@WarmLightXO

Hello, Elliot! It's great to to see your beautiful responses to this interview. You put your heart and soul into every answer, and it's so admirable how much wisdom and love you spread.

The one sentence from your responses that really portrayed so much meaning is the following: "I think life is for connection, for growth, for warmth, and for community." It contains such wise words, and you are absolutely right- having this purpose to create change, growth, and warmth can provide the motivation that really brings us together as a community.

I also appreciate all of the contributions you have made for this community, whether it was through mentoring, heading this amazing project, or hosting discussions. I have seen you in action on several occasions, and genuinely, you have been such an inspiration to me.

I feel so fortunate to had met such a bright and kind soul as you, Elliot, and keep spreading your warmth- you're making such a difference in ways you can't even imagine. 😊 ❤️

WarmLightXO OP May 24th, 2022
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@ThoughtfulBlossom

Awww Blossom, you truly are thoughtful. Thanks for taking the time to make me smile 😊 I really appreciate your kind words, and I'm glad you enoyed the interview! 💚💛

May 24th, 2022
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@WarmLightXO

No matter how you found 7cups, we are glad it found you.

Thank you for being such a warm and bright part of the community. XO🧡

WarmLightXO OP May 24th, 2022
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@DonaldDraper

💚💛

sevenstars777 May 24th, 2022
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@WarmLightXO

beautiful and such wisdom, thank you!

WarmLightXO OP May 24th, 2022
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@sevenstars777

Glad it landed! 💚💛