looking for pen pal
heyy, im looking for a friend to chat:)
im 24f from Germany, currently a bit stuck in life and a bit lonely.
I love caring for my indoor plants, and listening to music (mostly indie/hiphop/pop), im starting to do yoga and try to go jogging form time to time.
feel free to reach out if you wanna chat
@Keineahnung123 Hello there, I would extremely happy chatting with you. Which plants do you love to water. In my childhood I was very excited about growing plants and having it in my house when I grow. Would love to have a chat with you.
Don't really have any at the moment. You know in recently shifted and i am still setting up my things.. May be you could help out with the plants it would really be great. I also live alone but i am trying to get a schedule and be a little disciplined you know? Also I am coming to Germany in Jan. Would you teach me a little bit of German.. It would be fun to learn. Coming for like 10 days
Let's have a time when we both are free and we can talk here back to back. Let's have the longest thread hehe
@Keineahnung123 Im here and interested to listen.
hey! i live in america and i actually work at a german owned company lol i also have been enjoying caring for plants. its actually helped me get threw some difficult things l. but i recently got two kittens and i have to get rid of my favorite plant bc its poisonous to cats. it’s a bit sad but these kittens are too cute lol
message me if you’d like to chat 🙂
@raymond1203 heyy, thanks for answering, and glad to have a fellow palnt lover:) Love ti for you that you got two kittens, they are tooo cutee. are they still little? it the cat on your pfp one of them? looks very cute and fluffy, i want to cuddle it. Has to be nice to have two cute roommates;) Which one is your favorite plant that you have to give away. Im kinda glad that i dont have to worry about it, eventhough i would enjoy a cute cuddly companion too.. also i guess its nice to have something to care for, keeps you going, even if its just the plants for me
heyyy!! yes the kitten in my pfp is one of my new kittens. that is farley and he’s the softest thing i’ve ever felt haha he also has a brother spade. spade is nearly identical except spade has short hair. i got them about two months ago. they are still small but have grown alllllot since i got them lol omg ur so right they are the cutest roommates in the world. it comes with a lot of little work and chores to do but its easily worth it.
so the plant i have to get rid of is the Tiplant. it got really big and the red color is amazing. i grabbed a couple tropical foliage plants over the summer. i think they make the house look and feel nicer.
so how are you feeling today? are you having a good day?
@raymond1203 i had to look up the plant, but it looks sooo beautiful, love the pink on it, most of my plants are just green. wish i could adopt it lol, eventhoug i woulnd have space for it. Im good rn actually, having an okayish day. not bad but im having huge problems in general to motivate myself to be productive or do things im not perfectliy comfortable with like figuring out how to get forward with uni etc, but im trying. Butttt.. it snowed today so much, yesterday too. everything is white and i love it, looks so beautiful. and it doenst sow often here, especially this early. normally i would expect a little snow in January/ Febuary so this is a nice surprise. Hows your day going? How are you today?
whoa that is rly early for snow. i love the snow. i don’t mind getting out there and shoveling either lol it’s a great physical workout and it also helps clear my mind. it got cold here quick but it’s still very much autumn weather. i hope we get snow. the last few years we only get prob 2 or 3 good snows. but we used to get a ton of snow lol
aw i wish i could send you this plant. i need to figure out what im doing with it before it gets too cold. rn i have it outside bc i dont want it to hurt my baby kitties lol
@raymond1203 haha better safe then sorry with the cats, im sure you can find someone who wants the palant:) usually we have like a few snows only too, im always dreaming of white christmas with a lot of snow, but realistcly thats never gonna happen, only like 15 years ago maybe
if you’re getting snow this early i think your odds of a white christmas aren’t too bad. i’m walking to work rn. loving the fall weather. perfect hoodie weather lol
so what music have you been listening to lately? this is gonna sound crazy but i just heard juice wrld for the first time last month and ive been obsessed haha
@raymond1203 hi, it s morning now, and its snowing again.. third day in a row:) ik im a bit obsessed but its kinda wild, i like it. ur right, nice fall weather is perfect hoodie weather, perfect for cozy clothes, just a nice fall jacket and ur good to go:) but still im way more of a summer person tbh. hate the cold and darkness of the winter, so im even more glad if it snow, then the cold is at least worth it haha.
im mostly into indie/alternative, hiphop and pop music, a bit of rock too. But i have to say i almost exclusicely litsen to german artists haha so i dont know if you would know anyone, some of them sing in english tho. just listening to juice world and i kinda like it. i know some songs and they have a nice vibe, ive been searching for more english (indie-)artists lately anyway so thats nice. what kind of music do you like apart from that?
Today i have to get some things done im kinda anxious to do, writing emails, applications etc. i really hate this stuff and often i fall into the bad habit of not getting anything done if idont know exactly how.. lets hope i can get myself to something today... hope youre having a good day, hope youre doing good
thank you so much. it is very nice to hear from you. 3 days of snow ok now i’m jealous haha enjoy it and have fun. i am enjoying this fall weather we have here. i bought some new comfy hoodies 😁
good luck with your emails and applications and everything. i don’t think you need to worry. you seem very intelligent. keep a positive mindset and it will all be over before you know it. you are very smart. you got this 💪😎
it’s very early morning here. i actually have the day off. i plan on fixing up the house a little and spending time with the kittens. we are still in the bonding stage. farley is still very scared. but i am making very good progress. having them has really helped calm some of my anxieties. it keeps me busy and they are soooooo cute haha 😍😍
are there any german musicians you think i should check out? my taste in music is really all over the place lol i like all types of music. even if it’s a language i don’t know. it’s all about the vibe in the moment.
@raymond1203 thanks, you are much more confident with me then i am... cause i know how i am, but anyway ill try... Im jealous of you bonding with your kittens, its so cute when they trus you more and more, im sure theyll be used to you in not time. I actually have a few geman artist i really like but some are a little bit nieche. also most of them are at least halfway good because of the texts. im a huge fan of emotional and a bit melancholical music. If you like indie at all try "giant rooks" theire songs are in english, they have a nice vibe to listen to in the background. Another one is "Leoniden" its a bit more like rock?/punk-ish with indie/pop? their music is a bit more uplifting, eventhough they have some deeper texts. really love both also both are reallyyyy good live bands. Ill have to look out for more englsih artist cause other then a few all other are in german haha. tell me what you think ot them
oh wow that’s awesome. i will check that music out when im working on the house today. thanks for the recommendations 😁😁😁 i love new music. lately ive been listening to a lot of hip hop but i really love all music.
i think i feel confident with you bc you seem very cool and very smart 🙂🙂
bonding with the kittens has been a lot of work but it makes me feel good. they are so cute it melts my heart. and the daily chores really help clear my mind.
@raymond1203 well thank youu hope i can live up to what youre saying.. i have to say, cuddling with kittens is like the best task i can think of haha. (iktheres more work to it tho) but like you have to do it, so you cant feel lazy, youre bonding:)) i like hiphop too but listen to it rarely, only one german rap group which has kinda offensive and funny lyrics haha, its an exeption to my music taste but i love it too. Im now litsening to giant rooks again for a longer time, cause i reccomended it to you and im glad i am. thinking back to the concert, it was soo beautiful... are you a fan of concerts/ festivals?
@Keineahnung123 oh and maybe one specific recconendation: DE_de_6000_Holiday_Bumper_YT_16x9_6_G_4923021-bumper-1f431a1c94a889e1dd272390eb2fea0c cover of "Toms diner" By the singer of Giant rooks and another famous german beand (the one with dhe deep voice. that one went viral internationally too :)
hope you’re having a great day. i’m very excited to check out this music. offensive and funny is right up my alley lol i especially love stand up comedy. as far as concerts…its been soooo loooong since ive been to a show. its so much fun tho i def miss it. i always loved music comedy and movies. but i am so busy with work and family that i dont have time for that kinda stuff anymore.
cuddling with kitten is the besssst! haha but unfortunately i haven had the chance to do that yet. spade finally lets me pet him and he will lay on my feet. but farley doesn’t let anyone touch him. i am making progress tho so i rly hope i get to kitten cuddle soon lol 😂
how ya feeling today
@raymond1203 haha the cat really live up to their reputation to have thier own mindand be stubborn haha, but slow progress is still progess haha. im okay today, nothing special, how are you?
very very tired today. can’t seem to wake up lol no work today so i can’t complain. omg yes cats do whatever they wanna do hahaha i was supposed to get a haircut yesterday but got stuck at work. my hair is a mess rn lol and bc of the holiday coming up idk if im gonna get a cut until wednesday. thursday is thanksgiving and im very excited. i’m gonna go see my sister and her family and ill help my bro build the swingset we got the kids.
@raymond1203 i have that too sometimes its hard to really get going and im staying kinda tired all day, but its good you can stay at home then. Tahnksgiving is coming up right? We dont celebrate it here, but ik its a big thing in the us. Are you getting together with the whole family? Thats gogga be excotins, sounds like a lot of fun with kids etc.
thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays. it’s just a big feast day. there’s parades on tv and in the city. locally the fire departments around here will all get together and do a big parade of fire trucks with santa clause on the last truck lol the kids go nuts. my nieces are 3 & 5 and we have so much fun together. i need to do some shopping bc uncle rayray can NOT arrive with out gifts hahaha i work for a big german company and they really hook us up for thanksgiving. since we all can’t get together for a big family meal they send us good food all week. i love talking about this kinda stuff so if you have any questions def let me know 🙂
@raymond1203 thas sounds like so much fun. I dind know theses parardes and the fire departments are involved. santa at the end seems random haha, but i guess thats souppose to start the christmas time? I just know people get together and have a feast with the whole family. Do you have any traditons for it? saying what youre grateful probaby, ist there anything else?
lots of traditions. before we eat we all say grace (prayer) and things were thankful for. then there are traditional dishes people make. #1 is a 30lb turkey 😂 i’m serious. then it’s a bunch of other foods. ham. mashed potatoes. sweet potato’s. like A LOT of food lol football is HUGE on thanksgiving. even the local high schools have their rivalry games.
wed before thanksgiving is known as the biggest drinking day of the year here lol mostly bc all of the college kids and hs kids are home and almost everyone gets off for the holiday
friday after thanksgiving is BLACK FRIDAY 😂 lol people trample people for sales at stores like best buy and walmart lol
america is crazy haha 🤣
@raymond1203 hahaha that all sounds VERY american lol. ive seen that people fry a whole turkey? that sounds very crazy and very american to me lol (yes im sorry we here think you guys are a bit crazy)
@Keineahnung123 this is getting messy lol, i think we shold start with a new reply soon
ok! i enjoy talking to you but im new to forums. what do we do
oh i’m sorry i must have missed this message i just saw it now
omg yes 😂 some people try deep frying a turkey and it’s a legit problem. if you deep fry a FROZEN turkey it will cause a very very big fire. there are multiple stories on the move every thanksgiving. the turkey will taste good but not good enough to burn your house down hahaha
german food is so good. i have a big sweet tooth and i love coffee so a stroopwaffle is amazing haha
yeah i have become obsessed with this juice wrld dude haha 🤣 crazy story tho. he passed away 2019. super younge but suuuuuuper talented. he could freestyle for an hour straight (freestyle rap is when you make up a song on the spot..it’s very hard to do it this well). it’s all on YT. this normally isn’t my kinda music at alllll. but his lyrics are amazing. he’d tell this beautiful little emotional story then at the end you’re like WAIT DID HE JUST FREESTYLE THAT hahaha
@raymond1203 hahaha i liked the music too, i think i heard of his dead on the side sometime. Thats impressive to freestyle for an hour, im lucky if i get out three logical secentences when im under pressure lol. Sad that these geniuses that become popular often die at a young age
hahaha you are exactly right. i’m so impressed by freestyle bc i can barely speak to people 🤣 it’s so cold and rainy here today. i’m glad i do not have to work today. how was your day today? are you feeling ok??
@raymond1203 haha im not alone then:) my day was alright, nothing special, wow was yours?
no no no def not alone here 🙂 this place has been really nice. this is the first time i tried the forums. i’m surprised how nice people are. you are very cool.
very happy to hear your day was good. “nothing special” counts as a good day bc it was not a bad day 🙂🙂 you should be proud of yourself for the work you did today.
how is the snow? usually by day 3 it gets less pretty and more messy lol i love it tho i am very excited for it to snow here
@raymond1203 im gonna answer like this so it doesnt look as messy. Its so funny to met that opople deep fry a FROZEN turkey, like do some research before throwing something in boiling hot oil?! Im curious, what is german food to you? Stroopwaffles are good, but actually dutch, but i mean the netherlands and germany arent that different so its okk:) I loveee coffee too
It snowed this morning again, and for now it still looks pretty, but its cold enough now, i think itll melt over the day and will get more muddy, but thats okay:) How are you today? do you have a buisy day today?
yea people around here done rly do “research” lol got a lot of adults hovering around a 7th grade reading level haha and i guess im one of them bc im just now realizing idk german food hahaha i know food i bought at the german market but thats it hahahaha oops 😂 😂
how deep is the snow? texas got snow one year and that never ever happens and they were not prepared hahaha 2 inches of snow ruined that place for a few days
off to work…have a great day!!!
@raymond1203 the snow is only a few cebtineters thick, not much, we barely get more snow. Mostly im im happy if its snowing snd the snow doesnt melt immediately.
So what food did you buy at the gernan market? What is that even lol? Like a german supermarket? Im curiois what other countries percieve as typical german food. Honestly id have teoble to say wjat food is 100% german. There are definetöy some dishes but many depend highly on the region too. So there are A LOT typical german dishes that i dont know becaise theire just not popular in my region. Btw. Is there like typical american food? Besides burges and fast food? Cause that what i would think of with american food.
Hope you had a good day at work!
the german market is just lidl lol we don’t have many but there’s one very close to home lol work is meh. corporate is popping in bc of the holiday coming up. i try to stay out of their way as much as i can.
oh so you just got a coating of snow. that is the best bc it looks nice and is not too much inconvenient.
american food is terrible. it’s sad. don’t even read the ingredients haha there is sooooo much fast food and take out food like that. luckily my sister has a very nice garden but the stuff in the store is pretty bad. you have to be aware of what you eat and most people (especially in my area) don’t pay attention to that kinda thing.
back to work again lol
very nice talking to you
@raymond1203 ahhh okay, i knew thers aldi in the us but also lidl, nice. so american food is pretty much what i expected sady then.. but its so nice your sister has a garden. thats the best food straight from the garden. our family has a vegetable garden in our garden too, with many herbs and a few vegetables, i love picking sometihnig fresh out of the garden to eat it:)
Hope you could avoid corporate throughout the day hahah. How are you today? Do you have any special plans? tbh my weekend is pretty boring
this is the final weekend before thanksgiving so our holiday/Christmas season has started here and it gets kinda crazy lol i have the day off so i might do some shopping. def going to clean my house lol what are you doing this weekend?
store food vs garden food is no contest haha a zucchini in the store is the size of a banana and zucchini in our garden is the size of my arm
you can def find good food here but the bad food is everywhere. it’s much harder to find good food. it is very sad.
@raymond1203 are you already shopping for christmas gifts? maybe i should too... i have no idea what im gonna gift, its the same every year i just have no good ideas. and my fathr (the worst to find gifts for) has his birthday just after christmas, so i need to come up with two ideas. also i LOVE getting gifts IF i have a good idea which i know the person is gonna like but thats hard to find,, so i really have to think hard... We've been decorating the house with christmas decor and light chains so far, now it looks so cozy. i gotta decorat my room with some cozy lights as well, i really love the look of may small lights instead of one big one. i aready put a light chain along one of my trialing plants which goes along the side of my mirror. then im good do some cleaning and just relax a bit. Its reallyy coldtoday and i hathe the cold so much lol. much more of a summer person... but with some decoration and a chimney in the living room its half as bad:)
I heard that fresh food is rare and expensive at yours, i have to say its nice that we have access to quite good fresh food to an okay price here, gotta appreciate that
that sounds like a really great day. i love decorations. we take my nieces around the area to see all of the decorated houses. it must look so nice with the snow. snow makes the lights look so nice.
i just walked out of walmart (nightmare lol) the first thing you see when you walk into the store is a kit to deep fry turkey for $50 😂 😂 😂
omg yes access to good food at a good price is so important but a lot of people here don’t know that. they don’t know how much better you feel when you eat good. and it is just easier for people to grab a quick thing to eat even tho it’s not very good for them.
@raymond1203 hahaha america seems like a sitcom to me lol. big tecorated houses are kind of cool tho, we dont do that much here, mybe a tree with some lights or some stars in the windows thats it.
Well the snows already gone sice yesterday, lets see how much more we will get this year.
love my decorated room, some small lights on and music make it soo cozy rn. Just said to my fater " the only good think about the cold winter is the warmth inside" in am feeling that rn. Lol im talking as if we have arctic temperatures, but its like 5 °C here hahaha but im dramatif ybout the cold, it is what it is lol
Did you have a good day so far?
hahaha you’re not wrong. it’s more crazy than you think here lol sitcom is so accurate hahaha
im having a good day off. i took my mother shopping and got my sisters kids gifts for thursday. uncle rayray can not show up empty handed hahaha
ill do my decorating on friday. the day after thanksgiving. i love nice simple decorations. some people make it look so ugly tho lol giant inflatable santa taller than the house. i live in a cartoon world hahaha
@raymond1203 heyy, sorry for the late reply, was feeling quite lost yesterday and didnt know what to do with me. achieved nothing.. well its a new week and now i ACTUALLY have to go up and do something.. lets see how that will go...
It seems you have a really nice family, going shopping with them sounds super fun, btw here it wouldnt be possible cause all shops are closed at sundays haha.
Hope youre feeling well and have a good day:)
i’m very sorry to hear you did not feel well. don’t feel guilty about not accomplishing anything yesterday. you have been doing a lot and sometimes our bodies need to rest and relax. keep thinking positive thoughts 🙂
my family is great. they can be frustrating haha but i love them very much. it was not always like this. for a couple years we didn’t talk. i didn’t like myself very much and cut myself off from everyone. i still have the occasional day where i don’t like myself but for the most part things are pretty good now. my relationship with my family is really great. i just need to work on my relationship with myself. that’s where ive been struggling.
have a great day!
😁😁😁
@raymond1203 then im really glad you hav good contact again with your family now. It sounds like i am where you were a few years ago... Do you have a better relationship with yourself now? it semms like youre still struggling a bit, but hopefully not as much?
I appreciate you being nice to me, but its not really justified. i havent been doing much tbh and i had enough time to relax. so in theory at lreast i really could have done better, i just didnt. thats pretty bad, and i hate myself for it, and still dont change anything about it. hope i can do it as fast as possible. I just know actually working onmyself and getting forward in life will be a bit scary and ill be exremely lost and anxious and unsure and i guess thats holding me off... still no excuse.
i don’t want you to hate yourself for this. it’s a very small thing and i think you are strong enough to do it. maybe try writing down your plans and hanging the note where you can see it. so it reminds you. if i can help at all let me know. i def suffer from the something similar. i feel like i have to always be doing something bc i spent soooo much time doing nothing and now when i look back it feels like time wasted. so even if its something small like cleaning my house or doing laundry i gotta do something so i dont hate myself.
ok so on a scale of 1-10…my relationship with myself is prob a 7. when i was with my ex it was literally 1 lol but ive done slot of work since we broke up and lately i have been feeling better and better. i’ll have my backslides like everyone does but for the most part im doing alright rn.
i am very excited for my haircut haha i missed my last appointment (felt terrible about that) my hair is a wild mess right now hahaha
@raymond1203 thanks for the pep talk haha:) i know i shouldnt talk about myself like this but sometimes its hard not to. But maybe if you got better, then i can too.
But rn i feel quite good again. I cooked a nice dinner and me my father and brother build a huge wooden star with a light chain on it for the garden as decoration, and surprised my mum with it. she was really happy and it looks really good so im happy too. also had the first mulled wine ("Glühwein") of the year haha its soo good. Do you have that in the us? cause i dont think so? maybe its a german thing.
its nice your exited for a haircut, i know that feelin when you really need it, its something to look forward to :) hope you have a good day
i’m always here for a pep talk whenever you need it 🙂idk mulled wine so i looked it up omg that looks amazing.
wow i think what you did with your family and what you did for your mom is really amazing! i love hearing that.
i agree we should not speak about ourselves that way but if that is how you are feeling you should def speak on it. it helps me to talk about what’s bothering me bc sometimes i don’t realize how silly it is until i say it out loud to a friend.
im on my lunch break. i rly need to start packing a lunch lol im just snacking on crackers and peanut butter hahaha
@raymond1203 ohh thats a pity you dont have mulled wine. its basically hot wine with spices and its sooo good. from now on till christmas there are christmas makets EVERYWHERE and there are many shops with mulled wine and you just go there, drink mulled wine, maybe shop a bit etc. (or buyi t in a bottle and heat it yourself)
Thanks for understanding and listening. most of the time i just try not to "insult" myself loud cause i know its not right an people just say i shouldnt say that, but i mean i cant change how i feel sometimes. so sometimes i need to vent a bit.
That luch sounded sad haha pleasee pack yourself a lunch. is there no cafetieria or a supermarket or something near so you can get yoursef a meal there?
i’m sorry i have been trying to respond but i have been so busy today. i will def write back when work slows down a bit 🙂
hope you are having a really great day
heyyy! i had a super busy day but now i am off and i took some paid time off for the holiday. so now i am off work for a week 😁😁😁
omg that wine sounds incredible. i hope we have something like that lol
it’s ok to insult yourself sometimes lol i totally get that. honestly i do it too much and i should also try to stop. you are right…sometimes i believe it too. i think thats normal. sometimes we don’t feel our best. but that does not make it true. i think even when we think bad of ourselves that actually we are really good 🙂
hahaha it is a sad lunch 🤣 🤣 🤣 i can def do better. i am doing really good at work for the first time in a long time so i get busy doing things at work instead of sitting down and eating. i really need to change that. i need to focus more on my diet.
@raymond1203 Good morning! Maybe you can find a bottle in the german supermarket... super buisy day seems a bit stressful, but its nice to hear youre successfull at work:) but youre right dont underestimate your diet, enventhough its easy to just snack something here and there. The weather today is so bad, raining a bit but mainly VERY cloudy, so its quite dark eventhough the sun is fully up.. that affects my mood alway even if im not going out idk. i need some sunlighttt :/ But itll be fine, i mean i dont have to go out and can stay here in the warm haha thats something. wishing you a good day, how are you today?
heyyy 🙂 bad weather is so annoying. it def can throw off my vibe. i def feel better when im walking on a nice day. it always helps clear my mind when im upset or overthinking. but rain kinda ruins that lol and you def shouldn’t let it effect you bc you seem really kind and really smart and i think you’re going to have a really nice and productive day today 🙂🙂
today is haircut day 😁😁😁 and today starts my vacation time from work. i had paid time off hours i had to use before the end of the year or i lose them. so im gonna spend a bunch of time with my family and also some time just taking care of myself 🙂
@raymond1203 yayy that sounds like a perfect day for me :)Tomorrow is Thanksgiving right? then i guess you and your family have loads to prepare? and freshly cut hair then for the big day haha nicee
haha yea i gotta look fresh for my girls lol my nieces are my favorite people ever. they are exhausting lol but make me so happy. yes tomorrow is thanksgiving. it’s gonna be really nice to see everyone. last year was hard and i finally feel like we are back to a good place. my sister does most of the cooking herself. i’m gonna bake some cookies tonight for the kids.
so aside from the weather being bad…how are you feeling today??
@raymond1203 thats cool, i love baking too, made the best chocolate chip cookies liek 2 weeks ago😍Hmmm idk im kinda good, got up realtively erly and got ready, thats good, sometimes it takes me a wihile. and im good, but also just like alway a bit lost etc. listening to music to motivate me haha
haha i am doing the same thing right now lol listening to juice wrld to motivate me to get up and get some cleaning done. now i think about it this isn’t motivational music haha its all sad 🤣 🤣
getting up and getting ready is a battle not a lot of people understand. sometimes it’s really really hard. but you got this! today is your day! positive mindset 🙂
@raymond1203 haha thats nice music nut not motivating haha. listening to rap now, that pushes me a bit. Authoug i cant motivate myself do be productice..... nothing new lol
i know it’s hard to get started but i think you can def be productive today. what kinda things would you like to get done today?? i don’t have work so i can movitivate ya 🙂🙂
@raymond1203 well thats the thing, wher do i start.. i wanna get my room cleaned up, i need to write an application for an internship, research for other companies/ instirutes for a possible internship and i should reach out to professors to ask them if they have connections or a tip for me.. but thats more a mental thing which i cant getmyself to do... ahh and i should think about my car key.... I lost my keys on a concert a few weeks ago (still so frustrated a bout this) and there was my car key on it too. luckily i still have a spare key. but now if i lose that one too im ***. so i wanted to get a new second one, but the guy gave me an offer and it costs 300 (!!) freaking euros to get a new key and it takes a few weeks too. i dont know if i wanna spend that much money for it... ahhhh if i just havent lost the keys :(((
ok i hear ya. that’s a lot. def can feel overwhelming but trust me you got this. start small, maybe a little cleaning/organizing the room. a fresh room helps clear the clutter in my mind. and if that helps it can also help with what you want to write in your applications. i think calling the profs would be too much for me. i kinda panic and shutdown in them kinda situations.
i know it can be really hard to get started. that’s normal. happens to everyone. but once you get started you’ll be flowing and feeling great. before you know it, it’ll be over and you will be so proud of yourself.
find that perfect song to get you moving and vibing. sure you have work you wanna do but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself and have fun with it.
you got this…i know it 🙂
@raymond1203 thanks, yeah its a bit overwhelming but nothin i cant do. I would email the professors anyway haha no way im jusg gonna call.
I kind of hope that it goes like you say for a year now.............. well i guess i REALLY kick myself to get somewhere.
But youre right ill put some nice music, clean my room for a bit, then get going with my application
(hopefully lol)
if it feels too overwhelming them def take a step back. you’ll def get there. don’t stress yourself. if you wanna take the day and just chill then that’s fine too. it’s important you keep yourself in a positive place. these things can be so stressful and that’s not how it should be.
if you didn’t have any of that stuff on your list…what would you do today
@raymond1203 i dont even know. maybe cook or bake something, maybe clean my room / sort some things, maibe paint a little?, but tbh id problably watch some youtube/ netflix /tik tok a lot of the time.. maybe decorate some more? i could do some sport althoung i dont really feel like sport and i have just a little bit of a cold. i could do some yoga later maybee....
ok that sounds awesome that’s def what i’m gonna do today hahaha i’m stealing that plan
fr tho that doesn’t even sound unproductive. those are the normal chores of life that we all do. trust me there is worse things you could be doing.
what sport do you like? *** yeah yoga!! that’s a very good thing to do.
omg the amount of time i’ve spent on *** this week is insane haha its so bad but so good 😂
@raymond1203 hahaha yeah we are all some kind of vitims of social media... have fun doing what you like today:) i am a fan of youg but im just a beginner, started beacuse im really not that flexible and want to improve that, should do it more regularly, it relaxes me so good too. i started jogging too and like it usually (kind of a beginner still too) lately im feeling a bit weak and its coldd so i havent ran much for a while. last run felt so bad, i couldnt do much and that kind of demotiveted me again... i feel like after i had a cold i didnt come back into running. I played volleball as a kid but not anyomore. what sports do you like?
i’m already having fun today. i like talking to you. you’re very nice 🙂
yoga will def help you with flexibility. i did it briefly and it helped so much i felt like i was walking taller lol and it just really helped me mentally. it helped me calm down bc sometimes i move too fast lol i like all sports but i haven’t followed a team in a long time. im not that invested but i very easily could be bc when i watch sports i get a little wild haha
jogging is great but you have to be careful in bad weather. you could slip and hurt urself bad and the weather can make you feel terrible for days after.
i rly like where your head is at. you have great plans and i think you are productive. def more productive than the american slobs im surrounded by lolol
@raymond1203 lolll.. youre way too nice to me haha. yeah yogas great but it can humble you so much too hahaha but im like doing beginner youtube flows and they are fine.
im not really invested in watching sports. eventhough i have been to the stadium a few timeas as a kid with my brother and father and it was nice! they are both soccer enthusiasts (at least to wach) as like every male german haha. i only like to watch the word-cup or europe cup games, that are the bigger soccer events almost everyone watches and they are fun:) i gues youre watching mainly american football??
american football (nfl) is like the biggest sport here but i don’t rly follow them. i liked hockey a lot growing up and played that on roller blades 😂 now i just causally watch. idrc that much lol but it is verrrry fun to go to games and events. even sports i dont know about, seeing it live is so much fun.
it seems like you have a very good nice family. that’s awesome
@raymond1203 yeahh, sounds very fun playing hockey on roller blades😊 i agree, it is kinda fun to watch a sport in a stadium live, but havent been for a looong time, but thats okay sind im really not a huge fan. But for important (national) games thers often public viewing or we wath it with friends thats cool too. But i have to admit too i think do dont know the rules fully of a single sport lol. i mean i know the most imoortant roules in soccer (ofc) but i still have to ask many silly questions sometimes haha
i haven’t been to a game or concert or anything in a very very long time. i rly need to push myself to go out more. my anxiety will trigger and i feel like i have to get home. it’s such a silly stupid anxiety bc i am keeping myself from having a good time.
i have a basic understanding for most rules of sports but some are too complicated. like baseball lol *** baseball haha
i do not mind silly questions so feel free to ask whatever. silly questions are fun 🙂
@raymond1203 hmmm anxiety is weird sometimes.. i have more of social anxiety sometimes, but i looooove conderts and dont mind the masses of people around me somehow. but the people at concerts (at leas in my experience) are always nice, and the vibe is so good... if i had endless monex id go every weekend to one
i’ve def met a lot of nice strangers at concerts and events. we do have allllllot of crazy people so it’s a risk lol i am trying to push myself out to do more to combat the antisocial person i turned into when i was with my ex. i was very very isolated and cut off from everyone. i didn’t even realize what had happened until after. and it took a lot of work just to be myself again. i’ve been feeling a lot better but it is still all new to me.
@Keineahnung123 but at the last concert i lost my keys haha so not 100% good lol. also ive been sick after the concert😬 that was new hahaha i dont know what that day was. the concert was sooo good but right after not so good lol. was pretty hot and narrow and therefore really exhausiting in a way, but worth it
that really sucks that you got sick but yeah it does sound totally worth it. except the key thing. good thing you have a spare bc that replacement charge is ridiculous. it didn’t used to be like that but now they do something with the key that makes it very expensive to replicate. it’s maybe something with a laser haha idk im not smart and im very tired rn lol
if ur not feeling well today you should def def rest. if you are a little sick that cold rain will make it worse.
@raymond1203 no im okayyy actually. not perfect but not bad too. The key is that expensive because of of the remote control. before it was just a mechanical key, which is quite cheap. but you cant just get a mechanical key nowdays because apparently theres a transponder (hope thats the english word as well lol) in the key which needs to be at the car, otherwise it wont start. so yeah i need to think about what im gonna do about that i dont know yet.. did you sleep good haha? i forgot i had a tutoring lesson today as well which i finished now. learned math with a girl in 9th grade for 1,5 h:) now gonna make sometink to eat
i found it!! haha you are a tutor? that’s really great. that def made today productive. you did good work today 🙂
i am pretty sure it is also called a transponder here. my father is amazing with cars. i was too busy being rebellious growing up to learn anything lol
i am a waiting inside the barber shop now. i’ve been looking forward to this lol i feel really bad about missing my last appt so i plan to tip him double today
it feels sooooo good to have a fresh cut. i got my beard lined up with a straight razor. it feels so nice lol
i’m gonna sleep for a little bit. i’ll message ya when i wake up. enjoy yourself today. no matter what you do today just have fun. no stress no worries 🙂
@raymond1203 okayy sleep well:)
@raymond1203 startin a new thread, it just got too long. i think i answered to one other repy of yours but i cant even find it again so idk maybe it didnd send or something i dont even know. im kinda tirey by now too. hope youll walk out of the salon happy with a fresh haircut:)
@Keineahnung123 ohh thats nice youre tipping good im sure theyll appreciate it:) responding here so itseasier to find. it must be practical to ahve a dad who knows a lot about cars i find it can be overwhelming sometimes with repairs etc, and if someone knows what to do thats nice:) yeah im doing online tutoring in math thats kinda nice. and i dont have do drive somewhere just sit at my laptop
online tutoring sounds like a win win situation lol check you out. you were worried you wouldn’t be productive today and you ended up teaching a kid some really helpful stuff. be proud of urself today.
i keep loosing the chat lol we are def gonna figure this out.
it’s actually impt to have a mechanic that you know bc a lot of the mechanics around here are kinda predatory and take advantage of people and over charge them for stuff they don’t rly need
i just grabbed some more eggs so i can make the kids sweet treats. i hope i don’t burn them lol
@raymond1203 hahah and did you bur them ? yeah i know mechanics try to take advantage of you but ifyou dont know any better *** difficult to say wahts right sometimes, but gotta be careful ik. yes its a win win. also i write everything on my tablet and send it tho them so the kid litterally just hast to sit at home and think and talk to me haha, but works good
it’s so great how learning has improved. that is very cool. i’m just relaxing at home right now. playing my silly video games lol and playing with my kittens of course lol they are getting soooo big. farley is so fluffy. i almost pet him a little and he is sooooo soft
@raymond1203 good morning, omg almost forgot about your kittens! how are they? can you pet them already a little more? i can imagine theire growing pretty quick now. kisttens are just the cutest thing on earth😍 todays Thanksgiving! when does your family get together? like is it a full day event or just dinner?
heyyy!! yes today is thanksgiving day! big family feast day. i am very excited. the weather is horrible lol pouring rain and freezing cold. but it’ll still be a great day. it’s about 8am now. i will prob head over between 10-12 and dinner will be around 4
aw ty for asking about the kitties lol they are great. so big already! they are still growing.
@raymond1203 very nicee, got some preparations to do? i guess youll cook together then? a big fest soundsso niceee. I love it when thers multiple things on the table and you can choose. It must be nice seeing the cats grow :)
my sister likes to do most of the cooking so i help out by occupying the kids lol ill prob be home and in sweatpants by 6pm lol tom is black friday. my mom and sister go out shopping super early. i will be sleeping lol and saturday is actually Juice wrld day lol. america is a weird place lol 🤣
how are you feeling today. how’s the weather treating ya
@raymond1203 keeping the kids ocxupied is also a very important job haha, then its quicker then i thought, but flack frideay seems to be a huuuuge thing, bigger then i thought. Good thing you stay at home haha i guess shopping would be very stressful.
The weather is okayy, just a little cold. Im aöready over a small mentla breakdoen today loll cause i was overwheömed, but its finee now. Hope the weather is a little better at yours now.. but tbh if not its kinda even cozyer inside soo...
I guess youll be off soon, i hope you have much fun woth your family then and good food:)
so black friday nowadays is rly nothing. it was in the 80s-90s-00s. that s.hit was crazy. specifically the cabbage patch dolls (80s) and tickle me Elmo (90s). that’s a wild yt hole to fall into lol just an absolute mob of moms hahahaha but now stores do the sales weeks in advance so it’s nothing now.
wanna talk about it meltdown or r u past that now? sorry to hear that but i am impressed how you got urself out of it
@raymond1203 hahaha im imagining the mums going crazy 🤣 thats capitalism in its final stage lol. i looked up the cabbage patch dolls, they look scaryyy.
i fine now and it wasnt as bad just a little... i actually connected with a good listener which was nice, i have to say some listeners are a bit weird.. hope thats not amean thing to say..
cabbage patch dolls are very creepy but the version for little boys is disturbing and disgusting lol they are called garbage pale kids and they were trading cards in the 90s 😂
capitalism in its final stage is SO F.UGGIN ACCURATE hahaha you nailed it. that perfectly sums up the black friday craze of the past
@raymond1203 hahah thank uuuu💅 omg youre right it looks horriffic, also the name garbage pail is wildd. but i ahve to say i find dolls scary anyway haha.
yeah its really hard to find one you click with, it can be a lil frustrating, but there ar good ones too doo all good:)
at my sisters now. this place smells aaaaaamazing. the girls are so adorable.
how are you feeling today? ya know if ya ever need to talk to someone you can allllways hmu. i try to keep up but sometimes these threads get confusing and i lose a message. but you can always reach out to me if you need someone
@raymond1203 that sounds great! im okayish, thank you, the talking helps me too
these kids have so much energy this is crazy lol next door to the house is high school football field. they have a big rivalry game every thanksgiving. apparently both sides of the stands cleared out and everyone started fighting each other lolol this town is brutal lol fighting for high school football is insane. i may be crazy but at least im not that crazy haha
@raymond1203 loll kids really do have too much energy, wouldnt be worth it o fight, better sit back and relax haha, but you do what you gotta do i guess...
that didn’t end well lol everything is fine but i was so tired and cranky i literally fell asleep watching the game lol im home now and i feel much better. kids are so exhausting lol
@raymond1203 oh goood that really sounds exhausing.... kids running around and screaming is really tiring, i couldnt do it for like half a day i think.good that you got home and could relax a bit and hopefully have some peace and quiet with your kittens haha. i was kinda tired yesterday and fell asleep somewhere in the evening when i havent even brushed my theeth yet and then woke up at 2 am sor something, and got rady for bed and then back to sleep lol. idk if i mentioned yet but my brother is a cook (still in training) but on vacation and hes gonna cook os something nice this evening even with an appetizeer and main course, so its kind ou our fest one day later haha. how are you today? staying at home hiding from balck friday?:D i think im gonna check if my plants need watering, havent looked after them in a few days and winter is a somewhat critical time for some of them.. but so far they seem great so all good
wow good point with the plants. i have three outside that need to come in before it gets too cold. and my red plant i have to bag up bc i cant bring it inside. poisonous to kitties lol
dude those kids wore me out lol that was the most tired i’ve ever been lol
yes today is a big relaxing day for me. i might start putting out xmas decorations. i have waaaaay too much lol
omg family dinner sounds beautiful. do you know what your bro is making
@raymond1203 i dont have plants outside tho, just inside plant but with toe lesser light and dry air doue to heating they can easier get pests or die/ drop some leafes.
hes cooking risotto with fish and as a starte somewhat of a fish-soup he made from the loftover cuttings from the fish. tehy also have that in the restaurant he works at
yesss get ur decorations up! had all my little lights on yesterday and its so much more cozy then
i have about a 20 min walk to work and when everyone has their decorations up it’s soooo nice. mom and sister are out shopping rn lol they have been out since 4-5am. insane behavior lol
the plants outside are tall tropical foliage. it really made my porch area look nice during the summer but now it’s getting very cold and wet
@raymond1203 ohh that gotta look very nice with tropical plant on the porch 😍
WHAT, they are out at 4-5 am (???) whyyy, my sleep would be way too important to do that lol. I only get up voluntalily that early to go on vacation haha
tbh they do it bc it’s their little tradition. and now my sister has her daughter with them. bc the sales def are not they good. back in the day yes and that’s when they started doing this. they used to come home with a ton of great stuff. but now i think it’s just their cute little ladies trip lol
i take a different approach and just give them my bank card and ask them to grab stuff that looks cool so i can avoid the messy malls
@raymond1203 hahaha the lazy way to shop lol. I gotta admit that sound cute tho. just finished waterieng my plants, i think one of them is vey slowly dying... the others look good tho. gonna eat something now
speaking of lazy i really need to make something to eat but this is one of my weird struggles. if i don’t much myself i just won’t eat. i’m in a bit of a funk since last night but im pulling myself out of it.
how are you feeling today 🙂
@raymond1203 good, hope ypu feel better after youve eaten:) no i dont have tutoring today, just looked after all the plant in the house, im thinking if i should meet up with some friends later on.. id have to drive tho amd we would meet up to drink.. so eiter id be the only one to not drink which is a bit we8rd or maybe someone has to drive me, but idk if someone can do that today... it sucks a bit that i kind of dont have froend in my small "town" but only in the next one where i went to school too. Its not far away, but i need to drive there so idk yet...
Do you do any sport atm? No judgement if not i didnt for a long time and i havent in the last weeks too oooops:/ for me running is one of the easiest to start, if you stet your expectations realllyyy low. Gym is perfect but i find its a little bit of a burden everytime to get ready and go there but idk how it is for you
there’s a gym right next to work so i can go after my afte.in theory this is super convenient but we’ll see how it goes.
try to get a ride tonight. go out tonight and have fun with friends. i’m still struggling to stay awake lol i’m not going out tonight so feel free to hmu whenever 🙂
@raymond1203 im not going out as well today,idk its so typical for me, i couldnt really decite on what to do. I also kinda ghosted my frieds in the group, so i dindt even say if i would come, but i dont feel like it now. it wouldnt be a big thing anyway and only few would come anyway. ik it would be better if id go out more but id dont knowwww. there are the insecureties and self isolation again lollll. i also idnt wanna sak anyone to drive, they dont really like to drive me at night (which is understandable), my mother is a bit sick, she has a cold and my fahter is kind of down for a while now too. not too much but its noticable. i think he worries about me and also about some financial issues, hes retiring soon and then have less money, also argues more with my mom, shes often stressed with work too. so everything a bit meh... i mean everythin is still fine, really but theres are some issues on the side which kind of affects one a bit. so yeah gonna stay at home today which is fine too, maybe ill go out tomorrow.
The gym after work sonds good, but maybe think about if youre realisticly going to go ofte nafter work. I think id be exhausted after work and often skip it. But if you think youll get through with it, then taht sounds like a prefect plan
wow i am very similar with going out. it’s cool but i still end up bailing on friends. id much rather hang in. i don’t need to go places to have fun but then i get a little sad that i dont do anything. but life is good. aside from a couple small things. the big things are behind me so i need to just enjoy everything i can while i can.
it’s very sweet how thoughtful you are of your family. you are a very nice person.
i closed my eyes for 20 min and next thing i know it’s 3 hours later lol
i def think ill have the energy for the gym. so rn my work schedule is like 1p-10p and after i get done work theres nothing to do. i get soooo bored. i think the gym is the best way to spend that time. i might need a little motivation tho lol
@raymond1203 im glad you get it. Idk i mean yeah i notice and thats good, but i cant really do anything about it and also im a big part why they are stressing too soo..
That sounds good with the gym then sign up there as fast as you can lol. itll feel good to do sport on a regluar basis again!
if you notice then you can do something about it. it is a process and sometimes takes longer than we like.
idk about you being a big part of others stressing. but you do seem like a good person so i am sure that you bring a lot of good into their lives
@raymond1203 thank you thats nice to hear..
do you have any plans for the weekend? i think i might wake up early saturday and take my mom shopping for a new tv. she wanted to get me a tv for christmas but that planned somehow turned into me buying her a tv hahaha
@raymond1203 haha interesting how the plan changed... ill probably visit my friend in another city. she married lately and just has a small get together because of it with her family and invited me, but i dont know whats the plan exactly so it a bit weird idk. let me know if you found a nice tv for her :) wouldnt that be something for black friday as well? or are there some discounts still today?
there’s no real special black friday deals this year. the sale prices are all pretty good. we are gonna head to best buy in like an hour. yes it’s very interesting how that plan changed 🤔 haha
your day sounds very nice. have you known this friend for a long time? to get invited to the family party is very nice. it seems like you have people around you that care a lot 🙂
@raymond1203 we studies together and were roommates for like a year thats how we know each other. but we dont have much contact for a longer time now only here and then mwe meet up. i think she doesnt have much friends and is more a familiy person and wanted to invite a friend. she also has a daughter already and ill problbly meet her this evening, im excited. athough i must say im not that good with kids lol. but its cool to meet her:)
heyyy! hope you had a nice night out. did you have fun? i had a good day doing nice things with my mom. took her tv shopping and all that stuff from before and i baked her cookies. i didn’t really have anything to do and i like spending time with my family. except i worry about my attitude. i think they are always worried about saying something that upsets me. i dont want them to have to worry about that. so i need to work on being more positive and friendly.
any plans for today? i am going to start decorating (in the morning lol)
@raymond1203 its so nice that yo yoend so much time with your mum, im sure she really appreciates it a lot. did you argue a lot before that they worry to upseet u? I aometimes can also get irritated wit my fam, but i think most people have that sometimes. But if you regongnice it thats great and you can work on it to a degree. I had a nice evening, the family is nice and her kid is soooo cutee. It was a bit weird tho because i didnt know anyone and was a little bit of an outsider from thime to timeb ut thats fine. my friend told me that one other kid said i was her favorite person of the evening, and we coulnt even speak because shes from another country and doesnt speak german. idk but that was so cute she said that just because she thought my face looked lol. that was cute. I had to drive for a whild there, but i have to say i kind of enjoyed the way back, listening to loud music in my car driving through the dark, can be kinda therapeutic haha.
I actually have no real plan for today so im gonna see what im gonna do, still have to get ready first, definetly have to clean up my room. Decorating sounds good! How are you today?
that’s amazing!!! you had a great night!! kids can be super cute. i love a long night drive with loud music lol been a while since j did it but long drives never bothered me.
ao i have today and tomorrow then im back to work tuesday. this vacation went by too fast.
i woke up sooooo tired today. i’m gonna be lazy about the decorations lol maybe ill do them in a few hours idk lol
@raymond1203 hi good morning, did you still do some decorations yesterday? i myself ahve been pretty lazy i have to say.. how are you today? any plans for your last day off haha?
no i did not start decorating yet. i was also very lazy lol i spent way too much time playing ps5 haha i am def going to start pulling out decorations today bc it is my last day off. back to work tomorrow 😭 (btw it is very nice that you remembered this is my last day off ☺️)i have so many decorations in the garage. it is going to take a while. some of my neighbors have their stuff up. i walked outside and saw a 20 foot tall inflatable christmas tree on my neighbors front lawn 😂 😂 😂 i do not like to go that crazy. i have a lot of decorations that are old family things that are sentimental to me…but i dont like to put a lot up and make it look gaudy.
are you feeling good after your big weekend? you def should it seemed like saturday night with ur friends was really good. i’m not surprised the kids thought you were cool 😎 you have been very cool to me so far.
you are so cool you literally transcend language lol that sounds funny the way i said it but it’s actually true lol
@raymond1203 hahah lol. get yourself some music up whild decorating i think thats very motivating :)
I think i lost my listener, can find her in the chats. im kinda sad about it cause its hard to find someone good... but its fine still have you to talk to and the rooms for support. i dont know what to do with myself today (what else lol) so im ab it lost, although i feel fine. mayeb ill clean up a little and do a to do list or something? i have a lot tuoring this afternoon but accidently planned 2 at the same time🤦♀️ so still dont know what to do about that but ill figure it out i guess
you lost your listener? that really sucks. i had a very good one a few months ago but i lost that one. currently my person is good but it took a few tries. and its so hard having to start from the beginning ya know.
i will def always be here to listen whenever you need it. i may terrible at keeping track of these messages hahaha but i def got your back
can you move one of the tutor appointments to a different time??
don’t stress yourself. you’ll figure out what to do. you are very smart and very capable and if you keep doing what you’ve been doing you will be great
Yeah i moved the lessons so now it should work out.thank you for being nice, but tbh if i keep doing what im doing ill someday end up on the Streit lollll im definetly not good atm.
How are you today?
hahaha ok that’s fair. i get that. i always feel like im one incident away from ruining everything lol but im always here if ya need to talk about something. i just woke up and the kittens were all over me. it was the best wake up ever
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@Keineahnung123 heyy girlyyy! I'm lia! I would luv to be ya friend, some things about me ( I love music though I'm not very good at it, I like working out mostly because it keeps me disciplined and strong 💪✨ my fav song is "I wanna be yours" by arctic monkeys and I love meeting people who match my vibe) 🩵🤍🩷
