Yes making the decision to put an animal down is so difficult. (incoming REALLY long, emotional writing) All my family members had been telling me for months to put Puffy. I wouldn’t listen. I finally listened when he went to get groomed one last time. He’d had the same groomer for nearly 5 years. When I went to pick him up, she said he couldn’t stand long enough for grooming. She was only able to give him a final bath and put on his signature doggy bandanna. She was commenting on how frail and small he was. I stated I’d take him to the vet to find out what was wrong. She looked me in my eyes and told me it was time to let him go. We both cried for awhile. Hearing her say that made me finally realize I was selfishly holding onto him and wasn’t looking out for his best interest. I scheduled his euthanizing for the following Monday. He decided to peacefully pass away in his sleep the Thursday before. He was always so stubborn lol. Since he was a rescue, I donated a lot of his things to shelters. But I’ve still kept his favorite pillow and his blanket. Those are 2 things I just couldn’t bear to part with.
When you’re lost or going through things mentally, having a pet can really make you push through and take care of them. I remember being so depressed I wasn’t keeping up on my hygiene. But I’d always feed him and let him out. Albeit, sometimes really late in the day, but I always remembered he didn’t ask for a nutcase (lol) as an owner; at that time, everything else in my life was optional; his health and well-being was not.
Sorry for the long story. I never shared with anyone my experience so it was nice to write it down and cry a little while doing so. All this was just to say, I understand how important pets can be and no one is ever ready to loss them.
damn dude ya made me cry lol that was a really nice story. i couldn’t help but think of the groomers pov. that had to be bruuuutal. dudes just trying to trim some nails and now they are having THE TALK. every angle of that story was so heartbreaking but nice.
lana kept getting this horrible cyst growing on her belly. so she had to wear donuts. she was not a fan. lana was a mean angry bi.tch ong lol but she loooooved me and only me. so when things started going bad with my chick then lana got sick, i was soooo lost. but i couldn’t ask her to go on anymore.
dont apologize i love long messages. lemme hear it bruh lolol and ty for sharing something u nvr shared before. that makes me feel a little special 😁🤣
Lol I’m sure it was for her. But I’m glad she got to say goodbye as well.
Lana sounds like she was a handful lol. I know it was difficult, but keeping her here when she wasn’t doing well would not be good. I hate seeing animals suffer and, while it’s hard to let go, it’s the merciful thing to do ☺️.
Well you are a little special 😁😂…totally just kidding lol.
Anyways, I understand getting irritated and not wanting to enjoy the moment. I sometimes get mad at my plushies for smiling and looking too happy 😳😓. I personally think it’s the person wanting to hold onto their bad or negative mood. You’re too stubborn to let go and finally be happy after being mad or sad for so long. Your problems haven’t been resolved so why be happy and have fun? That’s how it is for me anyway.
I'm also here to be a source of encouragement and positivity ☺️. I know just having someone to congratulate or motivate you is really empowering. On that note: what’s something you’re proud of doing this week?
🤣🤣 mad at ur plushies is a good one haha my frustration is def not at that level. i just feel like im a rude di.ckhe.ad to people that go above and beyond to help me. i legit get anxiety when im forced to be corny. but that’s exactly what i need to work past. nothing wrong with being a corny cheesed.ick kinda old dude. the people around me would appreciate that more than unnecessary brutal honesty bc it’s funny lol
Yes nothing wrong with being corny with people who love and appreciate you. Sometimes you don’t honesty, you want to be delusional lol.
heyyy! i’m doing good today. got myself set up for a nice quiet chill sunday. wyd 2day??
I was going to do laundry. But I’m not feeling well so going to take it easy today.
And today I’m finally moving out of my ex-partner’s bed. We still live together (I moved to be with him) and now I’m moving into the spare bedroom. Honestly, it’s been really rough. Staying in the same bed gave me hope and comfort. Now I have to learn to be by myself again. It’s just been really difficult.
Sorry for the sadness today. First the dog now this lol.
don’t be sorry. i’m actually happy i can try to help 🙂
ive been there. sharing a bed with an ex hoping it’ll be more. then dealing with the fact that it ain’t like that anymore 😢 i feel your pain there. but don’t bum urself out too much. i understand people like us are gonna be bummed (bc we care a bunch) but we can’t let it hold us down for too too long (bc we have incredible shine and the world needs to see this s.hit lol)
def take it easy today. that’s what im doing. i got a shower and everything and went right into fresh pjs lol xmas pjs with angry cats all over them lol
Thank you for helping. I really thought I could share a bed. But I think it’s making things difficult. He keeps saying if I work on myself and get better, we could maybe get back together. But I can’t keep holding onto that “maybe”. I have to get better for myself then find someone who can handle my ups and downs.
I admit, I’m a handful with all my mental issues. But I’m hoping meds, therapy, healthy living, etc. helps me be a better version of myself ☺️.
A shower with fresh pjs and fresh sheets with warm chocolate sounds like a great idea. And those pjs sound soo adorable 🥰.
sharing the bed is too too tempting. it’s torture. don’t do that yourself
what kinda things are you trying to work on and focus on?
is there rly hope for the future? if there is then don’t stop but if not you gotta focus on you. i can def help. i mvr thought id be the same after my chick but im finally starting to feel like myself again.
I hope there’s actual hope for the future. But I realized I have to stop focusing on that and focus on myself. That way I’ll be okay either way the cookie crumbles ☺️.
I noticed in your other thread you mentioned you’d moved to a new city. Did you move for the relationship or to get a fresh start?
I'm glad you’re finally starting to feel like you 😊. You kinda get lost in the relationship and become one, so you have to find you again. Add the lost of pets and I’m sure it was definitely harder. I’m proud of you for fighting through the dark and getting to the other side ☺️.
I hope you have a goodnight!
Some goals I have for myself are:
-start on a health and fitness journey (I recently gained 40lbs and that’s really affecting my confidence. I’m hoping to feel better and, admittedly, look a little better)
-start saving 15% each paycheck
-start a class for my hobbies (pottery, pole dancing, or hiking)
-start a new job (thinking of changing my career)
-build a new social/support group (I left all my friends when I moved and am feeling isolated. I’d like to change that)
Do you have any goals for yourself?
i love ur goals i love where ur heads at with all this. i am convinced that if you stay on ur path and try to keep a positive mindset, you’ll surpass your goals
Thank you ☺️. I’m starting with the health journey and finding a new job. I’m sure those two changes will make me happy, which will make the other goals feel less like something I have to do and more of something I want to do.
so hard keeping track of the thread hahaha i keep finding messages i miss lol all good tho i do enjoy chatting with ya
so when i moved to a new town it still wasn’t that far away. just kinda like moving to dif parts of the city. now i’m back close to where i went to school. but i had to leave my last job it just wasn’t working. and i’m glad i did. this new job is good for me.
your goals are so perfect. i need to do a lot of that myself but i seriously lack motivation rn.
goals for myself. i gotta get my confidence up!
prob the biggest thing i need to work on is my confidence bc ever since i was with the ex my confidence is was beyond low. i’ve brought it up a little but i still need to work on getting it up
join the gym next to work. it’s the perfect solution to my boredom after work/confidence issues
i wanna meet more people and make friends again. i’ve been so isolated and alone i rly need to work on that
my attitude with people. i need to be more friendly. i’m super nice to people and im very thoughtful (always bringing my friends and coworkers energy drinks and snacks lol) but i also come across like a mean as/shole lol
idk that’s just the main stuff off the top of my head ya know
Those are all really good goals to work on. I know having confidence makes everything else a bit easier. It’s something I need to work on as well.
I know you can accomplish anything you set your mind on ☺️. You sound like you’re determined to do better and make changes. I’m rooting for you!
Have you tried bumble bff by chance for making friends?
hey random question lol i am about to try baking jiffy cornbread but ive never done this before lol do you have any tips???
baking has been my new hobby but im still not very good at it lol good news is even if you’re bad, im the end…there’s cake 😂 😂 😂
Sorry for the late response!
•I always do 5-10 minutes less than what the time on the box calls for. That way, you can continue cooking if needed, or take it out if it’s ready.
•Use a knife or toothpick in the middle of the cornbread. If it’s really wet, continue cooking. If there are a few crumbs, it’s ready; the middle will be slightly less set; good if you like it that way. If it comes out dry, it’s totally finished!
•You want a golden color. Not bright yellow. Not brown. A nice gold color.
•You can add honey or sugar to make it sweet. Add buttermilk instead of milk for a richer flavor. Add corn or sweet corn for something different. Add jalapeños for a kick.
What’s your favorite thing to bake so far?
sorry i just saw this lol omg those are amazing tips thank you so much. that’s so awesome. my basic bi.tch cbread turned out really good!! next time i’ll try additions like honey or buttermilk. i def heard of jalapeno in cbread so you suggesting that tells me you have tremendous skills haha
it’s so hard to get motivated today lol honestly i’m good for today. it’s rly fine if i be lazy today. i def need it bc when i work i mf WORK hahaha
how’s ur monday goins
idky but i’m barely getting notifications but i’ll keep checking in 🙂🙂🙂
Sorry for the confusion 😓. I’ll just try responding to the initial message “Hey! How are you today?” so nothing gets lost by individually replying to the multiple messages in the thread.
it’s ok i’ll figure it out. i enjoy talking to you. i rly don’t mind
how are you feeling today
I enjoy talking to you as well ☺️. It’s nice to have someone to vent to or just someone to listen. I feel I don’t have a lot of people I can go to right. So your presence is appreciated.
I’m okay. It was a busy productive day. I had 2 interviews and I’ll have 1 more tomorrow. The pay for the jobs aren’t great, but they’re both in fields I’d enjoy.
I also groomed Sapphire today. It was a lot of work and I think I messed up her face, but I did it! 😁 Actually really proud of myself. I didn’t think I could go through with it but I did. Plus it was a good bonding experience for us. She’s the quieter and shyer of the 2. So building trust with her is something I need to work harder at doing.
I also also put together my bed and moved rooms. I’ll probably spend tomorrow decorating it so it feels more like a place I want to be instead a place I have to be. I know it’s going to be really hard sleeping by myself again. But hopefully it gets easier.
How are you today? How was your day?
d.ambit. i had a whole mess typed up but my cat started acting crazy and when i came back my message to you was gone 😭
frfr i am so proud of you for getting out of that bed and out of that room. that’s is a huuuuge step you took. it will be hard for a little bit but i rly rly think it will lead to better and better things for you. try to not bum yourself out too much. there are def things about it you can enjoy.
i’ve always said having someone to vent to is soooo important. i will gladly be that dude for you 😎😂 i don’t have many friends rn. i did growing up but we all kinda grew apart. right now i have coworkers im friends with but thats not rly the same ya know.
you are doing so great with these interviews. just the fact that you’re going out this much is a big deal. i have serious problems that kinda stuff so im def impressed
heyyyy 😁 i just finished work and im walking home and just wanted to pop in and say heyyy and i hope you had a great day
Good afternoon! How are you today? Just checking in on you. I’ll respond to your other messages after work. Have an awesome day!
aw that’s so sweet of you. def hmu after work i’m off today. just taking care of my kitties and decorating for santa lol
hope you have a great day
🙂🙂
Hey! How are you feeling today? I had the last 2 days off so I decided to take a break from my phone/social media. I was spying on my ex too much, wondering what he was doing and working myself into a panic over it. It felt nice not to worry about that for a few days.
I decorated my room and it feels homey-ish now. I’ll have to take a picture once I’m done. I also finished grooming my other dog! I think she came out looking better than the first one lol. But I’m happy they’re both clean and happy.do you have any exciting plans for the weekend?
omg i know first hand how damaging social media can be to a relationship. the final straw with my ex was going on fb and seeing she had a whole side thing going on. i had to stay away from that stuff. but after some time spent working on myself i feel better enough that i have been enjoying being social with people. like you for example lol you’re very nice and i appreciate ya talking to me.
i love that you cleaned and decorated your room. you are taking such rly big steps. it’s hard but you’re doing it!
im off today so ill be working the entire weekend. boo!
hbu??!
I’ve never had alot of friends. Or wanted/needed them. But as I’ve gotten older, I kinda want more people in my circle. I’m not close to family, except my sister and brother. So just having 2-3 more friends would really help me with my lonely ness.
growing up i thought i had a lot of friends but now whenever i run into an old friend they always act like they don’t see me. it actually hurts. my girl was my world and i was fine with that. until that ended and i just missed having someone to talk to and message during the day about regular stuff ya know. but ive been working on fixing that and im making progress.
how was ur day today?
Wow that is soo messed up, I’m so sorry. Honestly, dealing with the hyper-sexuality side of bipolar is difficult. I’d NEVER cheat, but would flirt with others for attention. I realize now that isn’t okay; it’s disrespectful to the relationship and damaging to your partner’s self worth. I wouldn’t like if my partner flirted with others, so why not show them the same respect? And it’s soo difficult to find a decent partner who wants an actual relationship now; why throw that away for someone who’s momentary?
Anyways, sorry you have to work all weekend. I do sorta like working on Saturdays though. There’s less people and the environment is chiller. Plus a coworker always brings donuts!
