Pregnant but don’t want to be.

@Gh0sstt

I think more women have had those thoughts too... some may never say or write it like you have ... but felt how is my life going to change... what will i mess out on etc. 

No one can tell you it will all be good or work out but honestly what changes in our life are guaranteed.  I have known many who said they had no maternal feelings until after the birth...  especially with the first child no one expects you to know it all and it be all instinct. 

Have you spoken to your BF and does he have any doubts... honestly having a child is a huge life change that we get 9 months to prepare for ................imagine all the other things in life like accident or illness that can dramatically alter your life in a second.... 

You are right, maybe I need to get to know my baby to make a connection.

I don't know if it helps but I wanted to share some of my story. I felt that way almost like I could've written it myself with both my pregnsncies. I found out sbout them super early, like you did. I lost the first one at 10 weeks. I felt so guilty about how much relief I felt about the miscarriage, but it didn't hit me until I lost it that I had just lost a baby. My baby. Second pregnancy came around. Felt the same way. Didn't want to be pregnant at all. I was convinced I would lose it again since I lost the first one, and was in denial of the pregnancy for a few months. And I never stopped hating being pregnant. But I love my boy. He's 4 months old now. I just wanted you to know you aren't alone in how you feel, and you will be okay. I wish all the best ❤️‍🩹

This made me feel so much better, thankyou for sharing your story ❤️

@Grace528 thank you for posting your story, it is very kind, give your boy a big hug!

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@Gh0sstt  Hi there, as the other posters say, you are not alone in feeling these things. So many changes happen to the body during pregnancy, all of the hormonal balances change and our feelings and emotions swing up and down too. Do you have anyone you can confide in that you trust? I feel it is important to talk about things.  Guilt is an emotion too, so maybe chatting will help? I am around most days if it helps to talk to someone here. Just click on the blue butterfly to go to my profile. 

One thing I do know from experience is that although your life will change, having children when we are young does mean that we can grow up together and still have a 'second childhood' with our kids? 

Whatever you feel, whatever you decide, whatever happens, be kind to yourself.

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I did think about the second childhood thing. Watching someone grow and experiencing their own childhood, it sounds nice. Thankyou for you words ❤️

@Gh0sstt You are welcome💛, please keep in touch and post or message about how you are getting on 😃

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