Sparkling Your Self-Care Goals with Hope (July Self-Care Challenge Day 2)

@SoulfullyAButterfly

(i) Identify a short or long-term goal you would like to achieve in terms of self-care.

EMOTIONAL

I'd like to work on having greater compassion for myself, that is, being less hard on myself in my life. Remind myself that I'm doing the best that I can and remind myself of my strengths and achievements instead of focusing on where I have yet to arrive.

As I've moved into my 30s this sense that everyone is doing completely different things, friends drifting away and being on a timeline has been heightened, but I'd like to remind myself that life is a journey and we are all on different trails. It's ok to be me, it's ok to be where I'm at in my life.

SOCIAL

I'd like to have more like-minded people to socialize with in my city.

(ii) Think of your best strengths that usually help you problem-solve or reach your goals. Confused about what your strengths may be? Consider taking the Character Strengths test.

Determination, work ethic, sociability.

(iii) Which of your strengths can boost your capacity and capability to achieve your short or long-term goal you listed in the first step? Use "I" statements to affirm your ability to achieve your goal - this will also help you boost your agency (motivation)

Generally I am compassionate towards others, hopefully I can turn that inward and develop the same compassion for myself as I make my way through life.

I am generally a friendly and sociable person, even though I also identify as an introvert these days, this can help me to meet more people and start conversations to see if these might be the kinds of people who I could see myself spending more time with and getting to know.

(iv) Now that we have figured out our goals, strengths, and motivation, what are some pathways/different ways we may need to take to achieve this goal? Remember to think of your obstacles and any solutions (new pathways) that may be used.

I think that journalling and therapy are good routes to help me to nurture greater self-compassion, as well as opening up to trusted friends.

I think that joining activities and clubs, trying new things, and traveling are good ways for me to meet like-minded people, as well as continuing with some activities that I already enjoy.

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My goal is to get more active and regular with my physical regime...

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I filled out "this form" twice but don't see it posted anywhere. I did day three but it was stuck on day one. I tried again but no luck. Great challange though, Self care is so important and there are so many levels of it. Good Topic!

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My goal is to consistently drink more water throughout out my day. To achieve this I have been putting a glass of water on my nightstand for me to drink when I get. And I’ve been making sure I have my canteen water bottle filled to take to work or wherever. A glass of water at mealtimes too.

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It's wonderful post!! And the character strength test was really helpful 💖

1. My short term goal is to relax a bit and be carefree. Sometimes I just worry unnecessarily about things or life which stress me out so I would like to chill a bit.

My long term goal would be to focus on myself and making myself priority.

2. The strengths can help me to reach out my goals is to try to focus on positivity no matter how worse it's. I try to look at the things from different perspectives. And I just try to keep going on.

3. I would try to focus on myself as much as I can. I will think about my needs and wants. I will try my best to stay away from negative things. And I will believe myself to achieve my goals.

4. I don't have any particular ways to reach out to my goals. I will just keep trying to make things more better and to improve myself 💖

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I want to fit in more me time.

I'm good at being creative and seeing things from the big picture and different sides.

Ill use that to just assert what I need and make sure that everything else is taken care of, and find a good time for it.

@SoulfullyAButterfly two of my goals are going back to school by taking some online classes and driving more so that I can get my license. the strength that will get me to accomplish my goals is the strength to preserve. You can do anything that you set your mind to. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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First, I will need to establish and clearly and regularly communicate what my boundary is with greater specificity. Here I may need to use my social intelligence and perspective to set a realistic and fair boundary. I may also find over coming the obstacles involved might mean reaching out to others for support and reassurance that my boundary is fair and reasonable.

Then I need to enforce it. Knowing my boundary is reasonable will hopefully help me feel less guilty, which is another obstacle, when I then enforce it. I may need to be strict with myself with regard to adhering to those boundaries even when it doesn't feel necessary so that I get used to enforcing the boundary because it is necessary. Consistency will be key, if I set a 1 hour limit, I need to keep to that 1 hour limit even if I have another hour free because each time I don't hold to the boundary I set an expectation that I won't ever enforce that boundary.

Feeling justified in maintaining a boundary may also be difficult. I may need to remember why while the boundary may not always seem necessary it ultimately is necessary. Then when facing anger or push back I may need to work on using my coping skills and distress tolerance to accept that people may be angry but that doesn't justify ignoring my boundaries to appease them. Particularly not if I have clearly established and communicated the boundary.

Now to work toward my goal! Thank you again for sharing this exercise with us!

@SoulfullyAButterfly

(i) Identify a short or long-term goal you would like to achieve in terms of self-care.

I would like to become more connected with my emotions.

(ii) Think of your best strengths that usually help you problem-solve or reach your goals. Confused about what your strengths may be? Consider taking the Character Strengths test.

According to the character strengths test, my strengths are honesty, humour, perseverance, teamwork, and kindness.

(iii) Which of your strengths can boost your capacity and capability to achieve your short or long-term goal you listed in the first step? Use "I" statements to affirm your ability to achieve your goal - this will also help you boost your agency (motivation)

I think, perseverance might be the most important strength for me. It helps me to keep going and not give up even if a goal seems nearly impossible to reach.

Statements:

I don't give up, even when it's getting tough.

I am resilient.

I can do hard things by being persistent and holding on to my intuition and hope.

(iv) Now that we have figured out our goals, strengths, and motivation, what are some pathways/different ways we may need to take to achieve this goal? Remember to think of your obstacles and any solutions (new pathways) that may be used.

I will start a new therapy soon, which will hopefully provide me with the support needed. In addition to that, I will use my skills at home if I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed, I will make sure to do a lot of self-care, and I will give myself breaks whenever I get exhausted.