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[OLD THREAD] Project Achieve Your Goals - 18+

Laura December 2nd, 2015

Setting goals is the easy part...reaching them can be more challenging!

Having someone support you in reaching your personal goals can be incredibly helpful. Today, wed like to announce a new community program aimed at helping you reach your goals.

Well need both listeners & members to make this happen! Here is how you can get involved in this project:

Members:

Step 1: Post a goal youd like to work towards in this thread. Be specific! Goals work great when you can make them measurable. Usually that involves a time period and a number of times. Additionally, you want to start by making goals achievable. Do not make your goals too hard or you will grow frustrated and not be able to reach them. Much better to make them easy to accomplish to build your confidence right from the start.

examples:

I want to cook dinner for myself 3 nights per week

I want to go to the gym 1 time per week

Take 3 growth path steps every day

Step 2: Specify if you'd like a listener to check in on you 1 or 2x/week.

Step 3: Wait for a listener to reply to you! They will reply and let you know they will support you reach this goal.

Step 4: PM this listener to get going! They will not be able to support you by checking in on you if you do not first PM them. If you find that a listener has not followed up, then please post again and request another listener.

Step 5: Post your progress each week in this thread and also on your feed so more people can support you in achieving your goals.

Step 6: Once you have achieved your goal and the new behavior or habit has been consistent for 21 days, then apply for the Goal 1 Badge. We'll likely have several goals, so there will be Goal 2, Goal 3 etc. (Feel free to help us come up with better names!)

Listeners:

Step 1: Wait for members to share their goals in this thread! When you see a goal/member youd like to support, reply to their forum post and let them know!

Step 2: Once this member has messaged you and established connection over PM, its your job to better understand the members goal, why its important and what you can do to best support them.

Step 3: Make a commitment! Check-in with this member twice per week and enquire about the goal!

Step 4: Let us know how you and your member are doing! In this thread, we will track your progress as team. Post here to let us know how it's going!

Step 5: After your member has reached their goal, let us know and apply for the Coach badge. More details on this soon!

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angelmommy15 December 15th, 2015

i lost our son 10 months ago due to cord implications, im trying to spread awarness ill be going to different highschools after break to talk to the pregnancy classes about it i also want to one day start a charity in my sons honor for new ultrasound stuff to make nurses and doctors aware that the cord is harming the baby as wel trying to become a photogragher to volunteer with a non profit organization called now i lay me down to sleep one day :) i know these are big dreams but i truly beileve ill get them acheieved even if it takes 10 years but i will

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Eunoia December 15th, 2015

@angelmommy15

i am sure you will. I admire your attitude:)

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angelmommy15 December 17th, 2015

thank you. means alot.

@dreamsallnight

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itsmeale December 15th, 2015

I want to be happy. Truly happy. With my life, what I've accomplished so far, with my body and with myself. I want to be confident in myself. I want to love my body but I feel like that's never going to happen.

passionateFriend2426 December 15th, 2015

My goal is to stop being scared and anxious about everything and nothing. I'm so scared of me and people I care about being sick, sometimes I can't even think straight. Sometimes I have extrasystoles (heart skipping a beat) and doctors say it's due to anxiety, but I can't find anyone who feels the same and I start thinking I have a heart problem.

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Becca13 December 15th, 2015

Wow, I really know what you mean. I had/have a big fear of losing people too, by diseases or accidents, and am regularly afraid that I myself have something. I actually have something similar: my heart isn't skipping a beat, but starts beating really fast sometimes with a burning sensation in my heart area + left arm. Which made me scared of a heart attack / problem a few times. The doctor says it's due to breathing too fast + anxiety, but it can still be scary.

I'm pretty stable at the moment but I can definitely relate to your subject. So if you ever wanna talk, just PM me! :)

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Hofhearted December 15th, 2015

I want to learn to be calmer. I get upset easily because people around me tend to do things I specifically told them that I do not like. I want to learn to be more patient, understanding. I also want to learn how to trust people more because I have a girlfriends and I am "overly protective" if you`d call it that. She`s an amazing girl and I just feel really awful when she goes out with friends and doesn`t tell me even though I know her very well and she`s a very shy girl. I just want to be better and I can`t. I really am trying to but these feelings in my gut wont go away. I just want them to go away. I want to trust people more.

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Eunoia December 19th, 2015

@Hofhearted

thats great. Maybe I can help you with your goal. Pm me:)

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twicket December 15th, 2015

My main goal right now is to get OUT of this depressive episode so I can actually work toward my life goals again...

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soulsings December 15th, 2015

Hi @twicket - sorry you are in a depressive episode. I have had to face this with friends and it is not easy. There are options available to us, if we are able to act on them.

If you wish to discuss your options or just have someone listen, please send me a message.

http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings

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samvr December 15th, 2015

I want to be able to express how I really feel instead of just temporarily hiding it with fake smiles

I also want to be able to focus on one thing and work on it productively

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soulsings December 15th, 2015

Hi @sammlvr - I am sorry you feel your emotions are all bottled up. This is something we all face as children growing up with parents that do not know how to handle their own emotions. Part of the solution is to find people that can listen and accept you as you are. That is one reason I visit here at 7CUPS and also listen to people facing challenges. It gives them a way to express emotions without complications.

If you wish to send me a message and or have a 1-1 chat, here is the address to copy and paste into your browser when you are online and logged in to 7CUPS.

http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings

Click on message and type your message and hit ENTER key.

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DennyColt December 15th, 2015

My goal is to become a better Christian, and be able to guide and help more people in their faith

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PoliteOcean December 20th, 2015

@DennyColt

Hi Denny! This is a great goal. Feel free to PM and perhaps we can talk more about this!

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Selfharmer14 December 16th, 2015

To stop sself-harming

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Eunoia December 16th, 2015

@Selfharmer14

I am sure you will be able to do that. Don't loose hope. I would have helped you with this but I am an adult listener. Best of luck with your goal

Claire91 December 16th, 2015

@Selfharmer14

Hi there,

This is a great and courageous goal! I would be happy to try to help and support you if you would like. I am an adult listener, but I am verified to listen to teens. Please PM me if you would like to work together!

Claire :)

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emotionalPine52 December 16th, 2015

My goal is to be able to relate to others, it has been an issue all my life.

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emotionalPine52 December 16th, 2015

I am an adult, well I have lived the enough amount of years to be considered one@emotionalPine52

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Fro704 December 16th, 2015

I want to completely free from bondage and become what God want me to be

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EmmaV December 16th, 2015

Hi @Fro704 !!! I want to fully support you in this!!! I'm a Christian and can provide support and someone to listen if you like! :D

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