[OLD THREAD] Project Achieve Your Goals - 18+
Setting goals is the easy part...reaching them can be more challenging!
Having someone support you in reaching your personal goals can be incredibly helpful. Today, wed like to announce a new community program aimed at helping you reach your goals.
Well need both listeners & members to make this happen! Here is how you can get involved in this project:
Members:
Step 1: Post a goal youd like to work towards in this thread. Be specific! Goals work great when you can make them measurable. Usually that involves a time period and a number of times. Additionally, you want to start by making goals achievable. Do not make your goals too hard or you will grow frustrated and not be able to reach them. Much better to make them easy to accomplish to build your confidence right from the start.
examples:
I want to cook dinner for myself 3 nights per week
I want to go to the gym 1 time per week
Take 3 growth path steps every day
Step 2: Specify if you'd like a listener to check in on you 1 or 2x/week.
Step 3: Wait for a listener to reply to you! They will reply and let you know they will support you reach this goal.
Step 4: PM this listener to get going! They will not be able to support you by checking in on you if you do not first PM them. If you find that a listener has not followed up, then please post again and request another listener.
Step 5: Post your progress each week in this thread and also on your feed so more people can support you in achieving your goals.
Step 6: Once you have achieved your goal and the new behavior or habit has been consistent for 21 days, then apply for the Goal 1 Badge. We'll likely have several goals, so there will be Goal 2, Goal 3 etc. (Feel free to help us come up with better names!)
Listeners:
Step 1: Wait for members to share their goals in this thread! When you see a goal/member youd like to support, reply to their forum post and let them know!
Step 2: Once this member has messaged you and established connection over PM, its your job to better understand the members goal, why its important and what you can do to best support them.
Step 3: Make a commitment! Check-in with this member twice per week and enquire about the goal!
Step 4: Let us know how you and your member are doing! In this thread, we will track your progress as team. Post here to let us know how it's going!
Step 5: After your member has reached their goal, let us know and apply for the Coach badge. More details on this soon!
My goal in life is to figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life. It's really stressful and anxiety provoking.
My goal is to go out and do fun things more often instead of just sitting at home when I'm not in class or at work. (once, maybe twice a week)
@deromantic
Great goal! I'm happy to help:) Please PM me if you'd like
~Claire
I want to be HEALTHY FIT starting this month! And be serious in my STUDIES! And be HAPPY AT WORK! GO ME! I CAN DO THIS!
@ivel go you! i've got my utmost faith on you ^_^ 
I want to get the (partly volunteering) job where I had a job interview today. And I want to move there. Getting this job would mean a lot to me, I could start a new part in my life.
Good luck and congrats on taking the first step! I hope to do the same 
Goal: Wine on 4 nights a week only. I've done this in the past, but let the habit lapse.
Need an accountability partner - especially with the Holidays coming up.
@MusicCandy
I am glad to be your listener :)
My goal is to get to one month clean of cutting, I would love to be clean on Chrismas so I can be with my family and not worry about them seeing anything.
@Catxxxemma
Hey there <3
I completely understand, and you know what? It's a perfectly achievable goal, with a little willpower, some hard work and a helping friend. Maybe we could connect, and then we could chat through some of the reasons you cut, and how to solve those problem,s or even just skills to cope for a little while. I'm entirely here for you, just know I've got your back, as has everyone else at 7cups <3
Good Luck, and hopefully we can chat soon
Jade
I want to open up a tech forum at my college level. But feel lack of zeal to keep up
I want to have something to live for, I want to be happy, and I want to be passionate about something, anything. Sometimes I feel like it's hopeless, and it will never happen.😢
@BlueCarmen everything will be happen, if you try more harder and make a planing to reach our goal. nothing is impossible
Hi@BlueCarmen. Be patient and enjoy going for your goals.Sometimes @BlueCarmen , we already have something good in our hands but we may not realise it cause we are still focus on looking for it.
@BlueCarmen I was hopeless, too.
In Oct 2013 I had a breakdown and I was even considering suicide. It took me much journaling, art, meditation and education to ground myself, regain understanding, cultivate calm and reclaim my power. Baby steps, sister. One day at time. And if I may, consider a goal having a good day of joy & self care as a goal, making it about you. And eventually, as it did for me, you will take your life on a direction that feels not only right but makes you feel authentic and worthy.
Hit me up if you'd like to discuss some. Also, consider reading my profile. I wrote some important information about how I can support you. All the best, Alan.
Dear @BlueCarmen , I know where you are coming from. I have depression. Sometimes finding a ray of sunshine in a dark, damp place is hard most days. I'm not sure how it feels to be in your shoes but just know that some day, someone or something is going to knock your socks off and you'll find thst burning passion to live. I promise
I have a hard time sticking with things and following through. I want to make a goal to really work with something whether it be practicing my violin daily or exercising.
@Stargazer1940 sticking with something is difficult when we give ourselves too much wiggle room. Sometimes I pause and just watch the "I don't want to do it thoughts" go by. I may sit and bit and find a calm place, and take some breaths. Often I can choose to do the thing even if I am not thrilled by it.
If you want to chat about some strategies for living past postponing and not doing things, send me a message.
http://www.7cups.com/soulsings
I will not be able to answer till Wednesday, but feel free to write.
@Stargazer1940 you can do it! Start with smaller goals and ease your way into bigger ones!